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6/4/11 2:11 A

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Great topic. If the registry would give us benefits or rights that we don't currently have (guaranteed hospital visitation, medical decisions, etc) I would do it, but otherwise, no.

I have some friends in Toronto, where gay marriage is legal (All of Canada) and they told me that though they have never had a wedding, they are considered a common law couple under the same common law couple laws that apply to straight people and have the same protections (and responsibilities) that way.

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6/4/11 12:12 A

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Susie and I have not had discrimination directed toward us that we are aware of. In hospital ers and with each other having surgery, in our favorite mostly het restaurants, our fav stores...in my workplace (for the State of IL which, BTW, discriminates against NO ONE!)...we have had no trouble.

She knows I'd like nothing better for our 12th anniversary coming later this month than to have us go to the court house and register. She will not do it. Suz was married 'the other way' for years and her ex ducked out on her leaving her with 2 small children in her last semester of college.

About marriage she says, "been there, done that."


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6/3/11 11:20 P

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I live in CA and support the rights for all to marry. My sister and her partner were wed in Vermont I think in 2001 or something like that. CA can't seem to get it done, too many religious fanatics here now and where I live in OC very Republican. This was my worse nightmare when I was younger, to be a married Democrate living in Red OC.


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6/3/11 11:10 P

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Iagree Jen, but each region or state that legalizes same-sex unions perhaps makes it possible on the Federal level.

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6/3/11 10:08 P

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We live in Washington, DC, and had the opportunity to register DPs a few years before marriage became legal. My then-partner (now wife!) and I never bothered, because we didn't see the benefit. In terms of social, emotional, and relationship support, we have been married since our non legal commitment ceremony/wedding in 2003. Legally and financially, we had already done everything we could to protect ourselves, so a registered partnership wouldn't mean anything in practical terms.

However, when DC legalized marriage, we did get married (although we still honor our non-legal wedding as the "real" one). In practical legal terms, it probably did accrue us some rights (not testifying against each other, etc.) but it was more about wider social recognition. Everybody, regardless of orientation, politics, race, class, age, etc., knows what married means (even if lots of them don't know the difference between federal level marriage and state level). Plus, we hope and believe that *someday* DOMA will be repealed and POOF! we'll be federally married when that day finally comes.

I'm not knocking the value of RDPs, because we have friends around the country who have no legal options available to all (or as in VA, MI, and other states, have legalized discrimination and denial of rights instead). But we were lucky enough to live where we had other venues to achieve the rights RDP would have brought us, so holding out for actual marriage made sense for us. But the real goal is federal marriage, in my opinion.

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6/3/11 9:46 P

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As many of you may know, Governor Quinn signed for domestic partnerships to be 'legal' (able to be registered) months ago. The new law has gone into effect.

I believe headline of the Sun Times cover of two lesbians stated that 65 couples had registered at that location.

How about where you live? Would you want to register your partnership? How about your partner?

I'm sure this subject has been touched on on this team, but maybe more people will see this post.

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