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1/8/08 12:51 A

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thank you. Same to you dear friend!!



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1/7/08 11:59 P

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Thank you for your support and words of advice and encouragement! emoticon I wish you all a blessed New Year and that we all "lose the weight in '08!" emoticon

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1/3/08 12:21 P

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WOW! You go girl! I love your post!

I agree about God not being a jerk and everything else you said in your reply.

YOU ARE AWESOME!



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1/2/08 4:28 P

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You are not being overly emotional. Your friend stuck her foot in her mouth and then chewed vigorously on her toes.

I think the idea that God picks out one or two people from a crowd and chooses them to suffer an additional burden is pure BS dreamed up by people who can't handle the idea that sometimes, bad stuff just happens. My number one rule about God is: God is not a jerk. If you come up with some idea that requires God being a jerk, then your idea is wrong.

You have enough to cope with right now. You don't need some guilt trip about how you "deserve" PCOS or you're being "tested". Dealing with a large health issue and difficulties in fertility is bad enough without adding the expectation that you're supposed to suck it up and not complain, because God's plan is to deprive you of some precious possible future.

Phooey, I say! Phooey!

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12/29/07 4:23 P

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I think that what was said was out of line. Maybe she didn't mean to be cruel, but she was. You can decide to just move on or mention that her words were hurtful. Either way, there are some people in your life you can trust with your emotions and some (like this person) you cannot.

About the children...it is not something you have to think will never happen. I have three wonderful children that are several years apart in age due to my PCOS. Before they found out I had PCOS, I did have more than my fair (as if ANY are) share of losses. I think the key is to keep a positive attitude and focus on your health for now.

Every pound you lose will help heal your body and increase your odds of a healthy pregnancy WHEN you are ready. I don't think PCOS alone would cause you to become unable to have your own birth children. If you need medical help, there are many options out there. Your young age is a blessing. Because you have discovered your PCOS BEFORE you tried to start a family, you have time to address some of the issues that might hold you back. Look at it as the gift that it is. OK?

REMEMBER: Keep a positive attitude and research PCOS until you feel that you understand that you CAN control some aspects of it. When I am of a normal weight I have very few PCOS issues. Good Luck! emoticon

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12/7/07 5:46 A

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First of all dear friend, I've been in a HUGE group of women with PCOS and everyone of them with exception to me, has conceived one way or another. One even has twins. It took them longer, it took a Reproductive Endo, took going through hormonal changes, Clomid trials, Gonal F which helped majority of them and an IUI, most, of which many healthy women have no idea about. BUT, they did conceive. I stopped ttc because it was too much emotionally for me, I have type II diabetes, Hypothyroid, and a list of things..I just don't want my child to have birth defects because of the added issues I have right now. Maybe if things are better, It'll change....Adoption is the route we've always wanted, and we're satisfied with adoption over conception unless it's Gods plan for us to conceive his way.

So you must not worry about not being able to conceive. Give a good RE, and fertility treatment, odds are, you'll have those children...it'll just take a bit longer.

NOW, if your only 23, nows the time to change those added issues like heart disease, type II diabetes and hypothyroid. Your in the right place...weightloss is the key to getting rid of any signs and symptoms of pcos. If you lose even 10percent of your body weight, you will lessen the symptoms that go along with pcos.

My suggestion is to start switching to whole grains. Look on the back of packages and make sure you see the word WHOLE to be sure it is 100 percent WHOLE wheat or WHOLE grain. Get rid of white pasta and rice and turn to brown rice and whole grain pastas. Skip regular potatoes for sweet potatoes, start eating apples and berries. Add 5 cups of veggies...More on the green side, to your plate with protein and less carbs but the carbs you do eat should be whole grains.

For PCOS, best way to get rid of body fat and lose weight for us is by weight training. Body composition training is one awesome way to do it. In the new year, I'll be starting it myself when I can get my Health spending account to pay for it with my dr.'s letter of health benefits for me.

Diet and exercise are your key. You don't have diabetes, or hypothyroid....nows the time to make sure you NEVER have to go through what I do. Take care of your body, your stress level, and NEVER, NEVER let what others say get you down. Dear friend, they haven't any idea what PCOS is. The best way to let your friend know what your dealing with or what you could deal with is by educating her on PCOS.

My favorite site is Soulcysters.com for great information to educate both you and your friends and family. Need more support? Go to www.soulcysters.net
where the forum is located and join in on the conversation for ttc, weightloss, and other issues you may need to discuss with others who actually are going through what you are today.

Much love to you my friend

Rebekah



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12/6/07 8:31 P

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Cysters,
Hi! I'm writing today because I'm kinda upset. I was telling one of my good friends how I felt about my PCOS lately. How I didn't realize how serious it was, that I was affraid about infertilty and the health risk that it brought (diabetes, heart disease, cnacers,etc.)and how it almost made me cry the other day when I thought about it.
Her response was well, maybe God doesn't want you to have children, its not in your card adn alot of diseases increase risk of something or other.

I know she meant well and I guess she was trying to take the edge off. But it just hurt and I couldn't say anything else, b/c I wasn't sure what it say.
Should I address that she hurt my feelings?
I understand if my health could make her feel uncomfartbale b/c she might not be sure what to say....

Yes, I understood she was right about children needing to be adopted, but to know at 23 that you might not have a child- that , that dream of being a mother to a birth child is an unknown...that's hard news
even though I'm not thinking of having children now, I want at least 2-4 one day with my future husband...but still......idk...am I'm being overdramatic?

' Action precedes Motivation.'
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"Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world; indeed, it's the only thing that ever has. "
- Margaret Mead
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"It is good to dream, but it is better to dream and work. Faith is mighty, but action with faith is mightier. Desiring is helpful, but work and desire are invincible."
- Thomas Robert Gaines


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