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5/29/14 12:46 A

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Fitkris, thanks for the virtual iced tea and LC cheesecake! It would be interesting to get us all together in the same room... LOL

My house is very quiet - Chaser always arranged to sit or lay in a comfortable place where he could keep his eyes on me. Even when his eyebrows grew out and I couldn't see his eyes I knew he was following my every move. He knew I rescued him but he also knew he was my little rock.

Tonight I took the dentist client's (soon to be former client!) front counter people out for Mexican food. They are fun and have been a huge help to me, and I know I helped them too. Their boss is a narcissistic nutbag with moments of good behavior. LOL It was fun to hang out with them and on the way home I realized that I didn't have fleeting thoughts of getting home to make sure my dogs were okay. *sigh* It was a good evening and though I had a few too many chips, I feel like I got back something that has been missing - a social life!

Leslie

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"Imagination is more important than knowledge. Knowledge is limited. Imagination encircles the world." --Albert Einstein
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5/28/14 10:46 P

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We had a trust done about 15 years ago. But given the way things are turning out we are fussing about wanting to get in there and change it. But at the same time, not wanting to change it. Dilemma!!!!! an unpleasant one, at that!

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5/28/14 10:20 P

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We did wills, living wills, power of attorney, etc. many years ago (about 30 yrs ago) and thank heavens we did that. My dh died suddenly 22 years ago (he was only 59) with an aneurysm - without that living will he might still be on life support somewhere. We did not have cemetery plot or anything like that though at that time. When he was buried, I got a double plot and planned to be buried beside him - however, I choose to be cremated, so I need to talk to the cemetery and find out what my options are. We both want/wanted organs donated as well.

It is never too soon to make your plans - we all know our families going to need them one day, we can't stick our head in the sand and pretend we aren't going to die. It's inevitable..

Now, I'm working on getting my house and "things" de-cluttered so that my kids won't have to do it someday..



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5/28/14 7:57 P

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DH and I have had a will since our first child. We had it updated about 5 years ago by an attorney, along with living wills and power of attorney. We wanted to be sure our kids were raised by my brother and sister in law and the only way to be sure of that is to put it in writing. We haven't done any funeral planning yet.

Came home from work so tired that I laid on the couch for a while. Then realized I also have a massive headache. Hoping it goes away soon because Feisty Pants is in desperate need of a walk, she hasn't had one for a couple days and is just wild, running around the house.

Debb, so good to see you checking in. Leslie, I've been thinking about you a lot and how quiet your house must seem now. It seems a lot of us need a little pick-me-up. Do something special for yourselves tonight or tomorrow - buy some flowers, take a bubble bath, do something that is just for you. Wish I could have you all over for some iced tea and LC cheesecake. {{Hugs}} to all. Here is a virtual get together:
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5/28/14 5:48 P

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Leslie, one thing I learned about cremation is that the 'cemetery' needs a 'cremation certificate' from the State of crematorium.

Maw, you have lots of knowledge & experience. I've helped two of my friends last year with final expenses. I couldn't believe the expense to get to a cremation.

I forgot to ask the guy how much it cost to dig, fill & sod.

Leslie, I hear that several people have their pets' ashes entombed with them. It seems reasonable. I 'get it' that the invisible sister (for me it would be brother) . . . .so funny.

Hugs to Surround Us All as a Group! Connie, in WI
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5/28/14 5:29 P

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I should probably update mine, my soon-to-be-married daughter was a baby when I made it. It's not complicated, but I probably don't need to designate a guardian for her anymore.

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5/28/14 5:15 P

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i've been trying to get my dh to do the wills with me for a few years now. it hasn't been done and if i let it, it can make me crazy. we do have complex details in our lives and it wouldn't be good on either end, if one of us croaked tomorrow. emoticon



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5/28/14 1:56 P

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Happy Hump Day, y'all... I don't think it's at all morbid to plan for end of life issues and to get all that stuff in order. I need to do that myself. I did a DIY will a few years ago, but I want to have an attorney do it right. I also think I want to go to a local cemetery/mortuary and prepay something. I have the ashes of my cat and five Schnauzers and I want their ashes buried with mine - in a wall thingy, not the ground. I'm very claustrophobic! I have absolutely NO family to rely on, though I am certain my invisible sister and her kids would show up to find out what they inherited within a day or so of my departure. I want that issue resolved ahead of time. It's on the list...

The construction is ongoing in the office and the new bathroom upstairs and just a few short feet away from my office door is getting it's own door. There's thumping, bumping, drilling, and crashing noises coming from all over. It will look much more professional and efficient when done, but I have doubts about parent company expectations. They think that putting everyone in the same room together will improve communication. I tend to think good communication is based on intent, effort, and good listening skills, and not working inside a freakin' beehive but what do I know?! *sigh* I suspect that restructuring will be preemptive to a few resignations. Hopefully, one will be mine! LOL

Debb, I'm in the same boat - feeling fat, defeated, depressed, and stuck. I know I'm not and I know I'm still grieving the loss of my fur kids, the realization that this job is stifling, and really not having much of a sense of direction going forward. I know that one step at a time (getting my tax return filed and paid was huge) will lighten my load and relieve pressure so I have more attention to put elsewhere, but still there's a cloud. It is really hard to eat right when it requires conscious thought and planning. Lame, but true. :)

Leslie

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5/28/14 11:43 A

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I did estate and trust work for many years as a CPA. We talked about end of life matters in my family. I didn't have a real Will because I had basically no assets, but I'd given my parents a letter about what I wanted. I thought out my plans and talked to an attorney and had them all put on paper and ready to sign. I was amazed at how hard it was to sign the papers! We had talked in estate planning classes about the feeling that many people have that they won't die as long as they don't have a Will, and I accepted that other people felt that way, but not me. Surprise! There was something final about signing the papers. However, that was probably 20 years ago, so it wasn't terribly final.

I helped Dad with their estate planning (Mom has always refused to discuss the matter), which was helpful when he died. I knew how their finances were set up (Mom won't touch the investments or taxes - that was Dad's department and she refuses to deal with them even though she's very capable) and I knew where his plans for his funeral et al were. It made it so much easier, and I was able to take care of everything for Mom. And I know how things are to be handled when she dies, though she won't talk about funeral wishes. She told Dad years ago that she didn't want a funeral, which he figured meant she just didn't want to think about it.

I've been responsible for planning the funerals for a great aunt, an aunt, and Dad. Dad and Aunt Helen had things pretty much planned out. Great Aunt Kay didn't. It was so much easier for Dad and Aunt Helen. I have mine planned out, too, or at least suggestions.

I truly do not think it is at all morbid to think or talk about Wills and trusts and funeral planning and such. Having these things done is the last gift you can give your friends and family.

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5/28/14 10:21 A

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Connie- Well, that certainly doesn't sound like ANY fun….either the city or the will!!!!! You will be glad to be done with both! I am proud of you for organizing your affairs. So often, it is so difficult for those left behind to figure things out. They will be thankful… (even though there will be those that didn't agree with your choices….laughing)
MAW- enjoy your friends!
Debb- I challenge you to eat low carb Today, just Today!!!!!

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5/28/14 9:19 A

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Maw, I LOVE it when friends stop by to chat. Have FUN!

I'm dealing with the City re: the new concrete I want to add to the front of my home. Seriously, so much bureaucracy. One area sends me to another area. Then that area tells me 'they' gave me the wrong form. I share that an inspector has already been to my hhome. 'They' can't find his report. Yesterday afternoon I asked the Building Inspector to please gather all parties involved, use my situation as a learning tool, and help train 'them' so that it's easier for the next person. He said he'd have a meeting, talk to the man who did the inspection and he will get back to me before they close today. Sheeeeeeeeeeesh! I trained customer service for decades. I commended him that everyone stayed civil and polite and that better information was needed.

I'm updating my Last Will and Testament today. I updated my Requests for Final disposition of my body, etc. yesterday. Whewwww! I know, it's morbid . . . but . . necessary. I've talked with the Club where I'm employed. I want my Celebration of Life held in the Banquet room with loud up beat music. (I may have posted this a couple weeks ago. Sorry for repetition.) It all has to be in writing. So now it is and it's on my bulletin board along with my Living Willl to cut life support. LOL! It has to be in writing. I'll update the Doctor's copy next week at the time of my physical.

I'm traveling to my hometown this weekend to look at the Headstones. I've talked to the City Clerk and the 'keeper' of cemetery and have more information. I put the instruction in the Request of Final Disposition. Lots of information and LOTS of steps. I'll have the entire thing put together and then put it to REST. It is DEPRESSING as well as a WAKE UP call.
Breathe in . . . breathe out . . . I'm still breathing but need to put it to rest. My sister died in November and THAT was a MESS. Nothing in writing, nothing laid out . . . It was a wake up call for me. She was 3 years younger than myself.

I teach arthritis in warm water tonight and I get to enjoy the water also. This is the only class where the class invites me into the water. AAAAAaHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!

Food??? Moderate . . . . Rain??? LOTS . . . . Madison downtown streets were flooded yesterday. People still attempted to drive thru the water. Vehicles stranded in the water.

Up and READY to shake . . . rattle . . . and roll! YIPPPEEEE!

Hugs to Surround Us All as a Group! Connie, in WI
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BUDGETMAW Posts: 11,856
5/28/14 9:12 A

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You and me both, Debb! You and me both.

I'm glad you're back, anyway, and hope you get to feeling better soon.

How is your new house working out?

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5/28/14 9:01 A

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Been having a really tough time lately, as you can guess by my absence (more like lurking). Have gained a load of weight back -- yet again.

I just can't seem to get back on track. Part of me is fed up, upset, uguilt-ridden, etc, and part of me just doesn't give a you-know-what. through all this, I feel fat, ugly and miserable....not only physically, but even moreso psychologically and emotionally.

But I am back here at least.

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5/28/14 8:55 A

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Why is it that whenever there is high stress I crave CARBS (chocolate, bread, etc.)? I just need to learn to control or handle the stress to help with a lower carb intake.

My name is Jeanne (pronounced Jean ee); I live in eastern Washington State.


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5/28/14 7:14 A

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Not a lot going on here today. I'll pick up a new cat/kitten today. I took the last one back yesterday and the guy in charge of the foster program wasn't there to give me a new one. I talked to one of the women who works in the Special Care Unit and she said that there are at least two that could use a temporary home. One isn't eating (I sure wish that would rub off on me!) and the other has an eye infection. Or Virgil may decide one of the others needs to be lavished with love for a while.

This afternoon a couple of friends are coming over for tea/coffee. We've met in a coffee shop before, but I decided to have them here instead. I'll have iced tea and lemonade made, and coffee and hot teas available if they prefer. Mostly it's just to chat.

Other than that, mostly just cleaning up so I'm ready for the cat and the friends. I especially want to finish the vacuuming before picking up the cat. It does seem to freak them out!

Happy Hump Day!

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