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4/20/11 9:45 A

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I would change my temper as well. I have always had a short temper. With age, it has gotten better. But it's still short. I have a LOT of patience with children, but adults....not so much. I can control it for so long, but it builds up, and when I have had enough, it's not pretty. My ex-husband and his wife know this better than anybody. Mainly him though. I don't really have any issues with her. My son does push my buttons pretty bad at times, and I catch myself yelling at him, which is something I said I would never do because both of my parents are yellers and I have always hated it. Unfortunately, I catch myself doing exactly that, so I have to walk away until I calm down enough to talk to him in a normal, but stern voice to get my point across (or at least try to!). He is 7 years old, and a very loving and smart child. He is ADHD, so he is always busy, busy, busy. Sometimes, it's very overwhelming when I have had lack of sleep, stressed out over life issues, etc. But, as I said, the older I get, the better my temper tantrums get. I just wish I could push an "easy" button and make it all better now. :)

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4/12/11 11:23 A

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If I could change one thing about myself, I would have a release valve for my anger. That way, it would come out in little harmless spurts instead of massive explosions.

If I could change two things about myself, I would find the words to say to my mother. As it stands, when I am upset with her, I can't speak to her with love. So, I don't speak to her at all. Instead, I eat my words and feel like crap all day.


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3/3/11 4:55 P

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I can totally relate about the house being a mess within 15 minutes of them being awake. I work from home, and my 11 yr old is home-schooled so her and my lil guy are home all day. My 14 yr old girl is so neat and cleans up any mess she makes immediately after making it. My 11 yr old girl is the total opposite. She messes, messes and messes and then it's like teeth to get her to clean her mess. My 4 yr old son just loves to scatter his toys everywhere, and when I tell him to clean, he starts and then of course starts to play again... I am thinking of making a chart, and having some kind of a weekly reward. They are well-behaved kids, and if the 2 younger ones would learn how to clean their mess I would be one happy Mama...

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1/5/11 4:33 P

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check out your lease agreement. you and your landlord had to sign it. if anywhere in there it says that he is supposed to abide by repairs in a timely manner, SUE HIM! you have rights you know! i dont know where you live, but state laws protect you against things like this! tons of blankets are cheaper than using the heater. again, i dont know where you live or how cold it gets where you are. but we dont use our heater at all, just lots and lots of blankets.

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1/2/11 6:33 P

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I think it's high time that I start with the actual chores then! My mom keeps telling me that I need to give the kids chores, so maybe I should actually listen to her? LOL Right now, they help around the house doing things like picking up their toys, but some days even that is a struggle!

I have to say, I'm very blessed in that I have the place I do to live in. It's just on the other side of the tracks from the 'bad' area of town, so I'm far enough away that I don't really see any trouble, but close enough that the rent is low(ish, LOL). My landlord is totally absentee, and apparently hasn't been to the house in 7 or 8 years. There is a lot of cosmetic work that needs to be done, and when I moved in there was no flooring in one of the rooms... I officially know how to lay carpet now :) The landlord is pretty good in that if I'm willing to pay and do things, I can take if off of the rent. I've always wanted to learn how to do odd-jobs around the house, so it's nice being able to do it on someone else's dime :)
That really sucks about the windows! Can you maybe put some aluminum foil or something in the crack, to stop the airflow? (LOL, yep, classy, I know!!!)
You CAN, and WILL get out of there! I barely know you, and already I can see that you've got what it takes!

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1/1/11 10:19 P

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Kristi, my son turned 2 in September and has chores and responsibilities. I'm very much in the 'start them early' club and his reward is usually high fives, occasionally pennies for his piggy bank.

I really want to change our living conditions. I feel very hopeless here. We are very far from my job which means that we have to leave very early in the morning and get home very late in the evening. My landlord doesn't care of the building and there is a host of problems that I'm just tired of. Number one is that there is no insulation and the heat doesn't work in my bedroom or the bathroom at all. The windows in my son's room don't shut all the way. It never gets warmer than 2 degrees below what I set the thermostat on which means the furnace constantly runs. I'm throwing money away trying to keep this place comfortable and we still end up freezing. I sleep on my tiny IKEA couch because I don't want to run up the electric bill with the space heater in my room. We live in a horrible neighborhood but at the time I got this apartment, it wasn't as terrible as it is now. This was the only place I could afford and now I just feel trapped. I want us to live in a real, comfortable HOME. I'm working really hard to get there but right now it just feels like we won't make it.

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12/29/10 4:36 P

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I sooo hear you! My children are young, and it drives me nuts how if I actually manage to get everything clean, it's a mess 15 seconds after they get out of bed!

Do your children do chores around the house? What age is it appropriate to start giving chores?

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11/20/10 10:13 A

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I understand compete about how you feel. I am beyond frustrated with my kids behavior it seem like the more I tech the less they listen. So yes I would take good decisions over a clean house. Now that the house is clean it's time to work on them making the right choices.

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10/26/10 6:14 P

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No kidding! I am so frustrated with my kids. My oldest is 16 and has truancy issues. I just discovered that my 13 year old has been smoking and my only girl who is almost 10 texted me last night "meanie". I just want them to make good decisions - forget about a clean house I can clean it when they are in school!



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10/26/10 2:12 P

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When it comes to your family life what would you like to change. I am a single mother and my old teenager habits have but in such a bad place now. I want my home to be clean organize and ready to relax. We have been working on it all it takes is five seconds with them being home to feel like I back to square one.

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