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1/17/12 6:54 P

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all i can think of to say is that the wife's problem is insecurity because she is still heavy and the 2 of you are not. I think it is up tp your friend to deal with the problem as you 2 haven't done anything wrong, the problem is hers. I hope your friend can reassure his wife, it sure is not fair to the 2 of you or her either. She is upsetting herself for nothing. Sad. Hope it comes out ok. Georgine

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1/16/12 12:16 P

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As some of you know, I started losing weight last February. Since then I am down 67 lbs. I gained some back and lost again. I joined SP in Dec. Anyway to the point.

I did flea markets before I was disabled. I met a very good friend there who just happened to be married. We still became very good friends. He did the flea market on Sundays and did tours on Sat. He is a tour director. After getting to know each other, he asked me to sell some of his stuff on Saturday at a different flea market that I did. We split the profits. Then on Sunday he would do Mansfield and I would do Newington. Anyway I started basically working for him.

Both of us are out of the flea market business now(although I still have so much stuff) and we remain close friends, that's it. FRIENDS. I have been to his house several times and have met his wife several times. He is part owner in a car dealership and he has gotten me a couple good deals on trade ins. His wife has let him take me different places when I didn't have a car and we just went shopping together for her anniversary gift. My mother and I have gone on 3 of his overnight trips and several of his daytrips. I have gone on his daytrips with him alone.

Now all of a sudden because I have lost weight and now he has lost 22 lbs we are having an affair. This has come out of the blue. We have known each other since 2000 in the summer. She says he lost weight because I have and that I lost weight to take him away from her. She is 63" and he said weighs 249 I am 61.25" and weighed 248 They are well off and she use to give me all her "old" clothers. Some still had the tags on them. I guess this year he told her that I lost alot of weight and they wouldn't fit All of a sudden we are sleeping together and having this big hot affair. None of this is true.

How can I convince her that I am not sleeping with her husband. I never have, and don't want to. None of this makes sense. Why would it take 12 years for me to sleep with him if that is what we wanted to do? Until she found out I lost the weight and the he lost weight she had no problem what so ever with us being friends. I even talked to her on the phone if I called and she answered.

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