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5/28/13 8:49 P

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I agree with others here. Yes, this has helped me remember the tips that got me through my first weight loss and WHAT I NEED TO REMEMBER TO GET BACK ON TRACK AGAIN!! The baby steps and small changes make all the difference. emoticon emoticon AND THIS TEAM emoticon

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5/27/13 6:32 A

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5/23/13 10:37 A

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Good advise....this morning on Spark Coach the Spark Guy was reminding us of all the other things to measure by instead of just the scales...I'm rarely sick, I'm slowly finding my clothes are looser...slowly that is...I crave fruits and veggies...especially when traveling...I crave a raw red pepper...something I am noticing lot of changes besides the scale...I really crave water first thing in the AM...and if I don't drink enough I feel it in the rest of my I am making changes..I just can't give up after I've come this far and undo all I've worked hard at.

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5/22/13 10:51 P

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I have really been struggling lately myself and I hope the person that wrote this thread, (sorry didn't get your name) and all the rest of you that are struggling got as much out of this thread as I have. it was a real pick me up. :)

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5/10/13 1:51 A

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Wow. I need to read what I write more often. I also need to read what others write as well. Little baby steps. Instead of thinking of the 30 pounds I need to lose to have my surgery I need to start thinking of the next 10 pounds only. Then the next 10 pounds and the next. I don't get so stressed about 10 pounds.

Good advice everyone! Also THANK YOU to I Choose Life the original poster for this post.

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5/9/13 9:39 P

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This thread called out to me as well..reminding me to hang in there and be inspired by everyone else going through the same thing. Glad to see all the support.


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Glad to have been a very small part of that. Isn't Spark just the best?

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5/8/13 3:23 P

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I am really glad that I clicked on this link and read all the great advice that you guys have given. I have only been on spark a couple weeks, but already was feeling very overwhelmed and defeated (since I have so much weight to lose), but I just need to make small goals and not look at all the weight I have to lose. I too have to do most of my exercising sitting down, I just have to take it one day at a time

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5/7/13 9:43 A

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DON"T GIVE UP! That's the easy way out. In life there are all kinds of twists and turns, and believe it or not. . . Your weight changes all the time. It goes up and down even when you weren't trying to loose weight. So if you think about it when you were gaining you didn't say; Hey! I lost weight I'm never going to do that again. So don't give up now! Chair exercises will work. Give it time. Your body is going to fight you on your weight loss journey. That's what they do. It's what they are suppose to do. Unfortunately, it doesn't know the difference between heavy and thin. It just knows it doesn't want to loose what it has. So try not to get discouraged it will happen. Hang in there! We are here for you anytime you need us.

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5/6/13 10:23 A

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Hi: You have received some really good advice here now you have to follow it and put in the work. I started sp in 2008 weighing 350 lbs and believe me it was hard and four years later it is still hard but it is something you just have to do for yourself. I stick to the basics and they are tracking my nutrition, weighing and measuring all of my food, using the exercise tracker and by all means read the articles as they really help. Nutrition and motivation. You can't read enough of them. Oh, those chair exercises? Do them!!! Ask Beth (Indy) You may also want to check into the team 300+ as they also are very supportive. It doesn't hurt to belong to more than one.I wish you success. emoticon


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5/6/13 3:42 A

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YES YOU CAN DO THIS!!! That being said. I have been on SP since 2008. I started at 265 and I'm now under 200! I have kept the weight off through one back surgery where three levels of my lumbar was fused. I have kept it off with the need to have another back surgery from T12 (bottom of the Thorasic/ top of the Lumbar) through the whole lumbar (lower back) into the Sacrum (pelvis area)! I am still losing weight down to 170 for my next surgery. I started up again at 222 just 2+ a bit months ago. So you see you can do it!

Even I got down to 222 and sat there for a couple of years. Then my Neurosurgeon demanded I lose down to 170 before he would do my next surgery! That floored me. He was and still is pushing getting a lap band. So I came back onto SP during the research of what that commitment was. The more I learned about it the more I realized that I couldn't commit to the aftercare. So I determined I would do it on my own. With of course the help of everyone here and on my other teams as well as my friends both in person and on this site. It takes a village.

Just take one day at a time, one meal at a time, one bite at a time. Find out what your body really wants and change your habits.

Keep a journal. I did at the beginning so I could learn why I was eating like I was. Then I could work on ME. Was I eating because I was stressed, bored, lonely, angry, sad, eating the wrong foods at the wrong time for me? I've had to get real and honest with myself and really reach down into the scary places and deal with them.

For me I've chosen to eat mostly Vegan with meat products 2-3 times a month. I eat Salads, Fruit, Soups, Beans, Lentils, Oatmeal etc. I also use the Vega One shakes at times. I get tired of chewing all the time so it's just easier to drink. lol Mostly if it is in it's raw form I can eat it.

I used the site and joined up the Thrive community to learn how to eat correctly as a Vegan. Its an actual program that teaches you what to do. Brendan is fantastic and never says "you must" he only says "you can". It is always a choice. He also says "do one step at a time. Change only one thing at a time. Do not make huge changes because they never stick." Sound familiar? Same thing here at SP. Small baby steps. That's because it works.

As soon as I cut out the Milk products I realized that my stomach didn't hurt anymore. I never even realized it hurt before. After 2-3 weeks I stopped having cravings for sweets, salt and all the bad for me things. I realized that eating like this is extremely filling and very low calorie. I make all my own soups and salads. I prepare all my own food. I rarely go out to eat anymore and IF I do then it is mostly salads or veggie burgers etc. I have found I can still eat within my diet very easily.

It's not for everyone but for me it was like a light switch. The pounds are literally shedding so easily 2-3 pounds a week and I'm never ever hungry and many times I have to add more food to reach the lower end of my eating range!

So for now that's what I do. I try to get 2000 steps in a day and I do PT 1 time a week with the PT. I have a home program that he gave me that I do. I also do some of the chair exercises as well. I have to adapt them for my capabilities but I do them.

The one thing that is a given is that everyone's program is different. There is no "right" way to do it. It is always what works for you.

I hope this helps. Time to pull up your big girl panties and realize you are not failing you are learning a new way not to do it. emoticon

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Whatever you do, DON'T give up. Be sure to track all your nutrition and fitness, drink 8 glasses of water each day and sleep 8 hours each night. Think we have all felt like you do from time to time but some how we are all still here and all still pushing. You CAN do this.

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Hi, I agree with the others - chair exercises do help - you can even get an aerobic workout in a chair while sitting the entire time. This has probably already been suggested - but maybe you could join the Chair Exercise Spark Team. I've heard great things about it - the extra support would be awesome!

Hang in there - we can both make it by consistently making baby steps. Drink 8 cups of water a day, exchange some of your unhealthy foods for healthy foods, and move a little more each day. Even if it's just one extra step every day.

I was feeling discouraged earlier today because others can do more than me and this is the "prescription" my team leader gave me - I love it because it's doable! (I've changed it a little bit to fit your needs & situation).

"Here and now!
Are you breathing? Check - take a deep breath.
Are you able to exercise in a chair? Do a chair exercise video every day (start with the 9, 11, or 12 minute one).
Are you able to eat some healthy things? Great - have another healthy food.
Now think good thoughts about yourself and repeat tomorrow."

I think that's an awesome prescription for living more healthfully. The only way we can fail is to give up. Keep posting for support, encouragement and motivation. We care about you!

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5/5/13 2:25 P

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Im sorry you are feeling like this!! I think we all have some time or another on this journey...I know I HAVE!! (a few times!!) But BABY STEPS...seriously is what works!! Don't set to high, unachievable goals!! Set small achievable ones!! And yes, chair exercises work, any little movement helps too, just moving more around the house, or I never went to get the mail and now I do, or I never used to get the laundry out of the dryer Id have my daughter do it, but now I do steps...YOU CAN DO IT!!

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5/5/13 1:41 P

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Hi, I also have bad knees and osteoarthritis and I'm far older than you are. Thanks to the Team, Chair Exercise, they have lots of good sit down exercise ideas with videos and resources that most teams don't have. But, before you even start doing chair exercises you should check with your Dr. and make sure it's okay to do them. If you haven't read the book, The Spark, by Chris Downie, founder of Spark I find it very motivating and helpful. I still re-read parts of it from time to time and it motivates me to try harder. Your local library probably has a copy or you can order it on I also like the structure that being on Spark Coach, which does have a minimal monthly fee Losing weight is hard as there is food everywhere we go which is tempting to someone like me, a "food addict". It is doable but does take time and hard consistent work. Bottom line as I'm sure everyone knows is eating less and moving more. Pre-planning our meals and snacks and readily having healthy foods even to snack on such as fruit, cut up veggies with a yogurt dip, string cheese, hard boiled egg, etc. I now don't buy the junk type foods that I think I can control but in reality I eat them way too fast and that hinders my weight loss.progress Join in Team Challenges and activities and take one day at a time and do be kind to yourself and never mentally "beat yourself up" but realize making a healthy lifestyle change doesn't happen just because we want it but it's day, months, years of doing our best at eating healthy within our calorie range and moving more even if we fit in 10 minutes of exercise a day that really helps us. Treat yourself with Tender Loving Care and I'm sorry to have gone on and on but I feel for you as I've felt just like you before but very slowly I'm losing excess weight just not nearly as quickly nor as consistently as I thought I would. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon


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5/5/13 1:34 P

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I'm sorry you're feeling so defeated. I completely understand because I've been feeling the same way. Then I remember all the great advice I've gotten from the many caring people here. Some of my favorites...
"It's not how many times you fall, it's how many times you get up."
"one small step at a time"
"progress not perfection"
"don't beat yourself up"
"We're all different, Find what works for you"
And Most of all...
"Never, Ever Give Up"!!!

I hope you will find the strength to take care of yourself. At the end of the day, if we don't, who will. We CAN control the food we eat, and we "CAN" move a little more than we did yesterday. Do one positive thing for yourself today, and make that the focus to stay motivated. Keep it simple, "hey, I did great today, I had an apple instead of a bag of chips"....Then tomorrow do it again.

Reach out any time you need to, we all struggle, we never judge, and there is always help from great people who truly understand,

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5/5/13 12:59 P

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I love your user name! I wish I had been so creative when I started my account. I started my Spark account in 2009, but used it (on and off) as an online calorie counter until last May. That is when I "discovered" that Spark had a community and created my Spark Page and tapped into the magic that is Spark People...The PEOPLE!

I see you are fairly new to Spark, so I'm gonna give you my standard "welcome"...

I post this to new people's pages as often as I can. It is all my "sage" advise (laughing at myself at that!!) which boils down to: keep looking, keep trying, keep succeeding, fail then, keep succeeding and don't quit!! You ARE a Spark Spark on!

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.´*.¸.•´♥ Welcome to Spark People!

One thing I would suggest is: Keep collecting Spark Friends like candy!! It is calorie free and they always give you something to "chew on"!!

You can just "friend" need to ask. We are friendly and don't bite!

Here are some people who SPARK me! Check them out!


You can find motivation and inspiration from everyone here, even those that are struggling (because you know how they feel!!) Welcome new people, Join teams, blog, join challenges, blog, be excited, blog. And did I mention: blog? The future fabulous you will want to look back at your journey and will want to encourage others!! When the excitement wanes (it WILL!!) put down your pom poms and lurk in the background, (but don't leave and don't do too much damage) and wait for the tide to turn...pick up your oars and keep rowing.

You CAN do this!!

“Change takes time. It takes time for the seeds to begin growing within, time to understand the process, time for the growth to mature, and time for the old self to die and fall away.” -Bryant McGill

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.´*.¸.•´♥ We can do it one day at a time!!

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`*♥☆ Keep Spreading the Spark!!!

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You've taken the first important step and reached out for support. Kudos for that! Chair exercises do help. Many people have lost 100s of lbs. with the assistance of those. Track everything including food and exercise, weigh and measure the food you consume. Read lots of motivational and informational articles. They are available here on this site. You can do this. Your life does depend on it.

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5/5/13 12:39 P

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Im failing at this. I lost 4 lbs and then put them back on. Im gonna die if I dont get the weight off. I dont know what else to do. I dont know how to get on the ball. I thought I was but apparently not. I dont want to be fat anymore. What can I do? I cant exercise right because of my knee. Dont know if chair exercises really help. I dont know what else to do. Its like Im standing on a cliff ready to jump off. Help! Advice would be great.

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