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Ditto, Morticia! Life-long struggle with my own mom about my hair, clothing, etc. "Where did you come from?" was often her lament about me. I can laugh about it now.

Minnie - I love the quote you shared! It's so true and oft forgotten.

Everyone else - that's as far back as I scrolled, trying to ease back in to as many threads as I can so I will be resubscribed without having to go thru the other resubscription process. LOL

What can I do for myself today?

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It actually never was my style but it always was mom's style. She was one of the prissiest women on the planet and expected me to be the same. She was always in tears because I didn't want to be "pretty". LOL.

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Somehow I can't imagine that's your style these days! LOL

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Reminds me of rules when I was young. In my area we couldn't wear white in the winter. We wore hats and gloves for Easter and always got an Easter dress with matching shoes and purse. Everything was color coordinated and foofoo. Some years were pink, some blue, some purple. I didn't wear yellow as mom didn't care for it. Lots of lace. I wince when I see the pictures now. The church was very colorful on Easter. So much fuss.

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-The food here is terrible, and the portions are too small. - Woody Allen

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I just turned 50 and I was reading an article about 50 year old women this morning. It was full of rules about how to cut your hair, what to wear, how to do your makeup etc etc. I had to stop reading. It was such drivel. Then later today I saw this quote,

“You do not understand your features. Your features are not your beautiful nose, your beautiful cheeks, beautiful lips, and so on. These are not your features. Your features are your beautiful behavior, your beautiful character, your beautiful health, your beautiful spirit, your beautiful advice, your beautiful wisdom, your beautiful inspiration."

Had to share it with my beautiful team-mates!

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Excellent advice.

-American consumers have no problem with carcinogens, but they will not purchase any product, including floor wax, that has fat in it. - Dave Barry
-My doctor told me to stop having intimate dinners for four; unless there are three other people. - Orson Welles
-The food here is terrible, and the portions are too small. - Woody Allen

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Walk in the light of love and joy.

Treat people with respect, always. You never know what the other person is going through.

If the mind mends, the body will follow.

Gluten free is working for me!

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I really hope I have done that.

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Be somebody nobody thought you could be.

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-American consumers have no problem with carcinogens, but they will not purchase any product, including floor wax, that has fat in it. - Dave Barry
-My doctor told me to stop having intimate dinners for four; unless there are three other people. - Orson Welles
-The food here is terrible, and the portions are too small. - Woody Allen

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In America, anybody can be president. That's one of the risks you take. -Adlai Stevenson, statesman (5 Feb 1900-1965)

Compassion is not weakness and concern for the unfortunate is not socialism. -Hubert Humphrey, US Vice President (27 May 1911-1978)

It is horrifying that we have to fight our own government to save the environment. -Ansel Adams, photographer (20 Feb 1902-1984)



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You both have very good points to keep in mind!

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In America, anybody can be president. That's one of the risks you take. -Adlai Stevenson, statesman (5 Feb 1900-1965)

Compassion is not weakness and concern for the unfortunate is not socialism. -Hubert Humphrey, US Vice President (27 May 1911-1978)

It is horrifying that we have to fight our own government to save the environment. -Ansel Adams, photographer (20 Feb 1902-1984)



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I remind myself, as always, that "My doctor told me to stop having intimate dinners for four; unless there are three other people." - Orson Welles

-American consumers have no problem with carcinogens, but they will not purchase any product, including floor wax, that has fat in it. - Dave Barry
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-The food here is terrible, and the portions are too small. - Woody Allen

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Enjoy:
the anticipation of eating
the creative process of making meals attractive
the aroma of the different foods
the awareness of the different flavors by savoring each bite
the knowledge of their healing effects on your body
knowing that you soon get to repeat this cycle

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Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle you know nothing about.
Your worst enemy cannot harm you as much as your own unguarded thoughts.
Drop judgment and pick up love.
If you can move a grain of sand a day, eventually you will move a mountain.
Crappy choices bring crappy feelings.
Can'ts are joy limiters.


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There are still 24 minutes left to my morning, and I intend to use them!



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Before you waste it on anger, resentment, spite or envy, think of how precious and irreplaceable your time is today. Positivity always pays!

aka - look on the bright side or join the daily gratitude practice!

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In America, anybody can be president. That's one of the risks you take. -Adlai Stevenson, statesman (5 Feb 1900-1965)

Compassion is not weakness and concern for the unfortunate is not socialism. -Hubert Humphrey, US Vice President (27 May 1911-1978)

It is horrifying that we have to fight our own government to save the environment. -Ansel Adams, photographer (20 Feb 1902-1984)



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It’s not selfish to enjoy life. What’s selfish is to insist on being negative despite all the positive possibilities available to you.

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In America, anybody can be president. That's one of the risks you take. -Adlai Stevenson, statesman (5 Feb 1900-1965)

Compassion is not weakness and concern for the unfortunate is not socialism. -Hubert Humphrey, US Vice President (27 May 1911-1978)

It is horrifying that we have to fight our own government to save the environment. -Ansel Adams, photographer (20 Feb 1902-1984)



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Patience is not about waiting – it’s the ability to keep a positive attitude while working hard for what you believe in.

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In America, anybody can be president. That's one of the risks you take. -Adlai Stevenson, statesman (5 Feb 1900-1965)

Compassion is not weakness and concern for the unfortunate is not socialism. -Hubert Humphrey, US Vice President (27 May 1911-1978)

It is horrifying that we have to fight our own government to save the environment. -Ansel Adams, photographer (20 Feb 1902-1984)



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Whatever you are, be a good one -- Abraham Lincoln

This was on Spark's "beyond the 3 steps" today and I liked it so much I wanted to share it and make sure you didn't miss it!

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In America, anybody can be president. That's one of the risks you take. -Adlai Stevenson, statesman (5 Feb 1900-1965)

Compassion is not weakness and concern for the unfortunate is not socialism. -Hubert Humphrey, US Vice President (27 May 1911-1978)

It is horrifying that we have to fight our own government to save the environment. -Ansel Adams, photographer (20 Feb 1902-1984)



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Two things, more than anything else, define you daily: Your patience when you are struggling, and your attitude when you are not.

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In America, anybody can be president. That's one of the risks you take. -Adlai Stevenson, statesman (5 Feb 1900-1965)

Compassion is not weakness and concern for the unfortunate is not socialism. -Hubert Humphrey, US Vice President (27 May 1911-1978)

It is horrifying that we have to fight our own government to save the environment. -Ansel Adams, photographer (20 Feb 1902-1984)



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You don’t know what the future will bring. So your best strategy for living is to make the best and most positive use of the present

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In America, anybody can be president. That's one of the risks you take. -Adlai Stevenson, statesman (5 Feb 1900-1965)

Compassion is not weakness and concern for the unfortunate is not socialism. -Hubert Humphrey, US Vice President (27 May 1911-1978)

It is horrifying that we have to fight our own government to save the environment. -Ansel Adams, photographer (20 Feb 1902-1984)



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Ripples cause change in the world. Start a ripple!



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A quote from last Sunday's sermon:

No one can be content today if we’re mostly worried about tomorrow. In fact, the gift of this moment is lost if we’re always planning ahead.

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And that, my friends, is why we need to trust that everything will be okay. emoticon

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If you worry too much about what might be, and wonder too long about what might have been, you will ignore and completely miss what is.

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In America, anybody can be president. That's one of the risks you take. -Adlai Stevenson, statesman (5 Feb 1900-1965)

Compassion is not weakness and concern for the unfortunate is not socialism. -Hubert Humphrey, US Vice President (27 May 1911-1978)

It is horrifying that we have to fight our own government to save the environment. -Ansel Adams, photographer (20 Feb 1902-1984)



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I received this devotion as a newsletter from Unfolding Light at http://unfoldinglight.net. I thought it was appropriate to share here.


Lives That Matter


Dearly Beloved,
Grace and Peace to you.


Mary sat at the Lord’s feet
and listened to what he was saying.
—Luke 10.39

Where your treasure is,
there your heart will be also.
—Luke 12.34


What matters to us is what we pay attention to.
When nobody pays attention to people,
when they are not heard,
they get the message that their life does not matter.
If their lives matter they must first matter to you.
Today you will encounter someone
who’s gotten the message their life doesn’t matter.

You can show otherwise by listening to them.
You can hear their story, hear their heart,
listen to what they are saying.

And if it really matters to you,
speak up for them that they may be heard,
give them the microphone,
that they may bear that treasure into the world.

Until they are heard
their lives matter
only to God.


Deep Blessings,
Pastor Steve
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Source: http://unfoldinglight.net/?p=3649


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TALLYFL -- True. I don't need to understand everything. It can just be.

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Full understanding isn't necessary, now is it? Maybe it complements (as in completes?).

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In America, anybody can be president. That's one of the risks you take. -Adlai Stevenson, statesman (5 Feb 1900-1965)

Compassion is not weakness and concern for the unfortunate is not socialism. -Hubert Humphrey, US Vice President (27 May 1911-1978)

It is horrifying that we have to fight our own government to save the environment. -Ansel Adams, photographer (20 Feb 1902-1984)



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Well, I guess this might be unreadable for folks. I'll type it out:

"Put your hand on your heart,"
the old man said.
"Inside you, there is a power,
there are ideas,
thoughts that no one has ever thought of,
there is the strength to love,
purely and intensely,
and to have someone love you back --
there is the power to make people happy,
and to make people laugh --
it's full compliments,
and the power to change lives and futures.
Don't forget that power,
and don't ever give up on it."


I'm not sure what they meant when they said "...it's full compliments..." That part is either misspelled or something because I can't make heads or tails out of it.

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Thank you, Susan. We do need to be reminded of this - regularly!

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In America, anybody can be president. That's one of the risks you take. -Adlai Stevenson, statesman (5 Feb 1900-1965)

Compassion is not weakness and concern for the unfortunate is not socialism. -Hubert Humphrey, US Vice President (27 May 1911-1978)

It is horrifying that we have to fight our own government to save the environment. -Ansel Adams, photographer (20 Feb 1902-1984)



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"The person you need to love most–who most needs your love–is YOU. Loving and caring for yourself first isn’t selfish, it’s self-full."

~ CJScarlet

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What a great message! Thanks for sharing that, Minnie!

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Thank you, Minnie. That is a great reminder and, yes, perfect for a team that must always remember that we DO matter in so many ways. We need to take care of ourselves so that we can be there for others who need us.

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In America, anybody can be president. That's one of the risks you take. -Adlai Stevenson, statesman (5 Feb 1900-1965)

Compassion is not weakness and concern for the unfortunate is not socialism. -Hubert Humphrey, US Vice President (27 May 1911-1978)

It is horrifying that we have to fight our own government to save the environment. -Ansel Adams, photographer (20 Feb 1902-1984)



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This message was in my inbox this morning. I thought it was quite apt for this team. I still can't shake a nagging sense of guilt for taking time to exercise or spending money on expensive healthy foods, so this was food for thought for me,

"SELF CARE IS A DIVINE RESPONSIBILITY

Do you ever feel selfish for taking care of yourself?

In a social media world filled with fitness "selfies" it's easy to start seeing eating healthy and exercising regularly as a self centered activity, but it truly can be one of the best ways to honor your spirit and your faith.

Whatever your spiritual beliefs, caring for your body and health is a wonderful way to show gratitude for this life we've been given."

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The secret to being grateful is no secret. You choose to be grateful. Then you do it again and again. Every day. When you forget, begin again.

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In America, anybody can be president. That's one of the risks you take. -Adlai Stevenson, statesman (5 Feb 1900-1965)

Compassion is not weakness and concern for the unfortunate is not socialism. -Hubert Humphrey, US Vice President (27 May 1911-1978)

It is horrifying that we have to fight our own government to save the environment. -Ansel Adams, photographer (20 Feb 1902-1984)



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WOW! emoticon

Thank you so much for sharing that with us! emoticon

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In America, anybody can be president. That's one of the risks you take. -Adlai Stevenson, statesman (5 Feb 1900-1965)

Compassion is not weakness and concern for the unfortunate is not socialism. -Hubert Humphrey, US Vice President (27 May 1911-1978)

It is horrifying that we have to fight our own government to save the environment. -Ansel Adams, photographer (20 Feb 1902-1984)



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I found this devotion from Upper Room Daily Reflections in my inbox this morning and I thought it was appropriate to share here because it describes how our need to know that I Matter can be squelched and needs to be nurtured. The devotion can be found here:

http://daily.upperroom.org/?p=6319&u
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But in case the link doesn't work, I'll copy/paste it below.
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"Rainbow Eggs"

MY FATHER’S TWO MOST COMMON PARENTING PHRASES were, “You should be seen and not heard,” and “Put your hands in your pockets, and keep your mouth shut.” These pieces of advice helped me navigate times when I found myself in adult company or someone’s home filled with expensive items. But as a way of life, following his advice seemed impossibly restrictive. I remember feeling that there was no way for me not to be a pest, an annoyance, and a source of embarrassment to my father. ….

I see now that my father had his own tensions and troubles that prevented him from finding delight in parenting me. As a chattering, curious, irrepressible child, I only added to his stress. I tried to keep myself quiet, but that was like trying to settle a soda bottle that had been shaken and opened. When I spoke, my thoughts bubbling over, his angry words humiliated me, put me in my place as quickly as possible, and effectively silenced me. While Dad got relief from my chatter, I began to believe that I was, at the core of my being, an annoyance. This belief took its toll on me over time.

Not surprisingly, I recall with clarity and gratitude the time an adult asked me a question and listened with interest and appreciation to what I had to say. One of the ladies at church asked me if I had dyed Easter eggs. I told her I had tried to make a rainbow egg by mixing the colors together. I said, “I thought it would make a rainbow, but the colors got too mixed, and it made more of a mud swamp color.” When she laughed, I braced myself for criticism, thinking this was yet another time I had been an annoyance to an adult.

Instead she responded, “That is such a wonderful description!” And then she repeated my words back to me.” ‘A mud swamp color!’ What a way with words!”

Her complimentary observation was living water to me. Through this simple exchange, I realized I could be delightful, that I had good ideas to share, and that others would want to share their ideas with me as well. Decades later, I still cherish this memory and replay it when I need a source of hope and joy. I held onto that memory and locked it away in my heart so I could take it out when needed – whenever I got thirsty – to remember that I matter. This encounter gave me the fresh perspective I needed for a different view of myself and eventually for a different view of my father as a person with his own struggles and feelings.

– Jane Herring
One Day I Wrote Back: Interacting With Scripture Through Creative Writing
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