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10/28/09 7:26 P

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A huge THANK YOU to all you wonderful ladies out there who can relate, hold my hand, and tell me that you've been there, too (or are there now!). What a great bunch of friends to have! Since I first posted, the days are getting easier as we've FINALLY set a date of TTC (June/July 2010). Of course, we all know that's no 'guarantee' of getting pregnant, but that's one heck of a step in the right direction. My day will come.
And just a side note regarding friends and their pregnancies: It's not that I want to take it away from them, I just want to have my own happiness.

"... and let us run with endurance the race that is set before us." Heb 12:1


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10/23/09 6:33 P

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I know how you all feel. I met my husband when I was 19 and he was 28. He had 2 kids already and had a vesectomy. Well we can't help who we fall in love with (the heart wants what the heart wants). He agreed early on to get a reversal and with all the factors entered in his docotor gave him like a 90% chance it would work. YEAH : ) Well thats what we thought anyway. We decided to wait until after we got married to do the surgery because I was in college. So we married July/06. In Sept/07 he had the surgery. We started trying basically as soon as we could. Month after month of nothing.... So he did a sperm test in Nov/08 which had a count of zero. This meant another surgery. He had his second surgery Sep/09. And we started trying as soon as we could : ) I thought that it would just happen. I have started my cycle twice since then and as time goes on it is just getting harder and harder. Now I must say the likely hood of him having sperm before 6 months post-op is low but you can't blame me for being optimistic. The good news is that they did get some sperm to freeze incase his sperm never returns. We have already spent 10,000.00 so far. I know our time will come, but we have been trying for over 2 years. In the last two years so many of my friends and familt have had kids. Some have had more then one. I work with teeneage girls and even one of them are pregnant.... I am now almost 25 and I thought I would be done having kids by now and here I haven't even had one. Thankfully my husband really wants this to happen, he is a great guy. I think most men wouldn't agree to have their family jewels fondled by so many men!!!

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10/23/09 6:05 P

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I totally know how you feel. We've been trying for almost 2.5 years now and it gets harder and harder. Four more friends are pregnant and due early next year and I keep asking when it's going to be our turn. We've had such difficulties TTC that I wonder if it will ever happen. Sending good thoughts your way.

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10/22/09 1:22 P

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I don't have any friends that are pregnant because right now I just don't have any friends except for a few online. This last summer, two of my stepaunts had babies. The younger one is my age: she had a girl, which means they now have 3 girls. The older one had twin girls, bringing their total up to 5, all girls. My ex girlfriend had a little girl not long ago, and texted me when she went to the hospital, after she was born, and when they got to go home. I know several online who are having kids and each time one of them brings up being pregnant, having a child and naming the child, I feel envious.

My problem is more the family pressure on top of my biological clock that has been ticking loudly for the past couple years.

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10/22/09 9:12 A

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Yeah, I have quite a number of people in my life who are pregnant as well...all with their second kid. And of course they keep asking me when we are having kids. (They don't know we're ttc and having difficulties.) It's frustrating and painful, but I am trying to make sure I don't take it out on them. I mean, it's not their fault I can't get pregnant. Unfortunately, it's just the hand that I have been dealt. My SIL is due any day now with my 2nd nephew. I am so happy for her, and so sad for myself. But, I am trying to just enjoy the kids we do have in our lives until we have one of our own. Some days...it is easier than others. Some days I really can't cope and I just need to take a break from everyone else.

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10/22/09 7:57 A

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I'm going through that as well! LOTS of my coworkers are pregnant/have been pregnant this past year. My husband and I have been TTC for about a year now and it truly is hard--it's difficult to explain to someone who doesn't understand the physical ache you have.

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10/21/09 10:10 P

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Yeah a lot of my friends are pregnant or just had a baby and my hubby and I are just not quite ready to start trying.. also a slap in the face it seems that sooo many of my fav tv shows have characters that are pregnant too!! its everywhere!!!

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10/21/09 10:55 A

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I've tried not to count but in the two years that we've been TTC I'm sure the number of pregnancies between friends and coworkers is close to 20. I really don't want that list!!! I've had 5 MC now and it gets harder and harder to be happy for someone else who is pregnant and be supportive throughout their pregnancy. And since I've (unfortunately) had to learn soooooo much over the past two years, I'm the one they come to with questions during their pregnancy. Yes it's hard, and yes it stings, and yes I want my own. But when they have that baby and I hold it in my arms all of that goes away and I just appreciate the miracle of life and say another prayer that I'll have mine soon enough.

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10/20/09 10:09 P

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I don't think thats true. My husband was 29 when I met him, I was 21, not in a big hurry for kids. When he met me he said he saw his future and for the first time though to himself, why am I in a bar with guys I don't even like, when I could be married with kids? And he realized he wnated that very badly. We have two now, and he will be 35 next May and said he feels like he wants one more before it's too late, but I'm only 26 he thinks I've got lots of time, but he doesn't, and he wants to enjoy them now not when he is too old. So I fully beleive men have a form of a biological clock. I just think men are somewhat deaf :) lol

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10/20/09 9:43 P

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In the past year, I know 20 people who are pregnant or have had a baby. 20 that I know of. Being somewhat masochistic, I sat down and made a list of everyone who was pregnant but me. I turn 30 in February - I know I still have time, but there is something about the big 3-0. Plus that whole biological clock thing...

Ladies - good luck getting your DH's on board. They have no idea what it's like to have all those biological urges...

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10/20/09 7:07 P

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I agree completely with that -- which is why that hasn't happened here yet...but it is at the back of my mind :)

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10/20/09 7:01 P

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My friends keep telling me of the OOOPS ... but I could never do that... mostly because I want the child to be loved, and accepted by both parents. But believe me, it's crossed my mind about 812 times!

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10/20/09 6:48 P

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I understand completly! I am 34 (35 in March)...and I was hoping to be trying now -- but DH isn't on board, and he is wondering if he will be...

Its hard not to feel a little betrayed. This is marriage #2 for me, and a 2nd chance at motherhood (first hubby couldn't have kids) ... DH knew I wanted kids and was on board prior to the wedding...now 2 years in he isn't sure if he does...(he already has a 16 year old)

so I wait and hope he changes his mind again....

otherwise there is always the oops!!

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10/20/09 6:26 P

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I currently have 11 friends in my life that are pregnant.... ELEVEN! I am not one of them, though I wish I was. It is so terribly difficult for me to hear all about the ultrasounds, sonograms, registering, baby names, hospitals, and baby showers. For 8 of them it's their second+ child. I just feel like here I am on the sidelines of life waiting, though painfully, for DH to get on board. And he thinks I just want a kid because everyone else is having one. I just want to bear life... to feel it move inside me, to nurture it inside and outside of the womb, to start a family. I'm 30+ years old.... TICK TOCK TICK TOCK.
(Anyone else in a similar situation??)

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