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5/27/07 7:19 P

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hi SHOO, thank you for the nice words. Yes, I did make it with out her. She had never been in my life anyway. Ever since we wer kids she's hated me. But I thought almost dying would bring her back. yeah right. lol so what. She can go to .....
So you have a wonderful holiday weekend ok? Sher emoticon

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5/26/07 8:17 P

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Hi Jackie. Hi Sher. It's nice to meet you but I wish we were meeting on a different Sparkteam. Sher, I'm sorry your sister was so very unsupportive and downright nasty during your ordeal, but from the sounds of things, you got through it just fine without any support from her. Jackie, From what I've heard, IBC is more like colon cancer in some ways than it is like breast cancer. I don't know what the similarities are, but that's what I've heard. I'm so very sorry that your mother has colon cancer and I hope they annihilate every single last one of those nasty little cancer cells during her surgery.
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5/26/07 6:39 P

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HI MISS..and Shoogah... you are exactly right. When I had cancer my husband took care of me and worked full time. He was so scared I wasnt gonna make it he would be bymy side every minute. After about 2 weeks after my final chemo, my husband had a heart attack. And he lost hi job the week before because he needed to be with me and his work said bye bye. So yes, please take care of your self when your a caregiver.
My husband was my support, my crutch my everything. With out him, I dont think I would have made it. But the strees of watching me go throught he cancer, then My hair fell out, oh my It was horrible. But he made me strong. I told my daughter and son to go on with there lives. I was happier knowing they did the same thing no matter if I was sick or not. Thats what made me get through this. I didnt want to be babbied, but times I did..lololol
So your wonderful to be there for your sister like that. Sher emoticon

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5/26/07 4:24 P

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Good Afternoon Shoogah! Im glad you are here! My mother was recently diagnosed with colon cancer. She is schedulled for surgery a week from Monday. The ladies on this team have been so helpful and supportive in the short time I have been here. All I want to say is make sure you take care of yourself while you are caring for your sister. Many have told me that I can be of no good to my mother if I do not take care of myself first ! Stay focused and be good to yourself!
Hope you have a wonderful weekend and Im here if you want to talk!
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5/25/07 7:51 P

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Hi SHOOGAH, welcome emoticon
I'm so sorry to hear about your sister. Here I am saying sorry when I hate those words. I had cancer too, when I tell people they look funny and say I'm so sorry. It tears me apart to here those words because with today's modern technology, the word Cancer does not mean a death wish. When I was diagnosed 2 years ago at age 54, I was in college. I wanted to die when I heard that word, "cancer". But you know what? I did everything the doctors told me to do, they removed 2/3rds of my right lung, then I dealt with the degrading chemo and I fought like hell, I was positive, actually I call it a Positive Mental Attitude, and look at my outcome, I'm a survivor. So you never know today. So please tell your sister I'm here for her amnd also for you. I wish my sister felt that way about me. She never came to see me when the doctors didnt know if I would make the surgery, she never came to me to hug me and sayI'm so glad your alive. My dad passed 3 years ago from lung cancer, and my brother passed 10 months ago from lung cancer. I made it. My brother knew he had cancer 3 years before he went for help. He didnt even tell anyone he had cancer. He thought it would just go away. So his cancer matastisized to all his major organs. So, to make a long story short, My so called sister told me to my face TWICE THAT SHE WISHED I HAD DIED AND NOT OUR BROTHER. So your sister is so lucky to have a sister who will be by her every minute. your a good person. Be there for her ok? Let her go through her emotions as they come up. I had to. cancer patients need to express what ever is on their mind. Sometimes I got mean to my husband but it was because I was so scared. So your sister has the right attitude towards this. She has to keep a Positive Mental Attitude.
I'm so glad to have met you.Lease contact me when ever you need to talk ok? I will always be here. I will add you to my friends ok? Sher emoticon

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5/24/07 2:32 P

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This is my first post on this team. My sister, who is 22 years younger than I and lives in a different state, has IBC. Most of you have probably never heard of it and neither had I until my sister was diagnosed with it. IBC usually does not show up on mammograms and usually grows in nests instead of lumps. It's also considered to be the most rare, most aggressive, and the most lethal of the breast cancers and there are a couple documented cases of females as young as 12 getting IBC. Like most cancers, early detection is the key, but frequently doctors misdiagnose it. IBC can appear as a rash, an infection, pain in the breast, swelling, redness, and/or a change in the breast skin giving it the appearance of orange peel. Due to the cancer, my sister also has lymphedema. She recently had a mastectomy and learned there is also lymph node involvement. The next step is more chemo and then radiation therapy. Our mother died from ovarian cancer when my sister was quite young and on some level I feel like I'm reliving a horrendous nightmare. My sister's outlook is positive and cheerful and hopeful and I will see her through this no matter what direction it all takes. For those of you who have never heard of Inflammatory Breast Cancer, please educate yourselves. Had my sister known about it, she wouldn't have gone undiagnosed for several months and the odds of her beating it would be considerably higher.
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