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12/5/13 7:25 A

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That is pretty sad although I can admit to a version of that rationalization myself. My thinking was that I wasn't interested in a romantic relationship with anyone, I didn't really care how I looked, and so why shouldn't I eat what I wanted. Or, why should I be worried about my weight?

I'm still not interested in a romantic relationship with anyone but that is hardly the point. I enjoy having a broader range of motion, I enjoy not being uncomfortable in my skin, and I have found that clothes are fun.

But I do understand a little of what your friend is going through.



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12/4/13 10:14 P

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I was not overweight but began associating with people that were overweight and I just began gaining weight Two of the ladies have passed, but my very best friend has continued to gain while I am working on having a healthy body with out the weight. She is always commenting about how much I have lost. She also complains about her knees hurting and getting stiff She is always looking for a medical reason. I will not say anything to her but commented to Hubby that it was all the weight she is carrying the knees are having a problem. She is only 5 1 and has to be pushing 300 lbs. Her remark is her only enjoyment left i n life is food I care for her but she will not take any action to lose any weight

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12/4/13 9:50 A

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Amber, you expanded on what I tried rather inelegantly to say. You are absolutely right that the "fat" allows us to hide our glory almost without taking responsibility for doing so.

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12/4/13 12:24 A

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LOL Majones ...

I definitely think it depends on the person but for me it acts as a barrier between me and the world. People expect less of you, they hope less for you, you almost become asexual, and there is a certain freedom in all of that.

It reminds me of this quote from Marianne Williamson:

We have a job to do reclaiming our glory. So what if we are called grandiose? So what if we are accused of being in dangerous denial of our faults, our neuroses, our weaknesses? Itís an ancient trick this, telling a woman that her glory is her sickness.

It may be difficult to see the connection. But to me, part of the reason to to remain overweight is to hide our glory. Part of the reason to hide our glory is as sort of a defense mechanism. It's a means of making those around us, and ourselves comfortable. So, we aren't emotional, instead we eat our feelings. We aren't outrageous, instead we are draped in flesh. We aren't extreme, instead we are flatlined, lackluster, and therefore safe.

I say 'we' but these are of course, only my own thoughts on the issue, and really ..... just thoughts that are randomly coming up.

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12/3/13 1:43 P

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This may be a strange answer.... however, my weight actually protected me when I was in therapy dealing with some body issues. In fact the last 15 or so pounds were put on wether consciously or not as protection from others' interests.

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12/3/13 10:42 A

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I could say when I was heavier I did not get cold as much as I do now. emoticon

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12/3/13 8:51 A

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Today I am wondering how I benefit from being overweight. So, I was wondering if some of you might have something to share in that vein.

How do you think you've benefited from being overweight?

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