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I've been taking a Mindfulness course at the hospital and it has helped immensely. Thing is, I cannot teach it to you because it has to be done in person. Look into MINDFULNESS on the web.

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some days I have to just go with the flow, especially holidays

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I really enjoy writing and doing so on my blog for others to read is very enjoyable for me. I get a lot out of it by learning what I'm writing and others get something out of it too. It's a blessing to be able to write.


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I am going to try acupuncture...I have an appointment for my first session tomorrow!

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Take your time JGMK. Come when you can. Just remember that by coming and posting here, you are venting and getting support and encouragement.
I don't know that there is anything new I'd like to try. So far what I have works, so I don't want to spoil that.

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Spending time alone in a library works for me, and sitting with my dog.

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starting the day with black tea instead of coffee.

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Sorry I have been away. I am continuing to struggle with many stressors - finding success with coping on some days, and no success on others. Lots of tears, though, and trying hard to let the little things stay little. Sorry for whining, but needed to check in.

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Great quote to focus on! Print it up and tape it to part of your monitor where you see it often or post it on your fridge as a reminder...or bathroom mirrors...anyplace you spend time looking forward where you can see it :)

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Thanks for posting the list.

I am going to work on remembering that "Worry works only when it leads to effective action."


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What you tell yourself is where your trouble begins...I think that can go the other way too. It all depends on whether your thought is a POSITIVE/MOTIVATING one or a NEGATIVE/SELF-DEFEATING one! So when your therapist used it, you must have been in the negative category, because if I tell myself I'm going to have a good time with my parents, I have more chance of actually doing that than not because I've set my mind and my mood. :)

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"What you tell yourself is where the trouble begins".

Oh, I like that one very much. I'm going to remember it.

I had to tell the counsellor I was seeing that I though CBT would do me more good than citalopram (Celexa). It wasn't until she finally believed me that she gave me some resources on it.

I've also kept a journal for years. When things were going good I stopped, but after this last bout with stress-induced depression/anxiety, I picked it up again and it helped alot like it aways has.

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A psychologist I worked with used CBT and I use it all the time now. It is ingrained in my head emoticon Here is my saying to myself "What you tell yourself is where the trouble begins".

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CBT is one of the best ways to change. However, I don't know that it can be done on your own. I do hope, in any case, it works for you! Please let us know a while down the road how it is going for you. :)

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I've been looking a little into Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), and I KNOW my thoughts contribute big-time to how I'm feeling.

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Nancy, don't sweat it. It's small stuff not worth worrying over. Take your time to heal and you will get back on track. Stay strong and positive without the worry. Remember, YOU control whether you worry or not!

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Hang in there JGMK55. Congratulations on the birth of your grandson. There are many wonderful reasons for having children, but the best of all is those grandchildren they give you.

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I was going to write out the whole list, as my printer is not hooked up yet to my new computer. I got lazy and then the tooth infection hit. In fact, I haven't written in my journal in a week.

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Well, one month of this thread has passed. Have you found at least ONE new coping technique you find that really works? If so, do you plan on moving on to try a new one or sticking with this one for now because it does work?

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For some reason, I've found that watching movies (that I want to watch) really does relax me and make me happy. I can barely ever sit in front of the TV but last week I watched The Music Man until late at night. It was wonderful - I need to do that more often (like ALL of the suggestions!)

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I am glad they are helpful. They've been helpful for me for many years and that which is given freely to me I try to freely pass onto others who can use it. :)

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I do have an online journal. My goal is to spend 15 minutes daily writing and not criticizing myself for what I write. I've found this difficult recently. I'll write a sentence or two and then give up. I recently lost my job. I am extremely worried about this and I am lonely. I spent all day by myself today and didn't get out at all. emoticon emoticon

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Sheri, I'm so glad you have posted these (and your other posts, too). I went from a wonderful experience last week (birth of my grandson) to a very low valley (professionally attacked by a liar who is a supervisor and I can't expose his lies because he's my superviso r). I have used our suggestions. Thank you!

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I am glad you are finding them helpful Janice. I had teachers and now I pass that knowledge onto others who could use it. :)

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Sheri, thank you for your suggestions. They are all wonderful. Janice

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Journaling is wonderful. Even if you start by putting the date at the top and writing "today was a good/bad day because..." If it is one sentence, one paragraph, page etc...it is up to you. Write down 3 things you are thankful for, 1 thing you would like to accomplish the next day etc. There is no set rule to journaling other than...enjoy it! :) Make it personal for you.

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Okay. I am going to recommit to journaling and start tonight. Wish me luck.

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I have my journal on my bed beside my pillow and if I am too tired to write in it at night, I do it in the morning after breakfast before I forget what took place yesterday. It helps to calm me down.

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I love everyone's responses on journaling.

I've just gotten back into it myself after about 10 years of not journaling at all. Now I do the Morning Pages - 3 pages of writing about whatever pops into my head in the morning, my worries, ideas, stresses, grievances, dreams, annoyances. No stopping, no thinking, just writing...whatever I want.

I find that if I wait until the evening to journal I was too tired and too drained. In the morning so much more good stuff is flowing off the page.

Just like exercise and the new lifestyle, these pages are just for me and I'm really noticing the benefits with my creativity, writing and crafting.

What a wonderful stress reliever - to just be yourself for at least 10-20 minutes a day!

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emoticon Karen and Victoria for sharing,

That helps me a lot. I actually have a blank page on one side of each journal page that I was thinking of adding pictures from magazines or where-ever to help express my feelings and keep the journaling interesting. I also like the idea of using index cards, so many thoughts go through my mind during the day. Right now, I am going to stick a stack in my purse.

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I have a friend who journals periodically but thinks she has to do it just so. I made a suggestion to her recently. I thought perhaps if she had three by five cards with her or around the house, she could do five to ten minute journal bursts when a thought struck her for practice and no holds bar...whatever she felt and however she felt. That is to say, don't worry about punctuation or what to say, just say it! Then the other part which I suggested had to do with the leftovers...being afraid of what we write down for anyone to see...I suggested taking those scraps of paper and if they were something uncomfortable enough that she didn't want anyone to come across them, to just tear it up when she was ready and throw it in the trash can. Simple and easy. I had thought it might be a good exercise to get the journal writing genie going again. I don't know if it would work for anyone. I think she started writing in her journal again but maybe someone else would like to try the idea?
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I originally started with short entries here on the SP journal, but then I found some of my own, old notebook journals and reread them. I realized it was so worth it that I wrote down back then so I can read it now. First of all I have problems with my memory so writing it down is sometimes the only way to keep an experience. Also when I reread my old journals I saw the attitudes and states of mind I had. So I picked up one of those marble composition notebooks at the supermarket and started to journal in it again. I write about my day, about the therapy I go to, about my nutrition and exercise, dream interpretations, thoughts/feelings, my emails to and from friends are in there, I even make "art journal" pages in there or to stick them in the journal to keep things interesting. If I run out of idea's there are lots of journal prompts online on various websites. On the days it seems like a chore to write, or I just don't feel like it I don't, but I keep the journal on my desk so I remember about it. But it's a very creative and fulfilling way to help yourself and make a record for the future.

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I also had a terrible time, I don't know how many I started - only to stop. Until I commited to this group and remained active I never even attemped again. Read my post a few down. We can do this, keep it simple and just keep trying each day.

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I have such a hard time journaling. My intentions are good - I have plenty of journals that I started - I just don't keep them going. However, today is a new day and I'm ready to start again.

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Karen, you are most welcome.
Nancy, congratulations on your journaling!

Both of you are doing wonderfully!!!!!!

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Perfectionism undermines my ability to stick to things too. I try to set small goals and keep going. The great thing about having someone to be accountable to is that you are sharing your journey and not doing it alone. Therefor you or I, in this position, have an advantage. We are not alone in our heads, making excuses, being negative, or undermining ourselves. Setting goals with other people helps make the going easier since there is support and transparency.

BTW: Thanks Sheri!!!

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Thank you for sharing Karen.

Thanks to this group I have managed to keep my journal up for weeks. If I overwhelm myself I quit doing it. I have that all or nothing perfectionism.

I also deal with depression and chose to list the positive things, 3 things I am grateful for, and 3 things I like about myself each day!! It has helped tremendously. On the days I cannot come up with what I am grateful for - I either step back and take a break or know I am headed for a pity party!!

I need to try some new fun things more and get outside, besides my walking.

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Karen, the good part in what I am reading is that you KNOW what is going on and that is half the battle. Knowing the problem, all you have to do now is to work at finding the answer. Well done!

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I have journals for kitchen ideas, finances, anxiety and anger, for twelve step recovery, for WRAP, for DBT coping skills, for therapy, for brainstorming projects, for daily living, for thoughts, for gratitude, for medical purposes, for psychiatric meds, for doctors visits, for recording my symptoms and my treatment, for my art projects and computer ventures, and for PTSD, and for eating disorder recording & thoughts and feelings, family history and records and so on.

As for gratitude,
a couple of years ago, my friend suggested that I write down a few things everyday that I am grateful for since I suffered from depression and she thought it would help me. So, I bought a tiny notebook, with a beautiful flower on the front of it and began each day to list the numbers 1-3 and write in three things which I was grateful for which over time became easy so I expanded it to 1-5. And that was truly helpful. I then after a while began to write ten things down when I was particularly grateful.
This was the beginning of my new gratitude journey.

I have begun to see the glass half full not half empty though some days I get sucked into the other way around. Though overall it is the blessings that win. I wish that they won everyday but I have been very selfish lately and that takes a toll on gratitude. Even though taking care of myself is important, focusing on self is not the way to gratitude for me. I need a balance. I have to find that for myself.

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Karen, don't fret over having different types of journals. I have at least 10 different types. Nancy's ways is a WONDERFUL idea but don't think that your way is any less Wonderful. Everybody is different and perhaps if you shared your way with us, other people would like yours! hint hint :)

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I like to journal, too, but I think that I am a little sporadic and have a lot of different kinds of journals. I like the format that you have Nancy, it is very positive. Good reinforcement of positive ideas. I have a gratitude journal and I need to write in it when I am feeling down more than any other time because focusing on the positive is the best way to remember how good life really is and how much worse things could be when I count my blessings. I know that I have it a lot better than I used to. I guess that keeps me going.

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Nancy, your journaling idea is a wonderful one. Sometimes that is all we need to write down. Don't focus on the negative that happened that day, but search for the good and positive that took place. It's a better thing to look back on!! Well done!

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Hope you had a great week-end.

I continue to journal and read am devotions. I started my journaling by simply listing 3 positive things, 3 things I am grateful for and 3 things I like about myself. This hopefully will help me establish a consistent habit and then I will expand on my writing. Usually the first 2 are no problem, except yesterday I couldn't find a thing I was grateful for. Must of been having a self-pity day!! I struggle terribly with writing down t!! Could use some feed-back here.

As I was scrolling through the list to see what I wanted to add I realized I was doing numerous of them already. My goal for the coming week or longer is to write down those I am doing and find those I would like to do, andd give myself some .

I know ned to add on fun activities, since taking care of my 80 year old mom is taking its toll on me.

have a Super Monday!!

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Good going, Nancy!

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I am starting to do stretching exercises especially in the morning and a little at night. I would like to try to do the stretching exercises a little bit more and enjoy them a little more. I do some light strengthening and energy balancing rituals. Along with just being quiet and peaceful. Sometimes I reflect or pray. I think it is a good habit to be building and I will try to incorporate it in my morning and my evening to make my days go better.

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7 days in arow I have written in my journal and read AM devotions.

talkking about changing habits, I was just thinking yesterday as I got in the car and put on my seatbelt. I vowed I would never be forced into doing this, then once in awhile when I saw the police I put it on. WALLA!!!, this became a habitit, now bue up without even thinking!!!

I will take time later and choose another.

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It is hard to change a habit. Just like if you have played the piano by ear for 10 years and you suddenly NEED to take lessons for school, you must UNLEARN what you have learned in order to LEARN what you must to succeed. It is not an overnight job, and can be frustrating, but is well worth the effort, time and patience.

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I like the idea of doing something imperfectly. I am catching my breath after my friend's wedding extravaganza...and I am settling in at home and looking around, trying to do a few things for myself and get back on track. I realize this is not going to happen in a day!!!....~no matter how much I would imagine all the little pieces coming together the way I would like them to. So, I am officially going to cut myself a little slack tonight and get done what I can do and try to do the most important things and make myself comfortable as possible as I have been a more than a little drained and see if I can have an enjoyable evening!!! I can't believe it sooo dark out already!!!!! How did that happen! I guess the seasons wait for no man....

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I haven't been keeping up on my journal...or putting myself first for that matter. Both of which are increasing my stress levels.

I've got a couple of deadlines I need to meet (hubby and I do medieval reenactment, I've got some costumes that need to be done by Friday 9/18, and some other costumes that need to be done by 10/8). Hopefully I can get back to focusing more on relaxing after we finish our event in mid October.

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I tried to let myself be and do something imperfect (for about a month and I still need to work on it).

Sometimes I cut myself some slack (and it was glorious) and there are other times I just didn't. But this is a journey right? There is no finish line.

I'm actually volunteering for the first time in awhile this week so that's my focus. It will help me get out of my head and my work I hope.

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THIS IS THE ORIGINAL POST BY SHERI FOR A REFRESH ON THE THREAD FOR A FRAME OF REFERENCE AND EASE IN VIEWING WITHOUT HAVING TO GO ALL THE WAY BACK TO THE BOTTOM...




I'm going to post a list of relaxation ideas. Out of them, I'm going to ask you what would you be willing to try and the reason. Then come back after a week and let us know how you made out.

1.Keep a daily journal.
2.Write down your dreams and nightmares.
3.Meditate and/or pray.
4.Take naps.
5.Give yourself rest breaks.
6.Draw (or do another visual art).
7.Dance by yourself.
8.Sing in the shower or car.
9.Buy yourself flowers.
10.Spend time in nature.
11.Volunteer.
12.Learn to say no with a smile.
13.Speak your truth gently and clearly from your heart.
14.Ask questions; request an explanation.
15.Tell yourself and others what makes you happy.
16.Ask for what you need.
17.Be willing to negotiate.
18.Offer to help someone else.
19.Join a support group.
20.Ask someone to mentor you.
21.Say something kind to a stranger.
22.Clean a closet and give something away.
23.Take bubble baths by candlelight.
24.Play your favorite music.
25.Get a massage or exchange one.
26.Do stretching exercises or learn yoga.
27.Close your eyes and take deep breaths to center yourself.
28.Schedule artist dates alone. (See Julia Cameron's books.)
29.Listen to or compose your favorite music.
30.Bake bread, or multi-grain low-fat muffins, or anything you want.
31.Create a sacred space or altar with your spiritual treasures.
32.Design personal rituals and ceremonies.
33.Give yourself rewards (they can be cost-free).
34.Recycle and reuse; leave only footprints.
35.Learn basic science.
36.Practice critical thinking.
37.Keep your agreements.
38.Keep your word.
39.Dispute your negative thoughts to combat depression.
40.Do creative writing simply for your own pleasure.
41.Write poetry.
42.Make a list of things you're good at (100 minimum).
43.Take long walks--in nature, if possible.
44.Keep a (lovely) notebook of your ideas; decorate it yourself.
45.Learn to say, "Oh, well," when things don't go as you planned.
46.Remember: Worry works only when it leads to effective action.
47.Eat by candlelight-- even when you're alone.
48.Play with children's toys and crafts: clay, finger-paint, crayons.
49.Set realistic goals.
50.Complete projects.
51.Accomplish something you'll be proud of.
52.Defy your limiting beliefs: I can do that!
53.Compliment yourself; pat yourself on the back.
54.Thank yourself.
55.Ask for help when you need it.
56.Cook a good meal for yourself alone.
57.Grow fresh herbs—start with one potted plant.
58.Renew the pleasure of an old craft or former hobby.
59.Face a fear by doing something that's a little hard for you.
60.Allow yourself to be imperfect and only human.
61.Bake cookies and give them away.
62.Praise yourself.
63.Do a good deed.
64.Ask someone you admire to coach you.
65.Study an interesting topic for a year and become an expert.
66.Learn a new skill.
67.Make a donation.
68.Do more of what makes you feel good about yourself.
69.Offer to teach another person something you do well.
70.Write down your creative ideas.
71.Listen to the wind in the trees.
72.Carry an idea notebook.
73.Buy yourself some art supplies.
74.Create your own retreat.
75.Take a walk in the rain.
76.Introduce yourself to strangers you want to meet.
77.Have a pet and cuddle it—a sure source of unconditional love.
78.Read something inspirational or motivational every day.
79.Practice selfloving (See Betty Dodson's book).
80.Celebrate sensuality.
81.Make soup.
82.Rent a movie you love.
83.Become an expert on something.
84.Daydream and watch your creativity bloom.
85.Create your own tea ceremony.
86.Get up before dawn and watch the sun rise.
87.Post a quote that inspires you on your computer or mirror, where you'll see it every day.
88.Do a crummy chore that's haunted you and feel proud you got it done.
89.Call someone you know is lonely.
90.Send a love letter to a good friend.
91.Write notes to yourself for encouragement and place them in pockets of clothing you'll wear next season.
92.Write letters.
93.Read, read, read.
94.Curb your dogma.
95.Mail yourself the letter from your future self that you wrote at the end of Chapter 1 of Dream Back Your Life.
96.Buy yourself a down pillow.
97.Plant flowers.
98.Write a letter to your newspaper and make your opinion heard.
99.Give yourself permission to do something imperfectly.
100.Make a wish.
101.Reread a book you loved as a child.
(from an email I received MANY YEARS ago)

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I am going to work on negotiating today. I need to try and get my bicycle fixed and I need help to do it. I need to think of ways to get help to do it and people who would be available to help me and those who might brainstorm for ideas. So, I am going to give it a try.

@NANCYLEE46: I use the Page Up and Page Down button on my keyboard to navigate long threads. It helps save time and energy. Yet, even if Sheri decides to post on another "do not post" resource thread, I will copy and paste the original post right now to help out. That way everyone can see the ideas all over again at this point in the thread.

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