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9/14/11 12:43 P

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That is tough. My husband and I did that with our first except I wasn't able to bring her to work. I worked 5am to 2pm and he worked 4pm to midnight. It was so hard on our marriage but we did it to keep her out of daycare. I was so happy when I could quit my job and stay home -- best of both worlds I guess.

I understand the "needy" feeling. It is tough when your hang out partner doesn't say much, lol. It is an adjustment for sure.

3 months? Really? How'd THAT happen???

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9/14/11 11:37 A

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Sorry for my delayed response, I was enjoying a week long vacation back home. It was so nice that my extended family got to meet little Avery.

She is 3 months old now. I think my biggest struggle is that I am alone with her all day. (I work full time, but am allowed to bring her to the office, as I am there by myself). I see my husband for two hours at night, and then he leaves for work, and I am alone with the baby all night.

My husband has complained a time or two that I am "needy". Well of course I am, I am alone with the baby 22 hours of the day!

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9/9/11 11:58 P

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I like this post as well!! My two girls are almost 4 months, I give you girls a lot of credit for planning to workout after the little ones go to bed, I am too tired! I go back to work next week, although only for a month, but I am not looking forward to it. Not sure how the whole pumping and feeding thing will go.

I try to get (or am going to try) a least 4 workouts in a week, I know I can leave the husband with the babes on the weekends for an hour to run or workout, my parents help out two days a week so I think those will have to be my other two days, but I know with working I will want to spend time with the girls before they go to bed. Trying to juggle everything and still have a sense of who you are is difficult, I hoping for a better balance.

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9/7/11 1:49 P

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I love this post!!! Yes - this is exactly what I was hoping for on this board. I go to the babycenter April Birth club board and am overwhelmed by the sheer volume of posts and number of members. I like that this is a small group (not that I'm opposed to new membership) because we can get to know each other and help each other out when we need it! Part of being a Fit and Healthy Mama is taking care of ourselves mentally and emotionally, as well as physically.

I have an amazing support network at work (some of my coworkers over the years have become some of my best friends), and many have kids/toddlers/babies on the way. But I love having multiple outlets to find support.

My big issue right now is that Graham is now going to bed earlier which means I have so little time with him in the evening (after a full day of work and a 40 minute commute). Plus, I'm beginning my "travel season" at work, in which I'll be gone for about 24 days over the course of the next 2 months. I had my first 4-day trip last week. I loved seeing some of my colleagues from other institutions, but during my downtime when I was alone, I would just look at pictures of Graham on my computer and try not to cry. When I got home from my trip, I picked him up from daycare and he was mid-meltdown. He took a short nap and when he woke up, he REFUSED to nurse and was crying and arching his back. I had a total meltdown - it was like my worst fears of him not knowing me being realized. Once I came to my senses, I prepped him a bottle, got him feeding and then did a switcharoo from bottle to breast. Once his little belly was full, he was all smiles again and all was well. But I tell you what, that was such an emotionally painful experience. I like being a working mom, but I'm not loving this part of my job anymore.

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9/7/11 12:41 P

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Luckily, I'm in the Dallas Ft Worth area and we have avoided the giant crazy fires. There was a smoky haze out this morning, but I imagine it was a small grass fire on the side of the highway somewhere. It's really sad to see the beautiful woodlands and ranches that have burnt up in the more rural areas though.

Good for you Aileen, getting in 2 runs a week is pretty good in my book. I try to do some squats and pushups off the bathroom counter while I'm getting ready in the morning, but that's about all I have managed lately. Has anybody heard about or experienced Stroller Strides or some sort of mommy/baby exercise groups? If I end up quitting my job, I was gonna give it a try.

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9/7/11 8:29 A

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It's been a long summer here, too. The temps have been fine, but we've had so much house and family crisis that I sort of feel like summer slipped by when I wasn't paying attention!
Gideon is 7 1/2 months old now, more than old enough for him not to need me hourly, but I'm really only getting in two exercise sessions a week. Both runs. I tell myself that I'll do sets of strength exercises whenever I have spare time in the day, but if I ever get that half an hour, I sit down at the computer or grab a book.

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9/6/11 11:15 P

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Are you around the fires burning down there? That is so scary what that state has gone through this summer from the extreme heat and drought to now the fires. It is scary to watch on tv. I certainly don't blame you for not wanting to take him out in the heat, I am the same way, fall is definitely in the air, we had a high of 65 today -- I was in Heaven! Lol!! I signed up for the 5K Walk Your Way team here on SP I figure if I could do something like that, it is something, right? Maybe squeeze in some pilates or yoga here and there...

I am very ready for fall, too. It has been a loooooong summer!!

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9/6/11 10:25 P

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Jonas will be 4 months next week.

Back in May and June when he was newborn we would go on walks every other day. He would fall asleep everytime. It was the perfect exercise for us both. But we are in Texas and it got soo hot This summer I refused to take him out in the heat.

I can't wait for fall!

�No training seems pleasant at the time but those who are diligent will reap a harvest if they do not give up� Hebrews 12:11

Komen Race for the Cure 5k- 10/17/09 - 33:11 min
Dallas Turkey Trot 8mile - 11/26/09 - 1 hr 23 min
CCFA Rock n' Roll 1/2 Marathon Las Vegas - 12/6/09 - 2 hrs 20 min


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9/6/11 9:42 P

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Gotta love Domo -- he's so cute!!!

Yeah, I am kind of dreading being released to exercise which is funny because I was really jonesing to be able to work out again, lol. I am really considering just doing some walking for awhile since I can do that with Jacob either in the stroller or the carrier then I am still spending time with him *and* doing something. It is tough because before pregnancy and during I had my set time that I got my workouts in (normally before the kids got up in the morning) and it worked out really good. I guess now, I am still struggling to find my routine. He's sleeping really well at night -- he lays down for bed at 9 and then normally wakes up at 3 to nurse, he goes back down and then typically gets up between 5-6. I keep thinking that I could get up at 5 (if he doesn't) but it is really tough to go to bed for an hour (normally he gets done nursing at 3:30-3:45) and then force my a.. out of bed to workout at 5... somehow I just don't see that happening.

I am just not going to stress about it. I will figure it out and will just enjoy our naps together for now, or as long as I feel like I need them. I guess I could always try to get it in when he goes to bed... we'll see. I might have to think about that.

How old is Jonas now?

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9/6/11 7:34 P

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Ah yes the 6 week pp appt. Before that appt I was so excited to be able to exercise. And after that appt I was sad I didn't have an excuse for not exercising anymore. For some reason I thought I was going to have all this free time when Jonas was napping to workout and sew and clean house. Hahaha! Jono didn't nap more than 15 minutes at a time, just long enough to shower or eat lunch. I didn't understand how evening would come and I would still be in the same spot in the same clothes as when my husband went to work in the morning.

Now that he learned to nap, I'm back at work. So I'm thinking the best (and maybe only time) to workout is at night after he goes to bed at 9:30. But I haven't been motivated enough to actually try it out yet.

Love the Domo - btw!

�No training seems pleasant at the time but those who are diligent will reap a harvest if they do not give up� Hebrews 12:11

Komen Race for the Cure 5k- 10/17/09 - 33:11 min
Dallas Turkey Trot 8mile - 11/26/09 - 1 hr 23 min
CCFA Rock n' Roll 1/2 Marathon Las Vegas - 12/6/09 - 2 hrs 20 min


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9/6/11 6:25 P

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Yeah, I am kind of feeling that, too. I've actually quit a few teams for that reason. I am actually struggling with a few things now. My little man is 6 weeks old on Thursday and I feel like it is a struggle for me to get in a shower on some days and trying to do my hair... forget it! Make up... what's THAT?! Lol, I am not complaining though and I am being forgiving of myself and am loving being a mommy to my little miracle baby. Still it is tough. A lot of my struggle at the moment is wondering when in the heck I am going to find time to exercise. I am going to the dr on Thursday for my 6 week pp check up and I am very excited to be able to workout, but on the other hand, I am not. I truly think that the best time for me to get in my workout is in the afternoon, but I love my naps with him so I am not sure I want to give that up... sigh.

Either way, I am here for ya anytime you want to chat. YES this team is small, but we can all relate to each other so I am all for a good discussion thread maybe...

I am with Amy, I actually left the pregnancy team since I don't feel like I fit in there...

Edited by: A*L*P* at: 9/6/2011 (18:27)
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9/6/11 6:17 P

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I like the sound of that. I know it's been 4 months since I had my little guy but I still feel like I haven't quite found my place at work, or fallen into a routine at home, and forget about having time to hang out with our old running buddies. I miss all the chatter of the pregnancy boards, but although I still kind of follow them, I don't really feel like I belong there any more either. I feel like I'm in limbo waiting for something to fall into place. But I love this group - even though it's quiet, I feel like I belong here. I figure everyone is as busy as I am trying to take care of their kids and juggle everything else, and has a little less time now to post as often as before baby. And even though I'm online less now, I always check posts from this group first.

So if you wanna talk, I'm out here listening!

(And yes, I think we're still hip, even if the kids say otherwise)

�No training seems pleasant at the time but those who are diligent will reap a harvest if they do not give up� Hebrews 12:11

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Dallas Turkey Trot 8mile - 11/26/09 - 1 hr 23 min
CCFA Rock n' Roll 1/2 Marathon Las Vegas - 12/6/09 - 2 hrs 20 min


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9/6/11 4:48 P

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I'm having this major identity struggle right now. Who am I? What am I doing with my life? Those kinds of questions.
I'm part of a team on SP that has been a major part of my life for the past year and a half. There through thick and thin, very open about life complications and celebrations, fun and serious all at the same time. But since I've become more involved in family life, having so much of my time taken up by having two children, I feel like I'm sort of getting the cold shoulder from the members. As many times as I hear the words "we're here for you no matter what path you're on" etc., it just feels like our lives are becoming too different for me to fit in there.
And that's hard for me to accept. But...I was thinking...there's no reason why we can't begin a support network like that over here. We're a small group. We could be tight-knit, right?
I guess I'm just wondering if any of you are looking for similar support. The kind of daily chat, what's going on in my life kind of stuff that you don't post all over Spark.
This other group does real life meet-ups once or twice a year, and I could see some of us moms doing something similar with our kids, if given an opportunity.
Just a thought. I know this group has been quiet lately, but I had to throw this out there. I'm lonely.

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