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8/18/11 3:57 P

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First, let me say congratulations to taking control of the things you CAN control! For me, I know that's the best way for me to deal with any anxieties I'm facing. So good for you!

Second, recommendations. I would suggest starting by looking at each area of your life you're wanting to tackle, and decide what your ultimate goal is. Then, think about what needs to happen to get there. From there, you can take each of those goals, and break them down into short-term goals, mid-term goals, and long-term goals. Figure out how you want to define those. Sometimes short-term is daily, other times monthly. Whatever works for you. I am a lister and a scheduler, so I will make a list of "tasks" to help me reach my goal and then schedule them. Helps me keep track of everything.

Good luck, and I hope you'll keep us posted on your successes and feel free to seek us out if you need support/suggestions!

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8/17/11 10:26 P

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Hello All!

First, I will be cross-posting this blog to lots of forums in my SparkTeams, so if any of my friends are in the same groups I am, no worries, responses to one group or another will suffice. Also, I'm sorry if seeing the same ideas/threads/posts gets old. Sometimes the “small world phenomena” isn’t so much fun.

I am in need of some ideas here. I recently ended a relationship and moved from Virginia back to my hometown in Iowa. For the past year, I have been largely neglecting a lot of things (e.g. job searches, keeping up on bills, paperwork/bookkeeping, etc.) Well, now that I am home and under the loving guidance of my wonderful parents again, I am getting back on the proverbial horse.

For being an unemployed, college age (but not attending) kid with now lots of debt, emotional trauma to work through, and physique to obtain, I have really got a long road ahead of me. I am very fortunate to be getting my life back together so soon. I am painfully aware of how much worse things could have been, and how minimal the damage from all this is.

But that doesn't mean it will be easy. What I need right now is ideas on how to not completely let myself go while reestablishing myself financially in the midst of paying off debts. I firmly believe in the integration of a person's "life categories" (i.e. work, school, family, friends, fitness, spirituality, etc.) and that the best way to make progress is to make baby steps with all categories simultaneously.

I have tried (and failed) in the past to "fix" one area at a time, say getting myself on track physically. But if all my energy and concentration is spent on going to the gym and eating better, I can't expend any more on any other categories and those will eventually devolved into more mess. Then while trying to reestablish, say, my work life, I may lose myself physically again or lose other categories further.

So, I'd like to maybe start a brainstorm on ways to save money, eat better, get in a workout routine, get working, make friends, etc. Does this sound impossible to anyone? Or is it doable? If so, do you have any suggestions for those few baby steps? Be it savy saving techniques, organizational skills, or tools for keeping sane I am always open to opinions, tips, tricks etc.

Thanks very much for your input. I have loved the Spark community thus far, and I look forward to getting back on track here. I have somehow managed to not really gain lots of weight (and my build helps to disguise some of that weight) so I don’t think it should be too hard to get back in shape. I really look forward to get involved again and see what there is to learn from all you great Sparkers!

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