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12/2/18 10:59 A

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Wow... I'm loving all the pregnancy posts! I don't really remember much. My pregnancies were both uneventful to the point of boring, but was late delivering on both and I remember being very happy to have those babies outside of my body finally! I don't really remember my weight being much of an issue. I think at that time (late 80s) there was less emphasis on how much weight you gained, unless you were putting yourself at risk.

Kourtney, I was about to agree with everyone else.... either find a new OB or tell her to STFU... until you posted that you were feeling better. I'm sure you've already done this, but make sure Mike and your doula both know EXACTLY what you want at the birth so they can effectively advocate for you, because you will not be in much of a position to do it for yourself!

My daughter was in the same boat with her OB. Two partners, one she hated, the other she liked. She stayed with them in the hope that the one she liked would be at the deliveries, and she got lucky. If she has a third, she may look elsewhere.

Jen, I am so excited for you! A week and a half! You're going to be a great mom!

Heather, what are these people waiting for! They need to just hire you already. It's interesting what you say about the divide between the finance department and the rest of the organization. As a business person, I have experience in every department except finance. I am not surprised by this divide. The rest of the organization wants to do what they want to do and the finance department has the unenviable task of saying no, we don't have the budget. It sucks. That's been the situation in almost every one of my jobs, including the one I have now! Except that now, I have to tell myself, no, I don't have the budget. emoticon

I hope everyone is having an enjoyable fall, nice Thanksgiving and all that stuff!

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12/2/18 9:38 A

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Lol I actually kind of like the BH contractions, they make me feel like there's progress happening in a hopeful way... And they aren't very uncomfortable. I'm sure I might change my tune when the real thing rolls around.

Carol, that sounds insane to me! My pain tolerance has never really been tested but yikes!

I managed to go out to swim yesterday! It's been hard to get myself up and moving, but once I was there it was lovely. So good to stretch out in the water :)

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11/30/18 7:54 P

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Lol Kourtney...yeah I know I'm a little off, but it makes sense, in a way, since my pain receptors aren't normal. I don't know if it was breaking 36 bones at once when I was 13, or if I was just built this way. I believe it was the latter because when I got hit by the car it turned out years later that I broke both wrists and one pretty badly and didn't realize it... Of course, why they didn't take more x-rays is beyond me. But maybe it's not very common to have someone not know what pain they are in...they said the same thing when they did the hysterectomy and the surgery took several hours longer because I had so much endometriosis...the doc said, "But you said you weren't in much pain...I don't know anyone who could even walk with what you had"...gee, I told you I didn't know how much pain I was in...

Heather...Can you put your foot down and ask them? Or are you waiting until you have another offer in hand? Yes,, post pics if you have them!

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11/30/18 4:53 P

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Thank you everyone for all the support!

I'm feeling a lot better since the last time I wrote. First off, my gestational diabetes test came back normal which I'm thrilled about.

I don't think I'm going to try to change OBs this late in the game. She may also not be who actually delivers (I'm in a group setup so whoever is on call will deliver) and I'll have a doula there (probably) and Mike there, so I'm not as worried about trust/support with her specifically.

Mostly what this brings up for me is my own issues around my weight. Yay for therapy? I also have been having some issues with my mood (think my psych meds may need to be adjusted a tad, which was basically to be expected around this time in the pregnancy), so I'm a bit more sensitive.

Anywho, I really, really appreciate having you guys all agree that she's crazy and I'm awesome and 10000% right so there :-P.

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Jen - so close!! Hope you're doing well :D.

Carol - who the heck likes braxton hicks? You're a weird one ;-D. Your post made me think of my absolute favorite xkcd comic about pregnancy: xkcd.com/387/ .

Heather - ummm any pics of the puppers?!?!

Have a great weekend, all!

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11/30/18 1:46 P

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Oh the doggy I found was so cute. Actually, two of them are here ready for adoption and I'd like to take both home. I can't actually afford another dog at this time, so.......plus I think hubby would actually leave me if I bring home a dog or two.

I love it here. I love it!!!! Aaaaarrrggghhhh, I just want to be hired!! Ugh.

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11/30/18 9:39 A

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Today I am visiting the ASPCA hospital and Adoptions Center. I'm already crying. It's just emotional for me to be here. I love the work this organization does. I love it here. I so want to stay.

I'll be back later with a report on my visit!

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11/28/18 10:17 P

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Heather - I hope the new job search pans out! Or, that the current one works out. It sounds like they could really use you and hopefully, they will hire a "real" CFO and figure it out.

I was just talking with our HR director and saying that I think I made a mistake coming in as a controller and not a consultant because now they don't understand what I can help with. She said that was what I've really been saying all along. I just need to figure out how to give notice, since I've hired my replacement...

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11/28/18 10:11 P

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Awww preggers, I love you! Kourtney, you look absolutely beautiful! You are ever so glowy, tell the bitch to shut up...actually, maybe before dropping her, have a conversation with her and tell her that having a first baby and being weight conscious going into it is about all you can handle. Explain to her that her attitude is pushing you near the edge and ask if she can meet you half way. Remember, you are paying her for her SERVICES. No matter what, this is an awesome time for you and don't let anything or anyone (even yourself silly) get in the way of the amazing feat of creating new life.

Jen - Can I say how much I loved Braxton Hicks? I'd tell you when my favorite time was but it would be TMI! Lol, I absolutely loved this last bit of pregnancy with all the movement and all. I'm glad you're looking for something else - if you want any help with the resume or cover letter, you know I'm there for you.

Heather - I was on Pitocin with both of my births. I apparently do a really good job of making them feel like they NEVER need to come out! Jay was three weeks overdue and so with Casie they induced when I was two days overdue. They broke my water and nothing happened - so after trying everything (walking fast around the hospital, nipple stimulation...okay more TMI) they dripped me. I had her after an easy 8 hour labor including Pitocin, so I can't complain.

I had one C-section and one natural birth with Pitocin (both births) and I can say it was all good! I have two amazing adult children (yes, they both survived child rearing) and it has been the most rewarding, amazing ride, ever! I can say that there has never been anything equal to the experience of growing a baby inside me. What you guys are doing is nothing less than a miracle and I just hope you embrace it completely. So you're carrying more weight than you wanted to...you're creating life!!!


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11/28/18 8:24 P

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Kourtney, I agree about looking into a different ob. That's awful and I'm sorry you're getting that kind of pressure about diet/weight.

I started at 208, which is one of my highest weights ever. My Dr responded by saying try to keep weight gain under 11lbs, and DON'T attempt to lose weight - if it happens fine, but don't restrict calories. Now at 38 weeks I've been hovering near 200 since August. I track my food to make sure I'm eating enough, I'm not hungry, and no one has mentioned my weight aside from it being on my chart as "pregnancy complicated by obesity"

Aside from that, I did fail the gtt very early on. While I'm not calorie restricted, I am restricted on my carbs. So it's been a tricky relationship with food still - but the weight is not the focus, my glucose readings are.

Heather, due date is 12/10 and with being on insulin I won't be allowed to go past that. So a week and a half at most!

I went for a swim today and now the pelvic pressure is heavy! Maybe soon ish... Maybe lol

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11/28/18 3:04 P

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Kourtney, can you find another doctor? She sounds horrid.

I weighed 155 when I got pregnant. I weighed 171 at 35 weeks when I gave birth. My doctor didn't mention my weight once. I should add I'm 5'2" so I was definitely overweight when I started.

You should be able to focus on nutrition, and light exercise, and feeling glowy at this point. I think your doctor sucks.

The reason I say this is when it comes time to deliver, doctors can be pushy. I didn't want an epidural for my own reasons. So the doc I usually saw wasn't on call when I went into labor. But his partner saw me, and we had met before. She suggested pitocin if I didn't start dilating faster. I suggested we wait another hour or so if possible to see if I dilated. She agreed without being pushy. I waited and dilated more, and I didn't need pitocin. Pitocin is supposed to make contractions worse. Well, I can't imagine them being worse, but if they were, it might have made my non-epidural decision harder.

I'm saying this because if she's making you feel bad now she's not building trust. You have to have trust in the person who delivers your baby. It's a stressful enough situation without your OB making you frustrated.

You still have plenty of time to connect with someone else if that's an option with your insurance, etc.

You are doing a great job of making that baby happy. I wish you had a doc that treated you better.

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11/28/18 2:54 P

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I. Am. So. Frustrated.

So first off, I'm already on edge b/c I'm waiting for the results of my glucose tolerance test. But I also had an OB appointment today.

Now, I'm far from in love with my OB. She's fine, but she really harps on weight gain in a way that makes me insecure. She's done this since our very first appointment. And it feels like every appointment is just me seeing how she'll respond to the fact that I am, in fact, still overweight.

Anyway, I've been tracking my weight every week since the start of my pregnancy. And over the last couple weeks I have seen a noticeable increase. Given that I'm 26 weeks, this wasn't terribly surprising to me. And I've been using this lovely study ( www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/art
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) to look at what is normal for women in my weight class who had a healthy pregnancy, and I'm below the 50th percentile in terms of gain.

Still, I was nervous about my appt today b/c I was pretty sure she'd say something. And she did.

Now I know #s aren't super relevant right now (b/c it's the freaking principle of it), but I'm proud of my numbers so I'm gonna say them anyway. I am f*cking 6.3lbs up TOTAL at 26 weeks. I'd say that I've been doing alright at not gaining.

Well she decided to lecture me about the fact that it was up a bit from last month. She even went so far as to lecture me about holiday eating and tell me that I "don't get a holiday this year."

So now I feel mopey and angry and also hungry (you can't eat around the GTT), but feel guilty about eating food and insecure.

Thanks, lady. Good job at that bedside manner.

And to add a cherry to the sundae I shouldn't eat, I called my mother to complain and she proceeded to lecture me on my diet and say that maybe she had a point.

Excuse me while I go scream at the sky and also mope. Mer.

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11/28/18 8:09 A

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Jen, I'm so excited for you! How much longer? A week? I hope you enjoy this time. Like I said, I planned for that time but didn't get it. I think being able to let go of control and just be in the moment helped me with having a baby and then raising a child. So, whenever it happens we just need a healthy baby and healthy mama.

Talked to another recruiter yesterday. Maybe he has something......maybe not. What I really want is this job to work out.....so I just keep working to crush it here!

What is missing here, as in so many of the places I've worked and interviewed for, is a sense of teamwork between finance and the rest of the organization. It's a long and somewhat boring to other people story, but there's a fair amount of tension between every other department and finance. I have the skills and interest to make it better. Let's hope the next CFO gets here fast and sees it. Or, someone else sees it and I get another job. One day at a time!!

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11/27/18 3:50 P

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Quiet indeed!

That's a shame Heather, but you're probably right about what they're looking to do.

I'm enjoying not going to work lol. I spent my mornings putting together an application for a position with a non profit that doesn't start till after the new year. And just generally puttering around getting things done outside the house while I can.

No real labor signs yet... Just irregular Braxton Hicks contractions. I'm kind of impatient but also enjoying the time to rest lol

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11/27/18 8:27 A

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Quiet in here so far this week!

I found out that the job I talked to the recruiter about last week is paying a good $20-$30k less than I need. For that rate, they'll get someone with less experience and less knowledge and it will take them a while to come up to speed......but they'll save a few bucks. Seems to be happening all over.......I just keep looking!

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11/26/18 9:21 A

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Good Morning! I hope everyone had a fabulous Thanksgiving holiday weekend! I had a lot of fun.

I finally had a good show and made a good amount of money selling candles on Saturday! Woo hoo! Because I hadn't had a good day selling since September!!! It's the final holiday push, so I hope to sell a bunch more for the next month!

I didn't put on an ounce this weekend, and I'm proud of myself for that!!

Have a FUN and ACTIVE week!!

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