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9/3/18 3:09 P

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Thank you so much. As grief does, it has been coming in waves. I appreciate the support.

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8/31/18 4:15 P

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I share your grief, as my handsome husky, Spikey, also left for Summerland earlier this year. I do have a memorial for him, but the main way that I deal with my grief when a beloved dog dies is to begin fostering another dog as soon as possible. Helping to heal the life of a dog who has been abandoned, neglected or mistreated also helps to heal my sadness. I also have a penchant for watching videos of snow dogs and tearing up, but then my foster dog comes over and looks at me with big, sweet, sympathetic eyes and I can't stay sad for too long. Actually, come to think of it, I deal with the loss of any beloved being - human or canine - by fostering/adopting another rescue dog. I just realized that this is my coping mechanism of choice! (There are currently 3 resident dogs and one foster dog in the house.) Hmmm! So, the next time you are feeling sad, go over to your local shelter and take one of the dogs there for a nice long walk. It will be good for you and for the dog!

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8/30/18 6:20 A

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I create a memorial space. Generally a plant or a garden statue. I live in a place where I can keep it all outside, but a favorite corner where Ike napped would work well too.

As far as grief go: Write it down. Every day it overcomes you. When you feel the urge to self-sabotage write it down, take a warm bath and let it go.

You're in my prayers while you process the loss of Ike. I am sorry for your loss.



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8/30/18 12:44 A

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That is a wise question to ask. I don't have a set way. I tell people, as you have done, and invite healing energy and prayers. I journal regularly, and that helps me whenever I am struggling. I still occasionally talk to my mom, who's been gone over 20 years; I did it more often in the early years. If you craft in any way, or garden, it can be nice to plant something or make something to honor a loved one. Also for me, spending time in nature is always healing. Find things that soothe and comfort and bring small pleasures--music, scents, a massage.

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8/29/18 9:30 P

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Hello My Beautiful Goddesses,
My sweet Ike, who is a beautiful Maine Coon Mix, left his physical body during the ambrosia hour today. I am just curious how you all process, honor and celebrate our loved ones who have passed. My pattern of dealing with grief is alcohol and self sabotage, especially with emotional eating.
I do have memorial space dedicated to him on my altar. I will sit, meditate, give thanks for him and those who helped him and touched his life. BUT I was just curious how you all manage this part of life.

XO

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