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A pause is good, can lead to putting up a stop sign and moving on to instead behaviours :)

Mindless continuing is tempting, self-comforting, just wanting to without having to think - but we can pause, put up a stop sign and move on to instead behaviours. The more we practice, the better we will get :)

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Where you end up is more important than how fast or where you start out.
- Improved fitness and nutrition, energy and confidence are my rewards.
It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
A PH (personal high) is the main goal, a PB is the sometime icing on the cake.
Never underestimate the inevitability of gradualness.
Sopra le nebbie delle valle e le vicende della vita sorge una promessa di luce e serenita.


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Day 68, 100 days I had a Pause

I did have a pause or two this week sadly but know I am strong today and don't need any extras. I accept that I am only 'human' after all and the 'Path or persistence and I understand that if I do make one or more unhealthy choices I can get right back on track again!'. emoticon

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Haha! That's a good one! I've been drinking more water today.

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DH gave me a light therapy lamp for Christmas. Winters can be gloomy in Minnesota. If it's sunny I'll walk outdoors. emoticon emoticon

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Day 68 - I had a Pause

how to recover in a positive way from going a little 'off piste' with our diet plans.

I am having a pause right now. So interesting how up and down I feel and how it affects how I feel about being capable of doing anything. In high form, no worries, try anything, let the chips fall where they may, I will learn from my outcomes. In low form, low energy, discouragement of even trying again after so many failures. In high form, no feelings of shame, disgrace or ignominy. Just feeling good to be alive and enjoying everything and have lots of energy.

My Pause

My plan was to fast 3 days a week from March 1 (beginning of Beck Trek) to Oct 16 (end of 100 DWL). It is a fact that eating less is far more effective than any other method for losing weight, including exercising more. So, I thought, I could eat less for a period, get to goal weight and then work on eating as a lifestyle that supports maintenance. This plan got interrupted by a few things. I think I can make adjustments. One of the things was going on holiday with DH, DD, DS and DDIL. I don't want to fast whole days when I am with a group, it seems self-absorbed. We really enjoyed making healthy meals together. Another thing, which could be an adjustment, was cutting breakfast and breakfast foods and just eating lunch and supper on my non-fasting days. That meant I cut my previous commitment to drink 2 glasses of milk a day. I went on a longish hike with DD, and my bones in my feet were very tender. I am planning to do a bone density assessment later this year as a baseline for being aware if I am losing bone density. So now, every day, I eat my old breakfast of cereal, golden milk and rooibos tea. I am eating less carbs like rice, quinoa, bread ... but the same as everyone else for lunch and supper, low carbs, all the veggies, lots of fresh fruit, plenty of protein. I feel pretty good and like I can get to goal weight this way. I am thinking of just eating my breakfast on my fasting days. And I have another spate of holidays next week - 5 days with DH, DS and DDIL during which I will eat with them and be mindful not to eat too much.

Then new plan after the shift from my March 1 - Oct 16 plan. And a pause while I thought about how to proceed.

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Where you end up is more important than how fast or where you start out.
- Improved fitness and nutrition, energy and confidence are my rewards.
It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
A PH (personal high) is the main goal, a PB is the sometime icing on the cake.
Never underestimate the inevitability of gradualness.
Sopra le nebbie delle valle e le vicende della vita sorge una promessa di luce e serenita.


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Great opportunity for learning, eh?
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Not sure what hit me or got in to me but I had one heck of a "pause" yesterday. emoticon I think I will journal about what went wrong and why. The main thing is to limit it to only a one day slip up and get right back on track. emoticon

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Wonderful comments, ladies. I don't think I can actually add much to them.

This year has been such a trial for everyone. Here in Illinois, in the county I live in, we're moving backwards! It's so frustrating. Indoor dining and bars (bars are absolutely nothing to me!) are closed again. Take out only. That's important to me because my DD is a waitress. So it's back to unemployment. She said - fine. I'll go to the gym more - she's fallen in love with water walking too - and take Jasmine for walks, go fishing . . . Positive thinking. She told me that a lady at the gym we go to told her when she was discussing water walking that one lady came there to water walk and lose weight - that's my DD and myself too. What's interesting is that my DD was asking about how many times back and forth in the pool make a lap. The employee told her if she doesn't have a waterproof tracker she can use the same method the other lady used - bring 37 pennies. Walk down one lap, leave a penny. Walk back, leave another one. In other words - 37 laps is a mile. I love it! Worked for the other lady. I have a Fitbit that's water resistant but not waterproof. Something to check into now.

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Day #68 of 100 I had a "pause"
In a way it feels like my whole life has taken a “pause” because of the changes in shopping, eating out, vacation and interaction with people.
emoticon What better time to work on my own eating schedules, recipes and exercise routines to find out what works for me.
Erase the past, embrace the future.
Sometimes a pause is simply an interruption of life.


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Day 67 I'm having a pandemic pause


emoticon I played chess with a friend when I lived in Denver, Colorado. I planned my next 2-4 moves and anticipate his next 2-4 moves. We were good at pattern recognition and some games ended in stalemates. My current pattern is overthinking our situation and moving into comfort zone.
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- Weigh-in daily - Water count 8+ - Watching what I eat (whole, plant base)
- Waking outdoors (improves meditation & sleep)
- Work-out daily combining : muscle strengthening, cardio & functional activity

2. Reframe the situation and see it from a wider view.
Will this matter in 5 years? Or even in 5 weeks? Zooming out will help see things with clearer eyes and from a more level-headed perspective

3. Get out of your own head (overthinking loop) - exercise to refocus.

4. Simply small step it - if overthinking becomes a way to procrastinate or stay in comfort zone - do the next right thing...move...walk outside, drink water : Create Calm Clear Mind

5. Just realize and accept that you can’t control everything.


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Day #68 I Had a "Pause"
This is the lesson that has helped stop my “all or nothing” attitude about my goal of eating well and getting enough exercise.

My pauses are further apart and are easier to leave in the past as I keep moving forward.
This team and continuing to be reminded what is important makes my life better.

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One of my favorite and most relied on catch phrases from Linda. I have been having one "pause" after the other since returning from vacation.

Funny, how little has changed since my post from 2016.

"I will have the occasional downhill tumble. (Or even a full on, down hill slide)

I need to get up, dust myself off, take a break and regroup by giving myself a good dose of positive self-talk without losing anymore ground. Then continue on with those small but steady steps that keep me progressing on my continuous journey of a fit and healthy lifestyle."

This is still what I need to do because as long as I do not quit, eventually I will stop "pausing" and get back on track. emoticon

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Way to go Gill, Back on track!!

Regarding Thanksgiving, Canadians celebrate it the second Monday of October, so now that Thanksgiving and Halloween are in the rear view mirror, I am getting mentally ready, arming myself for the December Holiday season - weeks of temptation coming up,

I had a couple of pauses this week. The first one was 2 days after Halloween when there was still some left-over chocolates. I had resisted the days before (DH got the treats early, he always gets them because he usually eats the left-overs and he wants treats that he likes), the day of Halloween and the day after Halloween. 2 days after I had about 10 bite-size chocolates. Too many. Oh well.. And last night I had to go to the walk-in clinic in the afternoon because I picked up a tick while hiking yesterday morning and I wanted a doctor to remove it. I waited a long time to see the doctor (3 hours) and then I took DH home pizza for supper at 8 pm, later than we usually have supper. And I ate off plan and had 2 pieces of pizza.

Another one of the concepts I like in how we talk to ourselves, what would we say to our best friend if they did what we just did? We would be kind and encourage them to move forward.

Forward ho

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Where you end up is more important than how fast or where you start out.
- Improved fitness and nutrition, energy and confidence are my rewards.
It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
A PH (personal high) is the main goal, a PB is the sometime icing on the cake.
Never underestimate the inevitability of gradualness.
Sopra le nebbie delle valle e le vicende della vita sorge una promessa di luce e serenita.


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I've had many 'pauses.' Isn't it strange how changing a word changes our attitude? To me it is, and I'm thanking for this change. I 'blew it' made me feel defeated, worthless. A 'pause' - that's another story.

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Yup, and I'm right back on track after having a cheese toastie 'Pause' yesterday!

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I had a pause is a good one to remember.

Yes, I'll have a pause on Thanksgiving Day.

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Day 68, 100 days I had a Pause

Good question I don't have Thanksgiving and am really glad about that but Yes I do tend to have a little Pause on Christmas day.

Linda is right about a Pause not spoiling everything after all I wouldn't throw away all the box of eggs if one was broken so if I have one bad day its good not to carry on!

I haven't had a pause this week but I have in the recent past.
We are only 'human' after all and I understand that if I do make one or more unhealthy choices I can get right back on track again!. My husband supports me when I have a Pause and says I will get back on plan soon and he's right!

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Day 68 - A Pause

This lesson made me feel better about eating the snacks at tea on Saturday. I got right back to plan, have had 3 stellar days since then, and the scale cooperated this morning.

I'm curious - Will Thanksgiving dinner be "a pause" for y'all? For me, I won't be weighing and measuring food, but since it's at my house, my choices will be the healthy ones, but I probably will have a small serving of a sweet.

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In case you haven't read this before - here's a great blog from Linda about how not to let a small slip end up as a disaster!

www.weightlossjoy.com/one-de
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Day 68, 100 days I had a Pause

I didn't have a pause on the day that this but did the following day or two! We are only 'human' after all and the 'Path or persistence and I understand that if I do make one or more unhealthy choices I can get right back on track again!'. My husband supports me when I have a Pause and says I will get back on plan soon! emoticon

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Like others, I'm coming back from a pause that started around the end of November. It was definitely not as bad as it used to be, and I did keep fitness up, but still couldn't stop the scale from letting me know I was having a few more treats than usual. Again - 3-4 pounds so much better than what it used to be. It wasn't what the scale was telling me, but how my pants were feeling around my waist, rear-end, and upper thighs. Some unexplained health symptoms kind of de-railed me during the pause time as well. Still not explained, but I'm no longer fearing "the worst".

I have bounced back from the pause by joining a 5% challenge, and by continuing to come here and read the lessons. I'm tracking my food all the way through again and feel optimistic. My tummy feels better - not bloated. I'm eating lots of fruits and veggies too. That's always my goal, but I'm focusing on keeping the fridge and counter stocked with lots of offerings.


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Day #68 I Had a "Pause"
emoticon Yes I did!
Even after learning all I have from this book and other Linda Spangle books, I had a time recently that just got me down.
Thankfully I can always come back here, pick up again and move on.

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By making mistakes, I'm discovering foods for my body type and eliminating foods causing health problems u.nu/5csk .

Oct. Nov. and Dec. in 2018 was a pause (gain then stable).
I recovered from a pause in '17. Be aware of Fall gain for '19.
Time to shake things-up and adjust my nutrition plans.

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I feel like I hit the "pause" button and it is now ... stuck.

I am in the process of deciding what I am going to do next.
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100 Days Challenge, Day 68- Say "pause" instead of "blew it"

Today’s assignment

1. Next time you’re tempted to say “I blew it,” stop yourself immediately. Instead, label your slip-up as a pause.

I took a brief pause. I now forge ahead with self-love and kindness.

2. Decide how you will bounce back from an eating pause. Write a short plan that includes what you’ll say to yourself as well as what you’ll do next.

I will rest and regroup after my pause and start afresh. I feel stronger and healthier taking good care of myself. I'm worth the effort.

3. Whenever you slip up, instead of dwelling on it, practice the skill of “erasing the board.” Write a few notes about this.

I like the idea of a "clean slate", "tabula rasa". This appeals to me. I can write what I want now. The pause gave me the opportunity to rest briefly and now I'm ready to move forward again.

Joy is a Choice. Choose joy moment by moment.

When all else fails, persistence prevails.

Injoy:) Carolyn

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My last extended pause was from last May to this March, during which I gained 5 pounds. As of today, after 68 days, I’m down 4 of those.



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Hmm, yes, having a 'pause' can become complex, can't it? I think we've probably posted about this before (me and Wanda) but the idea that a 'pause' even exists can become a reason to have a 'pause'!

I have to admit that after writing about foody things for a few days recently, today I got very cold and wet and tired after my long walk, and bought bread and cookies - some of which I ate! It was not on my plan. I took a 'pause'.

Well done, Cheryl!

And I understand what you say, Wanda, when you say - what if it becomes a bunch of 'pauses'?

I guess the point of the lesson today is about how we talk to ourselves - using more forgiving, understanding, language.

I'm going to bed - tomorrow is a new day!

Oh, and Sue - have a wonderful date! What a lovely thing to be doing with your young grandson. xxxx

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I'm with C on this. I had a huge success last night. I went to my Small Group Bible Study which meets monthly. I have mentioned this struggle before. After our "official" study is done we adjourn to the dining table for social time. There is ALWAYS a ton of unhealthy offerings and no matter how I plan or intend to resist I ALWAYS end up taking a "Pause" which makes me end up feeling so angry with myself that I through all caution to the wind. Not last night though! I DID IT! I did not take a "Pause". It wasn't hard at the time for some reason. It was hard once I got home. I wanted to reward myself for being such a "good girl", but I didn't "Pause" then either! Thanks for letting me pat myself on the back for this accomplishment. I hope it is the start of a new trend for me.

This morning I started off early at the Y for a Step class. It beats me up even on a good day, but I have missed a couple of sessions and she introduced a new, tougher routine today. I needed a "Pause" a couple of times just like Linda's example of climbing a mountain. I thought my heart was going to beat right out of my chest! After a short break I got back into it. So I know what pauses are all about that's for sure.

Tonight I am having a "Date Night" with my 7 yr. old grandson. We are going out to dinner and then to a ballet called The Happy Prince and Other Wild Things. I am very excited to have fun with him. I am also excited to see if I can make it through the night without a "Pause"!


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Pausing.........my son who live 7 hours away is coming home today for the weekend. The mother in me is cooking comfort foods, and I purchased food that I know he likes, so I will probably be taking a pause this weekend. I love spending time with him and my excitement will cause me to forget about what I should be doing. I know that 100 days will definitely help.....mindful eating, wait, will this food help my goals. If I don’t post much for a few days, I’ll be spending time with my favorite boy! emoticon

One day at a time!


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One of my favorite and most helpful lessons from Linda that I rely on regularly~"I had (am having) a pause."

Repeating because little has changed since my last posting. except I now recognize there will always be continually changing terrain and obstacles in my life.

I will have the occasional downhill tumble. emoticon

I need to get up, dust myself off, take a break if needed and regroup by giving myself a good dose of positive self-talk without losing anymore ground. Then continue on with those small but steady steps that keep me progressing on my continuous journey of a fit and healthy lifestyle. emoticon emoticon


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Oh, Susan! You hit the nail right on the head for me! I have to be on the lookout for my perfectionist saboteur all the time!

These lessons from Linda really do get to the bottom of things, eventually, don't they?!!

The number of people still posting as we get further into the last half of the book really dwindles. I am so very happy to see you all here - and reading how we have learned to be kind to ourselves, and building resilience on our lifelong journeys to maintain health and happiness.

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Day 68 I had a pause

Some of mine have been Biblical in proportion!

I used to be a perfectionist and would let a slip turn into a landslide but now I choose a path of persistence and if I do make an unhealthy choice at one meal I can get right back on track again the next meal or day.

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Day 68, 100 days I had a Pause

I like saying "I had a pause" - rather than "I messed up again". It is life, and I'm reminded of our dog who loves to walk on a leash up to get the mail. (LONG driveway - emoticon ) She is so good about not straining at the leash, but does love to stop all of a sudden along the way several times to sniff here and there. Even with the pauses... we do get there in a timely manner.

Actually -- we keep her on a leash up towards the roadway so she won't get out on the road and get hurt, but we un-hook the leash after we're about halfway back...and that seems to work as far as her not running back up the drive. The leash thing is practice to keep her in training for venturing out into the world beyond our property and the necessity of being leashed.

Pausing along the way is the natural order of things, and I appreciate today's lesson to accept the pause, and then get on with where I want to go. emoticon


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Day 68, 100 days I had a Pause

Sadly I have had a bit of a pause today, I have made a few poorer choices! I know to be kind to myself and regroup for tomorrow!

I didn't stop eating at 7pm today, it was 8.20pm but at least I stopped then, lets hope my sleep doesn't suffer. emoticon emoticon

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Day 68, I had a pause

Yep! I did! AND I gained over a lb last week. I think part of it is that I'm having a difficult time sleeping but....I did not do a good job tracking last week and the bitter cold had me going for the comfort of hot chocolate instead of tea in the evening...then there were those cookies, Well, you get the picture. I was a little shocked at weigh in on Thursday.

I know it was just a pause and something that happens nearly every year after New years but I am back! I'm tracking, sticking with No S, weighing daily and on the treadmill. I'm continuing to get some strength exercise every day too.

NOT beating myself, just dusting myself off and moving on! Seems like sometimes a pause just happens although I should not have allowed it to go on for days.

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Like the illustration of the car yesterday, the mountain climb rest stop puts things in perspective. Taking a rest is understandable. Sometimes you need to pause and take in the beautiful scenery. We do pause sometimes. Sometimes it is a slip up, but it can also be a plateau. Instead of beating ourselves up and quitting, we need to take things into perspective. I think we need to be honest with ourselves. We need to recognize the slip up, but then forgive ourselves, wipe the board clean and move on. Sometimes we stay on track and hit a plateau. Those are hard. We don't like those pauses, but they will come and we don't need to let them make us give up. We can pause and "enjoy the scenery"...remembering the weight we have lost...where we have come from. I did not track the couple of days I spent with my daughters the pre-New year weekend. I gave in to nibbling and when I got home I had gained 2 pounds. But then I got busy and got rid of those pounds instead of quitting. I had a pause. Thankfully, I did not pause, park and camp there.

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Day #68 I Had a "Pause"
This is a favorite lesson from the book. It takes the pressure off to stick to perfection so it is easier to just "pause" take a look at what is going on in my life, erase the board and move on.

There will never be a time when life doesn't sometimes get in the way of my best intentions.
When I think about it, it's like learning to step on the scale, notice the pattern of how it's going and then just move on.
For me this lesson took away my old pattern of "all or nothing"

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Day 68, I had a Pause

Great stuff here this time. Sue, I agree that pauses somehow become less noticeable, if we become used to them. Maybe then we are letting them happen too frequently?

There may be, as Gill said, a positive kind of pause....the one in which we step back and consider our decision. We may still decide to take a pause and that is fine; but we may also decide that it isn't time for a pause.

Phyllis, that is spot on! Once the pause has occurred...take a look at it, learn...and go on!

I definitely had multiple pauses in August...partly because of being ill and at least one day while we were on vacation. I've recovered from them though without a weight gain....
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Day 68 I had a Pause (opportunity to learn) emoticon Phyllis emoticon "It is easier to look at it, learn from it and continue on the journey!"

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You make a good point here, Sue:

"One thing I have discovered about myself is the more I pause, the less guilty I feel about my pausing, and the less I pay attention to the pauses."

Yesterday, on the 'never say "I blew it" day, I found myself in town, on the way to work, considering buying 'something' to go with my packed lunch and dinner........... as if because I didn't have to say "I blew it" it made it more likely to happen! I did end up buying something - but it was a multi-grain roll to have with my home-made chilli - nothing sweet, or salty/savour/crunchy, or packaged.

Today I have a packet of biscuits (cookies) which arrived with my monthly delivery of groceries - it's on my mind already, and it did cross my mind that I could just eat them and say 'I had a pause'. But I haven't - and I'm off to work shortly, so they're still safely shut away in a plastic box out of sight!

I guess what this shows me is that even when I take the 'guilt' out of the eating (ie reduce the emotional content as well!) it does give me pause of a different kind - it gives me pause to stop and consider what my brain is trying to get me to eat! I can then make a more measured choice!

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Pause. I've certainly had my share of them. I do try not to dwell on them or suffer a lot of guilt. That leads me down the wrong path.

Wonderful thoughts and ideas posted. THanks.

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I liked Linda's idea about seeing my pause on an erasable board and then erasing it! I also loved her analogy about hiking and going back and redoing a part I had already walked. I found myself thinking "Ya, that would be stupid. I would never get to the top/goal if I kept doing that!".

One thing I have discovered about myself is the more I pause, the less guilty I fee about my pausing, and the less I pay attention to the pauses. So I have to be very careful about this step. I did pause yesterday at lunch. I went trail walking with a friend and then we stopped at a restaurant for lunch. I ordered a Turkey Reuben with a side of fruit. I find that I am O.K. in my head with this pause. One of the goals I have is to relax at restaurants instead of fretting and feeling anxious about the food options. And then feeling guilty about what I have eaten. I eat out a lot and this entire process causes me more stress than I can describe.

So I am going to accept my food choices when I dine out. Acknowledge the planned pause. Get right back on my healthy path. And I am trying to eat out less.

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I still recognise I have Pauses and know its okay to do so. Gill I think your planned pause tomorrow can be a S day as it's a bit different, maybe I too should plan my pauses too. emoticon emoticon

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"I don't feel guilty about any of those pauses but I do wonder if they were all necessary."

I love that, Wanda!

Today I've been thinking about a First Aid training course I have to attend tomorrow. This will mean that my opportunities to eat will be dictated by the course - I will 'choose' to eat my lunch during the allocated time around midday (because there won't be an opportunity to eat it an hour later - which I would do if I was at work or at home). Then I thought about the mid-morning and mid-afternoon breaks. There are sometimes biscuits/cookies - and people go outside for cigarette/vape breaks. And I anticipate the day being intense and tiring - my will-power is likely to be weakened. So I'm choosing to take with me a small, emergency, snack to have during those breaks - a Medjool date stuffed with peanut butter and cocoa powder - this feels like a 'sweet/candy' but has positive nutritional value - and is more 'nurturing' than an apple!

This will mean having a 'pause' on my No Snacks plan - but I think it's prudent. So - a planned pause, eh?! Goodness - what a long way I've come!

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I like this day very much, I try to keep my Pauses small where possible but accept I am far from perfect and I am only human! emoticon

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Day 68, I had a pause

OH I had so MANY Pauses! Usually they have been unplanned but occasionally I would just say that this day is so big or so difficult that I am not going to worry about eating healthy. Usually that is a mistake because to me it is hitting a bump in the road. I had a pause a month ago due to Hub's stroke; then a couple of weeks ago when he had surgery; then 10 days ago when my great grandson was born and I spent the day eating at the hospital.

I don't feel guilty about any of those pauses but I do wonder if they were all necessary. So many pauses so close together did result in a gain. Still I do think that pauses serve a purpose. When I gain it is like "Wow, I was doing something right; better get back on track".

I've noticed that I now like the healthy routines in my life. That is remarkable since I have hated routines all my life which led me to be considered kind of scatter-brained to some people. It is a matter of he who laughs last, laughs best in some ways. I married and managed to build a good marriage. I raised my children. I graduated from college when I was 47. I owned my small health information consulting company. I feel like I accomplished quite a lot while some of those who laughed at me when I was young went on to lead sad lives. They would tell you themselves that their lives did not work out the way they wanted.

Having a brain like a computer and always working with preset systems does not guarantee happiness any more than being a bit eccentric guarantees failure.

But...I digress...back to pauses: I think planning a pause is a great idea as long as the pause isn't allowed to turn into a wrong turn onto a long dirt lane with nowhere to make a u-turn. The word "pause" seems to require brevity and taking a pause should be brief. Take time to smell the roses....er..taste the ice cream; then move on!

And speaking of pauses, I took an exercise pause yesterday so today I'm doing yesterday's lunges and squats AND today's video.

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Day #68 I Had a "Pause" (Still how I feel when getting to this day!)
This is a favorite lesson from the book. It takes the pressure off to stick to perfection so it is easier to just "pause" take a look at what is going on in my life, erase the board and move on.

There will never be a time when life doesn't sometimes get in the way of my best intentions.
When I think about it, it's like learning to step on the scale, notice the pattern of how it's going and then just move on.
For me this lesson took away my old pattern of "all or nothing"!

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Day 68: I had a "pause"
As you work on changing your dieting vocabulary, here's another way to eliminate saying, "I blew it." Anytime you slip up and eat something that's not on your diet plan, skip beating yourself up with harsh, punishing words.
Instead, label the incident as a pause in your diet plan. This kind, nonjudgmental word doesn't make any detrimental references to your personality or your ability to accomplish a goal. Instead, it allows you to take a break in your efforts, then rest and regroup.
Having a pause and Erase the board
Use this approach with your weight-loss program. If you slip up on your diet plan, simply say, "I had a brief pause, but now I'm back on track."
Then once you've acknowledged your pause, don't get stuck dwelling on it. Instead, look carefully at your slip-up, learn from it, and then let it go. To increase your ability to do this, practice erasing the incident from your head.
Spend a few minutes thinking about what got in the way of your original eating plan. Then once you've learned from that event, mentally erase the board and get on with your life.
Next time you're tempted to say "I blew it," stop yourself immediately. Instead, label your slip-up as a pause.
Decide how you will bounce back from an eating pause. Write down a short plan that includes what you'll say to yourself as well as what you'll do next.
Whenever you slip up, instead of dwelling on it, practice the skill of "erasing the board." Think about how you can learn from a pause rather than looking at ways to punish yourself.
I used to" dwell on it for days.... "but now I" forgive myself and move on quickly. I never thought I'd be able to do this. I am finally putting many of these daily lessons into practice!
My pauses were not pauses they were weekly stops- Now they are pauses as now I get right back on plan. still working on being consistent.
Life gets in the way with celebrations and holidays. We cant deprive ourselves but we use common sense and watch our portion intake and still enjoy the food. Pauses are healthy for ourselves. I will not feel bad taking pause as long as it doesn't last too long. But if I know ahead of time I will work it into my plan as best as possible.
When I do take a pause= I like that instead of saying I blew it or I had a bad day, I will jump right back to following my plan at next meal and I don't dwell on the pauses I move forward.
We can plan our pauses. Pauses are good for our well being Just need to make sure they are NOT permanent stops.
We can plan our pauses Delete repeated word are healthy for our well being Just need to make sure they are permanent stops.

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Day 68 I had a pause

Some of mine have been Biblical in proportion!

I used to be a perfectionist and would let a slip turn into a landslide but now I choose a path of persistence and if I do make an unhealthy choice at one meal I can get right back on track again the next meal or day.


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So many great insights and thanks Maribeth for the quotes. Great visual aids!

What I like about this day as we are winding down about how to deal with food situations that have potential triggers and how to deal with them by ' installing buffers and stimulus narrowing' is that if we attempt to do those things and if we still don't grab the brass ring at least we can say we tried and we can say had a 'pause'.

I agree with Phyllis that this takes away the perfectionism that I too used to have. In the distant past if I so much as deviated from my food plan by a crumb I figured that I had blown it and therefore I had a free pass to try the next day or the next week. Now, it is this was a blip and let's learn from it. I think it does involve some detachment so we aren't judging ourselves but by doing that we can also see this as a lesson that will teach us what else we could have done and there will always be another similar situation that we can practice on.

This is like being in school regarding emotional eating. I think that first quote fits that idea. When we are learning a new subject we don't berate ourselves for not getting everything the first time but we realize we will need to return and have reinforcement before we have mastered that lesson or subject. That is what we are doing here. The pause is the moment we have absorbed what we have learned.

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Day 68 - I had a pause

The phrase that spoke to me from today's lesson is "Decide how you will "bounce back"

When I have an "oops moment" (my take on yesterday's lesson) I can bounce back to my healthy habits.

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Day 68, 100 days I had a Pause

Having it planned isn't a pause but part of my plan.

I do like this. I just need to not have too many pauses esp. in a week span.

Life gets in the way with celebrations and holidays. We cant deprive ourselves but we use common sense and watch our portion intake and still enjoy the food. Pauses are healthy for ourselves. I will not feel bad taking pause as long as it doesn't last too long.

When I do take a pause, I like that instead of saying I blew it or I had a bad day, I will jump right back to following my plan at next meal and I don't dwell on the pauses I move forward. I learn from it too. and who know one day my pauses will be fewer and fewer but since I am on lifestyle change all food isn't off limits just need to watch portions. and including them in my plan is good for me.




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