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2/19/09 8:12 A

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2/19/09 1:14 A

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the surgery went great! So far they said her lymph nodes didnt have it but they are still gonna run some other tests with it. im sooo happy and relieved though! emoticon

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2/18/09 1:03 P

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emoticon emoticon Hope things went well today! We're here for you so please continue to post. It's tough, I know. Lost my Dad, youngest sis, and favorite Aunt from cancer. emoticon

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Everything you've ever wanted is one step out of your comfort zone.

The food you eat can be either the safest and most powerful form of medicine or the slowest form of poison. Ann Wigmore

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So i just found out about 3 weeks ago that my mom has cancer. Im so scared. tomorrow i gotta be at her place at 5am so we can take her for surgery, but i cant sleep. They are gonna see if her lympth nodes are infected.. i feel so clueless with this cancer thing, but i know that this is real bad if its in her lympth nodes.. i dont want to lose my mom. shes my best friend. shes my world. i wanna scream my head off right now.. i also just want to run to her and hug her so tight and never let go! i want her to hold me like she did when i was young and upset about something.. but i cant do this because she is so scared herself. i need to be strong and very optimistic.. for her.. emoticon

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2/7/09 6:38 P

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emoticon You're right; it isn't fair! Scream all you want! We understand! My sister left 2 beautiful daughters and a husband at the young age of 48. emoticon Rose emoticon

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Everything you've ever wanted is one step out of your comfort zone.

The food you eat can be either the safest and most powerful form of medicine or the slowest form of poison. Ann Wigmore

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2/7/09 4:57 P

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My brother passed this week and we had his funeral today. My heart is broken he is such a wonderful person and fought SO HARD to win the battle so he could be there for his 3 little boys and wife. I am screaming cause it isn't fair. Thanks for listening.

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1/24/09 2:02 P

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The support group is a great way to get those questions answered or, at the very least, a referral. Also, it always feels good to be in the company of people going through similar experiences. Take Care. emoticon Rose

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Everything you've ever wanted is one step out of your comfort zone.

The food you eat can be either the safest and most powerful form of medicine or the slowest form of poison. Ann Wigmore

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Purpose is the place where your deep gladness meets the world's needs.
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well, not feelin' the scream today. i've been kinda down about the whole thing lately. moreso that my aunt has to keep thinking of her death. we watch too many doctor drama shows on tv and it brings up all kinds of questions for her...and me. what's the end going to be like? what kind of decisions am i going to have to make? how much longer does she have? and how do i respond when she asks me these things?

i guess i just wish she didn't have to be thinking about all of this. no one should. no one should see it coming that clearly.

anywho, just feel like chatting today. hopefully i'll be able to make it to my support group meeting this week. i think i need it.

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1/19/09 12:12 P

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I agree totally with Kathy! (KiWi) Setting boundaries is essential to your sanity and well-being. She is lucky to have you! You are just one person; not Super Woman! Take Care of Yourself First! Rose emoticon

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Marilyn
Boise, ID
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Everything you've ever wanted is one step out of your comfort zone.

The food you eat can be either the safest and most powerful form of medicine or the slowest form of poison. Ann Wigmore

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Purpose is the place where your deep gladness meets the world's needs.
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1/18/09 7:54 P

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For the sake of your peace of mind, you need to keep that 7th day for yourself. There is nothing wrong with that. I am sorry that your aunt doesn't understand. Sometimes when people are sick they get very demanding.....my Dad has done this, too, with his millions of doctor's appts, grocery shopping, pharmacy needs, etc. You have to set limits with people, even when they are sick, even if they have cancer.

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1/14/09 9:46 P

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emoticon to you emoticon . emoticon to hug from me.

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1/14/09 1:59 P

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You deserve a day to yourself after that schedule. Hang in there and make sure you take care of you - no body else will!!

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1/11/09 3:12 P

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alright...another rant...

i just talked to my mom on the phone and apparently my aunt has been complaining that i don't do enough around the house. now, i agree, i've never been that great at chores and cleaning. although, i will note that my friends in WV and VA always made fun of me for being a neat freak and always having a clean vehicle and apartment. my aunt, however, hires cleaners to clean the whole place because she's even more of a clean freak than i am. so my level of cleanliness is not good enough for her. here's the other thing...i work 5 days a week and on the 6th i take her to chemo, which has become an all day event. the 7th day...yeah, i want for me, excuse me for being selfish here.

i guess i'm just not observant to see what needs done or if she needs something taken care of. she doesn't tell me, just expects me to know. if i don't know that there's a problem...i won't know to fix it. suprise suprise, i'm not psychic. when i leave for work, she's still in bed. when i get home from work, she turns on the tv and turns off the lights and wants it to be quiet. when?! when am i supposed to do all these things that i don't know i'm supposed to be doing?!!

oh i miss my life. i miss my tidy little apartments. i miss my independence.

but i'll figure out a way to clean more. i'll figure out a way to balance everything and still keep my sanity. i'm not going anywhere anytime soon, so i'll do whatever needs done to make her happy...as long as i don't totally lose myself in the process.

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Mostly I just want to kick myself in the butt for gaining all of my weight back when my boyfriend was diagnosed with Cancer. I'm pretty frustrated with that part (shame on me). But I didn't have to move away and change my life completely. Your situation is pretty different and I think I would be pretty frustrated if I was in your shoes. I'm glad you're venting to us though. Cancer sucks big time! It's nice to know others out there know what you're going through. Hang in there! I know your aunt loves you and appreciates everything you're doing for her.

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thanks all for your supportive words...but doesn't anyone else want to scream?!!! haha, don't leave me hangin'!!

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You are totally entitled to scream. I think that is one of the healthiest things anyone in your situation could do. I hope things get better, that you can get some help with her. My Dad is being treated for bladder cancer and it is never-ending the care he requires. Can't say I know exactly how you feel, but I sympathize.

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Hang in there! I know sometimes it sucks. Do you have any support? Is there someone who can come and help with your aunt, even for a couple hours, so you can have some "me" time? It is just as important to take care of yourself as it is to take care of her. I know you are strong enough to handle this, hang in there.
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And be done with it.
You have done what you could.
Some blunders and
Absurdities have crept in.
Forget them as soon as you can."
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raaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
hhhhhaoieurhffhweorhwaeghoeatrowieurow
eihfahgkasdjfj!!!!!!

i want my life back! i want my stuff, my space, me friends...i want it all back!!! why can't someone else be here? why can't she just get better or ....and let me move on?! why do things have to keep going wrong? wrecked truck, being screwed by my boss, sick aunt, constant expenses and bills and bills and bills....i just want it to stop so i can breathe!!!

ahhhh, that's a little better...

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dontcha just wanna scream sometimes?! i had a day yesterday and it was all i could do not to scream into my pillow and wake my aunt in the next room. so let it out here. the stuff you don't want to tell them, or your friends or you feel guilty about even thinking. so just scream and get it out!

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