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9/15/11 6:34 P

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Well, back in the middle of June, I cut off contact with my parents, but they didn't accept it. I have had to block their email addresses, block them on Facebook, get a new and unlisted phone number and warned them to not show up unannounced or the police will be called. They have not stopped contacting me and my stress has been beyond what I have EVER experienced in my 42 years of being alive. It continues to this day, but I have support of my pastors, a counselor who is a Christian and knows my pastors - he used to attend the church- my family doctor is a huge help and then I have the Crisis Line as well. So I am well looked after.
Then I got sick and couldn't do much for about 3 weeks. I think it is all related to stress as does my doctor. My hormones were also out of balance and we are working on getting them in order as well.
So it has been busy and to say the least, STRESSING!!!!!!!!

Sheri

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8/13/11 8:58 P

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Welcome back, dear one! I've been away too for quite awhile.

I have at times also cut off family, and at one time everyone. Holiday dinners and important passages were with friends that I was fortunate to have in those tough times.

The only words of advice I can give to anyone in this position:

1. It may get worse for awhile - nobody likes change, especially those who are in dysfunctional relationships. They are used to what they know, and you are rocking the boat. Why should they be happy about that? Don't be dissuaded by their temper tantrums or arguments, don't argue with them, just say you need to go if you become uncomfortable.

2. You know exactly what you need, and always have. The quiet voice inside will never ever steer you wrong. If someone is unsure what this is, in the morning when you wake, think of some important decision you have to make and just be still. You will feel what's right inside you. You may not like the answer, but it will always be the truth.

3. You are wonderful and powerful. Avoid people who make you feel bad, sabotage your efforts to follow your dreams, or who take energy away from you. If you're not sure, see #2. You may be surprised about who this turns out to be. It is important to protect ourselves until we are strong enough say no, set limits, and not to be pulled down by others. Sometimes this can take time, and may mean making new friends, but this is often a door to many new good things.

4. Sometimes you must be your boss's, husband's or your parents' teacher. You should not be apologetic about it - we all need to teach those around us how we like to be treated. You cannot assume that anyone knows. This is a gift to them - you would not like it if someone didn't tell you that you were doing things that aggravated them, or if you only did X it would make your relationship more loving and meaningful. They may not agree to do it, but it's worth a try. It is both our duty and a right, and they may feel more able to tell you what they would like from you. Everybody wins.

5. Give gratitude and positive reinforcement as often as possible - they say 10 times as much as criticism. If I am immersed in gratitude, I've found that it is impossible to be angry or afraid, and it often makes me feel as though I've received it, if I'm really present when giving it. We cannot do this alone, and should not try. The more we give gratitude, the stronger our friendships and light in our lives becomes.

That's my 2 cents, after having bearded the lion, as they say. And, thank you for being here. It is wonderful to come back and find so many I know, and then the new faces - so delightful!

Adrienne

Edited by: ADRIENNE502002 at: 8/13/2011 (21:23)
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8/9/11 10:11 P

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Glad to hear from you!! I know what you mean about too many teams. I am so into my individual friends, regardless of teams.
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SHERILIEGH1969's Photo SHERILIEGH1969 Posts: 329
8/9/11 2:27 P

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Thanks for the support folks, it is much appreciated. Since cutting off contact with my parents on June 20, they have started to respect my boundaries and I have only called them 3 times - once to test the waters, the 2nd time to ask them to pray for my friend's brother and finally for my mom's birthday this coming 13th. Mom has been the hard one to come around but I think my dad is having an influence on her for the good. So things are better, but it is far from over.

I've unsubbed from a LOT of Teams with the hopes of being able to tend to this one more. I may not be here daily or even on a regular weekly basis, but I am going to make it a goal, that - when it is not thundering here - to at least try and get on with you a couple of times/week.

I hope you are enjoying what is left of your season - Summer here - and that you are learning wonderful things to help manage your stress, not to mention WHAT causes your stress. Knowing this is the key point. Once you know what CAUSES your stress, you can then set up steps to cope with and overcome it.

Please share any insights or ideas that you have found helpful. We are all always looking for new ideas to try ourselves and when you share, you don't know out of the 700+ members on this team who will pick up your idea(s) and be useful in their daily stress management program :)

Until later, be safe and be happy. :)

Sheri

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7/14/11 9:41 A

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Hang in there things will get better, It sometimes just takes making time for yourself, Right now I have been sleeping when I have free time trying to kick some nasty allergies. Hope things resoulve for you soon.

*** Sharleen ***

The road to success is not straight. There is a curve called Failure, a loop called Confusion, speed bumps called Friends, red lights called Enemies, caution lights called Family. You will have flats called Jobs. But, if you have a spare called Determination, an engine called Perseverance, insurance called Faith, a driver called Jesus, you will make it to a place called Success.


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7/14/11 9:05 A

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take time for yourself and focus on you for right now good luck will be praying

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7/14/11 8:51 A

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It's always good to see your smiling face. Take good care of you and I will keep you in my thoughts and my prayers...


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Hi there Team. I hope, depending on where you live, you are having a good Summer if it is that season, which it is here. Whatever the season, make the most of it by doing what you can to keep your stress down and enjoy every moment.

I apologize for my long absence. There has been great upheaval in my family for the last 21 years and it finally caught up to me. I've broken off contact with my family for a little while at least. I am not going to go into detail other than to say my stress level has been off the wall which has kept me from focusing. I trust that you will all get along without me for a few more weeks while things get settled down. Rely on each other for support and your Team leader(s) will be back with full swing eventually. :)

Huggles to all!

Sheri Adams

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