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10/22/09 11:27 P

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Thank you so much everyone.

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10/22/09 5:27 P

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I am so sorry about your mom. Really, there is never a good time to lose a loved one, but this is a very hard time for you. Stay strong, take care of yourself. Make a book of memories of your mom to share w/your child some day when they are older. I know what you mean, our family lost a 28 year old to cancer w/in the past month and it's never easy. I am sure if she was so strong, she probably passed some of that on to you. One of my best friends mom's died while she was pregnant with her second baby. It was hard for her, but she got through it. Ask for support if you need it or help when you need it. Really. Don't neglect yourself. Take one day at a time and focus on the positives... even though its hard... you will get through this! If you need anything, just ask!
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10/20/09 3:38 A

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Can't tell you how sorry I am to hear of your loss but from the sounds of the way the cancer had spread, I doubt she would have lived much longer regardless of what the doctor did or didn't do, especially since it had hit the heart.

My mother died in 1987 and also had an aggressive cancer. She first went to a D.O. who took x-rays and said all she had wrong was osteoarthritis, then told her to take calcium and when she asked which would be best, he said any of them would do. Not true. You need vitamin D to absorb calcium so that right there angered me. But sadly, she had lots of pain in her neck that went down her right arm. If he had looked at the x-ray better, he would have seen a tumor was pushing into the C3, almost breaking !! She went to my doctor, finally, who said it had already spread to her liver and bones ~ I knew at that point we had to just treasure each day. She went in the hospital on Dec 8th 1986, had the tumor removed on Dec 18th and died on March 1, 1987... yes, it seems like just yesterday and yet it seems like a hundred years ago.

And like Jiacolo, I pushed myself so hard to care for mom and others, I ended up coming down with Epstein Barr Virus and suffered for 5, horrible years with it and still have problems today (also have post polio problems). My problem was I stayed in denial, pretending like everything was normal and not actually dealing with everything that was going on and what would happen ~ that I would lose her sooner than I ever dreamed.

I know your heart aches and you have many things on your shoulders right now but something tells me you are very much like your mother, you just haven't tested your wings yet. Now the time has come to fly and lead the flock like she did, so follow her example and do your best ~ and don't beat yourself up when you make mistakes because none of us are perfect. Be there for your dad and help him through the transition but don't forget to take time for yourself so you can relax and unwind and reflect on things.

God be with all of you during these difficult times but know in your heart of the true love your mom had for everyone, cherish all the beautiful memories, cry when you need to cry (relieves stress) and do her proud as you work hard and set a good example, just as she did. Keeping you in prayer.

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10/18/09 11:30 A

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I am sorry you lost your mom. It is always hard losing someone you love, but losing your mom is very difficult. Take the time to take care of yourself. When my mom passed I had this need to take care of everyone else and ended up paying for it with my health. You are in my thoughts.

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10/12/09 3:04 P

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Oh! my dear child, I am so very sorry about your mother.

I feel for your Dad too, it is so difficult to lose your life partner and so suddenly too.

I pray the blood of Jesus over your family that you may all be given the peace that surpasses all human understanding.

God Bless.

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10/12/09 1:34 P

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Take good care of yourself, dear! You are dealing with so much right now with the loss of your Mom and this tiny baby depending on you. Thinking of you, Rose emoticon

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10/12/09 11:49 A

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I am so sorry to hear about your Mom's passing. I can understand about the oncologist. After my mom's last appt in July, he basically said nothing more could be done and would not make another appt. He said that if she needed him to call.

Please know that my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. And even though your mom is no longer with you, you will have your memories of her and that will help with your own sweet baby!

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10/12/09 11:21 A

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My mom passed on Friday. It had only been 3 weeks since her diagnosis of soft tissue sarcoma. It was just too far along when they caught it and she had a bad reaction to her one chemo dose. She had been diagnosed on Friday, started chemo on the following Tuesday, and had swelled on Weds/Thurs...and they sent her home with a medicine for swelling and no chemo. Her doctor seemed pretty careless. On Friday, one nurse finally insisted she go to the ER. I don't want to go anymore because I don't want to seem like I'm slandering her oncologist, but I was up in that hospital room everyday for two weeks and I NEVER saw him. Not once. Neither did any of my family members. I really think it was his carelessness that lost her a few more months of her life. Her cancer was really aggressive and had spread throughout her muscle tissue, heart, and lungs so it was a matter of time from the get go.

I feel so lost right now. I just had a baby two months ago and am so scared to be a mom without my mom to help. My dad is completely lost as my mom took care of everything. She was truly a super woman. She gave her whole life to others, especially children. :( I miss her so much.

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