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3/1/15 5:08 P

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We won't tell anyone once we start trying. We've been together for 12 years, and since we have not made any moves to have a baby in the past, I think most people (except my MIL) expect it will not happen. Also, we don't want anyone to know "who's" biological baby it is, since there is a chance we will be doing reciprocal IVF but also a chance of just insemination. Our biggest question is going to be, "and which one of you is the biological parent?" which is aggravating.

I guess if we were struggling, we may tell family, but only for them to realize what we are going through

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2/26/15 9:03 A

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I told my family and close friends that I am losing weight so that we can TTC soon. It helps me stay focused on my diet when I am with them so they don't pressure me into eating foods I would like to avoid. My family is big about food, so I need to make them understand why I am dieting. My friends like to go out for beer and wings, so I needed to explain why I would not be joining in that anymore too. They are all being pretty supportive. They just ask me when I want to try, and I simply said, Spring/Summer. That has been fine so far, but I imagine that if we don't get pregnant quickly, the questions will start to annoy me.

My SIL is trying to get pregnant, and I know she is easily upset about questions and sensitive about her friends all getting pregnant. She had a MC last year, so she have been rather delicate about it all since then. I understand how she feels because I had a few MC before we had our son. Still, it is hard not to ask her. I now just ask my BIL instead and leave her alone. He is not as upset about it as she it.

I would love my SIL to get pregnant so my MIL would get off my back and focus on her instead of my family life. I would also like to get pregnant along with her so our kids will be close in age and can be close cousins.

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2/26/15 8:04 A

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I have told my friends that we plan on trying, some know that we have already started, but haven't said anything to our parents yet. If it happens that it takes a while I don't want them to be asking me if it has happened yet or anything... not that my parents would likely do that, but still I want to surprise them.

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2/23/15 9:41 P

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I don't know if we actually said anything but people know. I have a sister-in-law that always seems to ask what's going on with us having another one. I sometimes want to tell her just to shut up and we will let her know if there's anything to share.

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10/12/14 12:32 A

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Yes I do tell people!! I want them to know I am open to having another baby and would welcome one in anytime I am blessed with this oppertuniity. I also remind them that taking the time to be healthy is key and important. I just say we have our plan and are hopeful. Right now at work three ladies are prego and everyone keeps asking me if I will have more. I hope in the near future.





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10/10/14 9:29 A

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10/9/14 11:34 A

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Ow, all those nosy people... *sigh*

CJGODESS, sorry for asking, but what does BC stand for in this context?

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10/9/14 10:51 A

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I've told a few friends when we plan to start TTC, but my sister and cousin are the only ones in my family who know when that is. I have weight I need to lose for the benefit of a healthy pregnancy for myself and future "Baby A" and we wanted to have time to kind of "break in" our marriage on our own (first year married, we had a roommate). We probably won't tell anyone when we actually start TTC, just wait until we actually have news to share.

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10/9/14 10:27 A

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I still get asked if we are trying, been married for 6 years. Our usual comment is when we are ready, but one day, I was in a really bad mood and my MIL caught me at a bad moment so I said "We are still practicing", my husband at the same time said "the BC keeps getting in the way." She ewwed and never asked again. The only person who we will tell will most likely be my mom, but only if we are struggling. My mom is an OB nurse.

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10/9/14 4:05 A

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Sigh, everyone knows. But after two years no one asks anymore. The only way Im getting pregnant is to lose the weight first.

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10/8/14 10:49 A

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Only my sister knows that we are actually TTC at this point. Two of my close friends know that we are open to conceiving; but not really that it is what we are actually trying to do. I don't plan on telling anyone else. We only just started TTC 2 months ago-- but it's already been so much more emotional than I ever anticipated.

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10/8/14 10:28 A

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I absolutely despise that comment- "you're next". Makes me want to punch someone in the face. LOL

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10/8/14 3:23 A

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Yes I agree. So annoying. As a matter of fact, a colleague of mine who just had a baby returned to work after maternity leave and immediately one of the other co-workers joked to me "you're next". The only thing I could do was roll my eyes at her.

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10/7/14 11:09 A

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I didn't want to tell people either, but also got sick of the questions. I agree it's super personal and invasive! I tried joking about the stork, but that just made people ask if we knew where babies really come from. I need friends/family with better senses of humor emoticon

Now we've been trying so long that people don't ask much anymore. (21 months now)



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10/7/14 2:59 A

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I told my parents and my brother and SIL but only because I know they had been having trouble conceiving themselves. Also two colleagues who I know don't have children because they couldn't, one other colleague who happened to sincerely ask me about it, and whom I know I can trust. And a good friend. The in-laws know nothing. We don't trust any of them.

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10/6/14 9:39 P

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I've told very few people that we are ttc again. I don't like all the questions or comments that people feel necessary when they find out so we are keeping it quiet. Especially since this time if things don't work out soon we are just done. We are letting everyone think we already are done.

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10/6/14 8:46 P

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The only people I told were my mom and my best friend, but then I got pregnant and had a miscarriage and now his's parents know we are trying as well.

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10/6/14 7:05 P

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Yeah, I've told people. After trying for so long and everyone asking when we are going to have another one, it just kind of comes out. Plus for work, I need to make arrangements to my schedule for RE appointments, being the RE is a 2 hour drive away.

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10/6/14 12:31 P

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I hate when people ask me when I'm going to start trying. I feel like it is such an invasion of privacy and want them to just know when I tell them. Some people know we are talking about trying but not that we are. Others I'm sure know that we are trying. I have only confided in my aunt that we are actually trying.

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10/6/14 12:18 P

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Well, we mostly keep everything to ourselves. I did have surgery last November, and I told my mom and a few close friends, but I didn't state that it was for ttc later. I probably would have had the surgery anyway it if I wasn't ttc. I did tell two people, in complete and utter confidence, when I got the two bfps, but I have decided, if it happens again, I most likely won't tell any friends or family until I have better news.

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10/6/14 11:52 A

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At first I didn't want to tell anyone at all. I had lots of plans for how we would surprise our family/friends with the happy news. But as the months went by and things weren't working, I ended up telling more and more friends and family in confidence. Especially since I ended up needing surgery. In the end we still were able to surprise everyone with our announcement when the time did come.

In a way it feels like no one's business, but at the same time it was nice to know people were sensitive to our situation and I could talk about it with some special people when things were really hard!

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10/6/14 9:42 A

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We didn't tell people right away, but we ended up telling a few very close friends and family members. We needed a bit of assistance and had some minor fertility treatments, so we wanted the support of our family and friends.

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10/6/14 9:33 A

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I did not want to tell people but my husband told his family without asking me. Needless to say I am kinda ticked at him.

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10/6/14 9:21 A

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Question of the Week for October 6-12, 2014.

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