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3/3/11 2:06 P

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Another thought which might help one to move BEYOND those words:

"Living well is the best revenge!" :-)

Take gentle care of yourselves...

Don

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Tell Me What Is It You Plan To Do With Your One Wild & Precious Life? ---Mary Oliver

Don't die with your music still in you. -- Dr. Wayne Dyer

"We either make ourselves miserable or we make ourselves strong. The amount of work is the same." --- Carlos Castaneda

"You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection." --- Buddha


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3/3/11 11:49 A

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More of what everyone else said. Words are hurtful, it's true, but we all have to face hurtful words at some point in our lives, and we have to learn how to handle it. I have two instances that stick out like that from middle school and high school, where guys (especially guys I liked) had commented on my weight. They still sting sometimes when I think about them, but just like you, I try to use it as motivation rather than let it get me down. We are more than how we look on the outside, and it's important that we stay strong inside to counter moments like those. Remember, words will just bounce off the surface as long as you don't let them in. Good job using this as motivation.

"Before you criticize someone, walk a mile in their shoes. That way, when you do criticize them, you'll be a mile away and you'll have their shoes."

"Knowing others is intelligence; knowing yourself is true wisdom."

"A smile is a curve that can set a lot of things straight."


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3/3/11 11:17 A

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Words hurt. Probably more than what any of us would like to admit. The words do stay with us. But, maybe try replacing that feeling/memory with a better one. Like when someone told you that you were smart, beautiful, funny, exciting, etc. That way you think of the positives. There will always be haters out there (even adult ones) and even thin people get nasty comments. My bff constantly got told she looked anorexic and not in a good way. I am sure that hurt her as well. So it is something that we all have to deal with. I really like Fathomgreen's exercise idea. If you write them down, they are just words.

The power to change, the courage to do, the will and drive to be exceptional lies within me, and by leaving my fears, my doubts, and my excuses behind, I embrace all that lies within me.
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3/2/11 9:01 P

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It's amazing how a few words can stick with us forever. I take solace in the fact that even my skinny friends had to deal with nasty comments. If it wasn't our weight, it would have been something else. Kids are just mean like that. (And some adults who haven't grown up yet, can be mean too.)

I once did an exercise that kind of helped. On a piece of paper I wrote down all the "death words" in my head. All those trigger phrases. I acknowledged them as just words. They aren't the truth. By having them out there it took away some of their power the next time I encountered them.

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2/24/11 3:24 A

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I am like a lot of you out there, I was never skinny but not fat either. I remember in my freshman year of high school I was at a roller skating rink and had on a pair of new jeans, they were Zena jeans, don't know if some of you out there remember them. I loved them because they were fitted at the top and baggier around the legs. Well that night the boy that I had a crush on said that I looked like I was wearing a tent. I will NEVER forget that.

People don't realize how the smallest comment can make the biggest impression!

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2/23/11 4:05 P

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Hugs to all!

Some words I heard at age 15 still haunt me. The person who said them has been departed for 15 years now, but they still color a lot of perceptions about myself.



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2/21/11 9:33 P

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Thanks so much for the kind words and encouragement. I wish I could block out the names I was called and the teasing but in away those words now motivate me. I want to look forward not backwards.. :)

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2/21/11 7:09 P

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I remember that feeling of not fitting in, feeling out of place among my cheerleader friends. It's awful how others view and judge overweight people. And it seems that once we've heard it for the first time, it sticks with us and we replay it over in our own minds. Just know that you are among friends here and we are all fighting the same battle to lose weight, be healthy, and to stop those hurtful words from repeating in our minds anymore. emoticon

Angel :)

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2/21/11 8:01 A

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It's a horrible thing...and it's being brought down on more and more of us as the obesity epidemic spreads. People can be so cruel. It doesn't seem to take much before the "Lord Of The Flies" can be brought out in people.

One of the things I LOVE about our SparkFamily is how ACCEPTING and NON-Judgmental we are! :-)

Don

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Tell Me What Is It You Plan To Do With Your One Wild & Precious Life? ---Mary Oliver

Don't die with your music still in you. -- Dr. Wayne Dyer

"We either make ourselves miserable or we make ourselves strong. The amount of work is the same." --- Carlos Castaneda

"You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection." --- Buddha


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2/21/11 2:25 A

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I remember one day in junior high a boy said I had an eating problem like the girl we were reading about in health class. I remember everyone laughed and how embarrassed I was. At the time I wasn't over weight I just wasn't skinny like the other girls. I know I am an adult now but I still think about the teasing and it sucks. I wish I could understand why people make fun of overweight people. Sorry just wanted to get that out..

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