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7/12/13 9:23 P

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You just have to be as creative as possible. Instead of us freaking out when Mom was trying to eat uncooked macaroni, we would just put an open bag of chips right beside the macaroni. She would eventually start reaching for the chips and we'd just kind of nudge the macaroni away nonchalantly and then stash it away. One time she poured herself a half a glass of milk, then pulled out a bottle of wine (she never drank) and poured that into the milk. She declared that her milk was delicious and kept offering to share with all of us. The calmer you can be without calling attention to the problems, the better you'll do.

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8/13/12 8:30 A

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In our experience, we have just let my mom eat whatever it is she wants or puts together. We have watched her pour wine into her milk and drink it with her lunch, put ketchup on her bread for a sandwich, and eat large amounts of ice cream and cheesecake. Bottom line... we don't care. If it makes her happy, great. It's not like she is going to get better, so unless she was trying to eat or drink something dangerous (dish soap, for example), we just let her eat it. Alzheimer's patients traditionally lose weight as they progress in the disease -- they don't feel hunger as their body shuts down and they get thinner and thinner. We let mom "load up" on whatever she's wanted in the hope that any extra weight would sustain her longer.

We did find that Mom's taste buds have likely been affected by her Alzheimer's decline. She has loved lots of spicy things that she never would have touched in her "old life"!

Good luck as you deal with your grandma. It's hard to be the grandchild (or even the child!), when they have traditionally been the authority figures. We're essentially switching roles with the parent/grandparent and becoming authority figure to them. Even though they aren't functioning in their right minds, they still know that YOU should be listening to THEM!

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8/11/12 9:51 P

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That has been what I was trying to do. It is hard since she has always feel that I am the grandchild and should only speak when spoken to mentality.

I guess my problem is my mom wants me to help her with things like that, but how can I do that when she won't let me. I also worry that she won't eat healthy or what her body needs. She already won't eat anything with out smothering it in salt and pepper without tasting it first.

I guess I am just worrying a lot.

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8/11/12 7:11 P

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That's a tough one.....

If your grandmother is too weak to get her own food out of the pantry, then the solution may be to simply put on the table only what you want her to eat. If she can still get food on her own, it may be easier just to let her eat the butter with cheese and not worry about it (or hide the butter).

My dad did some very strange things before he died. In the end, as long as what he was doing wasn't dangerous (or potentially dangerous), we pretty much let him do it. For me, at least, at the end, my focus was on keeping my dad safe and clean and as comfortable and happy as reasonably possible.

That's just my take on it....other people may feel differently. Caring for a person with dementia can be really challenging and can require a lot of creativity. We had to come up with all kinds of ways (motion detectors at night, etc.) to keep tabs on my dad and keep him safe.

Edited by: SIMPLELIFE4REAL at: 8/11/2012 (19:13)
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I am not sure if this has been brought up before, but I am needing help.
I currently am the caregiver for my granny over the summer while my mum is at work. I have been running into issues with my granny eating and such.
Today she she started eating butter directly from the tube and continued to yell at me that she had her bread which was the cheese. I am having difficulties helping to lead her to proper decisions. I don't try to point out that she is wrong or ask what she is doing. I tried say here is some bread or find items for her.

Any advice? I would greatly appreciate it :)

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