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5/11/12 3:34 A

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I am a people watcher / dancing fool. The more I drink the bigger dancing fool I become.

"Associate yourself with people of good quality,for it is better to be alone than in bad company.

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5/9/12 7:47 A

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On days when I think I'm the zinger, I'm probably just the wall flower. On other days, when I think I'm the listener, I'm probably the bore.

There's another category, 'the lover'. When I used to drink a lot, I would try to flirt with every woman at the party. So in my mind, I was scoring points with all these women. Probably I was just the creepy drunk.

Anyway, it's a good thing that people don't have to put up with that guy anymore.

Edited by: CD11545374 at: 5/9/2012 (07:50)
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5/8/12 8:30 A

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I think my persona is "The Dancin' Fool".

If there's good music (or bad music) and a dance floor (or a free spot somewhere), I will dance. I'm that person who's dancing to the terrible music they play between sets when the band takes a break. I'm also that person who's up on the dance floor by herself well before anyone else is ready to start. Doesn't bother me a bit.

I think that Dancin' Fool is a variant of Wallflower, without the associated baggage of shyness. I'm not particularly shy, just not talkative. My conversation is minimalist at best, so if I'm dancing I don't have to talk to people but I can still socialize and have fun.

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5/7/12 6:02 P

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I am always using the "option" persona.

For me there are several factors; the environment, the general type of people and the kind of alcohol I'm drinking.

If I am drinking tequila the night is over just as fast it begins....blackout. I just know that whjen consuming tequila that every single person in the room is my bestest friend in the whole wide world. I've been told that I am very complimentive and qualify the complements, too. (seriously? who does THAT!?)

If I stay away from that crap then it really DOES depend on the crowd. I am NEVER a wallflower. I can be the life of the party but my favorite thing to do is to BOOST, egg on, help, set up, whatever you want to call it other, get other people to light up the room. I try to give others a reputation to live up to, usually a naughty reputation and it has caused many post party arguments like the time a guy I just met that night I had him going, he was funny and charismatic but what I didn't know was that his wife had never seen him that way before and she was PISSED!

Another time I saw the potential in a woman who dressed kind of mousy and stupid looking glasses but had a great ass and big boobs. Clearly her husband wasn't worried about her until I started talking to her (flirting) and then a few other guys came over and was talking to her and then a few women came over (all while the husband was drinking and smoking cigars in another room with other Mr. Man-types) and she was the center of attention. Her hair was down (looked good, too), she took off her sweater (frilly black tank underneath and big boobs) and she had taken her glasses off,....yeah, she looked kinda hot. He walked in to get another beer and saw her............*POOF!* gone, they left asap.

I told this story elsewhere (maybe here) but I love to rip on folks who take themselves too seriously at parties and look down on us ugly people. This hot couple walked in and he was buffed (this was during my grossly fat days) and she was fit and smokin hot body. They looked disgusted by me and some other friends of mine. Long story short they left not too long after arriving and I'm thinking it was eithere we all were too fat or ugly or my immitation of idiots who lift weights. Sure, I feel bad about that now but at the time it seemed appropiate.

GOOD TOPIC!

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5/7/12 4:41 P

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I have wallflower predilections, so I generally jump into helper mode. I always find myself mixing drinks (which then makes me also a Good Listener, it seems...) or womaning the grill, or helping in the kitchen. In fact, I find myself in the kitchen most times. That's where all the cool/food oriented/shy types usually gather. I've met some lifelong friends in the kitchens of barbecues and huge parties. Once I get a role, something to do where I'm not standing around trying to "mingle" then I sorta become more talkative and perhaps a little bit Zinger.

And all the strange rock and rollers
You know you're doing all right
So hold on to each other
You gotta hold on tonight


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5/7/12 4:31 P

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I'm usually providing lots of laughs or story teller

and while not a helper- I usually handle some food specialty that I'll make or bring.

I also am "the superman" -- the one who comes to the rescue of the downtrodden or what ever. If there is a bully or some one is out of line with their comments- I'm not afraid to confront them or call them out. I took Karate for many years and so I have the poise and confidence- that in itself, usually prevents trouble. Even when I've drunk too much- I maintain a good sense of fairness and restraint.

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5/7/12 4:09 P

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@VeggieSpark - I can see why you're a Larry David fan.

I'm kinda known for that zinger thing too. Sometimes the zing snaps right back at me though. Oh, well. You live by the call, you die by the call.



The most handicapped person in the world is a negative thinker; a person who has the skills, abilities, talents and tools, yet chooses not to use them.
~Heather Whitestone

Forget your perfect offering, there is a crack in everything. That's how the light gets in.
~Leonard Cohen


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5/7/12 3:57 P

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I would have to say when I am partying at a friends place or family I definitely fall into the "Helper" category

If I don't know anyone at that party - sadly I'm kinda half of a "wallflower" and "zinger"

I know I know sometimes I wish I was more livelier but I do so much better in smaller groups or one on one.

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5/7/12 3:45 P

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I hate to be the center of attention, so that's not gonna happen!

I would be the one who finds a smaller group and sticks with them.

If I'm feeling anti-social, but still HAVE to be there for whatever reason, I'll be the one helping out in the kitchen.

DD - always, since I don't drink...oh! that reminds me of another thread topic!

The most handicapped person in the world is a negative thinker; a person who has the skills, abilities, talents and tools, yet chooses not to use them.
~Heather Whitestone

Forget your perfect offering, there is a crack in everything. That's how the light gets in.
~Leonard Cohen


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5/7/12 3:38 P

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Who do you become when you go to a party? Life of the party? Wallflower? Something else?

Here are a few of the party personas I can think of. Feel free to add your own if it's missing from my list:

Life of the Party -- In the middle of the action, with sparkling conversation and lots of laughter. Wherever the most exiting things are happening, this person is in the centre of the circle.

Entertainer -- Brings out a guitar, and gets the group going in a singalong. Or knows a great party game that breaks the ice.

Good Listener -- Gets his/her ear bent by the crashing bore. Attentive audience member for the Life of the Party. "Lovely Assistant" to the Entertainer, helps keep people going.

Wallflower -- Finds a (very) quiet corner and takes root.

Helper -- Hides out by helping in the kitchen, passing around trays of hors d'ouevres, mixing drinks.

Stabilizer -- Designated driver, collector of keys. Holds the hand of the person who's having a bad trip or a bummer (if it's that kind of party).

Party Animal -- A bit like the Life of the Party, but with extra zaniness. Lampshade-on-the-head optional.

Crashing Bore -- the one bending the ear of the Good Listener.

Parsley -- Highly decorative, but doesn't talk much.

Zinger -- In the centre of the action, but quiet until the perfect moment comes up. Then comes out with the perfect witty line that everyone repeats for months.


So, which one are you? Would you prefer to be another type? If so, which one?

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