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You're right, I didn't consider the other co-sleeping arrangement, just those of sharing a bed. But I agree, having them in the same room does help with some babies. I had a foster daughter who didn't like to sleep in a room by herself, she was under a year, so I put her crib in my room and she didn't have any problems after that. Sorry if I only looked at one aspect of co-sleeping!

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7/26/08 6:25 P

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I totally agree that there is a good way and a bad way to co-sleep. If you look at statistics, more babies die in sleep related ways by themselves than they do with a parent nearby (whether in the same bed or in a co-sleeper attached to the bed, or simply in the same room which is also considered co-sleeping), by a lot. I see where the fears come in so I think you just have to know yourself. I was very in tune with my baby and even though I slept, I was always aware of where he was. I also only had one adult in bed, since I'm a single mama. Having my son nearby (even if it wasn't IN my bed) made my life a lot easier. The times that he was in my bed, as a little guy he seemed to sleep more soundly and for longer periods. But, every baby (and mama!) is different!

In my case, I disagree that babies may not want to sleep on their own after sleeping on their mommy mattress :) at least in some cases... for my son, during the day if I got him to sleep on me, he would get into a deep enough sleep that I could lay him down... he wouldn't get into that deep of a sleep otherwise, until he got older and learned how to. Of course for every baby like mine, there will be one on the opposite end of the spectrum!

My son sleeps better (and has since he was 4-6mo old) in his own crib and by himself, unless he's not feeling well or having a particularly bad night for seperation anxiety which is rare. I feel blessed for that, too!

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Great Ideals AmiBeth, one word of caution on the co-sleeping though. Be very careful if you are exhausted and accidently roll over on baby that would be so heart breaking as well as criminal in some states. As a foster parent we are prohibited from sleeping with our babies even at 3 weeks of age. I also saw some report that stated that Dr's are now cautioning parents from sleeping with their children.

I did it, when my children were young, so I'm not knocking the suggestion just giving a word of caution out!

Also, some babies once they get a feeling of mom's warmth near/next to them hate to go back to their own beds...who would blame them? My little guy (8months old) sleeps in his crib, in his own room, he will have it no other way...loving it. emoticon

As said already, take heart, it will happen just give the baby some time to get adjusted!

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I breastfed my DS until he was a little over 1yo, but he was sleeping through the night pretty well from a couple of months on, or if he did wake up it was just to nurse and go right back to sleep. I was lucky, being a single mom and no one here with me, that he was so good, but those occasional nights when we had no sleep and lots of frustration, I realized how crazy I would have been if he did that on a regular basis.

For the original poster - 3 weeks is still pretty young, so hang in there and I'm sure he will be on a schedule soon enough. My first suggestion is to get "Happiest Baby on the Block".. its a book, but I suggest the DVD. Who knows, you may be able to find some of the techniques on youtube, but those things really did help. If your baby screams when swaddled, it might be because of gas, but if you can get through that, I swore by the swaddling and the gentle swaying or "jiggling" (you'll see what I mean if you get the DVD) to get DS to sleep enough that I could lay him down.

In the meantime, I am an advocate of co-sleeping if its done in a safe way... if he wants to sleep on his mommy mattress, it might be your salvation until he is okay letting you put him down. My son wanted to be held A LOT at that age, and to sleep with me too. I eventually got him into a co-sleeper next to me, where I could put my hand on him or soothe him if he woke up.

I would also put his blanket in the dryer to warm it up, sort of the same idea as the heating pad (though I warn against keeping it on all night!).

Lastly, if he still seems to be gassy or having tummy issues (night or day), consider soy formula. I have heard that has worked wonders. I also gave my son the gas drops or gripe water which seemed to help, too.

Good luck, and congrats on your new baby!

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Wow! You Gals give great advice... My son is almost 2 and is still not sleeping thru the night! Does anyone here breast feed or did breast feed?

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My daughter had to be on the Enfimil Gentle ease formula because of the gassiness. Prior to switching formulas I had used gas drops in her bottles and that did seem to help a bit. My daughter also for awhile had trouble relieving her gas so every night before bed I would pump her legs. Almost like curling her up into the fetal position. That helped relieve the pressure and she would sleep through the night.

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I've spent many a night on the rocking chair w/ the foot thingy, a boppy pillow, and my little guy on me. After a few days that didn't work though, cause hubby caught me and yelled at me--I could have dropped the baby. So, what finally worked was that I would turn the t.v. on in the room to a station that played instrumental/classical music, lay him on the boppy so that he feels like someone is holding him, and just lay in the bed with my face toward him so that he could see my face. It did wonders for me!! Remember every baby is different though, with my daughter nothing worked (she's 5 now). It just came to a point that I would cry right along with her at night. She was a horrible newborn, for a new parent that is--now she's the best helper ever!!!

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7/25/08 1:17 P

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You can also try a sound machine in the bedroom

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The best advice I have right now for you is if she will sleep on you then for a little bit do that....you both will at least get some sleep. Have you also tried wraping her up tight like a brarito? Or....and I know that this will sound kinda silly but my son had issues for a while and my mom suggested putting a heating pad under his basinet mattress and putting that on low about 30 min before I layed him down...that way the bed was warm like I am...when I went to bed or soon after he was asleep I would turn it off...but to be honest some nights it stayed on.

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my great grandma taught me these tricks... my son is 4 months old, and he slept through the night right after i did these two things.... give her a warm bath everynight, and to get her to sleep, or if she is fussy, put her tummy under your boob, and kinda hold her tight... i know it sounds weird, but it works.... for an 86 year old woman, she knows all the tricks... lol i know it might seem discouraging at times, but you will get through it... trust me... i had and still do, have ppd, and i was very discouraged... my husband was in iraq, and i was living with my mom... not to mention everything going on in their lives was going on in mine... no sleep, and all i wanted to do was cry... by the grace of god, i made it... and you will too... it may take a little time, but it will work... try to get her on a schedual, that helps too... i just now got my son on one... i was just on his schedual, and decided it was time for mommy to sleep at night.. lol hope this helps, and if you need to ask anything, or want to talk to anyone, i am here... :)

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Try an incline pillow under her mattress that will elevate her head she might be having stomach cramps laying flat...both of mine due to allergies need to sleep on an incline...best wishes

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Hi there, until she gets her days and nights together, you may need to reach out to some friends and family and see if they will come over and keep an eye on her and allow you to get some rest. Being exhausted doesn't do you any good, as well as the little one!

It may take her system a little time to adjust to the new formula and allow her to feel better. Until then you have to use other ways to get some sleep. How about Dad, will he take a shift to allow you to get some rest.

I know it's hard now, but things will mellow out! Hang in there! emoticon

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Hello all!!

My 3 week old is having major problems sleeping at night. I had to change formulas because she has such awful gas pains and blowouts. The doc put her on Similac Alimentum which costs a fortune by the way!!

But anywhoo...I am exhausted, the lil one won't sleep at night. She'll sleep on me, but when I put her down she's kicking her legs out, flipping around, everything. We swaddled her and she cried bloody murder...

Any ideas?? I am just SO exhausted anymore!!!

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