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10/27/08 1:37 P

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5 miles a day is a lot of mileage for a newbie. He will feel better soon. It jut takes some getting used to! Congratulations and good luck!

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10/27/08 12:07 A

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My hubby is trying to get health as well. He bought a Wii recently and now we habve the balance board and the WiiFit game. He trys to do 30 minutes of that a day.

When we are having fun and are happy we eat better by default. In fact, we both lost weight biking together this summer. It helped me lose about 10lbs in July- august.

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10/26/08 5:42 P

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I think there is more going on here to exhaust your husband than a walk to work in the mornings. The cruising the net from midnight to 2:00 AM needs to be cut out. WHAT is he DOING online at that hour? Also, the attitude that he has towards you when you offer suggestions to help him...doesn't "set" too well with me. HMMMMMMMMM...he is trying to lose weight, he is fussy with you, he is exhausted, he is online in the wee hours of the morning...pay attention to this, pay VERY close attention.

Been there, and done that.

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10/25/08 5:18 P

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What about his calories? Is he eating enough calories? sometimes when I find myself really tired I find i havent eaten enough calories for the day.

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10/22/08 6:04 P

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Maybe your husband would take the same information you are giving him if he was getting it from another source. Is there someone else who can talk to him ... friend, minister, doctor or other health care provider, personal trainer ... sparkpeople? Maybe he should read some of the articles and posts himself ... does he have his own sparkpeople account? Would he consider starting one? Maybe this just isn't "his time" ... if he's not ready to do this it won't work right now.

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10/22/08 3:49 P

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He does have to get up 2 hours earlier to walk to work, but he fights me when I tell him to get to bed earlier. I probably wouldn't mind if he was going straight to bed, but like last night, he falls alseep on the couch until about 12 midnight, and then gets up and cruises the net until about 2am and then comes to bed and has to get up at 6am, so that could be part of it, but like I said, he fights me on it, because he has never been early to bed. Also, he is NOT eating right. He does eat HEALTHY for the most part, but he is not eating NEARLY enough for his size. His breakfasts are small (a banana and yogurt for example) he does NOT take enough snacks for lunch or throughout the day, and he is starving by the time he gets home for dinner, and then probably overeating. Again, he fights me instead of listening or taking any advice. AARRGGHH!! He has not had a physical in probably forever, and I have given up talking about that. That has been NOTHING but a miserable conversation for years!!! Again, I am very proud of him and don't want to discourage him by ragging on him to much, but maybe I can just tell him how much better it would make me feel if he would just realize his tiredness and go straight to bed. Thanks everyone for the suggestion and ideas. Please feel free to keep them coming!!

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10/22/08 2:34 P

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Maybe he can split up his walk time by walking to work and maybe you could come pick him up afterwards. I also think that if he keeps it up, he will actually start becoming more energetic eventually. You could also encourage him to check in with his doctor just to make sure he's on the right path. Good for him to do this! Keep your chin up and stay with him on this.

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10/22/08 2:15 P

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Does he have to get up earlier in the morning to walk to work? Maybe that's why he's tired. If so, he will adjust in a week or two.

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10/22/08 1:45 P

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The fact that he's only walking one way does make a difference. I agree with Mrs Butter 1 ... check for other causes for his exhaustion. Did he had a check up with his doctor before making changes to his lifestyle? When was his last physical? If he's riding home he has had plenty of time to recover from his walk in the morning ... there must be something more to this than just the walking. Does his company have an Employee Assistance Program? Maybe he needs counseling for something happening at work, not the walk to work, that is getting him down.

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MRS.BUTLER1 Posts: 90
10/22/08 1:25 P

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No doubt about it...change is hard on everyone involved, however, when you are feeling frustrated think of the healthy changes he is making for himself and his family so that he will be around to play with the kids and take those long walks with you!! Is he eating well? A good protein/carb and fat ratio? Has he had a physical lately? Perhaps it is something other than exercising....stress at work, high cholestorol, anemia....perhaps you both need to look at the big picture together and make a solid plan that works for the family...keep your chin up..things will improve...and by all means, be proactive!

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10/22/08 1:15 P

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Thanks for the suggestion. I did forget to mention, that he is ONLY working to work. His company offers a shuttle ride to employees that he can take both ways, but he only takes it home and does the walking to work. I am trying to be patient, but am still frustrated all the same. Any suggestions on that??

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10/22/08 1:12 P

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Audrey ... I would think the last thing you would want to do is discourage his exercise efforts since in your words he is "finally decided to get healthy". On the other hand, a happy home life is part of a healthy life. Maybe you could compramise. Would you be able to pick him up after work? If he walks to work, then you pick him up and drive him home he might have enough energy to spend time doing something with you and the kids ... maybe that something could be some kind of physical activity that would replace the second walk. Be sure to praise him for his efforts and maybe ask to be included in his evening activity.

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10/22/08 11:41 A

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It will take time but from person experince he hopefully get used to it and won't be so tired. And yeah if it doesn't get any better make the suggestion of maybe only walking to work or other times. Good luck and keep showing him that you are very proud of him!!

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10/22/08 11:37 A

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Perhaps he would do better to walk on his lunch break and then again with you and the kids after dinner....two shorter workouts and one with his family!

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It will get better soon. In a short amount of time he will gain fitness and be able to do the walk and still have energy left over. Have patience and praise him for what he's doing.

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Has he just started with his expectations too high for now? How about if he walked TO work and you drove him home FROM work. Then he would have the benefit of the harder walk with the incline, but not so tired when he got home. He could work up to longer walks later. He would maybe have the energy to play with the kids and use that as more exercise.

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10/22/08 11:06 A

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My husband is a pretty big guy. 6'2 about 367lbs. He has finally decided to get healthy, and I cannot be more proud of him. He has decided to do this by walking to work everyday, and it is about 2.5 miles but mostly at an uphill incline. He is seeing improvement almost daily and is finally enjoying it I believe (although still hard nonetheless). My issue however, is that when he gets home, he is so horribly exhausted that literally all he does is have dinner, and sit down on the couch and instantly fall asleep. I can understand this exhaustion, but at the same time, I don't think it is fair for me or the kids that he is not "available" to spend the time with us or to get priority things done. It has gotten me SOOOO Frustrated lately that I don't know what to do, so my question is this... Is there anything that you all can suggest that he do or take or eat to give him more energy or not make him so exhausted when he gets home, or is this just something that is going to happen until he gets some of that extra weight off?

Please HELP!!

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