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11/3/09 7:51 P

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Hi Domersuz!
I'm sorry you're having such a rough time right now. I too am in a job that I don't like and is stressful. Cancer kept me from having any children, but having been the baby-sitter for a lot of family members, I can sort of imagine your situation. And depression runs in both sides of my family.

A therapist once told me that anger is depression turned outward, and he was right. I was angry at the drop of a hat so often and took it out on my husband most of the time. It eventually affected our marriage, but thankfully, over time and with therapy we've become very happy again. It took therapy and medication to get me to a point where I could, and where I wanted to, feel better.

I continue to try different ways of de-stressing. Since stress is something we can't avoid, all we can do is learn how to handle it. Exercise does help a lot, so does some meditation, getting enough rest, eating as healthy as I can and finding a way to vent. Spark helps me with all of this.

Venting by using your blog or personal journal is a great way to get things off your chest. Your Spark Page is set to private so no one would be able to read your blog. I don't usually care what people think about my blog. That's what it's there for and anyone who doesn't like it doesn't have to read it. Use it as a tool in battling all that stress. You might be surprised how much better you'll feel just getting it out. And you can always delete it later if you want.

I haven't forgotten your question about how does GP affect my work. At my job, we don't get a lunch break, but from time to time people bring in things and most of the time I can't eat them, but after explaining why and letting them know that it doesn't bother me, they're pretty understanding. But a stressful day at work, or even at home, can easily send GP into overdrive.

When I first got GP, I lost over 100 pounds in less than 4 months because of the vomiting. It took a while for me to get diagnosed and then eliminating the foods that I can't digest. No fiber, no meat/fish/seafood, not many veggies and not too many fruits, no nuts or even peanut butter, no eggs (it's a pretty long list so I'll stop here, but you get the picture). Just lots and lots of carbs! I put the weight back on pretty quickly and now I'm trying to find some kind of balance and it's not easy.

My job continues to get more stressful as the company I'm working for continues to grow. While I'm VERY thankful to have a job, management and customer service was never something I wanted to do. I'd have to say management is much more stressful than the CS. Plus I have a boss who is a real micro manager. Sometimes I feel like I'm in over my head. Heck, almost everyday I feel that way, but there aren't any options for me. We'll still be paying off credit cards and student loans for years, but I can't control that so I try not to stress over it.

I wish I had some easy answers for stress and GP. You might have to keep trying different things to see what works for you. Even Google stress management for some ideas. What can it hurt? But please know that you're ALWAYS welcome to vent here at the site.

Sorry this is so long! I don't think I've ever written such a long response, but it felt important enough. You can even Spark Mail me if you want.

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Edited by: LUCKY-13 at: 11/3/2009 (19:53)
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11/3/09 5:14 P

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Hi Domersuz,
I am sorry to hear about your situation. I really feel for you. I have been through a similar situation. I have left many jobs due to my illness and just not liking them. I also was able to pay off all our debt, so it does not matter if I work or not. I want to give you hope, I worked part time for a while, is this an option for you? and maybe push of the debt for a few more months( instead of 10 maybe 15-18). Also I am a Certified Personal Trainer, I want to tell you that Exercise specifically, cardio, will give you more energy- for your job and kids, also it decreases depression. This is the reason I became a trainer- I was depressed, no energy, and I hated to work because I was always sick.
I want to tell you to hang in there. It is so worth it to have your debt paid off. Believe me it will relieve your stress big time! Please try exercising, I know it will be hard at first, but I promise it will give you energy and give you a positive outlook about things. Please let me know if you need any ideas. I have not cured my GP, but I have more energy and I do not take antidepressants anymore. Hope to hear from you!

11/3/09 4:44 P

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I am really struggling lately. The vomiting has gotten worse and my stress level is through the roof. I am overly emotional, on edge, snapping at my husband and kids and definitely suffering some mild depression.

The general situation for me is that I work full-time at a job that I dislike (there's nothing wrong with it, I just don't like it). I am mom to 2 kids. We are following a very strict budget to pay off our debts as fast as possible so that I can quit my job and stay home with the kids. But that's still about 10 months away.

I'm wondering what others here are doing about work. Obviously, I can still work and GP isn't really a disability that would keep me away from my job legally but it definitely affects my ability to be a good employee and be a good wife/mother.

How do you deal?

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