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6/17/09 4:48 A

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Velvet, your story hits home. My mom was diagnosed with lung cancer in 2007 at 50 years old. It came as a total shock to us as she has been a life-long non-smoker. In fact, no one in my family has ever touched a cigarette let alone smoked. I thought lung cancer was a smoker's disease. WRONG!

In Feb 2008 she had her entire left lung removed along with surrounding lymph nodes. She recovered very quickly, was in good spirits, and we all believed she could beat it. But, by June of that year we found the cancer had spread to her bones. By that point, her left femur had been eaten away by the cancer almost completely. It was devastating. She had surgery to repair and stabilize her leg, but that marked a progressive downturn in her condition.

She is now at the end of her battle. Words cannot express the roller coaster of emotions I feel on a day-to-day basis. I'm here, however, to get myself healthy and strong so that I can be there for my little girl for many years to come.

For all those touched by this horrible illness in some way - Stay strong! Thank you for your support.

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5/27/09 5:43 P

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My Mom goes in on Friday to get an ultrasound and mammogram. I will be on my way to Tulsa, and it just makes my heart sink that I won't be there with her.

Angie...14.7 pounds lost so far

I need to take control of my weight!


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5/27/09 2:18 A

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Really sorry to hear you two are having to go through this. I remember when my mother was diagnosed, I seem to be in a daze as I tried to stay happy and upbeat around everyone even though I knew she wasn't going to make it or live long. She was diagnosed in Dec 1986 and died on Mar 1 1987 and I still miss her terribly, even today, after all these years.

Then my dad was diagnosed with cancer in Jan 1993 and died Jun 29 1993 ~ both my parents were smokers and both started with lung cancer which spread to my mother's liver and bones. My dad's whole right lung was gone by the time I could force him to the hospital so who knows how long he had it before he got there.

There are several steps of emotion you will deal with. Anger, confusion, anger, helplessness, frustration, anger, denial and more, just deal with them as they come and do your best with them. If you can, join a support group where you can get with others who can help you through this. The best way to deal with it is to talk about it and get it out or it eats you up inside and don't be ashamed to cry. You need those tears to help cleanse you as you deal with all the emotions that assault you every day.

I admire you for doing the relay and hope it goes well but can't say I have any advice on how to stay up those hours ~ lol Since I retired on disability (I have post polio, fibro and osteoarthritis) in 2000, my days and nights have been mixed up but I've always been sort of a night owl, although I always worked first shift jobs.

Will be keeping both of you in prayer. Please post an update when you can and let us know what y'all learn. My husband was diagnosed with prostate cancer last Sept, right after our 5th wedding anniversary, so we were on a roller coaster of emotions and fear. He had the robotic laproscopic surgery and so far, his PSA tests have beenc oming back very low and we hope and pray that will continue.

Research all you can and look for answers for you and for your parents. Call Cancer Hospitals and talk with them for advice. Do all you can and know that no matter what happens, you did your best.

God bless and give you the strength and wisdom to get through each day.
~Carol

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5/26/09 5:14 P

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I hope so too, but I am sure today will just be lets biopsy it and see what it is. I HATE waiting.

Angie...14.7 pounds lost so far

I need to take control of my weight!


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5/26/09 5:07 P

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I hope your mom hears some good news from the dr.

-Jenn
The world ain't all sunshine and rainbows. It is a very mean and nasty place and I don't care how tough you are it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain't how hard you hit; it's about how hard you can get hit, and keep moving forward. How much you can take, and keep moving forward. That's how winning is done. Now, if you know what you're worth, then go out and get what you're worth. But you


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5/26/09 5:05 P

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My Mom just found a lump in her armpit...she goes to the doctor today to see where to go from here. I hope that I never have to do a relay for life for my Mom...but if anything ever happens to her because of this lump...I am going to do anything I can to spread awareness

Angie...14.7 pounds lost so far

I need to take control of my weight!


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5/26/09 4:43 P

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My dad was diagnosed with skin cancer in 2003. He has been doing well since, but this past year it came back and has spread to other parts of his body/organs.
I really dont like to talk about it so this is quite hard for me to do. After so many years its still hard for me to accept and I still feel like Im stuck in the denial stage.
It kills me knowing that I cant do anything to take this away from him; and every other person who has to deal with this disease.

This June 5th Ive decided to take part in the Cancer Society Relay for Life at the Civic in Oshawa. I've joined the team "KX96 Cardio Core Bootcampers". This is my way of supporting him and everyone else affected with cancer. Its also my way of being strong for him, myself and my family, and maybe a way to get myself over the fear of cancer. I have trouble dealing with it emotionally, so maybe I should deal with it physically.

I just collected donations for the Heart & Stroke, and while that organization is important to me (since my grandma had a heart attack a few years ago) this one touches me deeper, in a different way.

Has anyone ever taken part in this event before?
I'm really excited about this, but also anxious. This is my first time. I also joined a team where I don't know anyone on it.
Do you have any advice to keep me going from 7pm-7am? I'm not a night person at all.

I try to remember that cancer is a word, not a sentence.

-Jenn
The world ain't all sunshine and rainbows. It is a very mean and nasty place and I don't care how tough you are it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain't how hard you hit; it's about how hard you can get hit, and keep moving forward. How much you can take, and keep moving forward. That's how winning is done. Now, if you know what you're worth, then go out and get what you're worth. But you


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