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12/23/13 5:30 P

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1. “I have a headache” means:
C. I need to know where you put the aspirin.

2. When I ask my spouse, “What’s wrong?” and the reply is “Nothing,” that means:
A. Nothing is wrong.
C. My spouse wants to be left alone to sulk or vegetate for awhile.

3. Your spouse looks at you with a gleam in the eye:
D. He’s hoping you’re in the same mood that he is in this evening. (Reverse pronouns if you like.)

4. Your spouse snaps at you. He or she is probably:
A. Tired and needs a nap.
B. Upset about something that doesn’t involve you.

5. Your spouse is quiet and doesn’t respond when you walk in the room. He/she is:
D. Engrossed in thought or concentrating.

6. Your spouse is scurrying around, barking orders, and looks frazzled. He/she would probably like you to:
A. Get out of the way
B. Think of ways to help with the tasks that need to be done.

7. Your spouse is sick. He/she probably wants to:
A. Be left alone.
C. Have you be solicitous, i.e. bring some juice, the paper.

Scoring: If you accurately anticipated your spouse’s answer:
5-7 times – You’re experienced in reading your spouse’s moods
2-4 times – Don’t just guess, check out what your spouse really means and wants.
1 time – Time for a communication class.
* Correctly guessing your spouse's answer is not as important as the discussion you have as a result of it.

These are my choices. Off to check with my dh!

cj

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12/22/13 7:35 P

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HOW WELL CAN YOU READ YOUR SPOUSE'S MOODS?

Answer each question according to what you think your spouse would say. Then check with each other to see how close you are in interpreting each others words and moods.

1. “I have a headache” means:
A. I want to be alone.
B. I want some sympathy and consolation.
C. I need to know where you put the aspirin.
D. I’d like some comfort food or a back rub.
E. Don’t even think of suggesting we make love tonight!

2. When I ask my spouse, “What’s wrong?” and the reply is “Nothing,” that means:
A. Nothing is wrong. (This probably is not true and, therefore, wrong.)
B. My spouse is feeling neglected or misunderstood and wants you to remember what you did to offend and then apologize.
C. My spouse wants to be left alone to sulk or vegetate for awhile.
D. She’s probably having a PMS moment.

3. Your spouse looks at you with a gleam in the eye:
A. Something good happened at work and he/she is anxious to share it.
B. He’s proud that he has such a beautiful wife. She’s proud that she has such a handsome husband.
C. Your spouse just had the lowest golf score of the year, the highest video game score, or won the lottery or _______________
D. He’s hoping you’re in the same mood that he is in this evening. (Reverse pronouns if you like.)

4. Your spouse snaps at you. He or she is probably:
A. Tired and needs a nap.
B. Upset about something that doesn’t involve you.
C. Annoyed that you just beat him/her at a game.
D. Defensive because of a criticism that you just delivered.
E. Other _____________

5. Your spouse is quiet and doesn’t respond when you walk in the room. He/she is:
A. Just fine and enjoys the calm and solitude
B. Brooding. It might be about you, but it might not.
C. Bored or lonely and is waiting for your company to do something.
D. Engrossed in thought or concentrating.
E. Privately praying/meditating.
F. Almost asleep. Don’t disturb.

6. Your spouse is scurrying around, barking orders, and looks frazzled. He/she would probably like you to:
A. Get out of the way
B. Think of ways to help with the tasks that need to be done.
C. Ask what you can do to help.
D. Know that there’s so much to do because of something you forgot to do or your tardiness and is hoping for an apology.

7. Your spouse is sick. He/she probably wants to:
A. Be left alone.
B. Have you run to the store for medications.
C. Have you be solicitous, i.e. bring some juice, the paper.
D. Have you nearby for company and conversation

Scoring: If you accurately anticipated your spouse’s answer:
5-7 times – You’re experienced in reading your spouse’s moods
2-4 times – Don’t just guess, check out what your spouse really means and wants.
1 time – Time for a communication class.
* Correctly guessing your spouse's answer is not as important as the discussion you have as a result of it.


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12/17/13 8:56 P

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Oooh, some good food for thought there.

cj

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12/16/13 12:16 P

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Thank you Laura

Edited by: LIKINMENOW at: 12/16/2013 (12:16)
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12/16/13 9:50 A

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This was a good one...thanks.

Laura. Mio, Michigan

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12/16/13 8:21 A

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COMMUNICATION CHECK-UP FOR COUPLES

1. What are the feelings that I find most difficult to express to my spouse?
(For example: inadequacy, jealousy, fear, anger, failure, praise, tenderness, etc.) Why?

2. Is one of us more at ease expressing emotions while the other is more the "thinker"? How does this affect our communication?

3. When I feel really angry with my partner, I usually...

4. I really like it when my spouse shows his/her love for me by...

5. I would really like it if my spouse would also...


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12/14/13 6:03 P

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Affair-proof your marriage. Often affairs start because one partner starts confiding in a friend of the opposite sex. Once personal troubles are compassionately received by another, a bond starts to deepen. If something’s troubling you enough, a counselor is the safer outlet.

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