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6/22/11 8:24 P

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It sounds like you're there and he will always know that. My kids know that I'm always here for them and they knew I was the only there for so many years. I did what I did, the best , I could at the time. That's all anyone can do! Take care of yourself! Be there for your kids and they will feel loved!! Be fabulous!!! Sounds like you are!

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5/22/11 7:55 P

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Something I posted on Facebook earlier today sums it up:

**My son will remember who held his hand when he was diagnosed even as I recovered from my accident . He will remember who held his hand when he was wheeled into surgery and who was there when he awakened. And which parent who has been there all along and will be for all of his life. I could not ask for a greater blessing than this.**

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5/19/11 7:53 P

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I taught my children from a very young age that adults, even though they're older, are not always right... Even I am wrong sometimes... With them being raised in the Google age, I was able to tell them if they felt like an adult was wrong in something they said, to search it... they've caught me a couple of times... emoticon

When they were old enough to start saying things about their father, I used the same strategy... Older does not always mean wiser... Sometimes adults are not right and don't do the right things... Humans are not perfect and some just don't have the capacity to try to "get right"... Their dad is really selfish, probably like lots of other dead beat fathers... I was never one to attack their father even though I had very very good reason to... He, unfortunately, did that all on his own...

The worst thing he ever did... It was January, we needed money to fix our vehicle... we only had one and my only means of transportation back and forth to work...no child support or help whatsoever from him... he had gotten a 100k settlement for a job related accident he was in... My oldest wanted to call and ask him to help us fix the van... Remember, it was January, right after Christmas and 2 birthdays... with no presents... not even a Merry Christmas/Happy Birthday... My ex husband's response to the call was, "You need to learn priorities... you need to learn that there are things that need to be done and the bullsh%t put aside... " The only thing I heard from my end... (I knew it was going to be bad so I was sitting there to pick up the pieces)... My son's reply, "So... is that what we are to you... bullsh%t?" So much more calmly than I could have ever done it... He was 17 at the time, but with a very old soul...

Sometimes adults aren't right... Just because someone is older than you doesn't mean they're wiser than you... respect everyone because it's uncivilized not to... but know that sometimes people don't have the capability to care about anyone but their self... no use hating them, because they're the ones missing out... His name's really never brought up in the house, sad to say... we just don't have anything to say about him... which is better than wasting energy on hating someone who won't change emoticon

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12/29/10 3:56 P

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I don't know if there is really anything that you can say! Maybe focus on telling your son that YOU love him, and leave the father out... or, depending on how old your son is, perhaps discussing how some people never learn to show love, often because they weren't shown love, and encouraging your little man to break the trend?
Good luck!! :)

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12/19/10 10:49 P

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My daughter always talks bad about her father. I kinda try to steer her in the other direction by just telling her he hasn't really grown up yet and maybe one day he will come around when he does. She's said she doesn't want him to. She calls him by his name, not dad or father or anything. It's sad kids can actually sense these things.

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12/18/10 10:38 A

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When your child realizes that their parent is an emotional deadbeat? My son sadly realizes that his biological father does not want to make the effort...what do you say other than assurances that they are loved? :(

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