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8/17/11 9:07 P

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Thanks for the feedback from both of you. I'm so sorry about the loss of your husband ~ what a shock for all of you. I think you're right that there just aren't alot of people who truly understand, which is why I have appreciate this forum so much in the short time I've been on here. emoticon
I'm early in the process of trying to make some career changes that will hopefully allow me more time for my sanity, all the things that single parenting entails, and "free" time with my son. Hopefully, it will work out in the manner I'm aiming for and allow me to still pay all the bills :)

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8/17/11 4:48 A

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I want to let you know that you are not alone. My husband died unexpectedly in his sleep almost 2 years ago leaving me with a 6yo and 11yo girls. I still am having a hard time accepting my role as a single parent. It is so scary knowing that you are responsible for EVERYTHING! I work full-time nights. I am working on my Master's full time online and both girls play travel ball. I do have a great support system from my mom and dad. My advise to you is to just take one day at a time. I frequently tell my girls that all we can do is the best we can but the important thing is to keep moving on with your life because unfortunately there are few people who really care about our situation or know how hard it is to be a single parent.

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8/16/11 8:56 A

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I know exactly what your talking about. I have a 2yr old and a 9month old both boys! Both handfulls! I support and raise them alone. I do not get child support and their father is not in their lives so its all me all the time. I get frustrated every day sometimes to the point that i just break down and cry. I don't go out and do anything for me and friends what are those!? I don't have many of those anymore either. As far as exerciseing i dont know how old your son is but i do a hip hop abs video and my 2yr old will do it with me for a bit and my 9 month old well i just try to exercise around him or he will go to his bedroom with his brother sometimes. But my 2yr old by no means is always so cooperative he sits there and screams and cries wants me to stop and pay attention to him i just have to let him be cause he doesn't understand right now that i need this but one day he will. Plus he'll get over it i devote my whole life to these kids sometimes you just have to take a lil for yourself!

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8/7/11 9:29 P

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It's just so DAMN hard to be single parent! There's no break ever. My son is the love of my life and I wouldn't change a thing about having him here with me, but the PRESSURE, the ANXIETY, the STRESS, the WORRY, and THE MONEY!! And if one more person tells me to relax and take some time for myself I'm going to scream!! Of course I want to do that, but I also want to have clean clothes, an income, groceries, and a bathroom that I don't cringe when I walk into. How about offering to help with those things instead of platitudes????????
It's so isolating being a single parent. Everyone always says what a strong person I am and they don't know how I do it....I don't know how I do it!?!?!? My son's father does pay child support and is emotionally a loving father, but his ideas of responsibility and dependabilty are ludicrous at best.
I want desperately to have my physical self back, but the realities of single parenthood always put that on the back burner and the limited times I can attend to it, I'm just so damn tired.
I'm so overwhelmed and frustrated and try so hard to keep that in a place that is away from my interactions with my son, but I know that I don't always manage that and get frustrated with him and then feeling like a giant a$$.
SIGH.....I don't know what I'm expecting but I just need to talk to people who KNOW what I"m talking about instead of smile and nod.

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12/24/10 10:54 P

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Hello Ladies
I know exactly how you all feel and YOU ALL ARE NOT ALONE. I have done it about 3 times myself. I mean I have raised my 3 sons. Their ages are 39, 33, and 21. It was difficult at times, but I made it. I am here for all of you and I can help anytime. I enjoyed watching my sons grow up.I love them dearly and had no help in raising them. So you will know how to get touch with me should you need an ear to listen, should to cry or lean on.

Live 1 day at a time and live it to the fullest. Wish you all the best that life has to offer.... Stay focused, positive and it will get you where you want to be or done in life itself.
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12/15/10 7:03 A

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you are definitely not alone! I have been raising my to children ages 14 and 11 for a year since my 22 year marriage ended. I do not get any help and I have to work nights to provide right now. Believe me I feel alone most of the time and just take it one day at a time. On my way to work in the dark I find myself talking to God. He knows our plight and we just have to be patient (not an easy thing) and I am still going thru the stage of provider not wanting to except help. We all just have to remind each other we are not alone emoticon

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12/8/10 8:31 P

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You are not alone. I believe that all of us on this team either feel that way now or have felt it in the past.
I wish you all the best.
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12/5/10 6:58 P

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None of you are alone. I have been single again for 8 yrs. 3 of my 4 are grown but I still have my youngest who is 7. I don't get child support and only work at the most 8 hrs a wk and go to college full time. Thank god I live in housing where rent goes by my income so it helps some. Trying to loose weight is hard without support and a picky eater in the house.

Bless all who are here looking and working on the support. I will do the best I can with finals coming. Keep working hard and know that others are out there rooting for you.

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12/5/10 4:38 A

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Oh Warriorgirl9,

I so love your words or wisdom and your spiritual blessings. I'm working hard at allowing myself to ask for help and working on my relationship with my family and myself.

It's so easy for me to help others with their problems and to give them an ear to listen or a shoulder to cry on, but if I need the same it's so hard for me to call on a friend and allow them to do the same for me.

Yes, I am so glad to have my job as well. I look forward to getting back into the swing of things.

Thank you for your prayers, they are truly needed at this time. On a Happier note....I've lost another 2lbs this week!! emoticon

Thank you again Warriorgirl9, I look forward to future conversations with you emoticon

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12/3/10 10:36 P

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One of the hardest thing for me, still, is accepting help. I'm the provider...the giver...the one who does for others...so, letting someone help me was tough (still is). Saying what I'm going to say is SO much easier than doing emoticon Let those people around you help you. Let them lift you up when you need it. Let them be there for you right now. Later, you will have an opportunity to give back or pay it forward. God recognizes your need to do that. He will provide you with the ability to be the giver again. And there will be another time when you'll need to say, Help!
I'm glad, for you, that you have a job waiting for you after Christmas. It feels good to be able to take care of ourselves.
I pray that all of the health issues you've had to deal with are on the mends and in the past never to bother you again.
One day at a time is all we are meant to do. God said for us to take care of today, for tomorrow has it's own set of issues.

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12/2/10 9:05 P

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I couldn't have said it better! Thank you so much for those words of Faith. Nothing is more comforting!

Right now I have no income since I have been in and out of the hospital for the past 3 months. I do have the help of my family since I live with them but it's just getting to be a lot to deal with w/out being able to contribute.

I do plan to go back to work though the week after Christmas which is a good thing. But of course there are other issues I am having to deal with but just taking things day by day and keeping my Faith in God knowing He will bring me through this too as He will not ever give us anything we cannot handle.

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12/2/10 8:59 P

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Thank you =)
WOW! It must be really difficult. I thought it was hard living with my family....Ha Ha Ha!! It's nice to know that there is someone out there that understands my plight.

I just take things day by day and hope for the best. I think that is all we can do. Do the best we can for our kids and keep the faith that what we are doing is not in vain.

Stay strong,
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12/2/10 8:35 P

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Hang in there. I've been a single mom for 13 yrs. I have 2 children. My hourly wage has been frozen for the last 2 yrs. I work as a Para in the schools, so I don't make much. It is hard. With God's help we always have what we need when we need it. I know how easy it is to feel all alone. You're not alone....you're going to be OK.....you and your girl have an opportunity to get really close....and our Creator is just a cry away...waiting for you to reach out for Him, as He reaches for you.
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12/2/10 6:07 P

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You are absolutely not alone. I am a single mom of 2 boys ages 12 and 4. I know how hard it is to make it in this day and age. I am struggling to live on my own, provide for my boys, and keep it all together. I hope this helps you feel a little better. YOU ARE NOT ALONE.

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Hey Everyone,

This is the first time I have posted my own topic on here.

I'm a single mom of a teenage daughter. Struggling to make it in today's economy (like everyone else today) and at times feel like I am alone.

It's seems so hard trying to lose the weight and trying to keep things together mentally, emotionally, financially and being a single mom.

I know I'm not the only one going through the same thing(s) but at times it just seems like it. emoticon



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