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LESSOFJOSIE Posts: 2,463
8/18/08 10:57 A

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Thanks everyone!!!!!!! It makes me feel good to know that I have everyone support here! You guys are amazing!!
As far as updates, nothing has changed. Nothing bad has happened, and I am glad for that.

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8/18/08 8:56 A

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Oh my goodness....*super-hugs*

I really don't know what to say as I've never experienced a wedding going quite that wrong before, but I wanted to give you my support and express how sorry I am that you had to go through all that, and I really really REALLY sincerely hope that your wedding goes 500% better. *hug hug hug*

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MAXISMYBOY Posts: 501
8/14/08 4:27 P

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Hi,
Sorry to hear about all the stuff that's going on in your life at the moment. I can understand it's hard but in the end it's you and your hubby2b's day and anyone who is even going to have the slightest chance of making your day bad or voilent should be banned and if they actually have the nerve to moan about it then they obviously have no respect for your wishes and don't deserve to be in your day anyway! So stick to your guns and your doing the right thing by sticking by your cousin! So sod them all I say! (Trust me this is from personal experiences with my family!). Just remember this is your day. Enjoy itxx

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8/13/08 8:17 P

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Josie, I am so sorry that this is happening and adding so much stress so close to your own wedding. I have situations with people I don't want at the wedding but nothing that would get violent so I am lucky but definitely filled with sympathy for you. Do everything you need to keep yourself and your guests safe, okay?

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8/13/08 2:59 P

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I am so sorry about the family situation you are going through. I hope everything turns out okay. Is there a way to have someone or maybe hire a body guard to stand at the door so they won't let in the trouble makers? It's just too bad that you would have to be so stressed about something that shouldn't be even thought of the days leading up to your wedding day and your wedding day.

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LESSOFJOSIE Posts: 2,463
8/13/08 11:28 A

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lol that sounds like a great idea!!
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8/12/08 7:32 P

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We have a similar situation with our families, but not as violent by the sounds of it. Sorry to hear it's stressing you out.
If it makes you feel any better you can steal the idea that we had for the theme... Jerry Springer (with a boxing Ring instead of a dance floor and pull names out of a hat as to who goes next!)

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Josie,

I am so sorry to hear of all the trouble you are having with your family. I agree that you should talk to someone to find out how to protect yourself. I'm glad you will have security guards at the wedding. You may even have to get restraining orders for those members of the family who were violent. You don't deserve or need any of this stress. My thoughts are with you!!!

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8/12/08 2:07 P

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Im so sorry that this is happening. I think you have a reason to believe that you could be in danger, so you have a right to go to the authorities. Even if it means just to get informed on how you can protect yourself. I really hope that this doesnt ruin your wedding...I know its your family and pardon me for saying this, but they really sounds like jerks and not worth the time and effort. And if you feel threatened you really should make it publicly known.

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LESSOFJOSIE Posts: 2,463
8/12/08 2:03 P

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That is exactly what I told my cousin.
The trouble makers went to the police and basically lied about everything, and they are trieing to look innocent.

There's more to the story, but it is way complicated.

But I told Regina to go to the cops her self and put a restraining order on them.
They haven't threatened me, so I am pretty much not involved what so ever, however I don't know what will happen when they find out I am not inviting them, and I am talking to Regina. I don't think they would do anything to me, but who knows at this point. I am so disappointed and disgusted by them.












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WOW!!! Sorry to hear what you have been through for the last couple of days. Try not to let this stress you before your upcoming day. Thanks for sharing with us.

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8/12/08 1:58 P

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Wow thats crazy. Did you ever think of possibly reporting what had happened to the police? I mean, it might be a good idea in case something horrible happens, at least they would have something to go by. Often times people are too afraid to go that far and things end up being worse than they should be. I would at least try and find out what your rights are as to keeping them away from you. God forbid something does happen, but at least you would have your bases covered.

Grr family can be so awful sometimes, and when you put drugs into the mix, well, it makes things that much worse. Especially something like coke, which totally screws you up.

I think you are doing the right thing to not invite them. But honestly, I would take it a step further. You cannot be forced into doing things you dont want to do, so if anything, find out what rights you have or what rights your family has. The police are your friend, not the enemy...keep that in mind! I hope you dont feel like Im pushing you into doing anything, but its something to think about.

Im sorry this is happening... :(

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8/12/08 1:42 P

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Well I thought they weren't that type, but now that I think about it, and talking to other family members, I guess they are unfortunalty.

Regina is still standing up, she is like a sister to me, we grew up together, went to school together, and worked together.

Of course if she feels uncomfortable she doesn't have to, but she said she still does. I am just not inviting the relatives that are being violent.

It is def stressing me out, I'm trieing to not let it get to me though.

There will be two security guards at the wedding, so if anyone shows up that doesn't belong there, they are getting kicked out.










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8/12/08 1:34 P

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Oh wow. That sounds awful!
Are they really the type that would get someone killed?
So, is Regina not going to be your bridesmaid then?
Wow, this sounds so stressful!

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LESSOFJOSIE Posts: 2,463
8/12/08 1:28 P

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Okay so here is the update on my life right now. Thanks for all of your consern!!!! I really appreciate it! It made me smile.

I have been telling this story since Friday and I am sooo exhausted for telling it lol, but here it goes:



To make a long story short about my family, the wedding I went to on Friday was a disature!

The mother of the bride got way drunk started yelling at her daughter (Vanessa) also very drunk and high. The mother of the bride (my aunt) got kicked out of the wedding.


There was an after party and most of my cousins went to it(I didn't). Regina (my best cousin and bridesmaid) and my dumb ass cousin Vanessa were there. Vanessa and Angelo (my cousins, also brother and sister) were there, and Angelo got beat up.

Vanessa is blaming all of my cousins for it including Regina. Who did nothing at all. In reality he was fondling Reginas sister in law and tried to hit her, well things got crazy.


Now my family is torn apart, and Vanessa, Angelo and my drunk ass Aunt are threatening to have all of them killed. It is insane. I am just afraid they are going to start stuff at my wedding, or worse really hurt them or get them killed. I am soooooo upset about it. Now Regina is all upset and scared, and it pisses me off.


So I am not inviting any of the trouble makers now, for fear someone is going to get hurt. I calmed down now, I am just afraid something is going to happen.

They warned Regina that she better not show up at my wedding.

The whole reason why all this started is because my cousin Vanessa and Angelo were high on coke.....loosers.

I am extremely stressed out now and I was freaking out all day yesturday, after I found out more details.

So there it is in a nut shell....my family is freaken stupid and ruined everything.











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