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3/10/11 6:13 A

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Haven't had this with any of them... don't know what I would do.. read SP that's for sure..
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3/4/11 9:54 P

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When my son turned 12 I lost all my brain cells. I ask him what did your dad and I do without you telling us how much we don't know. emoticon For the most part he is a really good kid, but I have no idea what will happen when he turns 13. We are still his parents and he still respects us and will sometime say things like, you guys are really smart. That only last for a short time, but inside he does know we love him and only want the best for him. I have to remind myself to speak to him like I speak to my college students, with respect and a knowledge that he does have ideas, opinions and thoughts. With all that said, when he turns 13, I'll let you know if I'm just blowing smoke out of my ears. emoticon At least you seem to know why he is doing what he is doing. Just keep loving him and letting him know you love him now and always.

We are so accustomed to disguise ourselves to others that in the end we become disguised to ourselves.
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3/4/11 12:36 P

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I have a 13 year old stepson that at times he can get out of hand, but it isn't with me thankfully. He tends to bump heads more with his mother because he doesn't get the attention he deserves. She had him at a very young age and he spent all his time with his grandmother and didn't move in with his mother until a few months ago. I think most of his anger towards her is more like resentment maybe, because she barely took on the full time role of mom after 12 years instead of his grandmother. He is a good kid, he just feels lonely at times and having friends that are bad influences around him aren't helping.

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3/4/11 12:12 P

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My son took a turn in attitude when he turned 13 as well. I know they are under alot of pressure and have to fight off things that I was never exposed to, just alot of pressure. I force him to talk to me and set asiode a time at night where we can talk. Thank God he has not shuit me out. However, my 15 year old daughter is driving us batty. We have a real life Romeo and Juliet going on and I am at my wits end!! The hardest thing is having to let them make their own mistakes....I know the only way out is through.

Without inspiration, the best powers of the mind remain dormant. There is a fuel in us which needs to be ignited with sparks.~~Johann Gottfried Von Herder


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3/3/11 10:13 A

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Love that approach MC

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3/3/11 9:45 A

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I read that it's actually a brain thing. Here is a link to something I read a while back in an article:

http://brainconnection.positscience.com/
topics/?main=news-in-rev/teen-frontal

Every time my daughter's 12 (almost 13) and 14 get know it all or snippy with me, I say frontal lobes. That makes them mad but puts it into prespecitve for me.

"You don't have to be great to start, but you have to start to be great."


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3/3/11 9:37 A

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It certainly sounds like age appropriate behavior.....not to that it is appropriate. The only thing you can do is set boundaries and enforce them and love him. They all go through it.......

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3/2/11 8:42 P

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Well, it sounds like you're doing a good job....I have 3 boys..14, 19, 20....it's been quite a ride! Actually, my 20 year old is the most challenging although my youngest is starting to get a little attitude. You're not alone...you guys hang in there and so will my husband and I.

A friend recently told me that seeing into the future would be the best "birth control" ever...LOL!

In the end, it'll be worth it.

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3/2/11 3:38 P

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I have 2 sons 14 and 17,At 13 it started with my oldest.He thank God is really turning around.Now my 14 can be disrespectful,argumentative.thinks he knows everything.It will pass ,I am always consistent with the disrespectful especially to MoM,Myself,Big Brrother or anyone for that matter.This is a tough time for kids,I try to be there for them ,know there friends,close friends parents etc,I am probably way overprotective.My wife was teasing me the other Day.I can only imagine you with if we had a Daughther these Days how you would be.Good Luck Keep us posted One Day at a Time. emoticon


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1/9/11 1:55 P

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I'm going through the same thing with my just turned 13 daughter. It's been twice the shock because my son is finally hitting that stage too (he's 16.. hooray for late blooming I guess)

I just keep trying to choose my battles and make sure that they both know that I will only give them facts and not my opinion on the really important things (like sex, drugs, alcohol etc)So far that at least is working. And I hang on to the fact that one day, in the far distant future, they will have kids. And when those kids hit this stage, they will know exactly what we went through with them.

You aren't alone ♥

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1/8/11 7:15 P

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I totally hear you!! I have a 13 year old son & a 12 year old daughter... The most important thing is that he does NOT know everything... He THINKS he knows everything. Even if you think they aren't listening, they still hear you, & they DO take in what you say... They just won't admit to it!!

It's not a diet... It's life.

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1/6/11 6:50 P

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Thank ladies!!!! That really makes me feel better! I was just so totally unprepared for him to get so "teen" on me! LOL...it felt like it happened over night. Maybe it did!



-Melanie :)

�It is not the length of life, but the depth of life.

�We�re always getting ready to live, but never living. �

Maybe the most any of us can expect of ourselves isn't perfection but progress.
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1/6/11 11:08 A

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At age 4: Mom knows everything!
At 8: Mom knows a lot!
At 12: Mom doesnt really know everything.
At 14: Mom doesnt know anything.
At 16: Mom doesnt exist.
At 18:shes old fashioned.
At 25: Maybe Mom does know about this!
At 35: Before we decide, lets ask Mom.
At 45: I wonder what Mom thinks about this?
At 75: I wish I could ask my Mom about this.
That's the best I can do for you!
Good Luck....

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Dum Spiro, Spero: "While I breathe, I hope"
"God grant me the serenity to accept the people I cannot change ... the courage to change the one I can ... and the wisdom to know it's me."
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1/5/11 11:50 P

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Unfortunately you're experiencing the typical teen behavior. Luckily they grow out of it.


~ We can't become what we need by remaining what we are.

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1/5/11 11:34 P

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My oldest will be 13 in Aug & it is already starting....He told me he couldn't wait til he was an adult and could move out. I told him if he could pay his share of the bills ($300) then I would treat him like an adult. Until then he is a child under my roof. Now he is trying to save every penny he gets. He is determinde to save the money and be treated like an adult for at least a month. It has focused him on something & he hasn't fought or argued with me in a few weeks. He has been on his best behavior.

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1/5/11 10:51 P

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This is normal. Mine also acts like he knows the world. It reminds me of a one night during my senior year of high school. I was working with my grandpa and really getting under his skin acting like I knew everything. He told me, "Boy i'm going to tell you something that my dad told me and I told your dad. When I was 18 I had the dumbest parents in the world. By the time I turned 21 they really learned a lot". Think about that and maybe pass it to yours. One of these days he will get it.

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1/5/11 10:14 P

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Why is it that when you turn 13 your parents know nothing! I am having the hardest time with my son this year. He wont talk to me any more, and when I do try to talk to him he acts like it's such a chore. He has always been my easy child. I dont know what to do. And his relationship with his dad is worse. He's a good kid....even when we argue he is never really bad. I just get so frustrated with him.

Help is this normal? he's got so much attitude right now.

-Melanie :)

�It is not the length of life, but the depth of life.

�We�re always getting ready to live, but never living. �

Maybe the most any of us can expect of ourselves isn't perfection but progress.
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