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Day 58 Grieve your progress

Grieving what you’ve left behind is a healthy part of moving forward in life. Whether you lose a bunch of weight or go through challenging times, go ahead and grieve your progress. It’s a healthy part of moving forward in life. Then find ways to replace the past and every day take steps in your new life.

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• Identify a life change or event that caused you to grieve your progress.
• Make a list of the losses or things you left behind with this event.
• Now create a list of ways you can replace those things in healthy ways.

• Identify a life change or event that caused you to grieve your progress.

- end of breast-feeding, not only was an easy and clean way to feed the baby gone, and the beginning of the baby being less need to be connected to me, also, haha, the end to eating the amount of food needed to sustain milk production

- the kids going to school, less time with them and also less physical activity and the start of more intentional physical activity like cardio and strength workouts

- menopause, not being as strong as I used to be, not being able to build strength by exercising, just getting more tired instead of getting stronger, and ... not being able to eat as much because metabolism slowed down

-when I was younger and wanted to shed a few pounds, I could just restrict calories for a while and then go back to eating pretty much the way I did before, as I would usually only gain weight when I overate by quite a lot. Now to manage my weight, I have had to change my lifestyle and eating habits a lot. I am not strong enough to burn as many calories as I used to and my metabolism has slowed, (my daily allowable total calories are much lower , from 2800 to 1800)(some of my older friends have daily limits of 1400) so that I have to really be vigilant about what I eat so that I don't gain weight. The upside is that I eat much healthier than I used to, my food is more nutrient dense and less empty calories.

it was so much easier to eat what I wanted and to stay strong and healthy when my body, my metabolism and endochrine system did the work that I now need to intentionally do

• Make a list of the losses or things you left behind with this event.

I put them together, both are listed above

• Now create a list of ways you can replace those things in healthy ways.

Now I enjoy more time to do what I want to do and I can do some things I didn't have time for before, like hiking, travelling more, activities that take all day that I couldn't do when I had a young family to tend to. Also, I do enjoy the satisfaction of planning and then following through with physical workouts and training plans. And I do appreciate that I eat healthier now that I put more thought about what I put into my body

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I do each day with only my own thoughts, and after I post, I read what others have posted and find a lot of interesting opinions and experiences I hadn't thought about, and sometimes I find similar thoughts to mine. Today FunLoven's old post dovetailed with mine perfectly !!


There are times when I miss the "Good Old Days" when I could eat and drink whatever I wanted and never had to exercise. If I want to stay healthy and lose weight I need to work at keeping those days behind me.

Edited by: JUNEPA at: 6/4/2019 (18:19)
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DAY #58 GRIEVE YOUR PROGRESS - ROUND 2

Points that caught my eye:

Even the best changes in life can leave you feeling sad and disappointed.
Yes. I want to get thinner, but I miss the good times.

IDENTIFY A LIFE CHANGE OR EVENT THAT CAUSED YOU TO GRIEVE YOUR PROGRESS:

I'm not sure there was any SPECIFIC event, but I had been following the guidelines for Bright Line Eating which eliminates ALL SUGAR and FLOUR and includes weighing and/or measuring all of your food, until Easter. I was really feeling the restrictiveness of this.

MAKE A LIST OF THE LOSSES:

I was really grieving some of my old eating habits and favorite recipes. I wanted more grains. I was tired of measuring/weighing everything. I felt in deprivation mode for the way life used to be. I was stuck on missing the past!

I started experimenting with the idea of a Whole Food Plant Based plan and it has been all down hill from there. I have been frustrating with developing a menu plan and recipes because it is all soooo new to me. I also have to consider DH preferences because he would never accept this type of eating plan. He is all about meat, dairy, and bread!

Basically, my eating has gotten out of control and, as Linda suggests, I don't LOVE how that feels. Linda also suggests that I might remember my old life as perfect. I need to remember IT IS NOT! I need to capture a feeling of BALANCE.

CREATE A LIST OF WAYS TO REPLACE THE THINGS YOU MISS IN HEALTHIER WAYS:

1. Pre-Plan meals 1-2 days in advance.
2. Write down the menu daily
3. Use no more than 1-2 new recipes a week from the WFPB plan (2 meals)
4. Return to BLE plan

Every day I need to take steps in my new way of life and learn to embrace those new ways in balance.



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Grieve Your Progress ...

That's an interesting way of looking at it. I like that. Food for thought.

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Day 58 - Grieve your progress



Grieving what you’ve left behind is a healthy part of moving forward in life. Whether you lose a bunch of weight or go through challenging times, go ahead and grieve your progress. It’s a healthy part of moving forward in life. Then find ways to replace the past and every day take steps in your new life.

Today

• Identify a life change or event that caused you to grieve your progress.
• Make a list of the losses or things you left behind with this event.
• Now create a list of ways you can replace those things in healthy ways.

The grief I live with every day is the loss of many loved family members who have passed away. There is an emptiness that cannot be filled and I have learned to cope with the losses by remembering happy times with them. I came to understand my grief has become a part of who I am and will be with me the rest of my life. Although these losses can never be replaced, as life continues, new grandchildren have been born and arrive in my life bringing a new, different joy and a loving happiness that helps fill my heart.

As far as losing weight and any grief, it has to be giving up sugar and desserts. I used to love baking cakes and cookies and loved to eat them. But, after knowing I was pre-diabetic almost 3 years ago, I needed to change my diet, lose weight, exercise, and stop eating sugar. In 3 months, I had lost 20 pounds and my blood test results showed I was no longer pre-diabetic. Although I missed eating sugar, that change “sparked” the beginning of my weight loss of 90 pounds. Occasionally, I will bake a cake or cookies, wrap and package in small servings, freeze them, and have a small treat at a later time. I have replaced sugar in my diet with Stevia and this has helped me with satisfying the craving for the sweet taste.



~~~MARILYN ~~~
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The most effective sleeping pill--peace of mind.
The main reason my past diets failed--lack of motivation.
The greatest "shot in the arm"-- encouragement.


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Day 58 Grieve progress and foods Ieft behind - healthy part of moving forward.
* * * Focus on what I can eat and simplify daily routines* * *
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New Australian food pyramid u.nu/e1o4
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I reduced a bunch of weight but challenging times will make it difficult to maintain. I will find ways to replace unhealthy foods and behaviors.
Conceptualizing Progress in Grief u.nu/oxjg
emoticon my freedom...to eat without planning and monitoring. I left behind empty calorie fillers : sugar and starches. I can replace those things in healthy ways

LCHLQP Low carbohydrates, healthy fats, quality protein :
dark green leaves with ghee, wild caught salmon or grass feed meat.

~ Linda's blog u.nu/e06t Self- Love u.nu/jv3w
~ Psychology of Eating u.nu/0i8b
~ Can't expect to magically change after WL u.nu/xr5y

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Oh, Phyllis, ouch!

Gill

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Day #58 Grieve your progress — My post from last time still applies.

The company I was with for my recent birthday will be forever memorable, that should be my focus in the future. My focus became disappointment that my husband elected to stay home.
Eating dessert, French fries and too much extra food is what caused my food hangover.
Will I ever learn it’s just not worth it?


Phyllis ~~
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Day 58 Grieve your progress

Grieving what you’ve left behind is a healthy part of moving forward in life. It’s a healthy part of moving forward in life.

• Identify a life change or event that caused you to grieve your progress.
I suppose when we choose to follow an eating plan we have to 'think twice' about the food we eat, ignore too many goodies, plan our meals and write it all down if I can.

• Make a list of the losses or things you left behind with this event.
Sometimes I cannot have the same meals as the rest of my family are having or when we go out we shouldn't be 'sharing' some of the treats others are having. My dh has a habit of saying 'you can't have that can you?', this used to make me feel dreadful but now if I am following a 'wider' road with being at my Target Weight I often suggest small changes or say Yes I can have it but a small portion.

With my eating plan I try to consider there is nothing I can't have just have to make good choices and count the extras.

The other thing I feel I am missing a little in my new job compared with my old working in a school as a Teaching assistant if the little children, not in a wierd way of course.




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I wrote quite a bit here last time. Today I'm adding something a bit different. I dare say I'm not alone.

A life event that happened was attracting male attention when I was feeling particularly slim and toned up - he commented positively about my shape. The relationship didn't go anywhere - and there was no real connection formed. I was disappointed (again). Now I'm protective of myself in this way. Wanting to be slim and toned for myself is a goal I'm working on.

I often wear lose, floppy clothes to cover my body up. In some part, this is about not having my body on show - which is about not wanting to be looked at in a sexual way. This is, I know, a complete myth, because people of all shapes and sizes and ages are attractive. But I still know I have this tendency to hide my body. I do wonder sometimes if the reason I can't go the extra mile into serious cardio workouts and strength-training might be because I'm afraid of what I might look like!

It is also, apparently, a complete myth that men area attracted to women wearing close-fitting clothes. Although, there is yet another strand of study about the danger of the 'provocative woman' - gosh it's complicated!

This is not directly related - but is about the slim person with the soft tummy (women mostly)
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Edited by: SWEETENUFGILL at: 5/22/2019 (08:25)
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100 More DWL , Day 58 Grieve your progress

Grieving what you’ve left behind is a healthy part of moving forward in life. Whether you lose a bunch of weight or go through challenging times, go ahead and grieve your progress. It’s a healthy part of moving forward in life. Then find ways to replace the past and every day take steps in your new life.

Today

• Identify a life change or event that caused you to grieve your progress.
• Make a list of the losses or things you left behind with this event.
• Now create a list of ways you can replace those things in healthy ways.

In June I lost a life-long friend. Not a day goes by that I don't think about her. I still write little notes on her facebook page because it comforts me. I pray for all her family.

As far as my progress, I haven't left anything behind that I need to grieve. The closest I can come is the thought of grieving the greedy child who would eat everything she wanted in any quantity she wanted at any time she wanted.

I'm eagerly looking forward to positive changes in my life that discipline, commitment and dedication will bring to me. I just have to acknowledge that it will take time for me to reach my goals.

Joy is a Choice. Choose joy moment by moment.

When all else fails, persistence prevails.

Injoy:) Carolyn

(Arizona - Mountain Standard Time)

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Today

• Identify a life change or event that caused you to grieve your progress.
I can't think of anything that makes me grieve my weight loss progress.

• Make a list of the losses or things you left behind with this event.

• Now create a list of ways you can replace those things in healthy ways.


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Day 58 Grieving progress – healthy way of eating to maintain weight.
I miss eating without thinking about how it will affect my scale. For example: pizza delivery, my dog barks several times a week at neighbors fulfilling their cravings. WoW it's been 4 years and I can have pizza with one in my freezer in case of emergency. That pizza is 4 years old emoticon that's progress!

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Day #58 Grieve Your Progress

Yes. I do grieve my progress and sometimes it leads to falling off my path! We frequently talk about how hard this "dieting" business can be. We not only have to lean how to deal with our emotional eating, but we then end up grieving the things we can no longer have if we want to lose weight and/or stay healthy! It can be a difficult road to maneuver.

After a while the things we have left behind just become a distant memory. Other times they are like sirens calling to us. I can count on one hand the number of times I now go to a Fast Food joint which used to be a "fast" solution in the past. I don't think I have had an ice cream cone in 2 years!

There are times when I miss the "Good Old Days" when I could eat and drink whatever I wanted and never had to exercise. If I want to stay healthy and lose weight I need to work at keeping those days behind me. This made me think of one of the first lessons exercises from 100 DWL book that Linda had us do:

I USED TO __________, BUT NOW I ________!

Grieving is a process. It has 5 steps to it no matter what the loss is. We will get through it and be the better for it.


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Day 58 grieve your progress
What I left behind. Enjoying family meals, avoid lunch with friends, no ice cream socials, no after church snacks, every day a challenge of beginning another day to have willpower to resist, my mom’s pies
What I gained a conscious of logging my food, staying within my calories and drinking my water

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Well I’m trying not to eat sugar or anything white........my recipes have changed and am trying to make pizza crust and bread without white flour. I love pasta and pizza. I need to plan ahead and have different ingredients that I don’t normally buy.

I have a weight goal and hope that healthy eating will be my way of life.



One day at a time!


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Day #58 Grieve your progress
There have been many life changes over the years for me that caused me to grieve the progress. The breaking up of small groups of WW, TOPS, and exercise classes come to mind.

Finally deciding to stick with Sparkpeople, first because it’s free then finding the Linda Spangle books and website have been the answer.
In the end, even with help, it is up to us to choose the healthier options in reasonable amounts!

Giving up French fries and potato chips except on very rare occasions was the beginning. The list is now longer and continues to grow.
My tastes have changed so even on those occasions they aren’t as good.

Phyllis ~~
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Oh gosh - this lesson is too big for me! So - I'll just choose the obvious thing.........

A life change or event that caused me to grieve my progress.
- adopting the No S diet, plant-based, restricted carbs (mostly wheat and sugar)

Losses and things I left behind with this event.
- baking - oh how I miss baking!
- eating cookies and cakes with friends
- joining in with eating events
- turning away from treats like crusty bread, cakes, cookies, sweets, chocolates

A list of ways I can replace those things in healthy ways.
- I plan three satisfying and healthy meals for each day
- I enjoy experimenting with sugar and wheat-free recipes for cakes and treats
- raw chocolate
- good coffee
- deciding what constitutes a 'special' event when I can say 'yes' to cake etc.
- setting a good example to others who want to be more healthy


Edited by: SWEETENUFGILL at: 8/14/2018 (02:22)
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Day 58 Grieve your progress

Grieving what you’ve left behind is a healthy part of moving forward in life. Whether you lose a bunch of weight or go through challenging times, go ahead and grieve your progress. It’s a healthy part of moving forward in life. Then find ways to replace the past and every day take steps in your new life.

Today

• Identify a life change or event that caused you to grieve your progress.
• Make a list of the losses or things you left behind with this event.
• Now create a list of ways you can replace those things in healthy ways.


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