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5/13/12 6:59 P

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My ex and I both had a daughter - mine was 5, his was 2 when we started dating. We waited about a month and then we all went out to the circus the first time. We were together for 2 years and it was hard on the girls when we broke up because they were so close, but only for about a week or two. Kids are adaptable!

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1/2/12 4:38 P

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I'm a little late on this but I just saw it :)

I've been talking to someone for a month now, and we're seeing each other on a "friends first" level. My daughter met him last week because we set up a play date with his niece and nephew, so really the attention and pressure was taken off of the whole "meeting the new guy" thing. She absolutely loves his niece and nephew and my daughter and his niece are "best friends" now (according to the girls). He wanted to make it clear that even if him and I don't work out on a platonic level, he wants to still be there for my daughter and I and let the kids still be friends.

I've never done things this way before but it seems to be a good idea so far. Maybe if your new guy is a family person (really close with his family) and has a niece or nephew or even young cousins that are around your kids' age, you could try it out. Just introduce him as "Mom's friend". Hey, mom is allowed to have male friends!

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12/14/11 9:50 P

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I've seen people do it all kinds of ways. I know a guy who goes to a lot of activities and dates a lot of women casually and he introduces his kids to all of them. I met him once, and he brought his two daughters along. I'm not sure I would be too hot on that as a teenage girl, but they're old enough to tell their dad!

What I did with my boyfriend... well, I talked about him a lot first. Told them about him and like that. I already knew he was great with kids and we'd been friends for a long time so I wasn't worried about his character.

Yeah, all this probably isn't helpful at all. Just go with your gut, I guess! :)





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12/12/11 11:21 A

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I encountered this dilemma a couple of years ago. My son was 3 years old and I had started dating a guy. It really depends on how you feel about it. I dated this guy for a couple of months and then he met my son and for my son's 4th birthday he had suggested taking my son and his god son to a children's museum. My son absolutely adored him to the point of telling me that he wanted this guy to be his dad and after about 9-10 months things ended. It didn't even phase my son. He asked a few questions and that was that. It is really amazing how well children cope with things like this. It is really up to you about when to introduce them. There is always a risk of something not working out but we never know what will happen until we try. emoticon

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I have always wondered when a good time to introduce my child to the person I am dating is. I do not want to do it too soon but I also don't want to wait to long just in case it does not work with them and my child.

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