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11/23/15 10:50 A

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A friend of mine gave me the suggestion of turning my critical self thoughts into more accurate/honest--and kinder-- versions of those thoughts. So for example, when I say something "Gah I'm so STUPID" turn that around and say "I'm stressed, sleep deprived, and not feeling well, which means I'm functioning at sub par."

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OK we now turn to channeling the thoughts that arise from our circumstances. The definition of Thoughts is "Things that happen in your mind". This, as we shall see, can be illusion and is where we need to exert self control.
Thought Changing: “Here is my shortened, quick-start version of thought changing: Write down the painful thought. Write down the feeling the thought causes you to feel. Write down a slightly better feeling thought that you know is true. Write down the (feeling) the new thought causes you to feel. Repeat as needed.
Example: Original thought: I am fat and ugly. (ashamed) Replacement thoughts: I have nice lips. (happy) I have pretty hair. (proud) I am kind. (content) I am not as fat as I used to be. (glad). Byron Katie will take you to a full turnaround after asking four [or six] questions, and this can be incredibly powerful. My quick-start process has you inch up the chain by finding a better feeling thought that you can already believe in completely. This combines the work of Esther Hicks, Byron Katie, and Pema Chodron. I have found this process to be indescribably helpful in dealing with any negative emotion. After you change the thought, fully integrate what it would mean for you to focus on it. When you are picking a new thought, make sure it is a thought you genuinely believe and that it will lead to a good feeling. You might want to ask yourself how you want to feel and then you can ask what thought would create that feeling. “Thought appears,” as Katie and Pema would say. There is not a darn thing we can do about that. The brain runs and does its job and creates mind noise."

The question is: Are we paying attention? Are we conscious of what we are thinking? Or are we just la la la acting out our thoughts with complete lack of knowing or awareness? Are we attaching to negative loops of circuitry and believing lies? Are we unconsciously letting our nutter [that subconscious self that is always trying to keep you in a safe place by clinging to old ideas] take us on the train of suffering and pretending we don’t have a choice”? Instead we can use Bryon Katie’s questioning and thought turnaround approach. You can see Bryon Katie’s website www.thework.com but I will explain here.
Bryon Katie would have us ask of us for each thought: 1) Can you absolutely know that it’s not an illusion? 2) Does that thought bring you peace? 3) What visions arise as you think that thought? 4) What emotions arise when you have those visions? 4) Do any obsessions or addictions come up when you feel these emotions? 5) Are you compassionate with others or yourself when you have these thoughts? 6) Who or what are you without the thought? If you would deem yourself better off, if that negative thought were not etched into your mind, now is the time to consider turning around that negative thought.

A negative statement or thought can be turned around to the self, to the other, and to the opposite. Your task is to find specific examples of thought turnarounds that are true and positive for you in a situation related to one that led to the negative thought. For example, “He shouldn’t question my intentions” may be turned around to “I shouldn’t question his intentions,” “I should question my intentions.”, “He should question my intentions.”, and “I should question my intentions”. But only select turnarounds of negative statements by slightly rewording the thought or statement to one that you find believable and moves you closer to your goals and happiness. Each turnaround is an opportunity to experience the opposite of what another or you originally believed as being true for you. Never worry about what others think of you or let it cause you pain. It usually does no good to argue with another person, and by your example of accepting another person's criticism as "possibly well intended or correct in some form" you can best grow the respect of others. You can explain to others how you view your situation to your best, but never get angry or depressed if someone chooses to think otherwise. The main thing is to keep positive, learn what you can by another person's action or criticism, and know that you are a special person in spite of what others may think or do.

Edited by: OLDEROWL at: 11/14/2015 (19:19)
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