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8/28/11 12:37 A

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I think some people find comfort in the "I will pray for you thing" not because they will but because they can't do anything that can actually help or fix the problem. Assuming there's a problem to fixed for sure. Not being religious, atheist or agnorstic, is a stupid reason for someone to pray for your salvation.

My brother-in-law had someone come to his house (the religious pamphlet tigers). They asked him if he wanted to be saved. He told them that he didn't. He shut the door.

I think others have said what I'd recommend and that you said you're probably going to do. Let it go. It's just the simplest thing to do.

She probably wouldn't understand. Most religious folks mean well. My mother-in-law was embarrassed when our neighbor at our old house asked where we went to church (I live in the south where being atheist or agnostic is not overlooked). She was embarrassed to tell her that we didn't go to church. I politely told her that not going to church didn't make us immoral. I don't think she believed it though.

I have to admit though, I find it annoying to see folks on here with overt religious profile names. Really? I don't get it.

I'm rambling. hang in there. I'm sorry you gals are struggling with illness. I hope that you get the treatment you need to manage it.
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8/5/11 6:53 A

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You might find his article interesting:

How should atheists respond when others ask for prayers.....?
http://atheism.about.com/od/atheistfamil
iesmarriage/a/PrayMiracle.htm?nl=1

And here's one about people who say they will pray for you and why atheists object to that.
http://atheism.about.com/od/atheismathei
ststheism/a/Objecting-to-Christian-Pra
yers.htm

The author says:
"...Both engaging in prayers and announcing that 'I'll pray for you' only serve as a weak substitute for real action that would provide real assistance...
...One way or another, the theist who makes a point that they will be praying for me appears to be trying to express their own superiority in a passive-aggressive manner that atheists may legitimately interpret as rude, arrogant, and condescending..."

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7/29/11 3:04 P

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It bothers me less when it's someone I know. My best friend from middle school through high school and I are just about polar opposites religiously, but she and I have a strong mutual respect for each other. We've had the conversation that it's ok for her to pray for me, and I'll receive it in the intent that it's given, and when she needs me, I'll think good thoughts for her.

Sorry to hear that you're seriously ill too, Andrea. It sucks for someone to know so well what I'm talking about!

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7/29/11 2:36 P

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Hey, Cats,
I've learned that some people just don't get it, well-meaning as they are. My bf's mom has been praying for me for a year. It gives her peace and allows her to cope with the pain of knowing I'm seriously ill. She knows I'm an atheist but never fails to tell me she is praying for me. It makes me somewhat uncomfortable, but I think it's her way of not feeling powerless against something she can't fight. Misguided, yes and it's annoyed me at times, but I try my best to be tolerant of it. But, I totally know how you feel. I'd just let it go.
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7/28/11 8:46 P

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I looked at her page and she looks like a sweet older lady, just a little younger than my mom. After seeing that, I guess I'll go with ignore. She looks like she could be my mom's friend, so I'll just play it safe.

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7/28/11 7:18 P

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Wow, that's odd...I think in your situation I'd reply to the person and politely tell them that you think they emailed the wrong person by mistake. I'd also tell them best of luck with their troubles.

I like to give people the benefit of the doubt; but if they replied and confirmed that indeed YOU are the intended recipient of their email, well, that's a different story!

That's just what I would do...and by the way, I am sorry to hear that you're having troubles, but you'll be relieved to know that I will not be praying for you emoticon

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7/28/11 4:57 P

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I got a SparkMail today from someone whose name is essentially "Jesuslover." I have no idea where this person came from, but they shared with me some medical trouble they are having. (So they must know I'm going through the ringer too, I guess?) They ended their message saying that they'll pray for me if I pray for them.

What?! First of all, I am in not one, not two, but THREE teams, PROMINENTLY DISPLAYED on my profile that should suggest this is a no-go: Separation of Church and Weight, Liberal Atheist Hippies, and Secular SparkPeople. (I'm so dumbfounded by this that I will be posting in all three. Sorry to the other members that will see crossposting!)

And secondly, since when is it a trade-off? I think that offended me more than anything.

What would you do? I'm torn between delete and ignore and responding (but how?).

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