Group photo
Author:
FUNLOVEN's Photo FUNLOVEN Posts: 2,819
11/22/19 7:34 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
DAY #77 THE HEALING POWER OF RITUALS

Yesterday's lesson was about personal objects that may help you feel emotionally safe. Today's lesson tells us that another way to build emotional safety is to create habits or rituals that help you feel more settled. Rituals include any specifically designed patterns or series of activities that serve a purpose such as helping you relax or reenergize. Rituals help you feel emotionally safe because they allow you to draw on familiar things and activities rather than constantly having to think up new ones.

After re-reading some posts, I realized that, although I have some definite rituals, there is still a lot of development still going on. Although I have a few other rituals, my most important one is in the morning -

Morning time in my favorite living room chair with my morning coffee while I do my Daily Devotions, e-mails, SP, etc. I have come to really dislike it when we are traveling or have an early morning activity and this ritual time goes by the way-side. I even go so far as bringing my computer with me when we travel so that I can hopefully squeeze in some of my "ritual time".

Our lesson also asks if our rituals involve food and tells us we may need to replace some of these with healthier patterns for times when you want to relieve stress, calm down or heal your emotional needs. Instead of heading for the cupboard, catch yourself and instead do a healing or relaxing ritual that will manage your stress or frustration in a better way.

This is what I wrote last time - I'm not sure about healing rituals. Especially during times of high stress. But I definitely find the following of comfort:

1. Creamer in my coffee.

2. Rejuvenation Yoga on Sunday afternoons.

3. Absolute quiet!

4. Naps in the afternoon.

5. Walks along wooded paths.

6. Browsing Garden Centers to look at all of the beautiful plants.

These activities can bring me peace of mind and in an "emergency" some would obviously work better than others. I will need to come up with an action plan that I can implement immediately in an emergency.


Edited by: FUNLOVEN at: 11/22/2019 (07:54)
Sue

Michigan - EST

LIVE-BREATHE-ENJOY LIFE!
"Live life to its fullest and make the most of every day."


 Pounds lost: 37.0 
0
10.75
21.5
32.25
43
NOCALORIES's Photo NOCALORIES Posts: 21,286
11/19/19 8:19 P

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
I have few rituals. I need to get in te game and make them work to aving a successful life. So grateful to Linda for making it important and sharing ideas for living a happy life.

 current weight: 131.0 
133
127.25
121.5
115.75
110
DSJB9999's Photo DSJB9999 Posts: 6,739
11/19/19 10:20 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Congratulations Phyllis and hubby, hope you had a lovely day! emoticon
My rituals remain very similar to my last post and they keep me secure! emoticon

Edited by: DSJB9999 at: 11/19/2019 (10:20)
Donna
Lancashire, UK

dsjb99@yahoo.co.uk

don't have a facebook account
JUNEPA's Photo JUNEPA Posts: 14,560
11/19/19 9:17 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Day 77 - The Healing Power of Rituals

I believe, and it is my first lines on my Spark page - True self-care is not soft baths and chocolate cake.
It is making the choice to build a life you don't need to regularly need to escape from.

So while I do have some escape rituals and I need them, I also put regular effort into building a life I don't have to escape from, which includes effort in getting things done on time so I don't feel the stress and weight of being late or past a deadline and doing damage control associated with being late, trying to face responsibilities head on and putting time into meeting them rather than stressing about escaping them or procrastinating. Realistically in my life, it is a work in progress because I am not very good at time management and it is something I want to improve in my life.

Rituals - I used to resist rituals because I felt they were what non- thinking people do. I now recognize the value in rituals and habits as they help get things done efficiently, but I insist in reflecting on their purpose instead of blindly going through the motions. When I am feeling something that is unpleasant that makes escape a first thought, sometimes I need a pause before I address and solve what is really going on. If I am at home, I usually do start with a warm drink like tea, or silver tea, or warm water with honey, CO, apple cider vinegar and cayenne. If it is hot out, a big glass of kombucha is nice. I don't really like that I am putting something in my mouth to soothe myself, but hydrating with a bit of energy often is a physical need. Food rarely a physical need. I have a mental ritual of first of all, just relaxing and breathing deep, next thinking and being thankful for all the good things in my life, next, slowly processing and trying to discern what the problem is and next what the possible solutions are. Going slowly and carefully feels soothing and I feel I am valuing and taking care of myself, and that feels good.

Edited by: JUNEPA at: 11/23/2019 (14:43)
June -- Pacific Time Zone
Where you end up is more important than how fast or where you start out.
- Improved fitness and nutrition, energy and confidence are my rewards.
It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
A PH (personal high) is the main goal, a PB is the sometime icing on the cake.
Never underestimate the inevitability of gradualness.
Sopra le nebbie delle valle e le vicende della vita sorge una promessa di luce e serenita.


 April Minutes: 495
0
750
1500
2250
3000
OHANAMAMA's Photo OHANAMAMA Posts: 28,377
11/19/19 9:16 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
MAWMAW101 ~ emoticon Congratulations!

~ Renee ~

Turn your magic on.


 Pounds lost: 19.4 
0
20
40
60
80
MAWMAW101's Photo MAWMAW101 Posts: 12,724
11/19/19 8:06 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Day #77 The Healing Power of Rituals

In thinking about my life, I realize that I do have healing rituals.
In the morning, I get my coffee and head back to my bed where I spend time "Sparking" and planning my day. This team and the lessons here are a daily ritual that keeps me grounded.

Most days I stop in the afternoon, have a cup of coffee and just take a break from whatever is going on. Sometimes I read, sometimes I just gather my thoughts, and sometimes I nap.
emoticon Today is our 59th wedding anniversary, we will go out for the day but prefer to be home early.
I really, really do have a very blessed life!

Phyllis ~~
Indiana - Eastern Time
20/20 Vision- What we focus on expands. “Never give up on the dream!”


 current weight: 168.0 
209
196.5
184
171.5
159
THETROUT's Photo THETROUT Posts: 1,975
11/19/19 7:49 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Day 77 - Create a ritual

Morning - I start the day with coffee on the sofa, sparking, Bible study and prayer. But, I can get caught up on the computer and waste a lot of time if it's not a work day.

Reading Linda's answers makes me think I should try to schedule a break time in the afternoon for a hot beverage in this cold weather.

Honestly, I'm not good at scheduled habits and routines, but I agree that they help life to flow better.

Janet in Georgia

Just using SP suggested calorie/protein/carb range

Perfection is not the Goal; Slow and Steady wins the race


 Pounds lost: 31.4 
0
10.75
21.5
32.25
43
DSJB9999's Photo DSJB9999 Posts: 6,739
1/27/19 12:10 P

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Day 77, 100 days The Healing Power of Rituals

LS suggests we may have Rituals which give us safety and comfort in out lives! I still have quite similar ones.

I choose to get up with my dh at 6am whenever he is at work and have a cuppa while I finish making his lunch.

Then I try to sit down with a hot drink and relax (at least for 30 mins esp on the 3 days I have my Copaxone injection. I warms the solution when my dd gets up and even if it 'hurts' a little I like to relax with my drink while watching my children, who now are young people sorting their lunch and breakfast around me!

I get my MiL up at 11am or soon after depending on what I have been doing earlier. She likes getting up at this time!
I tend to take her to bed at 9pm and follow soon after. emoticon My rituals give me comfort!

Donna
Lancashire, UK

dsjb99@yahoo.co.uk

don't have a facebook account
MINDFUL-C's Photo MINDFUL-C SparkPoints: (199,982)
Fitness Minutes: (55,410)
Posts: 5,681
1/20/19 8:31 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
I posted in my journal, but for this day I am posting here as well.

Day 77: The Healing Power of Rituals

Gill you mentioned in your email:
The A = antecedent (aka 'trigger') which means, what was happening beforehand?
The B = behaviour; what behaviour then played out?
The C = consequences; what happened afterwards?

What a wonderful tool... I just need to tweak it a little so it works well with my "Castilo" plan

I use CTFAR. When I am in the narrow path this is my ritual.

Circumstances (the A in yours) triggers a
Thought that causes
Feelings that cause
Actions (the B in yours) that causes a
Result (C in yours)

Circumstances happen. Most are not under my control.
Thoughts will happen and they generate feelings. I can't always change how I feel, but I CAN change how I act on the feeling thus changing my result.

C

Live in the moment

I follow the MyWW Blue Plan
Lifetime WW Member as of 3/8/2020

Mindful Dieting
sparkpeople.com/myspark/groups_indiv
idual.asp?gid=71537



30 Days since:  I became a MyWW Lifetime Member
0
12
25
37
50
AURA18's Photo AURA18 Posts: 11,254
1/16/19 11:52 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Day 77 The Healing Power of Rituals - Practicing routines of eating nutritious food and fitness everyday. My body and mind are healing: releasing weight, sleeping better, more active and positive feelings. Rituals have healing powers...to care for my body, family and home.
This is a good lesson emoticon Linda.

Routinely eating first meal when physically hungry. I get messed-up when I eat breakfast out of habit instead of hunger I do eat before I go out to to avoid buying food and eating in my car. No eating 2-3 hours before bedtime. End meal with hot water, stopping point ritual for when I am eating pass the full feeling. Linda~ u.nu/zowr

Edited by: AURA18 at: 1/20/2019 (07:30)
Maribeth MN CT Panthers draxe.com/ dance u.nu/ixjy planks u.nu/9w-u u.nu/httpsunu7lag u.nu/43qj2
FUNLOVEN's Photo FUNLOVEN Posts: 2,819
6/7/18 8:20 P

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Over time I have developed some rituals for sure:

1. Morning time in my favorite living room chair with my morning coffee while I do my Daily Devotions, e-mails, SP, etc. I have come to really dislike it when we are traveling or have an early morning activity and this ritual time goes by the way-side.

2. During the summer months it has become a ritual of afternoon Happy Hour. This is a ritual that I really want to get rid of, but I am having difficulties saying "NO" to DH.

3. Night time TV watching and snacking is a ritual for DH which I usually can do without, but have been struggling with lately for some reason. He can fall asleep in his chair or up to 2 hours, but come 10 p.m. it is like the Bewitching hour! He will come awake and immediately go for his nightly snack. Sometimes I get so sick of it that I go to bed early.

4. Reading for a bit before "Lights Out". No matter how tired I am I usually cannot fall asleep until I have read a few pages.

I'm not sure about healing rituals. Especially during times of high stress. But I definitely find the following of comfort:

1. Creamer in my coffee.

2. Rejuvenation Yoga on Sunday afternoons.

3. Absolute quiet!

4. Naps in the afternoon.

5. Walks along wooded paths.

6. Browsing Garden Centers to look at all of the beautiful plants.

Like I said, not sure these provide emotional safety, feeling settled, re-energized, or relaxed as Linda suggests in today's lesson. And I don't view any of them useful in an emergency emotional episode. I will have to keep a look out for more ideas.



Sue

Michigan - EST

LIVE-BREATHE-ENJOY LIFE!
"Live life to its fullest and make the most of every day."


 Pounds lost: 37.0 
0
10.75
21.5
32.25
43
SKIRUNNER1's Photo SKIRUNNER1 Posts: 2,345
5/20/18 8:27 P

Send Private Message
Reply
One of my healing rituals is cleaning and organizing. No, I am not a super house-cleaner, although my home usually is pretty clean and neat (a lot courtesy of my husband). I have a couple of little areas, one by my favorite chair, where I make little messes, accumulating papers and items I use or want to keep, then I clean, file, organize...whatever. It gives me a sense of accomplishment when I do this.

Since I retired, I am loving to do dishes. I have a system that I like and it does nurture me as I do them efficiently and effectively. (Some work effects coming through there.) We have had a dishwasher for decades, but have never liked using one.

I have a morning ritual which culminates in my making and enjoying my coffee with my breakfast.



 Pounds lost: 29.0 
0
9.5
19
28.5
38
CD13384562 Posts: 7,356
5/20/18 8:02 P

Send Private Message
Reply
I have several healing rituals and see that like many of us a nice cup of hot tea or coffee can calm me down and soothe the frazzled edges of stress away.

Spark time is definitely one of my healing rituals.

Writing in my bullet journal.

Reading.

Cuddling with Houdini while watching TV. Magic and Shorty aren't much for cuddling, Houdini cannot get enough.

Baking. Of course that could lead me down the wrong path.

I am going on a two week business trip in a few weeks and will make sure to take tea bags, K-cups and a favorite coffee cup from home.

LIVINTODAY's Photo LIVINTODAY Posts: 9,421
5/20/18 2:53 P

Community Team Member

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Tea before bed. Early mornings watching the daylight come. Warm soup on cold days. Cool salads on hot days. Prayer. Telling my family members that I love them and hearing it in response. Hugs. Smiles.

All are healing rituals for me; the things that are a part of every day life. The things that stand between me and discord or disharmony within.

One more thing...Sparkpeople. Sparking has become a healing ritual during which I find friends offering support and kindness always.

Wanda

Believe in Miracles.
Forgive Everyone.
Life is not fair, but it is good.

Eastern Standard Time




 current weight: 150.0 
172
165.25
158.5
151.75
145
MASTERPIECE8's Photo MASTERPIECE8 Posts: 9,928
5/20/18 2:12 P

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Rituals - definitely. My morning is shower, feed cat, take dog out, start coffee. Prayers. It's my quiet time before everyone else is up getting ready for work/school. I need that time. I also spend some quiet/reading time each night before I go to sleep.



Babs
SW Illinois - CST


 Pounds lost: 3.0 
0
3.75
7.5
11.25
15
MTN_KITTEN's Photo MTN_KITTEN SparkPoints: (176,490)
Fitness Minutes: (48,146)
Posts: 7,937
5/20/18 12:26 P

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
This comes at a very good time … healing rituals.

I talk about hubby here on Sparks coz … well, our lives are intertwined. We got away from our evening rituals to ensure proper restorative sleep for him … and me. We are on the edge of a manic episode … so we are focused on keeping our balance.

If I was as diligent at focusing on keeping myself balanced … well, I would have never, ever gained 100+ pounds over my healthy weight.

I lost 5ish pounds this week by focusing on balance … eating when hungry and stopping when I am comfortably full.

I have taken a hot cup of tea … in my alllll time favorite tea glass … and sat in our sunroom. Letting the warmth of the sun and the warmth o the my favorite tea … warm my soul.

I love, love, love hot scented baths … and took one last night. This just about always … warms my soul.

I have one of the bestest, best friends in the universe … and a long talk over the phone can do wonders for my soul.

I am learning or relearning … deep breathing and letting go of the things I can not control. Hmmm … I don't always know I "can't" control things.
emoticon

Cat

Life is not about waiting for the storms to pass...
it's about learning how to dance in the rain.


 current weight: 220.5 
260
231.25
202.5
173.75
145
MINDFUL-C's Photo MINDFUL-C SparkPoints: (199,982)
Fitness Minutes: (55,410)
Posts: 5,681
5/20/18 9:27 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Rituals for healing...

I have mini habits for exercise. I have habits for eating (tracking, thinking, deciding if I am hungry, stopping when I am full)

But I do not have any for healing.

If the scale goes up (even though I am following my plan), or stays the same my mind yells "See you can eat junk. It does not matter!" I remind myself that it is a thought and I do not have to act on it. I guess that is sort of my ritual.

If I eat something unplanned I do not have a ritual. "All or nothing" thinking thoughts flood my brain. I am very critical of myself. Still working on letting go of perfectionism.

When my mind is pushing hard I like to visit this Team and read posts. That helps a lot.

C

Live in the moment

I follow the MyWW Blue Plan
Lifetime WW Member as of 3/8/2020

Mindful Dieting
sparkpeople.com/myspark/groups_indiv
idual.asp?gid=71537



30 Days since:  I became a MyWW Lifetime Member
0
12
25
37
50
DSJB9999's Photo DSJB9999 Posts: 6,739
1/25/18 9:55 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Day 77, 100 days The Healing Power of Rituals

LS suggests we may have Rituals which give us safety and comfort in out lives! I choose to get up with my dh at 6am and have a cuppa while I finish making his lunch. Then I try to sit down with a hot drink and relax (at least for 30 mins esp on the 3 days I have my Copaxone injection. My dh warms the solution and even if it 'hurts' a little I like to relax with my drink while watching my children, who now are young people sorting their lunch and breakfast around me!

Donna
Lancashire, UK

dsjb99@yahoo.co.uk

don't have a facebook account
SWEETENUFGILL's Photo SWEETENUFGILL Posts: 19,575
1/22/18 1:03 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
I've just started a new thing to my morning ritual - I hope it will stick. I've started doing Salutation to the Sun on my yoga mat whilst the coffee is brewing.

This simple yoga routine stretches out everything - and gets the blood flowing. It's also good in that I don't have to think ?what am I going to do this morning?

emoticon

Gill

Time Zone GMT (London) - yes, I'm hours ahead of most of you! Cornwall, UK

"...regardless of the short-term outcome, the very fact of your continuing to struggle is proof of your victory as a human being." Daisaku Ikeda

www.sparkpeople.com/system/howitwork
s.asp




 Pounds lost: 1.9 
0
2
4
6
8
PAULALALALA's Photo PAULALALALA Posts: 27,241
1/21/18 6:32 P

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Day 77, The Healing Power of Rituals

I actually read up from the first post on this thread today, and see that many of us share the same rituals.

My daily morning ritual is to head straight for the bathroom scale and weigh myself. Then I start the coffee dripping and wait for it while snuggling with our two big dogs while I'm lying on the couch and they leave their beds to greet me. Then I head back to the bedroom and enjoy my cup of coffee sitting in my bed -- either doing a sudoku -- or lately reading a lesson out of 100 Days of Weight Loss. Every morning I appreciate just how great that cup of coffee is -- how comforting and energizing at the same time. I love the luxury of being able to sip it slowly and make it last.

This topic also reminds me of our two big girls -- DH and I are retired, and we have these two dogs that I guess you could say are pretty lucky (or spoiled...lol). Anyway...talk about rituals, dogs are very appreciative of ritual! They thrive on it! And a lot of their rituals center on food, but not all of them.

In the morning, they know the first thing they get to do after my DH gets dressed is head out to the mailbox to get the morning paper. This is about a 5 minute round trip walk, and it is their very favorite thing....well...until breakfast right after....or the afternoon walk to the mailbox to get mail, then the afternoon big biscuit treat, then dinner, then the peanut butter kong as the grand finale before bedtime.

When I write it all out, it certainly becomes apparent that our dogs are basking in the healing power of their rituals emoticon ...and that a case could be made that the rituals with our dogs are indeed OUR healing rituals as well.

Paula -- Waco, TX area
CST zone

SP 4 Cornerstones
www.sparkpeople.com/system/howitwork
s.asp


 April Minutes: 465
0
360
720
1080
1440
DI_NAMIC's Photo DI_NAMIC Posts: 4,404
1/21/18 5:34 P

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
A wonderful set of Ws, Maribeth!

I wrote the following last time around and little has changed.
"Features of every day: A calm breakfast; a clean kitchen; make a list to get my ducks in a row before I start work.

If I get a chance, 30 mins complete rest in the afternoon before I start teaching the after-school lessons."

I have added 10 mins journal writing at the end of each day. It clears my head and helps focus if I count some blessings.




Diana UK GMT (EST + 5hrs)

Delighted to be a 'Determined Daisy'.
'Defeat is a temporary condition. Giving up is what makes it permanent.'



 April Minutes: 270
0
200
400
600
800
AURA18's Photo AURA18 Posts: 11,254
1/21/18 10:32 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
emoticon
5Ws - Wellness Routines nutritious food and fitness everyday.
1) Weigh-in daily
2) Water count 8+
3) Watching What I eat
4) Waking outdoors (my meditation)
5) Weight lifting
emoticon emoticon emoticon 100DWL- ritual has healing powers with daily posts. I had a ritual re-start Sept. 1st, 2017 and dropped 5# first two weeks
~~~~~~~~~
2005 - 2013 gained 80+
2014 active in Sparks teams, 100 DWL & WW meetings down 40+
2015 manitained WL till Holiday re-gain Oct.-Dec.
2016 reduced 80+
2017 maintained 80+ reduction
2018 maintained 80+ set lower goal, active in Sparks teams


Edited by: AURA18 at: 1/16/2019 (12:14)
Maribeth MN CT Panthers draxe.com/ dance u.nu/ixjy planks u.nu/9w-u u.nu/httpsunu7lag u.nu/43qj2
CD13384562 Posts: 7,356
1/21/18 8:37 A

Send Private Message
Reply
I definitely enjoy my morning ritual of coffee and spark time, and my evening ritual of kitty cuddling while watching TV with Tom.

SWEETENUFGILL's Photo SWEETENUFGILL Posts: 19,575
1/21/18 8:22 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
emoticon
Those are lovely rituals, Phyllis.
I'll think of you when I boil the kettle at 4pm today.


Gill

Time Zone GMT (London) - yes, I'm hours ahead of most of you! Cornwall, UK

"...regardless of the short-term outcome, the very fact of your continuing to struggle is proof of your victory as a human being." Daisaku Ikeda

www.sparkpeople.com/system/howitwork
s.asp




 Pounds lost: 1.9 
0
2
4
6
8
MAWMAW101's Photo MAWMAW101 Posts: 12,724
1/21/18 7:27 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Day #77 The Healing Power of Rituals
In thinking about my life, I realize that I do have healing rituals.
In the morning, I get my coffee and head back to my bed where I spend time "Sparking" and planning my day.
If I need a nap I close the doors to the "parlor" and put on my favorite Celtic music.
When I work on items for "Hospice" or family, I light a candle and say a prayer for the person who will get what I'm working on.
Most days no matter how busy I am, I stop for a cup of coffee about 4 o'clock.
emoticon I really, really do have a very blessed life!

Edited by: MAWMAW101 at: 1/21/2018 (07:29)
Phyllis ~~
Indiana - Eastern Time
20/20 Vision- What we focus on expands. “Never give up on the dream!”


 current weight: 168.0 
209
196.5
184
171.5
159
SWEETENUFGILL's Photo SWEETENUFGILL Posts: 19,575
1/21/18 7:23 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
I also like my morning ritual of coffee and peaceful reflection at the start of my day.

I've said this before, but I do think it is hard to recognize rituals unless they are disrupted.

Some time ago I participated in an on-line project called Do Something Different, which was about breaking out of the comfort zones. It was a good activity - I might revisit it.

I am a big fan of habit management - it had transformed my life really; understanding how to use my brain to support my goals. And to understand that there are limits to how much, and how many, habits can be worked on at any one time!

Checking in with this team every day is definitely a helpful ritual.

Gill

Time Zone GMT (London) - yes, I'm hours ahead of most of you! Cornwall, UK

"...regardless of the short-term outcome, the very fact of your continuing to struggle is proof of your victory as a human being." Daisaku Ikeda

www.sparkpeople.com/system/howitwork
s.asp




 Pounds lost: 1.9 
0
2
4
6
8
CGH-ARTYPANTS's Photo CGH-ARTYPANTS Posts: 1,308
1/21/18 7:07 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
As a teacher, my work week is very scheduled. I started something new this past week in my effort to rack up a minimum of 6000 steps a day. During break, instead of just standing in the hall monitoring students, I walk the hall. At lunch, I try to fit in 10 minutes of walking.
On weekends, I don't have as much structure to my day. I like being open to activities that come along. I really need to make myself come up with a weekday cleaning schedule, one room a day maybe, so house cleaning is not a big part of my Saturday. I love getting outside when the weather is nice.
My favorite ritual is my early morning alone time. It is where I am now. Low light, quilt, cup of coffee.

Cheri from Georgia
Direction - not Intention - determines Destination


 current weight: 191.6 
228
206
184
162
140
SKIRUNNER1's Photo SKIRUNNER1 Posts: 2,345
9/15/17 8:25 P

Send Private Message
Reply
I know what you mean, Chris. I've just been through about three weeks where my spouse and I were both sick with something that definitely was there, but not serious enough to go to the Dr. It kept affecting us in different ways, but the commonality was sudden, extreme tiredness with a variety of other symptoms from runny nose to actual pain in different parts of the body.... We sort of hunkered in and helped each other. Yes, it affected my eating. What is easy to fix or eat is not necessarily what is the best to eat!

One of the books I was reading during this time had me pick something positive to do for four days straight. I picked listing my blessings and remembering fun or positive things I have done or had happen to me during my life. Long after those four days were over, I am still doing this and find such a simple this to be of enormous value to my mood. I don't even write anything down now for the most part. I can do this at any time, any place. I am planning to continue this as a new ritual!



 Pounds lost: 29.0 
0
9.5
19
28.5
38
SWEETENUFGILL's Photo SWEETENUFGILL Posts: 19,575
9/15/17 3:19 P

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
I just re-read everything that I'd written before - and nothing has changed much.

I did have a new thought about rituals though; as I've said before, it can be hard to identify one's own rituals - because they are 'just things we do' and we don't notice that they are rituals.

It occurred to me that we know which rituals are important to us when we can't do them! In an extreme example, if you interrupt the rituals of someone who has autism or Aspergers for example, you create a lot of distress. When our rituals are disrupted, by visitors, or being away from home, or just something different calling on our time - we can get distressed. Not as obviously distressed as someone one the autistic spectrum, but it can create a discomfort within us and make us a bit out-of-kilter all day.

I love to have my own space in the morning - to get up quietly, to brew my coffee, to have time on the computer to update Spark. If I am not able to do this (like when I go to stay with my son and his family) I feel really out of balance for the day. I try to re-create this morning ritual wherever I am in order to feel OK.

Gill

Time Zone GMT (London) - yes, I'm hours ahead of most of you! Cornwall, UK

"...regardless of the short-term outcome, the very fact of your continuing to struggle is proof of your victory as a human being." Daisaku Ikeda

www.sparkpeople.com/system/howitwork
s.asp




 Pounds lost: 1.9 
0
2
4
6
8
DI_NAMIC's Photo DI_NAMIC Posts: 4,404
9/15/17 1:39 P

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Features of every day: A calm breakfast; a clean kitchen; make a list to get my ducks in a row before I start work.

If I get a chance, 30 mins complete rest in the afternoon before I start teaching the after-school lessons.

Diana UK GMT (EST + 5hrs)

Delighted to be a 'Determined Daisy'.
'Defeat is a temporary condition. Giving up is what makes it permanent.'



 April Minutes: 270
0
200
400
600
800
CTUPTON's Photo CTUPTON SparkPoints: (202,373)
Fitness Minutes: (39,950)
Posts: 15,785
9/15/17 9:52 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Day 77, The Healing Power of Rituals

I am stuck in the mode of : feeling uncomfortable -for any reason --so go get a soothing food. Not good at all.

Need to think on this healing ritual thing.

Hubby's Mom used to say: "I am going to have a nice cuppa tea."

chris

I have to be diligent about caring for myself. 100 DAYS OF WEIGHT LOSS is a great way for me to keep focused. Day 1 is July 1, 2017. Build habits to produce success. Most of these habits I have at least tried before but did not sustain. First habit: delay eating by using a timer.
LONG TERM GOAL: Reduce A1C,BP,tryglicerides,and weight.Evening Eating Sabotage Myself Frustration ..Help! www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/groups_i
ndividual.asp?gid=51755


 Pounds lost: 19.0 
0
7.5
15
22.5
30
AURA18's Photo AURA18 Posts: 11,254
9/15/17 9:11 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
emoticon Phyllis emoticon 100DWL is the ritual that reduces weight and more importantly "Gets me back on track especially after eating through this Summer" emoticon Sue "Don't talk to her in the mornings." Was advice mom gave to DH was the same. I told him because I worked eves and nights. No more late shifts & I still like peaceful mornings.

Edited by: AURA18 at: 1/16/2019 (11:52)
Maribeth MN CT Panthers draxe.com/ dance u.nu/ixjy planks u.nu/9w-u u.nu/httpsunu7lag u.nu/43qj2
FUNLOVEN's Photo FUNLOVEN Posts: 2,819
9/15/17 8:58 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Thanks for the links Maribeth. I have read the series of articles that Dr. Dean wrote and really enjoyed them. The reminder was good because sometimes things like that get lost in the computer world - out of sight, out of mind kind of thing emoticon . I went to the Dr. Oz link, but could not find the form you showed for the life of me !

I have not developed very many rituals in my life except for my morning ones. I am NOT a morning person! So I can get very out of sorts when my morning ritual is thrown off kilter. I even go so far as to bring the things that are part of my morning routine with me when we travel and that can be a challenge with the limited space of a motorcycle!

I don't like to talk to anyone in the morning.
I want my two cups of coffee.
I want my computer time for Sparking.
I want my devotion time.

After that -

I eat my breakfast
I get washed and dressed for the day
I make my bed
I tidy the cat litter box
I follow my fitness schedule

At night -

I brush my teeth
I read a bit no matter HOW TIRED I am

Anything else in between those times is considered a free-for-all depending on my plans for the day.

Gee, I guess I am full of more ritual than I thought I was !


Sue

Michigan - EST

LIVE-BREATHE-ENJOY LIFE!
"Live life to its fullest and make the most of every day."


 Pounds lost: 37.0 
0
10.75
21.5
32.25
43
MAWMAW101's Photo MAWMAW101 Posts: 12,724
9/15/17 7:17 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Day #77 The Healing Power of Rituals
This team is one of the best rituals I have. It lets me see the changes I've made and areas that still need work.
Most of my healing rituals are the same but some change with the seasons.


Phyllis ~~
Indiana - Eastern Time
20/20 Vision- What we focus on expands. “Never give up on the dream!”


 current weight: 168.0 
209
196.5
184
171.5
159
LIVINTODAY's Photo LIVINTODAY Posts: 9,421
5/17/17 4:52 P

Community Team Member

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Day 77, The Healing Power of Rituals

Whether you choose the term "rituals" or "routines" they are important. For instance if I do not get on Spark in the morning, it may not happen. If I don't have my coffee, I WILL be grumpy. If I don't plan my meals I will almost certainly veer from my program. The routines in my life can be shaken up; we all hit bumps and actually I have never liked routines so it has been a lesson that has taken a long time to learn. What I have found out now is that I like to have some structure to my days and I am much likelier to progress if I have that structure.

These days I much prefer any chaos in my life to be planned chaos, like our up-coming trip to New York City to celebrate our granddaughter Elena's 5th birthday! Time flies and I PLAN to be there to celebrate her 20th birthday too!

exercise Day 77, 18 yoga poses for walkers - I really tried...really I did but I think I need a LOT of practice! LOL

Wanda

Believe in Miracles.
Forgive Everyone.
Life is not fair, but it is good.

Eastern Standard Time




 current weight: 150.0 
172
165.25
158.5
151.75
145
AURA18's Photo AURA18 Posts: 11,254
5/17/17 12:40 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Good lesson emoticon Linda.

Edited by: AURA18 at: 1/16/2019 (11:53)
Maribeth MN CT Panthers draxe.com/ dance u.nu/ixjy planks u.nu/9w-u u.nu/httpsunu7lag u.nu/43qj2
MASTERPIECE8's Photo MASTERPIECE8 Posts: 9,928
5/16/17 10:07 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
For me it's reading. Coffee and soothing/instrumental music work well too.

Babs
SW Illinois - CST


 Pounds lost: 3.0 
0
3.75
7.5
11.25
15
TOPS2KOPSVILLE's Photo TOPS2KOPSVILLE Posts: 23,911
5/16/17 7:37 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Day 77: The healing power of rituals
Another way to build emotional safety is to create habits or rituals that help you feel more settled. Rituals include any specifically designed patterns or series of activities that serve a purpose such as helping you relax or re-energize.
Rituals help you feel emotionally safe because they allow you to draw on familiar things and activities rather than constantly having to think up new ones.
Look at the rituals or patterns you already have in place. For example, at your work, do you start the day by getting a hot cup of coffee, then making the rounds and greeting your friends? When you get home, do you typically sit down and read the mail before planning your evening?
Healing rituals
Think about your current rituals and notice how many of them involve food. You may need to replace some of your old ones with new patterns for times when you want to relieve stress, calm down, or heal your emotional needs.
If you tend to head for the cupboard after a bad day, catch yourself and instead, do a healing or relaxing ritual that will manage your stress or frustration in a better way.
One of my favorite healing rituals involves having tea. First, I make a pot of tea and place it on the table next to a blue cushioned chair in my living room. Then with soothing piano music in the background, I sip tea from a special china cup while I read a book or a recent magazine. It always works!
Ideas for healing rituals
1. Sit quietly and listen to a specific song or type of music such as a favorite classical piece.
2. Light candles and meditate or sit in silence for a while before making dinner.
3. Read a few pages from a special book such as the Bible, a novel, or a collection of poetry.
4. Have a cup of tea or coffee along with a healthy snack.
5. Listen to quiet, instrumental music at night before you drift off to sleep.
When you travel, plan ways you can make yourself feel more at home in a hotel room or someone else's house. Tuck your favorite slippers into your suitcase and bring some photos of your loved ones to place on a bedside stand. Bring along a few packets of your favorite gourmet tea
Create a ritual or pattern you can use anytime you need to feel more settled or relaxed.
Describe in your notebook what you will do where you will do it and what items it will include.
At some point today, use a ritual that helps you feel nurtured, calmed, or energized
I need to get back to my ritual- using a no eating zone. and I need to create it, next time round I will have it figured out,.

Leslie Knudson
MN Area Captain TOPS
ASK ME ABOUT IT
www.tops.org
Central time


 Pounds lost: 0.0 
0
2.5
5
7.5
10
MAWMAW101's Photo MAWMAW101 Posts: 12,724
5/16/17 6:03 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Day #77 The Healing Power of Rituals
My daily ritual is to take my first cup of coffee back to bed where I read, send Spark messages and plan my day.
Usually around lunch time I take time "just for me". Sometimes I write, read, or just have a short nap, it depends on where I'm at for lunch.

Edited by: MAWMAW101 at: 5/16/2017 (06:03)
Phyllis ~~
Indiana - Eastern Time
20/20 Vision- What we focus on expands. “Never give up on the dream!”


 current weight: 168.0 
209
196.5
184
171.5
159
MINDFUL-C's Photo MINDFUL-C SparkPoints: (199,982)
Fitness Minutes: (55,410)
Posts: 5,681
5/16/17 3:53 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
I have my morning ritual. I have my coffee, read my Spark info (Teams, feeds, posts), log my weight if I weighed in, complete at least 1 push up, meditate for at least 1 minute, and think about my day.

If I have time I type in my journal in the morning too.

Edited by: MINDFUL-C at: 5/16/2017 (03:54)
C

Live in the moment

I follow the MyWW Blue Plan
Lifetime WW Member as of 3/8/2020

Mindful Dieting
sparkpeople.com/myspark/groups_indiv
idual.asp?gid=71537



30 Days since:  I became a MyWW Lifetime Member
0
12
25
37
50
DSJB9999's Photo DSJB9999 Posts: 6,739
12/26/16 12:55 P

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Oh dear Pam grazing is a ritual of mine too that I could really do without! Not easy but I need to consider it further in line with other of the 100 days learnings!

I don't feel that I really have any Rituals that I follow, maybe sitting in silence before making dinner would be a good idea to calm the mind. I think I could also read one of my 100 days learnings at this time too.



Donna
Lancashire, UK

dsjb99@yahoo.co.uk

don't have a facebook account
TWEETYX2's Photo TWEETYX2 Posts: 2,071
12/26/16 11:03 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Some of my rituals are similar to others in this team: quiet reflection time while enjoying a cup of coffee and nature. I also love to have background music on at the same time----something very soothing.

However, there are also 'negative' rituals and so I wanted to address that since going through this book is all about self-discovery and then making changes. I realized that one of the rituals that is not so good for me especially during the holidays is the ritual of grazing even though I am not hungry. I think that is because of the abundance of time, fatigue and food. So, this is one ritual that I want to work on in the upcoming holidays during the next year.

My ritual of grazing is one ritual I want to put to rest and although I still did some of that late last night I countered that by going to bed earlier.

TweetyX2 (Pam B.)
Time Zone: EST
Atlanta, Georgia [USA]

A Look Back: January 4, 2017: 265.4 lbs.
January 1st, 2018: 231.6 lbs.
Total Wt. Loss in 2017: 33.8 lbs.

2018 Wt. Loss Goal: lose 52 lbs.
End of Year 2018 Wt. Loss Goal: 188.2 lbs.

This is not a race to the finish but a journey to the end.















 current weight: 228.0 
228
220.75
213.5
206.25
199
TOPS2KOPSVILLE's Photo TOPS2KOPSVILLE Posts: 23,911
12/26/16 8:02 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Day 77, 100 days The Healing Power of Rituals

Yes I am a worthwhile person! The self talk can hinder you calm you or give you courage to move forward.
Christmas is over if you did not eat sensibly it is time to put it in past and move forward. We are all capable of that.

My calming ritual is coffee sitting in my recliner, maybe reading a letter from a friend. received lots of nice cards over the holiday. so can read all the great people who do care. also received cards for reaching my KOPS. so will sit down and write some of them. I am going back to do the two days I missed. I need to take the time to complete my lessons and working on getting some healthier goals for the new year. kinda did two lessons in one.

Leslie Knudson
MN Area Captain TOPS
ASK ME ABOUT IT
www.tops.org
Central time


 Pounds lost: 0.0 
0
2.5
5
7.5
10
CD13384562 Posts: 7,356
12/25/16 8:20 A

Send Private Message
Reply
Day 77 - The healing power of Rituals

Morning Sparkpeople time
Completing another lesson on 100 DWL or FWTS
Evening coffee and conversation with Tom

A ritual I miss right now, our daily nature walks. We still go when the weather allows, not as easy in ice and snow.

Our cats even have rituals. Every night before bed time they need their laser tag and kitty treats!

MAWMAW101's Photo MAWMAW101 Posts: 12,724
12/25/16 6:51 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Day #77 The Healing Power of Rituals
My daily ritual still is to take my first coffee back to bed where I read, send Spark messages and plan my day.
In the afternoon I still usually take time "just for me" and now realize it's because I focus just on myself for a while that heals me each day.

Phyllis ~~
Indiana - Eastern Time
20/20 Vision- What we focus on expands. “Never give up on the dream!”


 current weight: 168.0 
209
196.5
184
171.5
159
SWEETENUFGILL's Photo SWEETENUFGILL Posts: 19,575
12/25/16 4:04 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
My most obvious,self-nurturing, healing ritual at the moment is my habit of taking a first coffee of the day to my door-step, setting my timer for 15 mins, and just soaking up the sounds of the morning: the sea, the birds, the wind - breathing in the air, contemplating the stars or the sunrise. Feeling at one with the world.

Gill

Time Zone GMT (London) - yes, I'm hours ahead of most of you! Cornwall, UK

"...regardless of the short-term outcome, the very fact of your continuing to struggle is proof of your victory as a human being." Daisaku Ikeda

www.sparkpeople.com/system/howitwork
s.asp




 Pounds lost: 1.9 
0
2
4
6
8
AURA18's Photo AURA18 Posts: 11,254
12/24/16 12:15 P

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
To my team of friends...JOYFUL

Edited by: AURA18 at: 12/14/2018 (18:31)
Maribeth MN CT Panthers draxe.com/ dance u.nu/ixjy planks u.nu/9w-u u.nu/httpsunu7lag u.nu/43qj2
MINDFUL-C's Photo MINDFUL-C SparkPoints: (199,982)
Fitness Minutes: (55,410)
Posts: 5,681
12/24/16 9:19 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Day 77 The healing power of rituals

I always brush my teeth first thing in the morning. Then I make my morning coffee and check my Spark Team page and emails. It is also at this time that I think about the day ahead.

When I get home from work I sit at my desk to check the mail, check emails, and complete any paperwork from the kids. I also plan the rest of my evening. I no longer eat at my desk to food (other than water, tea, or coffee) is not involved.

If I am really feeling stressed I will make coffee or tea and sit in my bedroom and read. Or I may choose to play my bass in the basement for awhile.

Stress at work is different. If I am in charge of a class or group I will have to use deep breathing. I will not be able to leave. Trying to be more positive, stay positive. Stress is stress! It will pass.


C

Live in the moment

I follow the MyWW Blue Plan
Lifetime WW Member as of 3/8/2020

Mindful Dieting
sparkpeople.com/myspark/groups_indiv
idual.asp?gid=71537



30 Days since:  I became a MyWW Lifetime Member
0
12
25
37
50
SKIRUNNER1's Photo SKIRUNNER1 Posts: 2,345
11/25/16 4:13 P

Send Private Message
Reply
What better day for this lesson to appear for me than Thanksgiving! Modest but traditional turkey dinner, our fruit salad in effect serving as dessert. I did gravy from scratch this year and it was sooo yummy! Many things to be thankful for. emoticon



 Pounds lost: 29.0 
0
9.5
19
28.5
38
JUSTME9898's Photo JUSTME9898 Posts: 3,458
8/22/16 1:03 P

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
I have routines, but I feel like I need some rituals. I get on the bike when I get up eat breakfast every morning, watch some politics, do some water aerobics, clean, cook dinner, eat with family.
I want to add some rituals to the evening, relaxation exercises, chair yoga, meditation, thoughtful mindful living.

goal is to be able to walk again
Linda
high desert, California


 Pounds lost: 10.0 
0
30
60
90
120
SKIRUNNER1's Photo SKIRUNNER1 Posts: 2,345
8/17/16 3:21 P

Send Private Message
Reply
One of my rituals is how I treat my mornings - I treat my first hour awake as if I were at a spa! I stretch, I do a few simple exercises, I weigh and record my weight, I shower and pamper myself. Then I fix and enjoy my breakfast. I am then ready for the day.

Another ritual is actually how I fix my salad. Baby romaine goes on the bottom, then a handful of chopped red cabbage. Over that goes 1/4 cup of fat free cottage cheese and a few petite carrots. Occasionally, I add a chopped boiled egg here. If I'm having the salad as my main protein, here is also where I add tuna, salmon, chicken or turkey. Over this goes pieces of celery and raw broccoli. I top it with 1 teaspoon of either white wine vinegar or cider vinegar and 1 teaspoon of either virgin olive oil or canola oil. Again occasionally over this I add pieces of avocado which I salt and pepper a bit. Another variation is salt free lemon pepper shaken over the salad after the cottage cheese. This makes a very large salad, with the base being 181 calories and 14 G protein. The cottage cheese mixed with the oil and vinegar gives it a wonderful creamy mix. I have the base saved as a group on my tracker. I would then have to say my third ritual is eating the salad!! emoticon



 Pounds lost: 29.0 
0
9.5
19
28.5
38
MINDFUL-C's Photo MINDFUL-C SparkPoints: (199,982)
Fitness Minutes: (55,410)
Posts: 5,681
8/16/16 1:56 P

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Cat, sounds great! Beautiful glass too!

C

Live in the moment

I follow the MyWW Blue Plan
Lifetime WW Member as of 3/8/2020

Mindful Dieting
sparkpeople.com/myspark/groups_indiv
idual.asp?gid=71537



30 Days since:  I became a MyWW Lifetime Member
0
12
25
37
50
MINDFUL-C's Photo MINDFUL-C SparkPoints: (199,982)
Fitness Minutes: (55,410)
Posts: 5,681
8/16/16 1:56 P

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
DJ, my husband sounds just like yours as far as "fine in chaos"! LOL! He laughs at my needing to plan driving routes and to schedule everything.

That is awesome that you are now able to embrace the unknown. Just thinking of it raises my anxiety. But I will work on it.

C

Live in the moment

I follow the MyWW Blue Plan
Lifetime WW Member as of 3/8/2020

Mindful Dieting
sparkpeople.com/myspark/groups_indiv
idual.asp?gid=71537



30 Days since:  I became a MyWW Lifetime Member
0
12
25
37
50
MTN_KITTEN's Photo MTN_KITTEN SparkPoints: (176,490)
Fitness Minutes: (48,146)
Posts: 7,937
8/16/16 1:26 P

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
A hot cup of tea is calming, relaxing ... an indicator to s-l-o-w down for me. I have several favorites … Good Earth Sweet and Spicy, Celestial Peppermint and Celestial Lemon Zinger.

I have a favorite cup/glass in which I drink my drink. We bought them with our DD in St Louis. They make me think of Victorian women gathering to sip mint juleps all dainty, delicate and lady like.

We have a sunroom on the back of our house ... it faces south. I love to sit in the sunshine and watch the grass grow and sip my tea. This s-l-o-w-s me down.

I like order so I wake up and proceed to straighten our home first thing … putting things where they belong so we seem to move through our home and day better.

Rituals help ground us.



Edited by: MTN_KITTEN at: 8/16/2016 (13:40)
Cat

Life is not about waiting for the storms to pass...
it's about learning how to dance in the rain.


 current weight: 220.5 
260
231.25
202.5
173.75
145
DJBTOO's Photo DJBTOO Posts: 3,160
8/16/16 1:14 P

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
I, too, like a sense of order to things. It is less distracting and does offer decompression as you say Pam. Lucky you to have a husband that shares in this sensibility. Mine, unfortunately, does not ... he can be as peaceful in chaos as order. Good for him, not so much me! ha! So he is not very 'orderly' in anything and I've had to try to 'deal' with that ... which means sometimes I have a meltdown over it with him - ha! He tries ... for me ... but it's just not on his radar - ha!

Chele - I've grown to learn to appreciate the 'unknown' ... sometimes the best things in my life happened because I stepped over into the unknown way of doing things. It was scary at first ... but so much good has come from it I am usually able to calm down any fears and forge ahead now. Not saying it all turns out 'good' ... but nothing ever turned out to be as devastating as the fears I was creating in my own mind.

dj ~ Big Island Hawaii
Whole-foods, Plant-based, No Sugar/Flour/Snacks, Moderate Exercise, Spiritually Focused/Supported - that's the plan!

"...casting all your cares on Him, for He cares about you." 1 Peter 5:7
"Know well what leads you forward and what holds you back, and choose the path that leads to Wisdom." ~ Buddha
"When diet is wrong medicine is of no use, when diet is correct medicine is of no need." ~Ayurvedic Proverb


 current weight: 143.0 
225
200
175
150
125
MINDFUL-C's Photo MINDFUL-C SparkPoints: (199,982)
Fitness Minutes: (55,410)
Posts: 5,681
8/16/16 12:59 P

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Pam, I am an order lover too! I love to know who, what, where, and when. So easily stressed by the unknown.

I have my route planned out for my pre-op blood work tomorrow (8:30). It is done at a building I have never driven to before.

C

Live in the moment

I follow the MyWW Blue Plan
Lifetime WW Member as of 3/8/2020

Mindful Dieting
sparkpeople.com/myspark/groups_indiv
idual.asp?gid=71537



30 Days since:  I became a MyWW Lifetime Member
0
12
25
37
50
MINDFUL-C's Photo MINDFUL-C SparkPoints: (199,982)
Fitness Minutes: (55,410)
Posts: 5,681
8/16/16 12:57 P

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
DJ, I am sure you will find your self-caring ritual! The candle, drink, and view sound relaxing.

C

Live in the moment

I follow the MyWW Blue Plan
Lifetime WW Member as of 3/8/2020

Mindful Dieting
sparkpeople.com/myspark/groups_indiv
idual.asp?gid=71537



30 Days since:  I became a MyWW Lifetime Member
0
12
25
37
50
DJBTOO's Photo DJBTOO Posts: 3,160
8/16/16 12:48 P

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
The only ritual I have (sort of) right now is when I get really stressed about life's obstacles (no car, weather not cooperating, something's leaking or breaking down ... all at the same time - ha! and I 'used to' eat in response but no longer do as an example) I've started coming inside to be alone and lighting a lavender beeswax candle that was a gift from a friend. I then make a hot spiced Cafix drink and sit down and sip while gazing out the window at the pasture. This always calms me down and makes me remember regardless of what is going on ... life is darn good!

With my 30 day break I hope to create more self-caring rituals that I will continue as my normal routine daily.

Right now I 'start' my day with the internet ... not the best way to start ... for me personally that is. I hope to replace that with meditation, yoga, tai chi or something in that direction.

Edited by: DJBTOO at: 8/16/2016 (12:51)
dj ~ Big Island Hawaii
Whole-foods, Plant-based, No Sugar/Flour/Snacks, Moderate Exercise, Spiritually Focused/Supported - that's the plan!

"...casting all your cares on Him, for He cares about you." 1 Peter 5:7
"Know well what leads you forward and what holds you back, and choose the path that leads to Wisdom." ~ Buddha
"When diet is wrong medicine is of no use, when diet is correct medicine is of no need." ~Ayurvedic Proverb


 current weight: 143.0 
225
200
175
150
125
TWEETYX2's Photo TWEETYX2 Posts: 2,071
8/16/16 12:43 P

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
I do think of some of my daily routine as a 'ritual' because they are familiar and both sooth me and grant me peace to be present in my day.

I love order and in fact my hubby and I both agree that we relish order in our lives so much that we have shared rituals that we do together to ensure that. It is like 'decompressing' from whatever the outside world presses in on us.

I find this is very important in creating a serene inside and so I work toward this with a zeal and sense of purpose. It helps me to stay afloat on the churning seas of life.

Pam

TweetyX2 (Pam B.)
Time Zone: EST
Atlanta, Georgia [USA]

A Look Back: January 4, 2017: 265.4 lbs.
January 1st, 2018: 231.6 lbs.
Total Wt. Loss in 2017: 33.8 lbs.

2018 Wt. Loss Goal: lose 52 lbs.
End of Year 2018 Wt. Loss Goal: 188.2 lbs.

This is not a race to the finish but a journey to the end.















 current weight: 228.0 
228
220.75
213.5
206.25
199
MINDFUL-C's Photo MINDFUL-C SparkPoints: (199,982)
Fitness Minutes: (55,410)
Posts: 5,681
8/16/16 11:54 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Leslie, I do not really think of mine as rituals either, but they are routines.

Hope all goes well at your weigh in today. Every healthy choice is a good choice!
emoticon

C

Live in the moment

I follow the MyWW Blue Plan
Lifetime WW Member as of 3/8/2020

Mindful Dieting
sparkpeople.com/myspark/groups_indiv
idual.asp?gid=71537



30 Days since:  I became a MyWW Lifetime Member
0
12
25
37
50
MINDFUL-C's Photo MINDFUL-C SparkPoints: (199,982)
Fitness Minutes: (55,410)
Posts: 5,681
8/16/16 11:41 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Day 77: The healing power of rituals

I always brush my teeth first thing in the morning. Then I make my morning coffee and check my Spark Team page and emails. It is also at this time that I think about the day ahead. Now that my desk is neater it is a nicer place to visit.

When I get home from work I sit at my desk to check the mail, emails, and complete any paperwork from the kids. I also plan the rest of my evening. I no longer eat at my desk so food (other than water, tea, or coffee) is not involved.

If I am really feeling stressed I will make tea (or drink water if it is hot like today) and sit in my bedroom and read. Or I may choose to play my bass in the basement for awhile. Hmm I would call is a bassment but we also have drums and guitars.

Stress at work is different. If I am in charge of a class or group I will have to use deep breathing. I will not be able to leave. Can’t walk around in slippers either. Well, unless it is pajama day!


C

Live in the moment

I follow the MyWW Blue Plan
Lifetime WW Member as of 3/8/2020

Mindful Dieting
sparkpeople.com/myspark/groups_indiv
idual.asp?gid=71537



30 Days since:  I became a MyWW Lifetime Member
0
12
25
37
50
TOPS2KOPSVILLE's Photo TOPS2KOPSVILLE Posts: 23,911
8/16/16 7:11 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Day 77, 100 days The Healing Power of Rituals


Not sure if i call it rituals
Take vitamins
AM- I have coffee- used to do tea but thinking of making it in the evening
Read emails and do the 100 day lesson
Eat breakfast, then make lunch if going to work
put on fitbit

PM
sit in reclinder
Yes I go on computer again
make supper
watch some tv in reclinder
in bed play a few games on tablet. music is always playing.

But yes I like to make a ritual of
Reading bible and drinking my tea.
Less sitting if sitting longer than 30 minutes must get up.

Some of the books ideas are good but I don't own candles. it never did interest me. but i could listen to songs, a cup of tea without the snack, there are some of the habits/rituals I could change like get a walk in. I am aiming to begin that. just not there yet. My job gives me a lot of steps. but on days off I don't get many.

weigh in today.



Leslie Knudson
MN Area Captain TOPS
ASK ME ABOUT IT
www.tops.org
Central time


 Pounds lost: 0.0 
0
2.5
5
7.5
10
MAWMAW101's Photo MAWMAW101 Posts: 12,724
8/16/16 6:39 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
My rituals haven't changed much from the last time.

Day #77 The Healing Power of Rituals
In the morning, I like to have my first cup of coffee on the porch watching it get daylight.
Then I spend time "Sparking" and planning my day.
If I need a nap I close the doors to the "parlor" and put on my favorite Celtic music.
When I work on items for "Hospice" or family, I light a candle and say a prayer for the person who will get what I'm working on.
Most days no matter how busy I am, I stop for a cup of coffee about 4 o'clock.
I really, really do have a very blessed life!


Phyllis ~~
Indiana - Eastern Time
20/20 Vision- What we focus on expands. “Never give up on the dream!”


 current weight: 168.0 
209
196.5
184
171.5
159
SWEETENUFGILL's Photo SWEETENUFGILL Posts: 19,575
8/16/16 1:00 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
I can't really add much to what I wrote last time - these rituals have stayed in place.

emoticon
I have several rituals that help me: when I get home from work I always take off the day's clothes and put on something different (jeans, or tracksuit bottoms usually). In the morning, I love to take my coffee and sit on the doorstep and just listen to the morning sounds.

Gill

Time Zone GMT (London) - yes, I'm hours ahead of most of you! Cornwall, UK

"...regardless of the short-term outcome, the very fact of your continuing to struggle is proof of your victory as a human being." Daisaku Ikeda

www.sparkpeople.com/system/howitwork
s.asp




 Pounds lost: 1.9 
0
2
4
6
8
AURA18's Photo AURA18 Posts: 11,254
8/14/16 1:58 P

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Thanks OOLA for tip - End meal with hot water, I am going to give it a whirl.

Edited by: AURA18 at: 1/16/2019 (12:06)
Maribeth MN CT Panthers draxe.com/ dance u.nu/ixjy planks u.nu/9w-u u.nu/httpsunu7lag u.nu/43qj2
GREBJACK's Photo GREBJACK Posts: 8,510
5/15/16 5:32 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Hmm, I'm not sure I rely on ritual much, but maybe I'm just in autopilot and need to spend more time looking at my days. At 5:00 sharp every morning I turn on NPR to listen to the morning news. When I get to work in the morning, I start my day by filling my water bottle and cleaning my board and checking my email. When I get home in the evenings, I feed the cat and check my email (spark!) and then spend some time scratching the cat when he's done eating. When I wake up at my boyfriend's, I take an early shower and walk through Central Park (if it's not too early - it's not legal until 6:00) or to the grocery store and then cut up some melon or something to munch on and have ready to feed the kids when they wake up.

Rebecca

He drew a circle that shut me out--
Heretic, rebel, a thing to flout.
But Love and I had the wit to win:
We drew a circle that took him in!
-Edwin Markham

www.fitbit.com/user/24NZF7
Eastern Daylight Time


 current weight: 157.2 
166
159
152
145
138
OOLALA53's Photo OOLALA53 Posts: 16,081
3/20/16 2:45 P

Community Team Member

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
I think the only thing besides my basic "ritual" of meal-based eating (little snacking), the only ritual I have is to end a meal with a hot beverage. This is relatively new. It feels in that last spot without making me feel overfull hours later. And it has become a real signal that the chewing is over.

I know this day isn't meant just for food rituals, but I don't think I have any others. I'm addicted to the internet. Can't really call my checking and responding to emails and surfing the net rituals.

Seven years of maintaining a 20% weightloss and counting.
*To seek happiness, identifying the Self with the body, is like trying to cross a river on the back of a crocodile." Ramana Maharshi
*The No S Diet saved me from my emotional eating defeats.
8 years and counting! nosdiet.com/
*Get to the next meal hungry!
www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/groups_i
ndividual.asp?gid=1323


3,755 Days since:  I began the NO S lifestyle
0
950
1900
2850
3800
GOTTALUVPINK's Photo GOTTALUVPINK Posts: 613
3/18/16 4:25 P

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Day 77.... The Healing Power of Rituals (opps, forget this yesterday!)

I wouldn't really call my daily routines rituals... just habits! The only thing that involves food is my evening computer/tv/snack time. Usually at 8pm I getting my comfy jammies on ... lay on my bed with my laptop.... watch tv.... and have a snack nearby.... just habit. I have been better with this lately too.... choosing healthier snack options or just sipping on water.



Jodie


 Pounds lost: 18.8 
0
25
50
75
100
DEBPRE16's Photo DEBPRE16 SparkPoints: (0)
Fitness Minutes: (19,172)
Posts: 1,836
3/17/16 11:59 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
I have a bed time ritual of getting ready for bed but I can't think of any other rituals I have.

Debbie


 current weight: 321.6 
344
298
252
206
160
MTN_KITTEN's Photo MTN_KITTEN SparkPoints: (176,490)
Fitness Minutes: (48,146)
Posts: 7,937
3/17/16 9:41 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
I do not care for coffee ... but love tea. A hot cup of tea is calming, relaxing ... an indicator to s-l-o-w down.

We have a sunroom on the back of our house ... it faces south. I love to sit in the sunshine and watch the grass grow. This s-l-o-w-s me down.

Rituals help ground us.

Cat

Life is not about waiting for the storms to pass...
it's about learning how to dance in the rain.


 current weight: 220.5 
260
231.25
202.5
173.75
145
MAWMAW101's Photo MAWMAW101 Posts: 12,724
3/17/16 7:21 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Day #77 The Healing Power of Rituals
In thinking about my life, I realize that I do have healing rituals.
In the morning, I get my coffee and head back to my bed where I spend time "Sparking" and planning my day.
If I need a nap I close the doors to the "parlor" and put on my favorite Celtic music.
When I work on items for "Hospice" or family, I light a candle and say a prayer for the person who will get what I'm working on.
Most days no matter how busy I am, I stop for a cup of coffee about 4 o'clock.
I really, really do have a very blessed life!

Phyllis ~~
Indiana - Eastern Time
20/20 Vision- What we focus on expands. “Never give up on the dream!”


 current weight: 168.0 
209
196.5
184
171.5
159
IAMBLESSED103's Photo IAMBLESSED103 Posts: 17,858
10/19/15 1:26 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Day 77 – The healing power of rituals

My daily "rituals" are my prayer time visits with God. In the morning, I don't always have a lot of time but I like to light a candle and have a cup of tea or coffee while reading my Bible or listening to a Christian teaching CD or an audio Bible. I'll also play some Christian worship music. It is very calming and strengthening for me. I do similar at night before bed as well. I really enjoy spending time with the Lord and sensing His love and His Presence.


 Pounds lost: 21.0 
0
17.5
35
52.5
70
CAT125's Photo CAT125 Posts: 28,726
10/18/15 7:54 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
I like long walks early in the morning when everything is fresh. It's time to think and spend with God.

I live in "sleep" clothes. I where them up until I go to work and like Gill, the first thing I do when I get back home, is put them on again. SO COMFY!!!! I LOVE to be home!

My whole home is my safe place! emoticon emoticon emoticon

Cat, in Florida
Eastern Time Zone


Pounds lost in 2020......


 Pounds lost: 2.0 
0
28.75
57.5
86.25
115
SWEETENUFGILL's Photo SWEETENUFGILL Posts: 19,575
10/18/15 4:12 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Seems to me that the healing power of rituals is when we STOP and shut other stuff (and people) out for a while: whether that's in the car with the music on, with headphones on, up early when it's quiet, in the bath............. what heals us best is 'alone time'. Well, most of us! (I'm thinking a person you love a lot, or a furry friend, might also be quite healing - as long as they're not the cause of the need for healing!)

I have several rituals that help me: when I get home from work I always take off the day's clothes and put on something different (jeans, or tracksuit bottoms usually). In the morning, I love to take my coffee and sit on the doorstep and just listen to the morning sounds.

I will unplug my phone to keep everything away from me if I need to be completely alone. If home is really upsetting me (thinking noisy neighbours) then I go out for a walk.

I'm sure I probably have lots of little rituals that keep me sane, which I don't even notice anymore!

Gill

Time Zone GMT (London) - yes, I'm hours ahead of most of you! Cornwall, UK

"...regardless of the short-term outcome, the very fact of your continuing to struggle is proof of your victory as a human being." Daisaku Ikeda

www.sparkpeople.com/system/howitwork
s.asp




 Pounds lost: 1.9 
0
2
4
6
8
GETFITABBY's Photo GETFITABBY Posts: 314
10/18/15 3:08 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Day 77 - The healing power of rituals

I enjoy eating my Greek yogurt and reading the scriptures first thing in the morning. Another calming ritual I have is listening to audio-books on my iPod when I go to bed at night. When my sister was dying from lung cancer that’s all I could think about when I went to bed. I couldn’t handle it so I decided to stick the earphones in and listen to a story. It worked wonders for taking my mind off of things that I couldn’t change and didn’t want to face, and soon I would be fast asleep. I have been listening to stories every night when I go to bed since that time. And if I go somewhere my sleeping mask and stories go with me. If I find myself in need of being soothed I get out a special teacup from my mother’s collection and have a cup of herbal tea. I find this very calming and nurturing.

Abby
Pacific Time Zone

My past mistakes do not dictate my future. At any given moment I have the ability to improve and choose a new path for myself. Today I choose to follow my plan and live a healthy lifestyle.


 Pounds lost: 57.0 
0
23.25
46.5
69.75
93
GOCALGAL's Photo GOCALGAL Posts: 5,176
10/17/15 12:22 P

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Dot emoticon Music can be both so relaxing or energizing. emoticon emoticon

This lesson has got me journaling up a storm. I just realized how much journaling has become a "healing ritual" for me, both here on SP and in my notebook. Today I wrote about seasonal outside rituals that I could rekindle now that it has cooled down such as sitting outside and getting a little sun on me.

I think my favorite ritual is getting up early, going to my computer desk where I have a few cups of coffee and listen to all the sounds and enjoy a lovely view. I also journal, read...If I am stressing my healthy ritual is a hot Epsom salt bath with soothing music and a magazine which does wonders.

New rituals that I am working on from the Rewire podcast: journaling 3 different things to be grateful for each day and a rubber band around the wrist to snap for each negative thought.

The negative thought can be anything from body image or food talk to those irritating thoughts others bring out. This is healing in it's own way in reducing the power over my emotions of negative things in my life. Hopefully I will get past many of them and let them go. There are always things and so many are everyday.

I live out in the country and my lovely nature sounds are being replaced with bulldozers, dust...At this moment I can smell paint or something so I close my window... My wrist is getting red from all the negative thoughts!

Time has past, I reopen my window and hear birds, a rooster ruckus! lol! emoticon Glad I didn't let that paint smell alter my mood.

Edited by: GOCALGAL at: 10/17/2015 (12:24)
Maria ~ So. Cal. ~ Pacific Time Zone
Smile, hug, encourage others

"It's not the mountain we conquer,
But ourselves." unknown

Winning is Not Quitting

OHIOMOM's Photo OHIOMOM SparkPoints: (0)
Fitness Minutes: (63,003)
Posts: 15,184
10/17/15 10:51 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Music is my solace, when I really am stressed I turn on a favorite CD, the music channel on the tv or the local oldies radio station and lose myself in oldies music. I know it has done the trick when I start to sing along.

When I have had a stressful day at work, pop in my favorite Neil Diamond CD, singing along by the time I get home from work.

At home, I go to my room, a hot cup of tea and my music. When music has really done its trick, I will get up and sing and dance to the tunes of my youth. Nothing better.

Music is much better than heading to the cupboard or fridge for a snack.

Edited by: OHIOMOM at: 10/17/2015 (10:55)
Dot
Goal: To do better today.


Treasure the past, live in the present and believe in the future.


 Pounds lost: 24.0 
0
34.5
69
103.5
138
SWEETENUFGILL's Photo SWEETENUFGILL Posts: 19,575
10/16/15 3:21 P

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
17th October 2015

Day 77 – The healing power of rituals

Note: If you find your way to the beginning of this thread, which was started in 2011, you'll find inspiration from posts made about this activity.

Here are today's suggested activities:

1. Create a ritual or pattern you can use any time you need to feel more settled or relaxed.

2. In your notebook, describe what you'll do, where you'll do it, and what items you'll include in this special time. Maybe your ritual involves having your morning cup of coffee by a sunny window or creating a special romantic dinner.

3. At some point today, use a ritual that helps you feel nurtured, calmed, or energized.

Here's a link to the Day 77 blog, posted on Linda's Spark page
www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_pu
blic_jour
nal_individual.asp?blog_id=60
10334


Edited by: SWEETENUFGILL at: 9/15/2017 (15:09)
Gill

Time Zone GMT (London) - yes, I'm hours ahead of most of you! Cornwall, UK

"...regardless of the short-term outcome, the very fact of your continuing to struggle is proof of your victory as a human being." Daisaku Ikeda

www.sparkpeople.com/system/howitwork
s.asp




 Pounds lost: 1.9 
0
2
4
6
8
DI_NAMIC's Photo DI_NAMIC Posts: 4,404
4/17/15 1:42 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
I hear you on the clean kitchen. I fly!

I make a list of to-dos to clear my head of anything large or small that may intrude; then a warm drink and meditate for a while.

I can face the world way better with my ducks in a row.

Diana UK GMT (EST + 5hrs)

Delighted to be a 'Determined Daisy'.
'Defeat is a temporary condition. Giving up is what makes it permanent.'



 April Minutes: 270
0
200
400
600
800
1KINDREDSPIRIT3's Photo 1KINDREDSPIRIT3 Posts: 6,053
9/19/14 11:00 P

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
This chapter on rituals is somewhat similar to yesterday’s “emotional safety” topic. Basically, rituals that are calming are also healing. I got the impression these rituals weren't just food rituals but any rituals that can calm you.


Mine would be resting in my lazy boy chair - I love it

Reading a book

My cat climbing on my chair or bed and touching me with his paw for me to pet him. I deliberately stop so he'll touch me again...I wish I could get a picture of it!

cheers
barbara

Set yourself up for success and anything is possible. - SP



MKBWNSUGAR's Photo MKBWNSUGAR Posts: 11,277
9/18/14 11:18 P

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
My rituals are first thing in the morning I get my coffee, after breakfast I read my meditation books, at the end of the day when I've finished everything, I sit in my recliner to relax and watch my programs.

Martha
Southern Maryland
EST Zone
BLC 33 Hot Mocha Maniacs
Walk Away the Pounds, Co-leader
The best preparation for tomorrow is doing your best today. H. Jackson Brown, Jr.


 Pounds lost: 0.0 
0
10.5
21
31.5
42
SWEETENUFGILL's Photo SWEETENUFGILL Posts: 19,575
9/18/14 9:39 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Day 77

I am also a Fly Baby! and the routines she teaches are very, very helpful to me.

I go straight to the kettle - a cup of tea is always a life-saver!

I don't think I have any food rituals that I can think of - although I'm sure I probably do have them!

I make lists, which help to clear my head.

I don't have much to say about this day! I think living alone makes my rituals less obvious to me - if someone else came to stay I'd probably notice more the things I have to do!

ooh! I've just thought of one: when I get home from work I ALWAYS have to change out of my work clothes into my home clothes before I do anything else - that makes me feel comfortable.


Edited by: SWEETENUFGILL at: 9/18/2014 (09:40)
Gill

Time Zone GMT (London) - yes, I'm hours ahead of most of you! Cornwall, UK

"...regardless of the short-term outcome, the very fact of your continuing to struggle is proof of your victory as a human being." Daisaku Ikeda

www.sparkpeople.com/system/howitwork
s.asp




 Pounds lost: 1.9 
0
2
4
6
8
MTN_KITTEN's Photo MTN_KITTEN SparkPoints: (176,490)
Fitness Minutes: (48,146)
Posts: 7,937
9/12/14 9:00 P

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Day 77 - The Healing Power of Rituals

One of my rituals is to drink a cup of tea that I dearly love ... Sweet and Spicy ... in a cup that makes me feel like I am a Victorian lady sipping a mint julep.


Cat

Life is not about waiting for the storms to pass...
it's about learning how to dance in the rain.


 current weight: 220.5 
260
231.25
202.5
173.75
145
CD13384562 Posts: 7,356
9/4/14 1:50 A

Send Private Message
Reply
Day 77 - The Healing Power of Rituals

I am opting to complete this one privately.

CD10163029 Posts: 2,791
9/18/11 6:16 P

Send Private Message
Reply
excellent thoughts...

the swipe & swish and other rituals you mentioned Warm, make a lot of sense to me, kind of like keeping up with the dishes & laundry routine to help keep things from being overwhelming.

i think that applies to our health, eating, exercise & sparking rituals... and other "self-care" routines ~ these are meant to help us...

and balance is important... SP also is social/fun, and I have to limit it too... allow enough to help... but not so much that it hurts me...

DBBDANFORD's Photo DBBDANFORD Posts: 188
9/18/11 2:28 P

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
I agree with you on the balance issue....I can easily spend way to much time on SP and I enjoy every minute on it. I'll check out Flylady's site when I get a chance. Thanks for sharing. You helped make me feel a bit more "bormal" today :)

December Goals

Dec. 6th - 180 - Done!
Dec. 13 - 179
Dec. 20 - 178
Dec. 27-177
Jan. 3 - 176



 current weight: 177.6 
205
192.5
180
167.5
155
WARMSPRINGDAY's Photo WARMSPRINGDAY Posts: 5,073
9/18/11 1:19 P

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Flylady is great at establishing rituals. Some of the rituals I established with Flylady kept me anchored during the intense time of grief in the first 6 months after my Mom's death when I couldn't even think what to make for a meal. Rituals kept me going. Things like swish and swipe in my bathroom every morning, shine my sink in my kitchen every evening, 2 minutes of cleaning up hot spots every day, 15 minutes of de-clutter. No these weren't "relaxing" rituals, but they helped keep me sane. Sadly, I've lost some of these rituals and am desperately finding the need to get back to them.

www.flylady.com/

There are also things that I think of that would be good rituals for me - a hot cup of herbal tea every evening - could replace and vanquish that snack desire. I guess SP is actually a ritual and a haven for me - I come here daily to be re-energized and touch base with others who face similar challenges that I do. However, I find that this ritual needs to be limited, or I indulge too much, sometimes to the detriment of other things that need to be done. This is one of the items on my list to prioritize. I NEED SP! But I find myself in a place where I also need to put a limit on my time here.

Balance, Balance, balance! And rituals can actually help with balance.

This is a challenge for me

Edited by: WARMSPRINGDAY at: 9/18/2011 (13:23)
I am a finisher!

WHATEVER IT TAKES!

I am not where I need to be, but thank God I am not where I used to be. - Joyce Myers

I have a choice!

Co-Leader of Team "Lost a Loved One"
www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/groups_i
ndividual.asp?gid=17111


I am doing a virtual walk across America
exercise.lbl.gov


 Pounds lost: 11.0 
0
34.25
68.5
102.75
137
DBBDANFORD's Photo DBBDANFORD Posts: 188
9/12/11 12:56 P

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
I really need to impliment this ASAP. My days seem to get squandered on what I want to do, not on what I need to do. I have started so many new things inspired by SP, that I feel like time is getting in the way of my peace. Tracking calories and activity, reading SP articles, etc....now walking and building momentum there which requires more time spent....adding meditation (learning and practicing)...Who has time for a job??? I could spend all day here if I could get away with it :) Need to build rituals into the day so I can get it all in without feeling guilty or stressed that I ought really to be doing something else :)

December Goals

Dec. 6th - 180 - Done!
Dec. 13 - 179
Dec. 20 - 178
Dec. 27-177
Jan. 3 - 176



 current weight: 177.6 
205
192.5
180
167.5
155
KITT52's Photo KITT52 Posts: 99,436
9/12/11 9:42 A

Community Team Member

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Same here when I keep list of what I want to buy or what needs to get done before a trip , that helps me too. I use to write a journal too but now use sparkpeople, just getting it down some where does help ease my mind....I am a detail person and a worrier

2014 Ruby-lite of the YEAR
In GOD WE TRUST...
MOTIVATION REALLY IS--- TAKING RESPONSIBILITY FOR CONSCIOUS ACTION
FOOD NEVER SOLVES ANY ISSUE EXCEPT HUNGER.



level 25
1,060,658 SparkPoints
CD3363447 Posts: 8,670
9/12/11 9:28 A

Send Private Message
Reply
That's great, Kitt, I like that, marching.

I use to be good at keeping a journal, writing each morning and that would start my day more settled. Now I work on my genealogy but with my trip coming up next week, it's causing more anxiety getting ready than comfort :-)

Rituals help me deal with the little things that swarm, like gnats, and threaten to take over my head. Making lists helps me too with that. Just writing anything can help me make my situation and problems clearer. Making a grocery list and figuring out what I'm going to eat the next week, etc. have the power to calm and heal me.

KITT52's Photo KITT52 Posts: 99,436
9/12/11 8:43 A

Community Team Member

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
one of my ritual is marching, when I get stressed or upset I go some where private and march, it uses calories, makes my legs strong and for some reason it calms me....I march as I brush my teeth, funny thing now even when we are camping I still march as I brush my teeth in the camper.....it also get me going for my morning exercise....



2014 Ruby-lite of the YEAR
In GOD WE TRUST...
MOTIVATION REALLY IS--- TAKING RESPONSIBILITY FOR CONSCIOUS ACTION
FOOD NEVER SOLVES ANY ISSUE EXCEPT HUNGER.



level 25
1,060,658 SparkPoints
CD10163029 Posts: 2,791
9/11/11 9:04 P

Send Private Message
Reply
emoticon Day 77, The Healing Power of Rituals

Another way to build emotional safety is to create habits or rituals that help you feel more settled. Rituals include any specifically designed patterns or series of activities that serve a purpose such as helping you relax or reenergize.

Rituals help you feel emotionally safe because they allow you to draw on familiar things and activities rather than constantly having to think up new ones.

Look at the rituals or patterns you already have in place. For example, at your work, do you start the day by getting a hot cup of coffee, then making the rounds and greeting your friends? When you get home, do you typically sit down and read the mail before planning your evening?

Rituals... What are yours? Any food related rituals? Take some time to identify yours. Think about ones you would like to share, and please share your thoughts here :)





emoticon Healing rituals
Think about your current rituals and notice how many of them involve food. You may need to replace some of these with healthier patterns for times when you want to relieve stress, calm down or heal your emotional needs.

If you tend to head for the cupboard after a bad day, catch yourself and instead do a healing or relaxing rigual that will manage your stress or frustration in a better way.

One of Linda's (the author's) favorite healing rituals involves having tea. First, she makes a pot of tea and places it on the table next to a blue cushioned chair in her living room. Then with soothing piano music in the background, she sips tea from a special china cup while reading a book or recent magazine. It always works!


emoticon Here are some ideas for healing rituals
~ Sit quietly and listen to a specific song or type of music, such as a favorite classical piece.

~ Light candles and meditate or sit in silence for a while before making dinner.

~ Read a few pages from a special book such as the Bible, a novel, or a collection of poetry.

~ Listen to quiet instrumental music at night before you drift off to sleep.

~ When you travel, plan ways you can feel more at home in a hotel room or someone else's house. Tuck your favorite slippers into your suitcase and bring some photos of your loved ones to place on a bedside stand. Bring along a few packets of your favorite gourmet tea.


emoticon Suggested activities for today
~ Create a ritual or pattern you can use any time you need to feel more settled or relaxed.

~ In your notebook, describe what you'll do, where you'll do it, and what items you'll include in this special time. Maybe your ritual involves having your morning cup of coffee by a sunny window or creating a special romantic dinner.

~ At some point today, use a ritual that helps you feel nurtured, calmed or entertained.


emoticon link to author's daily comments

theweightlosscafe.com/blog/



emoticon link to our discussion day 76

www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_mes
sa
geboard_thread.asp?board=20058x21194R>x43997958



emoticon link to day 78 :)

www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_mes
sa
geboard_thread.asp?board=20058x21194R>x44053018


Edited by: CD10163029 at: 9/14/2011 (12:47)
Page: 1 of (1)   1

Report Innappropriate Post

Other 100 days of Weight Loss by Linda Spangle Lessons (100 DWL, FWTS, 100 MORE DWL)! Posts

Topics:
Last Post:
1/12/2020 8:46:52 AM
11/24/2019 9:35:42 AM



Thread URL: https://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=20058x21194x44031462

Review our Community Guidelines