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Day 40 - Having an eating experience

It is nice with get-togethers to have an eating experience. Enjoy being the host and staging the event or appreciate being the guest and experiencing their choices. If I am feeling confident, it is very enjoyable and I don't need to eat much and I enjoy it a lot, banquets in a bite. If I am feeling needy, it could be difficult.

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DAY #40 HAVING AN EATING EXPERIENCE

I love an eating experience! I don't have my book right in front of me so this is all "off the cuff" today.

I hope no one finds it redundant, but I agree so much with Gill's email today that I am copying much of it here so I can save it:

"Sometimes we don't want food at all. Instead we simply want to enjoy being around it. Shopping for food, then cooking it and arranging it can bring us great delight..................Dig more deeply into your love of food and eating. Do you ever get caught up in the social aspects of eating, then simply let food blend into the total event?"

I've noticed this more during the C-19 pandemic............ I noticed quite early on that stopping to get the special coffee or snack wasn't worth the risk or hassle of going into the shop/cafe, worrying about sanitizing my hands, using my bank card etc. What I wanted really was the EXPERIENCE of sitting in the cafe, relaxing, listening to the hubbub of conversation around me, smelling the coffee, feeling part of the community, doing something nice for myself etc etc.

I also noticed that once the cafes were open with tables outdoors, that my eyes play an important part in how hungry I am - when I SEE the food, I want it.......... if I don't SEE the food, I'm not even sure I'm hungry! The experience of sitting with a friend to eat at an outdoor table is still a bit less satisfying as we have to be aware of people around us, remember the rules (what we can touch, where we have to collect, where we have to walk etc).

Recently I also noticed that, coming back into town after a hot, sunny walk, an ice-cream seemed attractive - but the hassle of the covid-secure situation made me re-assess. The joy of eating an ice-cream in a relaxed way was not available to me in the way I wanted - keeping away from people, not being able to stroll or sit in the sun without looking out for people - it took away the essential emotional components from that potential experience.

This C-19 certainly has changed my eating experiences! Today I met a friend that I haven't been able to see in months! She is not comfortable going to restaurants yet and so we met in a park. I was a bit disappointed because I really missed dining at our local restaurants and so we have been going once a week to the quieter places we really enjoy. But I want people to respect my comfort zone with this C-19 thing and so I have to be willing to respect other's also.

I placed a favorite lunch via an order-to-go option from a favorite restaurant. We had a lovely visit. I can't wait to do it again! It was an eating experience! ! !

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Creating a dining experience at home by taking focus off food - decorated tables, window seats, outdoor patio, lighting, music...
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With all that has happened and is currently going on, things are so different from enjoyable eating experiences of the past. Family members have passed on or moved far away. I am missing restaurant get togethers with friends from now closed water aerobics or yoga classes. The food was good but always secondary to catching up and getting to know one another better.

My long ago eating experiences were challenging because I did not trust myself and tried to avoid going out to eat. When I did I usually chose the lowest calorie, most nutritious food. This was hard on DH and hard to sustain.

Now, with planning and acquired confidence, I have minimal fear of eating out. DH and I will celebrate our 50th wedding anniversary next week. We have planned a lovely day drive to nearby mountains to eat delicious meals at nice restaurants. I continue to work on strategies to "minimize the damage" and hope that I have not jinxed myself by sharing this. emoticon emoticon

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Day # 40 of 100 Having an eating experience

I love being able to see what was going on in my life before.
Amazingly my day today will include an eating experience with my Spark best friend who will come for brunch on the porch.

We can share a meal that I have control over, Social distance, and most of all spend quality time together. Sometimes I get frustrated by the changes that Covid-19 has brought to my life but sometimes it pays to “just make the most of it!”


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1. Recall times when you’ve had some of your most enjoyable eating experiences. What made these times so special? Write a few notes about this.

I love it when all my family are home. My two older kids come home every few months, but when there is a special occasion, like Thanksgiving or Christmas, and we are all together, or/and we are also all together with my sister and her kids, I love being part of a generous delicious family meal where we are gathered together.

When either of my older kids are home, we almost always have a meal at my place with the farm kid too, who has her own place on the farm and cooks for herself most of the time. For Mother's day she invited DH and I to her place for breakfast.

Getting together as family is often about meals. Sometimes we go for a walk or hike together. When the kids were all home, another relationship-building activity was working together on the farm. I love working with my kids too, although, ironically, the kid who decided to stay on the farm is not always easy to work with, while the other two were easier in their day, maybe because it is different when you are helping than when you have ideas about how things should be run. I have to work at thinking of activities to do with the kids, I enjoy that and think it is important to not only have meals as our get together focuses. It was easier when they were younger and it was part of their growing up to do sports or 4-H or music and that was time we spent together going to their events.

2. Describe one or two of your most favorite types of eating experiences.

Besides family gathering meals, some of my other favourite eating experiences is when my hiking friends get together, we all bring a dish, and as we are all fitness and health minded people, the food is delicious and nutritious and sometimes has a dessert or two, but often doesn't other than fresh fruit. After eating, we have a games night. I love these get-togethers.

3. Using this description, plan an eating experience that matches your needs. After you finish the meal, record your favorite details from it.

Not something I can do right now or for a while, as there are no family gatherings (the two older kids aren't coming home for Thanksgiving this year due to career obligations) in sight before Christmas and my hiking group just met, so probably won't do anything more before the new year. At home, I keep trying to put quality nutrition, flavour and variety in my meals with DH. I don't have a very big meals repetoire and now that we are empty nesters, I am putting more of an effort into daily meals. I am always on the lookout for nutritious and flavourful meals - nutrition comes first.

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I hope my kids won't corelate food with warm emotional experiences or over-stuffing with generous availability of food. We, my sister and I, try to offer a generous, nutritious and flavourful spread so we can all enjoy what we eat, but hope everyone will eat to enjoy but not over-eat.

Edited by: JUNEPA at: 12/22/2019 (15:33)
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~ Recall some of your most enjoyable eating experiences. What made these times so special.
The people I was with, slowing down and enjoying flavors.

~ In your journal, describe one or two of your favorite types of eating experiences.
Will do.

~ Using this description, plan an eating experience that matches your needs. AFter you finish the meal, record your favorite details from it.
Will do.

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Phyllis, enjoy your day with your friend. Good work too!

Passing up the crusty breads - one of my weaknesses. On the plus side, I'm at least learning to limit the amount. I don't normally buy it unless we're having company. Otherwise, if it were sitting right there in my kitchen I'd be eating it.

Homegrown produce is just so good. I love being able to buy produce that's grown locally. Soon it won't be that way. Nothing we can do when the winter arrives. I still buy the produce but it certainly is not the same. The fruit isn't as sweet. Vegetables aren't the same - especially tomatoes. Nothing like a homegrown tomato.

I agree that we tend to over provide for events. I understand that 'you don't ever know how much you need.' I'd hate to run out, but on the other hand .... what a shame to have all that food there. Thank goodness for freezers! Send it home.





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Gill - Your comments are spot on! I was at a funeral of the mother-in-law of a good friend. I helped with the food and the clean-up. There was wayyyyyyyy too much food. It was ridiculous. The funeral was at 2pm, so clearly, after lunch. The reception was really for family. Her comment at the time was, "Well, you just don't ever know how much you need." It really could have been better planned. Later she told another friend that it was just perfect. A huge sum of money was spent on it. I was bothered by all of that. I think she feels a need to love people by having an abundance of food.

Like Linda, I've had some great times eating at restaurants. Disney World restaurants are my favorite - I especially love the ones that provide entertainment while I eat.

Also like Linda, I can feel lonely on holidays. At Thanksgiving, we sometimes open our doors to people who are also in town without family. I've learned to accept them even if they don't offer to bring food - not everyone can do that for different reasons.

I've learned that I like a little munch at the movies. I take my own low calories dark chocolate bar to enjoy and plan my eating for the day to accommodate that.

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Day # 40 Having an eating experience

I’m actually looking forward to having an eating experience today with a friend after we spend the afternoon collecting canned goods for United Way. Her husband is the head of that organization in our area and I help out when they have a food drive.

We will then share a meal at which I can choose what I like, pass up what doesn’t work for me and spend more time enjoying the company

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I think most people over-provide food at social functions/gatherings - which makes it hard. It's almost like we hark back to a time when 'feasting' would have been something significant, occasional, special. However, we live in a 'feasting' society all the time these days! You can literally have Xmas every day if you so desire!!!

I've been thinking a lot recently about what my diet would look like if I could only eat locally-grown produce. Yeah, think about that one!

I went to the Farmers' Market and met up with two friends for a coffee there yesterday. The market has a wide range of very attractive stalls - but apart from two - the vegetable stall and the salad-box stall, all the rest are baked goods, or sweet goods. Oh, there is an Indian food stall too - that's very good. There are tables piled with crusty loaves; displays of quiches and tarts; tables of cakes; stall selling chocolate in all it's different variations including raw. There is also meat and fish (although I don't eat those); olives; cheeses etc. We have started a little habit of meeting there for coffee and chat, then buying something to take home for lunch. Fortunately my friend is a healthy eater - so we buy a salad box, some mixed leaves, and then yesterday we bought an individual-size quiche and an individual Homity Pie. We also bought some organic strawberries.

All that delicious stuff can make me want to eat more - because it's all so very attractive.

Although my friend is a healthy eater - when I'm at her house for a meal, I'm a bigger eater than I'd be at home! I say 'yes' to the crusty bread and butter for example. It's easy to eat too much when you're being social too.

Anyway, just felt like sharing that even though it's not directly related to today's activity.

The eating experiences that I often crave (and resist mostly) are when I am on my own and feel celebratory - like after a long day at work, or after completing some task that was challenging - I still tend to desire a food treat as a 'reward'.

I've been trying much harder recently to sit at the table for all my meals - and to slow my eating down.

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Day 40, 100 days Having an eating experience

I love sitting at a table to eat but rarely have the opportunity these days! So it is always a special experience when we go out for meals and on holiday.

I do try to make meal times as relaxed and pleasant as possible and usually am relieved and happy when I have prepared food for all 5 people at my house and they are all happily eating it! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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Some of my most enjoyable eating experiences seem to happen at restaurants where the atmosphere is relaxed and there is good healthy food and good company. These times are special because the food is healthy, but also special -- and I'm not in charge of preparing it. There is plenty of time to visit with friends or family.

It's also nice at home when the immediate family is working together on an informal meal and a good time is spent together in the preparation of it. DH is not a cook, but both my sons love to be creative in the kitchen and it's fun to work with them (even though its a bit messier of an operation than when I'm on my own.) emoticon
Those meal experiences are enjoyable.


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Well, my eating experience today was very interesting (for me!). I ate lunch with a friend. We'd each bought something to eat from the local supermarket. I'd chosen a falafel and hummus wrap, a packet of chickpea puffs, and a fruit & nut bar. She'd chosen something different - so we each had 'control' over what we chose to eat.

We ate in her little garden room where she keeps all her art & craft equipment. We sat together companionable on the little chairs, looking out at the garden, and she shared some important personal information with me about her health............ so I listened very carefully, and ate slowly.

The most important things about this experience were (a) eating my choice of food (b) being able to be with my friend and support her by listening (c) enjoying the garden view (d) creating some art-work together. The important thing was the togetherness of friendship. The food I chose met nutritional needs, as well as being enjoyable textures and tastes.

Just a few posts below this, is my post from last December when I went out for a Xmas meal - I'm doing the same thing, with the same people, in the same cafe again tomorrow! I'm inspired by my own post from last year - my fears were unfounded and I had a lovely eating experience. I intend to do the same this year!

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Difficult time since so much focus for the holidays is on the food. Here we're focusing on decorations, seeing the lights on short drives, having friends and family over. Yes, there's the food factor - seems to always be lurking in the background. But we (I) am trying to focus on the experiences leading up to the holiday.

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I agree with SkiRunner ... I'm a little tired of focusing on food.

That's why I am doing my best to focus on behaviors. We use our "good" dishes for our meals and do our best to have the meal time to be relaxed and pleasant ... no serious drama conversations.

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This is sort of a daunting chapter. In some ways, I’m getting tired of focusing on food, even though it’s still good for me to ponder these things. I think what is meant here is to realize how we look at the food at an event instead of the participation in the event. When I was younger and uncertain about social things that is exactly what I did.



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The first thing I thought of when I read this lesson was dh and I making Blue Apron dinners (we did it for about four months and then stopped for awhile when our son moved back with us.) The meals were delicious and what made it really special was dh and I cooked together - that is one of the reasons I liked it so much - it was a lot of fun! I have a stack of over 40 recipes with stars on the ones we especially liked, and while some of the ingredients (especially unusual spices) are not ones I’d generally buy, I would say that we could easily make some of the dishes again to create that eating experience a second time!

The other times we create eating experiences are when we have social gatherings at one of our friends’ houses. While appetizers and dinner are always served, it definitely is all about the time together with lots of laughs, and usually we play a game or two. We just had two couples renting a house here in our community in Florida the whole month of March, so we had several of those types of gatherings. The food was always good but it was an extra bonus.

We had a “girls day out" a few weeks ago - first to the spa for facials/massages and then out to lunch at a lovely restaurant (the guys went fishing!) From the picture, I remember the Bloody Mary, but have no idea what I had to eat! It was a great time, centered around food, but not all about food!

No eating experience today though - maybe this weekend!

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All those lessons kind of overlap in content really - you're not as far behind as you feel you are.
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I'm going to be working on 2 assignments today because I'm so far behind.

Easter Sunday was a wonderful "Eating Experience". This day is a day filled with joy & expectation for me to begin with. Then,after church, DH and I had reservations for brunch at a restaurant that we don't usually like, but their Easter Brunch is indescribably delicious! We had been looking forward to the food for weeks! ! ! The restaurant sets on a small inlet from the lake and so the view is lovely also. And, even though it is a buffet, the staff are very attentive. All makes for a memorable "eating experience" we can't wait to repeat next year!

In contrast, today our DD is dropping off the grandkids for us to babysit for the next 5 days while they go on vacation. I know she has packing her suitcase and other things on her mind so I am serving pizza which is a quick meal and will allow her to be on her way. I am also inviting my 91 year old father. Meals with the grandkids is usually chaos! I am NOT looking forward to this "eating experience" because of this and because of the complications around everyone liking different pizza toppings.

I keep trying to think of how I can make our dinner tonight more enjoyable and seem to be struggling to come up with ideas.

I will also be working on Day35 - Pause & Evaluate your hunger level. Oh, and I guess I can also include Day 36 - Slow Down. Now I call that killing 3 birds with 1 stone emoticon

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Best Daily Eating Experience - Green dot day - "If I lived every day the same as this one, I would likely lose weight." Wait till hungry, enjoy nutritious food and stop when satisfied. Re-cap - Days 31-40 "Listen to Your Body"
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Day 40 Having an eating experience

Make the experience around the food. It’s not what you eat, it’s about how you eat, where you eat, with whom you eat and how you feel about it all.

Sometimes we don't want food at all. Instead, we simply want to enjoy being around it. Shopping for food, then cooking it, arranging it can bring us great delight. In other words, we want an "experience" around food.

Recognize your goal is to enjoy a meal, consider setting things up to make this happen. Let the food become a minor part of your event.

Create your own eating experience. What you really want from this eating event? Arrange the room, decorate the table and choose the music that will add to your event.
Are you in the mood for a quiet, romantic evening? Or do you crave the energy from places with loud music and a constant conversational buzz?

If you prefer quiet, create an eating experience at home by arranging the room, decorating the table, and choosing music that will add to your event...

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My favorite eating experiences –
-out with a group of friends in a nice restaurant, or a dinner party at someone’s house.
-family breakfast with bacon, the smell signals to me it’s ‘special’
-camping and eating out on the picnic bench
-breakfast picnic at the beach

I love the Indian restaurant with the lunch buffet. The restaurant has a lovely ambiance, the food is in beautiful copper pans, the smells are amazing, the spices and look of the foods are new to me. I enjoy tasting the new foods and thinking of what type of spices and ingredients they contain. We talk about what we are eating and sometimes taste each other foods.

One night I set up ‘The Bistro’ in our living room. I planned a romantic dinner for hubby and me. I put up the card table and chairs for 2, put on a table cloth, candles, the best dishes, etc. I don’t remember what we ate but I do remember the experience as being very enjoyable.

Tomorrow night we are hosting a family dinner for 12. We will have table clothes, candles and the BEST dishes (which need to be hand washed!). We can serve the meal at the table rather than our usual buffet style.


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I still think eating at a table with my friends or family created more of an eating experience. I am especially looking forward to Christmas dinner emoticon
On Friday 15th Dec I had a different eating experience with my dad. He had won an Afternoon Tea for 2 at Animal Care in their Christmas raffle. It was lovely even if the food wasn't what I normally eat and I took some of the food home for later. I enjoyed the food and classed it as my lunch with extras and tried my best not to continue eating things off plan. It was a nice eating experience and great to be there with my dad. emoticon emoticon

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That's brilliant, Maria!

I had been a bit 'afraid' of going out for my Xmas meal with friends last night - but it was a wonderful experience! There was very good food, but not too much, and not unhealthy stuff. There was a group of about 20 of us, a private party in a little cosy cafe in town which is renowned for it's great food. There was good company, fairy lights, candles - the smell of mulled wine in the air, nice back-ground music, great service.

My fears were unfounded - there was none of the pre-meal stuff on the table - no breadbasket or dishes of butter - no things to pick at laying about. We were greeted with a choice of a mulled wine or a mulled apple juice. I skipped the starter and had a gin and tonic to sip - that was fine. The main dish was a healthy portion-size, no extra things that I didn't really want to eat (nothing fried, or full of fat), and the dessert was a gorgeous slice of an expresso cocoa sponge, with a small scoop of a sharp raspberry sorbet, and a very small spoonful of cream.

I enjoyed every morsel of it! Because there were no fried potatoes, crusty breads, bowls of butter, platters of olives and cheese - there was no struggle to avoid things - no feeling of deprivation. And, on my table, we'd all chose the same dessert - so there was no envy!

There was good conversation. I made a deliberate choice to put my knife and fork down between each mouthful, and I paced myself so that I was NOT the first to finish eating!

Yes, like Maria! I felt very good about this eating experience!

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Progress!! Tuesday I got together with friends I do not often see. While reading this lesson, I realize I had what Linda is talking about called an eating experience. I focused so much on catching up and talking not to mention my goal of no weight gain that the food was incidental. Some one came by eating a dessert that smelled and looked great but I just kept right on talking. I noticed a slight slip later at home but kept it minimal and right back on track. emoticon

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Day # 40 Having an eating experience
It is amazing that when I began this book (way back when) I sometimes dreaded some upcoming eating experiences because I felt to be healthy I needed to eat “rabbit food” and miss out on the good stuff. Now I realize that I can have what I want, just not overdo on any of it.
I also realize if I don’t want something it’s ok not to eat it no matter who made it! (LOL)
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My two favorite eating experiences: hmmmm. I will list four: 1 - A sit down meal with family or friends and good conversation. 2 - Eating out with my husband or friends because I can enjoy the meal and I don’t have to clean up. 3 – A covered dish meal where I can try things I have never tried before or food I don’t cook because my husband is a picky eater. 4 – outside, having a cookout by a bonfire. I would say that before I started being more mindful of what I eat, the food was a big part of these events…and I would over-eat.
I have had some nice eating experiences in the last 40 days where I watched what I ate and I enjoyed the experience just as much. Actually, I enjoyed them more because I was focused on the people instead of the food. Instead of eating fast, I was taking time to talk and interact. The slowing down also makes me a better judge of when I am full. I hosted a meal at Thanksgiving with family. I have been out quite a few times. We had a ladies’ supper at church with nicely set tables. Men cooked and served the food. We had our staff lunch yesterday. Last night, my husband surprised me for our 43rd anniversary. I came home to grilled steaks, baked potato, and steamed mixed vegetables. (He fixed the veggies specifically for me). Through all of that, I weighed this morning and I have lost 10 pounds in these first 40 days.
Next week, I have a lunch with friends and a meal out with my husband’s Sunday School Class. I know I can choose wisely and enjoy each event that comes along. When food is not the focus, it is better. I am appreciating these Eating Experiences differently.


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Perfect! I'm going out for a meal this evening, with friends, to a restaurant which does lovely vegan/vegetarian options which are all really, really nice. It's their Xmas present to me - a meal out. It's not something I do more than once or twice a year - so I am really looking forward to having a good eating experience surrounded by lovely people.

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At our new home (apartment complex) I just found a lovely place to eat. It has lovely outdoor furniture and plants and decorations. Big, cushy outdoor chairs, too. So I will soon have a meal there! With friends and hubby. chris

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It is much about sociability. Shared meals are relished more slowly and there are plenty of natural eating pauses. Big family event this weekend - all my children and grandies together. I will be mindful of what I eat.



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Sometimes the eating experience just needs to fit into your life. My meal today will be shared with family and friends after the funeral of an elderly lady we will all miss but are grateful her suffering is ended.
There will be a very large table of homemade foods prepared by the ladies of the church where it will be held. There will be a separate table just for desserts.
It's a NoS day so I'll have my one plate of food, no sweets and no seconds.
Then I'll spend my time chatting and trying to remember where all the young ones fit in the family. I will also be very grateful to live this country life in a very large extended family.

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I discovered that my favourite eating experiences are when I'm trying out a new recipe! I love the adventure! Today I made some 'brownies' using just banana, peanut butter, and cocoa powder. I made four small brownies, and took them to my friend's house this afternoon, to share. It was nice to share. It was nice to get positive feedback. I was nice to share ideas and recipes too.



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This has truly become a practice of mine ... eating s-l-o-w-l-y and mindfully, enjoying what I am eating ... but also enjoying the ritual of eating. I use pretty dishes and truly enjoy the foods and environment we have created.

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Day 40: Having an eating experience
Many times the joy of eating isn't about food as much as it's about our social events or family get-togethers. During these gatherings, you may find you get caught up in the experience of eating because it's part of the fun of being with others.
(VERY TRUE AS STARTED OUT WELL BUT ENDED UP WITH EATING THE WRONG THINGS AND OVEREATING)
But by separating the qualities and tastes of your food away from the situation you're eating it in, you can learn to manage the amounts you eat much differently.
Notice the tastes
Sometimes, we don't want food at all. Instead, we simply want to enjoy being around it. Shopping for food, then cooking it and arranging it can actually bring us great delight. In other words, we want an experience around food.
Instead of proclaiming that you love all food, look for ways you can have eating experiences. Imagine you're a famous chef sampling your latest creations. Or pretend you're a food spy and ask things such as, "Does this cookie contain cinnamon or is nutmeg providing that flavor edge?"
When you're cooking, make an effort to appreciate the taste of new spices such as basil or coriander. Evaluate the flavors, the seasoning, and the temperature of every food, and then answer the question, "Have I gotten it perfect yet?"
Dig more deeply into your love of food and eating. Do you ever get caught up in the social aspects of eating, then simply let food blend into the total event? In fact, when does enjoying a flavor or texture change into having an eating experience?
Create your own eating experience
You can actually create an atmosphere that meets your needs without depending on food to make an event enjoyable. To do this, intentionally plan to have an eating experience.
When you recognize your goal is to enjoy a meal, consider setting things up to make this happen. Let the food become a minor part of your event, perhaps even choosing a simple meal of soup or salad for your experience. If you decide to go to a restaurant for this exercise, select one based on the type of experience you want to have.
Think about what you really want with this eating event. Are you in the mood for a quiet, romantic evening? Or do you crave the energy from places with loud music and a lot of conversational buzz? If you prefer quiet, create an eating experience at home by arranging the room, decorating the table and choosing music that will add to your event.
Recall times when you've had some of your most enjoyable eating experiences. What made these times so special?
In your journal, describe one or two of your most favorite types of eating experiences.
Using this description, plan an eating experience that matches your needs. After you finish the meal, record your favorite details from it.
I prefer the quiet less noisy places. when we go to eat my mom and I choice places where it is easier to watch my exchanges. But also a place where we will enjoy the food. I will work on savoring the flavors at all my meals. I have been to the noisy ones as long as I am with good company great friends or family I am okay with it.
Wow 40 days completed. No they haven't been perfect but I am doing them to the best of my ability. Onward to 50 where we will be half way thru. I agree Chele that they do build on each other and guide me and you and all others in the continues succession or direction you want to reach.
TODAY IS PALM SUNDAY I plan on attending church and yes will go to lunch with Mom- will work on picking a safe haven as did overeating yesterday and Tuesday weigh in comes fast.
Times where I enjoy is with friends and family- eating alone isn't as enjoyable. that's why I have TV going or playing with tablet. I do track my meals but need to work on tracking lunch and suppers.
I want to work on recognizing that my environment is part of the eating experience, but not more important than the food itself. Meals can be made more special by creating a nice atmosphere in which to enjoy them. Meals that required more preparation deserve this special treatment, and easier meals can be elevated by enhancing the atmosphere.
I like the idea of playing music during meals and even meal preparation. I want to start working this in every once in a while, and if I find it enhances the eating experience

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I will put my next "eating experience" on hold until it fits into my life.
There is a note posted to let me know to read this lesson again before the next family or friends get-together.
I know the rules but sometimes need the reminders just before the event that this isn't my last meal so I don't need to eat until I am literally sick!


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My boyfriend and I both love to cook. Every dinner is an eating experience for us. Breakfast is the same most days and so is lunch.

For me, at this point in my life, the experience is more about the person I am sharing the meal with, and less about the meal itself. I have been blessed with a wonderful man who has great conversations with me. Why would I bury myself in my plate and not enjoy his company?

We have a strict no cell phone policy at the table. We recognize that electronic distractions can lead to overeating out of not even noticing we had.

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Like most of these days I seem to come full circle in how I experience them. I thought I had found a 'perfect' solution to when I crave something sweet by eating sugar free chocolates only to overdo yesterday and have 4 hours of absolute agony in my lower GI tract. I told Paul when he came home around 10 that I spent several hours sick to my stomach and if that doesn't teach me a lesson then I am not sure how teachable I really am. Talk about eating experience!

So, it seems I am back to square one when it comes to practicing the two bites and smaller portions less often approach to chocolate. I balked at doing this before because I felt that once I started eating I couldn't stop but I haven't really exercised that 'muscle' like I 'should have' so how do I really know what I can and can't do with certain foods?

I am not so concerned about Thanksgiving since I am the one who determines what I make and since Paul is strictly a meat, potatoes and vegetable person he will eat as he does the rest of the year. The dilemma that I face is I do like many of the sides and I saved some new recipes that I would like to try but then if I make the recipe as is I will have leftovers for over a week and I am not sure if I want to do that.

Subway has been advertising a new sandwich: "The Reuben" and since that is my all time favorite deli sandwich I am eager to try it. So, I just may have that tonight for my 'supper'. It will definitely be an eating experience. I will enjoy it but I also know that it will be something that I won't be able to have that often because it has cured meats, full fat cheese and a ton of sodium. Tomorrow I start my blood pressure medicine. LOL This feels like my "Last Supper' in that regards. I also found out my cholesterol is 215 although the doctor didn't put me on medicine it also means I am going to have to be even more careful with how much fat I eat. (shaking my head right now). Eating experiences? Well, as much as I can given what I know I will need to scale back on if I want to avoid certain health risks becoming worse.

"Two bites" and "smaller portions less often" is going to have to be my new mantra. I wonder if I could make individual servings and freeze the rest on some of these sides without it affecting their taste when thawed? It is worth a try.





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After going back to this chapter in the book it is evident that the upcoming Thanksgiving holiday will be when I experience this lesson.
Because of what I've learned from previously going through the book, I'm sure this year will be more focused on the actual enjoyment and pleasure of the food as opposed to feeling guilty for having it.
Some things I will pass up because I really don't love them.
Some things I'll be happy with "the first two bites".
Some things will be planned into my day because I really really look forward to them!
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Day 40 An eating experience, luckily I have friends coming tonight and my dh and I have a lovely meal planned, mostly Chinese, yummy. Starter and main courses. Looking forward to it. emoticon emoticon

Overall it was a really nice eating experience, I love eating at a table and really plan to do it at least once a week with my family!

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Day 40, 100 days Having an eating experience

Since the last time I did this day I started eating at the table most days. I put my eagle given to me by a friend there watching me and a silk flowers and a gift my friend gave me at her Rally. I set it up take a photo and journal it and I eat it. since I eat alone I need this.

At work I cant do this.
When out to eat, I do take photo and journal my food.
This chapter was harder the second time around. looking forward to the motivation chapter.



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My most enjoyable eating experience is still my breakfast!

I had fixed this, taken the picture, and then sat down to enjoy it. About half way through, I picked up the book to read today's lesson. In my childhood, breakfast only occurred on the weekends; in college and early adulthood, I continued that habit. When I finally realized the benefit of a good breakfast, it was a hurried affair before work, or later, something prepared and taken to work so I could eat it at my desk. So a good, relaxed breakfast is a major perk of my retirement.

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