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5/19/11 7:06 P

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I have to agree with Newstart... It's very tricky... I'm in Louisiana and the law for children dealing with custody is the same as property... In fact, my ex husband went to school once and took my 2 older boys out... I lived 2 houses from the school and their teacher called me sensing something was wrong... He was able to take them... I was told since he signed them out first, he had rights to them... He had the nerve to smirk at me and say, "I guess I win."... this was said in front of the principal and several teachers.. I was crying and distraught... he then called the police and asked to have our youngest child who was 18mos. at the time... The police officer was a friend and told me I didn't have to give my youngest to him... I said, "So, if I go out there, and pull the boys out of his car and bring them in the house, then he couldn't take them?" He said, "Pretty much, but I'd be forced by law to stop you if there was violence involved." Needless to say, I didn't do that to save my children from anymore mental anguish... and he brought them back to my mother's house 2 days later... didn't want them, just wanted to hurt me...

I'd be very careful... If he's going to take your tv and tv stand, he doesn't seem to be very rational... Be aware that if he has your child, then possession is 9/10 the law in most states... the same as if your children would be a piece of property... unless there's some kind of court order... Not sure if you're in the same situation as I was in... that was over 10 years ago... horrible memories... don't want to see anyone have to go through that... more so, the children...

I wish you the best of luck... Just wanted to give you all the facts so you know what you might be dealing with emoticon

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4/12/11 3:03 P

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I know what everyone is or has gone through. I have been seperated for 2 yrs. He has been drunk for 4 yrs. We have a 4yr old son. We went for our first court hearing last thurs,I have temp cust and supervised visits. He staying at a rehab home for two months,,hes been there for three days . He wants to contest the divorce. The law is the same here. Before u go to court either parent can keep the child or children. Luckily I knew that and he didnt. He wasnt capable. Divorcing him for habitual drunk.

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4/12/11 8:31 A

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I would like to add that if you have any fear your ex will take your child or might become violent and harm you or your child that you can see out a shelter in your area and they will protect you until such time as a court order is in place. Usually in these cases the court date will be fairly soon to facilitate you getting your life back in order. Not the most fun but you have to do what you can to protect your child.

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3/20/11 9:32 P

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I work in social work and have delt with this a little bit. Every state is different but in the State of Ohio if legal custody has never been established it can be very tricky until it is established. One parent can take the child and not return until you go to court so my suggestion would be to not let your child go with him until you have someithing legal. You can get a restraining order for yourself and the child if there is enough reason. You could also go thru your children services agency and ask for supervised visitation only. It is a very hard thing you are going thru most of all remember your's and your child's safety. Parent's tend to use the children to get back at each other and that can have lasting effects on the child. You will be in my thoughts and prayers.

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3/6/11 10:43 A

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I am so sorry to hear that you are going through this. Having never been through something like this, I don't know have any answers for you - other than contacting children's services to stop any unsupervised visitation until your ex is proven clean and safe for your child to be with.

You are in my prayers!
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3/3/11 1:30 P

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Sorry to hear your going through this... I have been through this with my soon to be ex-husband. I have been going to court for my divorce since April 2009, the judge kept continuing the case because my ex was either in rehab or in jail. So the judge never entered a child support or custody order to this day. I just hired a lawyer to obtain child support, obtain full custody of my kids (they live with me) and to finalize my divorce. I have dealt with the whole jaw moving, mood swings, erratic behavior, taking stuff out our home and just TONS of more crap. It's a tough road, even when we leave them but it will get better.

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Sorry to hear your going through this... I have been through this with my soon to be ex-husband. I have been going to court for my divorce since April 2009, the judge kept continuing the case because my ex was either in rehab or in jail. So the judge never entered a child support or custody order to this day. I just hired a lawyer to obtain child support, obtain full custody of my kids (they live with me) and to finalize my divorce. I have dealt with the whole jaw moving, mood swings, erratic behavior, taking stuff out our home and just TONS of more crap. It's a tough road, even when we leave them but it will get better.

"Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, and expecting different results"

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3/3/11 11:01 A

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My husband and I have separated right before Thanksgiving. He has since been to drug rehab and only got back out this past weekend. I seriously thought everything was going to be fine. But I was wrong. He took my son for two nights this week, and when he brought him home last night he didnt' seem right to me. He fought with me like you wouldn't believe! He ended up taking the tv and stand. I don't know much about drugs, but I did notice his jaw was moving weird and he just didnt' seem right to me. I have a feeling he may be back on something but no proof. does anyone have any experience with the whole custody thing and how that would work? I really need some advice, I have nowhere to turn and it's getting out of hand.
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