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12/8/10 3:13 P

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My husband and I have been trying for over 3 years.
I saw this thread and I thought it would be good to start a group for those of us trying for over 12 months.
I know, for me at least, it would be good to have others to support and talk to in this difficult journey. I thought other people might feel the same way.
So, not trying to steal people away from this group, but if this sounds appealing to you, here is the link.... www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/groups_i
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12/6/10 2:15 P

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*hugs* You aren't the only one. 4 of my friends were able to get pregnant within 3 months of getting off birth control (in my 6th, 9th, 11th, and 12th month of trying) and let's just say I didn't take the news very well. In fact I remember saying to my mom, through the sobbing, "It's not fair, they didn't even have to try."

*threadjack* OMG AJC you had your baby!!!!

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11/29/10 2:09 P

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As everyone else has said, it is completely normal. Sometimes I cry when my period comes as well. We've been struggling with infertility and we're not sure if or when we will have our own baby. It drains you emotionally. Give yourself permission to let those emotions out and also to avoid situations that may be too much for you to handle right now. On days when I am very emotional, I try to avoid putting myself in situations with pregnant women or children.

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10/10/10 9:26 A

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I would echo what others have posted and say that it is definately completely normal. And, if you need to cry and get mad, do it. I also was crying every time I got my period and skipped a baby shower b/c I knew I wouldn't be able to handle it. Difficulty with fertility is a huge struggle and very emotional, and it's important to take care of you and your needs as much as you can.

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10/9/10 10:00 A

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I find myself having the "must be nice..." attitude, which I hate. I can't seem to help it, but I keep thinking "oh you're pregnant? Must be nice, I'm 27 and in menopause.....oh your husband got a promotion? Must be nice, mine and I are now separated.....oh you bought a house? Must be nice I can't afford mine and have no where to go now...." Its so hard to fight the negative thoughts, and if I knew how to I'd have something much more profound to say. ALl I can say is don't give up, theres a reason for everything no matter how messed up it seems now. I thought htis was the place I was supposed to be in, but I guess not, so i'm neat for something else. And don't ever feel guilty for thinking its not fair that someone doesn't deserve it, ALOT of people don't deserve what they have and its beyond me why they can keep it when others are so much more deserving *HUGS*

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10/8/10 4:50 P

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I've actually declined 2 shower invitations over the years because I couldn't handle it. Most recently my cousin told me she was pregnant and I pulled off the excited routine on the phone, but as soon as she hung up, I cried...then I went on a run and ordered my OPKs.

What didn't kill me made me stronger. I'm a very strong soul.


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10/8/10 2:47 P

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I feel for you I too am glad we are not the only ones that think like this I am blessed with 2 but would like one more it isn't working out so easy this time each time I get my period I cry, eventually it will be our turn hang in there emoticon emoticon

When the end of the journey seems impossible to reach, all you need to do is take one more step.

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10/8/10 11:38 A

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Don't feel bad for your feelings. I've had those feelings about some mothers-to-be, even without the added stress of TTC unsuccessfully for an extended period. Although I wasn't prepared for a pregnancy when I had a suprising miscarriage, my emotional response was much more strong than I suspected, feeling real anger toward a sister-in-law who I knew had gotten pregnant at each whim. Best of luck, and know that you will have success soon, and a healthy baby because of all of the extra time you've had to prepare and the extra love and wishes that have gone into making it happen!

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10/6/10 2:36 P

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Hi ladies! I am new to the group but just want to wish you all the best in TTC. My fiance and I tried for over 3 years to have a baby. My daughter is going to be 5 this Thanksgiving and she came at the PERFECT time and was such a miracle because we were not expecting pregnancy after so long. Your little miracles will come at the perfect time too! I watched many people get pregnant and I sometimes I would babysit a baby and wish I could have one of my own. NOW, years later I would like to get off all of that baby weight to start trying again :). emoticon

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10/6/10 1:59 P

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I know EXACTLY how you feel!

I want a baby so bad that it hurts to look at pregnant women or babies and I can hardly keep a straight face or seem happy for my friends/family that are lucky enough to get pregnant. My DH had no idea that I felt that way until a couple weeks ago... he wouldn't even let me start to TTC until after I told him that. Now I am off BC and hopefully something will happen, so it is not as bad as it was about 2 weeks ago. I am a receptionist and every time a pregnant girl would walk through the lobby I would feel like crying!

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10/6/10 11:57 A

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OOPS - i guess it took me a long time to type up my message and i didn't see the other posts. Sorry girls.

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10/6/10 11:50 A

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JSHAFFER10 You are not alone in feeling that way. We were TTC for about 1.5 years when my SIL told us they are preg with the second baby (and they are good people), i just had a complete breakdown in the car, my DH didn't know how to calm me down. I learned to deal with my emotions as time passed (we've been TTC for almost 4 years now), but it still irks me inside when i hear that one of my friends/relatives is pregnant. The only suggestion that i have is, if you haven't done so already, see a fertility specialist. We've waited for over 2 years to do this (and it takes time to get an appointment with the good one - at least in Canada it does), and i regret not doing it sooner.

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10/6/10 11:46 A

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Things are good! You know, I never thought it would happen for me. I mean, I really really hoped it would, but I was convinced it would take some more invasive medical intervention. And then bam, there was that plus sign after 20 months of trying. I'm happy to report that I just started my second trimester and aside from being really tired, I feel good.

I keep checking up on this group and hoping there are some more success stories.

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10/6/10 11:15 A

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Thank you both so much. It really helps to know I'm not alone...I mean, I know i'm not alone,...I just don't have anyone to talk to about it besides the board. None of my friends/family members ever dealt with this, so while they try to be supportive and understanding...how can I talk to them about something they know nothing about?

By the way, how is everything going Hillary? Every time I get in this funk (usually once every 6-8 weeks) I think of you...you've given me hope that I'll get there, too.

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10/6/10 10:55 A

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I've done the same. The last time just this morning in fact. But I won't defend myself, I think it's only natural to be upset and heartbroken that something comes so easy to some, when you're dying for it to happen to you and it won't. Both of the announcements I got were oopsies too, though I will say that they are both good people. I'm just tired of feeling broken. I've been trying nearly 14 months too. Life sucks sometimes.

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10/6/10 10:44 A

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Don't feel bad for feeling bad. When you want something desperately, you're bound to be really emotional. I have been there for sure (as have many of us on this board). I pretty much cried every time I got my period, too. It's ok to give into those emotions (just so long as you are happy in front of your friends).

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10/6/10 10:23 A

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I never thought I'd actually cry upon finding out someone is pregnant...but the last two times I found out the 'happy news', I've cried. To defend myself a little, I'll say that they are not the most stable people I know. One is a single mom who doesn't work or get child support, therefore can't really take care of a child. The other actually tried to stab someone last year (not out of self defense). Neither tried to get pregnant...it just happened, and here I am 14 months after going off BC with nothing to show. I feel really defeated today.

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