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LOL---you definitely know you want to get rid of them. I have stopped buying tshirts for myself while on vacation---they never fit right ---being bigger plus my girls being an issue, men's shirts do not feel comfortable and look horrible on me and the neckline is a real killer!
I didn't think I would like her manner of folding clothes so never bothered to try it.---although it might work well for socks. Of course, from the looks of her, all her clothes are tiny and that might be why it works for her.
Glad the other system is working better for you.

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Konmari update: folding that way stinks! But I did learn a lesson about decluttering!

Since I couldn't figure out if I should keep some T-shirts that we had gotten on trips years ago, I folded them Konmari style in drawer. They don't fit, I was just being sentimental.

So while at the hospital with DH, I asked my son to bring me some clothes so I could change. He brought me a few of those T-shirts!
What emoticon I really hate actually wearing these! emoticon

When I get home, those T-shirts are going to be donated.
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I am doing better following A Slob Comes Clean, more helpful with my current chaos.

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I suggest getting a pretty photo box to store those pictures, a pretty file folder to put the bills in them and keep that near where you get the mail so they can automatically be put there. Maybe another pretty box to put the other stuff in---all those can be put on top of your dresser stacked neatly so you can use the drawers for their original purpose. I would also suggest you store the camera cards in with the pictures as that would make the most sense of where to find them when you want them again. Hope this helps.

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Lecates, I believe all or most women do take up most of the "masters" bedroom closets, lol my hubby isn't with us any more, and I always had more of the closet, then he did and if he was still with us, I wouldn't have as much as I do, men usually don't have all that much, I don't think.

I have a couple of dresser drawers,(small ones) I would like to empty, so I can put something else in them, one has batteries/camera cards, and some etc stuff in them and another one has loose pictures, and just some other stuff, along with bills that I put there until they can be paid. so I can keep track of some stuff, any ideas what or where I could put them so I can use the drawers for underwear like I used to, don't know how those things became un organized?

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I use the spare room closet for my holiday tops and the off season of my dh's shirts so they don't get so wrinkled---I take up most of the closet in the master bedroom---LOL

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The small closet thing is the same with us. However, since we now have an empty nest, we have a small closet in two other rooms. The one closet I use for mostly winter clothes. I try to keep them hanging so they can be wrinkle free. I have difficulty with the slacks I hang in our little closet, but I do have some slack hangers I am working with now. Also, have sorted out some tops to put on shirt hangers. These I put on the back of our bedroom door to keep from getting wrinkled from our overstuffed closet. I see the main problem as having three different kinds of clothes that I use in different seasons--hot/ warm, cool and cold. I have been downsizing by taking things to God's Closet. Lost track of how many bags I took there this past year. They take household things, too, so books and decos and glassware has been going there, too. Have another box I am working on now with mostly vases. WOW! What a bunch of stuff! My daughter told me a few years ago that she hopes nothing happens to me (tongue in cheek) because she wouldn't know what to do with this "stuff." Oh, I use the room our son vacated when he left years ago, for our attic, because I have none. Most of my holiday decos are stored there along with some of my crafting/sewing supplies and some reference books. It is a small room. Though I have some physical problems that limit some of what I do, I am not willing to quit crafting and sewing --- yet!

I am going to check out that folding thing on you tube. If you go there, feel free to check out my channel: withmyharpnsong barb. There is some comedy and music on there.

Have a great day and have success decluttering!

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Same for me, Lecates, keeping things straight is a challenge. lol

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Nice! It's keeping it that way that is always a challenge for me.

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I just started folding this way, so am experimenting on what folds nice and what does not. The dress pants I kept on hangers, and my husbands button down shirts.

I also started cleaning and decluttering the kitchen. Look! A counter top and a shiney sink! emoticon



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Just wondering if you folded your pants in her style?

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I only have one small closet and two dressers for both my husband and me.. The dressers are done, but now I must clean out the closet. I have 4 empty dresser drawers now since I donated some clothes and folded the rest Konmari style.

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I am lucky, when we bought this house, the master had a very tiny closet---not even wide enough to hold a hanger properly---but the room was very big so my sons built me a 10 foot closet along one wall---more than half we put up double rods, a section with shelves, and then a small section for my dresses. So I have lots of closet space---and the old closet had shelves installed in it for folded clothes. Plus I was given a cedar armoire where I keep my sweaters and each of us have a dresser---LOL---I do have way too many clothes!

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For me, my closets were shoved so full that everything was scrunched and wrinkled anyway.

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WEll, I watched several things on youtube about her method. Just wondering if you fold your tees like that, how wrinkled are they when you pull the out to wear them? I hang mine to avoid the wrinkles. It does make sense to store like items together.

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And we didn't have to worry about identity theft or lock your doors?

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There was a time, years ago and when the kids were little, I/we never worried about that stuff (paper work) and we moved around a lot, But, when I got older, now I have too, Ugh lol

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Paper stuff does pile up quickly. on us. I have a pile beside me that needs to be shredded---maybe I will get to it this weekend.

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Thank you, Lecates, I may need to get rid of a lot of them,(mortgage) receipts. My late DIL once said when I mentioned/asked her that she just kept them for a year, they sure do pile up fast

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I shred my mortgage stuff once a year---only keep stuff for the present year---once you get your next statement that says they have said they have received it, you can get rid of it. But do keep the one that says how much interest you paid for a year in with your tax papers---they only need to be kept then for 3 years, but to be safe, I keep that stuff for 5.
I generally don't keep any cards for very long---unless they are special---but I remember playing with a relative's pile of Christmas cards she kept in a basket when I was a young child---I used to sit there and set them all up while my grandmother visited with her. Nice memory.

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Question: If you have anay, how long do you keep mortgage receipts and greeting cards? Thanks

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Thanks for the link and the name of the show. Will check it out soon.

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//youtu.be/FipZIrwtADg

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Thank you Char, you don't by any chance have the link do you.

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"Tidying Up with Marie Kondo."

There are some things on you tube, I was watching how to fold clothes, what a difference in my dresser drawers. I should have taken before and after photos emoticon

Well here is a photo of my kitchen towel drawer.


I got 8 garbage bags of clothes ready for donation over the past two weekends!

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How about youtube, is she on there?

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What is her show called on Netflix?

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I just bought a book by Marie Kondo, The Life Changing Magic of Tidying, and started watching her shows on Netflix.

The theme of the book is simple: Hold each item you own, keep it if it sparks joy. If not, thank the item for the love or service it gave you. Donate if you can so it can be loved again.

emoticon It's easy to get rid of the clothes that don't fit anymore!

I learn a lot, I tried her method of folding clothes and WOW! What a difference!

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Too funny---but you could definitely have a combo of all 4. Sentiment is the biggest culprit ---in my opinion---maybe not as strong in some as others---I really didn't feel that much connection to my mom's stuff as I do to my grandmother's stuff. She was the nurturer while my mom was not.

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MarieNow, you mentioned that you seem to be more attached to things that belonged to your parents than others are. I just read an article on oprah.com yesterday that described four emotional styles; people deal with clutter and downsizing differently based on their emotional style. Sounds like you would be the style that article called "connected," with sentiment being the thing that blocks connected people when downsizing. The article said to remember that it's not actually the objects you love but the memories they reference. It also said when you decide to part with a sentimental item to "bless and release" it - take a minute to honor the item.

Other emotional types they mentioned are the practical ("I could probably use that..."), the energetic ("I can do it all!") and frugal ("I might never be able to replace this..."). I think I have all four at once!


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No, then he would need new tools because he would not find what he needs---LOL

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Maybe if you ask him to build something with his tools he'll get rid of them. Lol

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I moved about 9 years ago and got rid of a lot of clutter then---still getting rid of stuff but it's not overwhelming anymore---now if only I could get my dh to get rid of all the tools that he never uses---LOL---I did bring home stuff from my mom's house and some of that stuff has gone elsewhere---but made me realize that there is stuff that I just need to donate instead of keep since even I don't want it anymore. But I still tend to clutter up areas that I have to attack now and then.

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It's interesting because it's the same concept as weight and getting healthy. I have been on a food plan since Sept 1 and after the first week the weight is coming off very slow. I tell myself that it took years to gain it all, so it will take time to lose it. I guess all these issues in life are a lesson in patience. Which I don't normally have! Lol

I really can't wait until all my stuff is organized and everything has a place. I will feel so relieved to even know what exactly I have. I don't even know at this point!

How are you doing?

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It's taken you years to accumulate so you won't just magically disappear everything. Don't look at the big picture and get bogged down. Look at the small areas you have done and be proud that you have accomplished that.

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Thank you! I don't know why this is taking me so long.

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Glad you realized it was time to move on. Good idea to do this where you won't be overwhelmed. Keep it up!

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By the way, we talked about going through cosmetics, I FINALLY went through lot of old cosmetics by doing it this way (bringing it into my room).

For some reason, I couldn't get rid of that stuff for years even though I would never wear it since it was old. It was just sitting there. I finally was able to throw it all out. I still felt attachment to some of it but I just forced myself to trash it. How strange that I would feel attached to it. I think it was the memories of those items and how I was happier back then. So maybe I didn't want to let go of that feeling? Not sure.



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I've been doing something lately that's been working. I take one tote or bag or "bunch of stuff" and move it into my room (where I spend most my time when I'm home.) It's my comfort zone.

So I will set it next to the area where I watched TV and go online, then at some point during the early evening, I will go through the bag or tote. It seems to help to not have to go "into" the mess in order to clean it. I'm clearing out an area in the den right now.

Also, it's helping to imagine setting up my X-mas tree in the den and envisioning how nice it will be. My goal is to have the living room, dining, and den all clear by Thanksgiving. Then I can decorate for Christmas and enjoy it for a month.

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I agree it is too much work to sell the items.
Yes, the timer thing works for me. I use it mostly in the summer when I have more time to spend on it.

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Marie, I think I am with you on the getting rid of some things,

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Is the timer idea still working for everyone?

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Hi everyone - I'm stuck in a mindset that is slowing down my progress.

I was wondering if anyone has some insight into how I can change my thought process. These thoughts keep stopping me from donating things.

1) I might regret getting rid of it (which I HAVE done in the past. I have regretted things I let go of)

2) I was robbed once and that feeling of "losing" things really bothers me. So getting rid of stuff gives me that sense of unwillingly losing things.

3) Also, since I do have money problems, I always wish I could sell things instead of donating or throwing out, but that takes so much energy. I barely have enough energy to do anything to begin with.

How can I look at things differently so that I could actually make progress?




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Thanks, Charlotte, for providing the link to the online timer. I tried it out and liked the "Alarm" sound the best.

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I use the timer on the kitchen oven. I also set a timer on my computer www.timeanddate.com/timer/

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Timer does help you not to feel so overwhelmed. No, it doesn't have to be expensive.

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Maybe I should get a timer, also, it might help and can't hurt, besides, it doesn't have to be an expensive one, Right!! So, I need to get at my bedroom dresser top, UGH!! Lol

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I cleaned out my underwear and sock drawer yesterday. Tackling the paperwork clutter and files in the computer room today.

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It took me a while, too. And I still tend to clutter, but easier to straighten up. You are not alone.

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@Lecates thank you! You are right & I've made some progress. I'm trying putting like things together in more orderly piles as well as focusing on one small area at a time. I just need to keep on going a little bit each day. emoticon

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As you slowly get things done that big picture will get smaller too. And if you feel overwhelmed, take a break and get out of the house for a bit. Taking a walk will help clear your head and be good for you too.

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I've been working in small segments today using a timer as was suggested. I felt better then I looked around had an anxiety attack because there is so much to do. I got through it & am slowly doing a little more. Still feeling anxious though.

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Good start. Bet you felt good once they were done. Hope to hear of more success.

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Thank you !!! emoticon I got a bathroom shelf done & started in a corner of the kitchen. I really appreciate your advice.

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It is because you are looking at the big picture. That can be overwhelming. Take small steps. Pick a corner, a desk, a bureau,a counter or a closet. But just one. Break it down into segments. Do a drawer or a 2 foot area. Set your timer for an amount of time that suits you--say 15 minutes. Make sure you have a trash bag, a maybe box, a bin for things to be put elsewhere, and a donate box. Only work until the timer goes off. Walk away and do something for yourself. Set the timer for that too. If it's not too overwhelming, repeat until that one spot is done. Look at what you have accomplished and be proud. Yes, it will take a while but eventually you'll see the bigger picture looks a whole lot more doable.

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I hope it's ok to jump in here. Has anyone felt frozen because it is all so much & if you did how did you make a plan that worked? Thanks in advance.

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Having a goal really seems to help. Just think how much nicer and easier it will be to clean with new flooring and how you want to see the room look afterwards. Maybe search thru magazines and tear out some pictures of what you would like to have and make a montage to motivate you.

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Yes they seem to be on the same page. They are moving fast. I know my neighbor was estranged from one daughter so that daughter probably doesn't have as much attachment to her stuff. The other daughter lived in another state. Real estate prices in this area are peaking right now, so I think that motivates them.

I wish I could start to part with things faster but it's been hard. When I think about renovating the house and getting new flooring, it starts to motivate me a little bit.


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Maybe it was already planned or their mother's wishes---or less hassle if sold and money to be split--if a couple of family members want the same thing, it leads to bad feelings---but if they really want it, they can buy it at the sale.
Yes, certain things are hard to let go---but looking at my mom's house, except for the desk there which I think I will be getting soon anyhow, there really is nothing I need or desire to have.

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I'm starting to think of some things as just "stuff" and not attach emotion to it. I'm still not making progress, but I do feel my mindset shifting a little bit.

It's strange because I am noticing how much different I view things than other people. One of my neighbors passed away and her family had an estate sale within one week of her death. This floored me because I can't even imagine doing that. But maybe they don't have any attachment to material items. It's been interesting watching how fast they have gone through the house. Of course, there's a few of them working on it, but still it kind of shocks me.

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I think giving it to someone who would appreciate it makes good sense..

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SUSANSKI, I hope your Mom is okay.

TRUEPEACENIK: That's something I need to do, go through all the easiest stuff to throw out, like old make-up and beauty stuff.

LECATES, I'm always trying to figure out what to do not only with my Mom's stuff but also with my own. I always wonder who in the family would actually appreciate things.

The whole "belongings" issue is something I think about often. I would rather give my things to people who would really love them, even if it's not a family member. Sometimes I think I should just sell everything. I'm trying to disconnect all the sentiment with the actual material item. I like to go to estate sales just to look because it really motivates me to get rid of my stuff or at least organize it better. When you see people's stuff all laid out, it makes you realize how pointless it is to save things. The problem is I'm always afraid I will regret getting rid of certain things.


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I got completely off track and haven't accomplished anything (except for moving everything around to different rooms.) I've moved furniture back and forth, totes back and forth, and so on. I have made at least some progress though. I have living room/dining area organized and the hallway is clear. I mainly did this because I had a repair man come over so needed to do it. I closed the doors to all the other rooms so he couldn't see the disaster in there.

Having a living space that's clean and pretty has helped motivate me. So I'm keeping that up and going through one tote at a time. I'm having an easier time getting rid of some things. Sometimes I have to actually talk out loud to myself and say "throw it out, just do it, throw it out" and stuff like that. It's so silly but it's been helping me actually do it.


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Good that she is giving you the important info before she does pass on---ask her to tell you what is important and why---make notes so that heirlooms can be saved---if someone really wants them---otherwise they will mean nothing. I already have told my youngest which things are important---what was my grandmother's---and he will get those things because he cares, the other 2 do not. I am already thinking of what to do with my massive village collection as I know no one will want that---at least right now---maybe youngest will find someone who will want it ---as I do want others to enjoy those things.


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I am assuming you are speaking to two different people.
I will respond to the first paragraph.
Well, my Mom is not gone yet and we don't even know if she's near the end. I will not assume that she is dying already.
So much of her stuff is nostalgic. And she has a LOT of family history things around her home. I would hate to get rid of something that she wished to give to others.

A couple of years ago she began getting rid of GOBS of things and so much ended up at MY house already.
I think she's putting me in charge of the Ancestry Albums and such. What a responsibility! She kept track of EVERYONE. yikes!
I think she told my oldest sister to go through all the photograph albums and choose which pictures SHE wanted. I guess I'll have to make room for all the ancestry stuff in my new craft room! lol




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A lot of going thru things---and if Dad is so willing for the stuff to go, I would start donating things now----slowly won't seem as bad as when after she is gone and you are really depressed.
How are things going on the moving things out?

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We are considering the possibility that my mother is near the end of her life. We've been dealing with a lot of hospital visits. We decided to remove her from the nursing home and bring her 'home' to my sister's house with hospice services.
While we were gathering up her belongings to set up over at my sister's house, I just looked around the house and thought,
"BOY! this is gonna be SOMETHING, going through all her things."
My Dad is still alive, but he mostly 'sets up shop' in his 'man-cave' in the basement and doesn't use most of the stuff through the rest of the house.

My sister told me to take a child's glider (chair) home with me because MOM wasn't going to be using it. I TOOK it, but felt guilty, lol, so I went ahead and asked Mom's permission. She said, yes, lol, so now I feel better. :)

My dad is like, 'take it! I'm not gonna use it" about practically ANYTHING in the house.

Sigh. what's ahead?

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You say your dream is one empty room to stage the remaining decluttering. Start with picking a room to empty.
One 10-10 will do, and might not be overwhelming.
Start with selling/ donating furniture, as that opens up space so quickly.

Next go for the least sentimental items, anywhere in the house.
Deodorant, shampoo, socks, underwear. Combs, brushes, toothbrushes all go, now.
All tossable, unless unopened, then off to a homeless shelter. Extra sheets and towels to the animal shelters. Coats to the cleaners for a coat drive.
The clothes that evoke memory can wait until after the holidays.

I'd personally want the kitchen and bathrooms done first. Those must function.
Possibly, I'd clear the walls, rehanging family photos and valuable art.

Are you planning to live there a while?
Or rent out soon?
If you can make it your home for a while, you can clear more thoughtfully.

I have a piece on my wall that has a butter knife from my grandmother, a mechanical pencil of my (living) father's and room for small items that speak of the owners. I'm thinking of what would represent my mom, and also my step father, and step mother. It hangs above a table made by my grandfather.

My kiddo kept a knife and jacket of my stepfather's. Kiddo got the stereo and record collection, too. Greatly appreciated, although the stereo was retired. She kept one 8-track of Steppenwolf. They listened to that a lot, together.

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Andrew Mellen organization videos on you tube might give you some good ideas. I like them anyway.

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Glad our suggestions helped---good luck and let us know how you are doing from time to time.

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Thank you all for the input. I have a plan that seems to make sense in my head so I've made some progress. I think the idea of consolidating is helping. I'm feeling less anxious. So I will keep plugging away! :)

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WHAT an AWESOME Christmas Opportunity! You have a WHOLE SLEIGH full of gifts that you can give to someone who could use a blessing!

I'm thinking, Women's Shelters, Pregnancy Choice Centers (they may have ideas on how to get them to women in need), ...all kinds of people out there could use something special!

This is great timing! You could even call up some churches and ask if they know of people in need, or they may even come and pick the items up FOR you!

What a BLESSING you could be with all the special, special, SPECIAL items that have once blessed your own parents.
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Hi MarieNow,

Thinking of you as you tackle this project. It's amazing how stuff can take over. You said the closets are too hard. Wondering if there would be a way to consolidate closets to open up one space without getting rid of anything. Just a thought.

I like the idea of moving everything to one of the rooms and then tackling a few things each day. Set a time for 15-30 minutes and see what you get done. If you find a groove, work longer.

Take care and be kind to yourself through out the process.

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I hope your parents clothes are not in the closets of the bedroom you use--if so, definitely move them to another room at least---get a friend to help---or maybe even a professional organizer if you could afford to pay them for a day of help to get you started. Someone on here did that---paid a professional every so often to help her out---it really helped get her started and got great advice and followed thru on their instructions as best she could until she saved up enough to pay for her to come again---I thought that was a great idea and really seemed to help her deal with the same kind of situation that you have.
The best advice is to start small---I think I would advise you to go into the areas of the house without totes and if there are things that are not to your taste or you don't love, get rid of that \stuff first so you have calm and peace---and maybe give you room for something of your own that you want to keep. I know I have a lot of knicknacks that my sons will definitely get rid of---LOL--and that is okay---I do not expect them to keep all my junk and hopefully, I will get rid of some of it before that time comes..

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Hi - Thank you for the ideas.

I don't think I could start with the closets. It's just too hard. And I'm an only child so I don't have a lot of family to give stuff to. I do want to save certain things but I know my Mom would want me to donate the clothing. So I know I will eventually do that but it's really hard to do that now. I feel like that might be the last part of the process for me. I have thought about just packing up the clothes for now but then I would have even more totes. So I would create more of a problem.

As far as the room, I stay in my parents bedroom because I did get rid of my old bed (so I could have room for my totes!) I don't stack totes in their room, so it's less stressful than my old bedroom. I would love to redecorate and even renovate some things around the house, but that's far down the road.

The one thing I haven't ever tried was clearing a wall. Not sure if I have a wall I can clear though! But that might help because I could categorize the totes at least. If I move all the totes to one room again, then I could rearrange the furniture in the other rooms the way I ultimately want it. Maybe that would be better.

I don't know, but this is driving me crazy because I feel like anytime I try to do this, I just make more of a disorganized mess!


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I would suggest having all those totes in one room---that way you can pull them out one by one and decide what to keep, what to toss, and what to donate. But before you can start on those totes, you do need to face those closets and chests that hold your parents' clothes---if you don't think you can handle this alone, do you have a good friend or a friend of your parents who could come over to help? I think that once you get over that hurdle, the rest will start to fall into place and you will find it easier to go thru the totes. Are you staying in your old room? does it still have the decor of your childhood? Maybe you need to redecorate and change it up so that you feel like it is the new you---the grown up you.
Great ideas to see if there is anyone else in the family or close friends of your parents who would like to have a memento of your parents. If there is excess furniture that is getting in your way, call one of the donation places, I am sure they would gladly come get items for you.
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Man! Would I love to come over and help you! It's so much more fun to organize somebody ELSE'S stuff! lol

I would say:
*DON'T put anything in the main living area. You NEED PEACE somewhere in the house. Some place where you can relax and have things rather pretty and pleasant.
* I would clear a wall and create three places to pile things- one for give-away, precious items, and throw away.
*Don't keep all your parents clothes. Someone else needs them! Take a photo of them or something to help you bear it. Or you can make a memory quilt by cutting their fabric into squares and throw away the extra pieces. ( I hear differing versions of how to handle the grieving process about a deceased loved one's belongings. My mother-in-law was told to get rid of things immediately. I don't think I could have done THAT! But it's something to consider.)
* Each day go into a bedroom and sort through just ONE box. (more if you get momentum). Remember that OTHER family members might cherish some of your parents furniture etc. I know I love having an item or two of my aunts and uncles and grandparents. Make a phone call to another friend or family member and ask them if they want something. Give them 1 week to pick it up.
*When the throw-away pile gets big enough, hurry up and get it out the door so it doesn't crawl back in. lol. And then start that pile again with more stuff.

*When that give-away pile gets big, make some calls, and ask people to see if they want anything. Then donate the rest.
*Be sure to take pictures of the special things (or EVERYTHING!)

When you get a corner clean, straighten it up and VACUUM it! It will make you feel like you've ACHIEVED something great!


In MY HOUSE, I have a wall focused on ONE set of grandparents. I've got a couple of pictures Gramma had hanging in HER house. I've got a print-out of the orphanage that my grampa grew up in. I've got a little quilted purse that Gramma made for us girls hanging there. I've got a photo of Gramma and me on my 16th bday holding the quilt she made me. And a picture of me and one of my sisters as wee girls sitting on my favorite uncles' lap.

Elsewhere, I have various family member's wedding photos gathered on one of my fireplace mantles. Another mantle I have my patriotic items, including a photo of my husband's three uncles (a marine, a sailor and a soldier) beside the picture of my Marine son's photo.

So gather up the special things and make a special display!

And remember to DEEEEP BREATHE!

I'm in the middle of going through a GABILLION things of sewing supplies and old children's clothing. Thankfully, some of the nice boy clothes are just the right size for the little boy I babysit now! How's THAT for timing!

Best wishes on your project. Stay strong, I might be coming back to YOU for moral support for MY project! lol
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Long story short........

I moved all my stuff into storage so I could move in with my Dad who was diagnosed with cancer. After he died, I eventually brought all my stuff to the house. I have not been able to figure out how to organize all this stuff. It's been several years. I travel a lot so it's not something I've worked on consistently.

I have my own stuff, plus both my parents' stuff. My stuff is mostly still in totes since there is no place to put it all. Their stuff has sentimental attachment for me so it's impossible for me to get rid of any of it. I'd rather just get rid of my own stuff but I can't even unpack it all because there's no place to organize it. My dream would be to have an empty room so I could categorize everything.

I keep moving the totes from room to room with each failed plan. I have 3 bedrooms, a living room, kitchen, and small den. 2 bedrooms and the small den are packed with totes and extra furniture. (P.S. The rooms are all usable and not on "hoarder" level but still not functional.)

Should I move all the totes into one room only and then slowly unpack them one by one? Where will I put the stuff? Or should I leave all the totes in the bedrooms and keep the main living areas completely organized? I seem to be so stalled mentally on how to proceed. I haven't even opened the closets yet because it's sad for me to see my parents clothes. Maybe the key would be to open the closets so I can at least try to fit some more stuff in them?

I would like to rent out the house but I couldn't even begin to do that now with all this stuff not organized. This all probably seems to crazy but this has turned into a project that I can't seem to complete.

Any direction you could give is appreciated!

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