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6/29/13 10:53 P

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I think people really need to know each other before making the final cimmittent. It might work for some people and others not. It is up to the individuals

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6/29/13 5:38 P

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In all honesty, I think you almost need to. I understand how it was before, but now with divorce being so readily available. It makes it far too easy to just walk away rather than work on issues. I think it's necessary to see if you can live with the other person. Everyone has their own quirks. To accept someone completely is to know about these, and accept them as well as all the things you like.

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6/29/13 3:16 P

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Well put

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6/29/13 8:43 A

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I don't think there is a "one size fits all" answer to this-it is up to each individual. Is there anything "wrong" with it? I say absolutely not--it is never up to us to try to decide what is right/wrong or good/bad for someone else--just to decide for ourselves.

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6/28/13 11:31 P

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I think it is really different for each person. Me I say yes and it saved me from making a big mistake. You learn more about the person when you live with them. You learn their like and dislikes,but most important you really can learn their bad habits. These things you will find out after you are marriage and some people try to stick out. This way I learned before, It saved me from just being unhappy in the long run.

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6/28/13 10:50 P

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I don't see anything wrong with it. I personally wouldn't do it though b/c I want marriage and I don't want to live w/ a man first before marrying him. I have seen so many women not ever get the full commitment they wanted b/c they lived w/ the man first and so he felt he didn't have to take it to the next level. I think it would be fun to discover new things together after marriage. I mean that's what it's all about, commitment. I'm very much a live and let live type of person, so I can't say I think it's wrong. It's just wrong for me.


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6/28/13 2:56 P

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I have incredibly mixed feelings about this question. First, remember I was a teen in late 50' early 60's, prior to the pill, so at that time I was acculturated to be against it.
However, I know of several couples who have done it and felt they did discover important things about each other.
However, (see what I mean about being conflicted) there is something about the commitment of a marriage that makes solving problems worth doing.

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6/28/13 1:57 P

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QUESTION:

Should couples live together before marriage?

ANSWER:

I think it's a good idea. I don't actually know a lot about long term relationships which I suppose is a strange thing for a 45 year old woman - but I don't. However, there would need to be adjustments and I would want to make them before getting married.

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