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4/22/12 6:53 A

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I guess I am lucky - no one I know is strongly religous and although I do work in a Church of England school, no one there is judgemental about anyone's faith (or lack of) even at Easter. Even our vicars aren't judgemental about it. I guess because CofE is a very chilled out version of Christianity.

I was brought up kinda pagan so Christmas was celebrated as a mid-Winter feast but Easter was never observed in any way.

I have never done anything for Easter - not Easter eggs for the children, no egg hunt or anything either. They didn't miss it... and as I was strict about chocolate anyway, they understood why having a mass of chocolate for reason was not a good idea.

Like I said, I am very lucky, no one ever asks me to justify my beliefs...

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4/11/12 7:23 P

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I do enjoy celebrating Christmas & Easter, in a completely non religious way. Regardless of whatever symbolism might be connected to bunnies & eggs or the star on the X-mas tree. I couldn't care less what those things mean to others. That's not what they mean to me.
My religious upbringing was minimal and my childrens is nonexistent. So what ever symbolism exists goes completely unnoticed by my family.

For some reason, all of my friends are extremely religious. They know I'm not religious & we don't discuss faith or lack there of. However, a few years ago, a childhood friend & I hit a rough patch. She was telling me how her priest was killed when a brick wall fell on him and I thought that was a hilarious irony. ( still makes me chuckle )

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4/11/12 10:03 A

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I stir clear as well, but if I'm asked when they "rejoice" and talk church, I just reply as if they shared my views just as they assume I share theirs and say, "Why yes, spring is such a wonderful time of year; nature brings us new life and its beauty is overwhelming." etc etc. I either go on about the new veggies sprouting, the baby birds or the like. I focus palpable things. I try not to be in their face because all it does is builds a wall; I think we can find something in common. I get irked when they try to legislate their beliefs or they affect my life; if they keep them private in terms of practice then I don't care. Anyway usually, I get expectant looks thinking faith is somewhere in there, then puzzled looks and finally for the most part positive reactions, the kind that are in denial of my ignoring the faith factor and that I can possibly not share their view.

If I'm asked a direct question though, I will answer directly, "No, I don't go to church." If they pursue it, I will be honest with my answers. Again, this is not a question I like to answer until they know me, just because they will painted in a stereotypical light all the way to a baby eater. *eyeroll*

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4/11/12 6:28 A

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Ha - love that story Buddy. Mostly I try to steer clear of conversations on religion but it can be fun on occasion to rattle their cages.


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4/10/12 10:10 P

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Thanks for the links, Maraude. Enjoyed reading them.

I was at a class this afternoon with a lot of older women. They were still really into the "Rejoice" mode, and talking about the moving services they attended and the meals they prepared. When they asked what my hubby and I did for Easter, and I told them that we stayed home and heated a DiGiorno pizza, they were flabbergasted. You didn't go to CHURCH??? (spoken in the same tone as "You murdered your Grandmother?") I told them the world is a wonderful place, where we can all choose our own path. I think I got a lot of stink-eyes when I left. emoticon Oh well....

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4/10/12 8:49 P

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Maraude - I love your take on it! I have never been able to find a way to see Easter as a non-religious or non-kid holiday.

This year I avoided all family and just hung out and watched movies with my husband. My parents and sister have no idea that I don't still share their religious beliefs so conversation gets uncomfortable and for right now, avoidance is best. :) I do think that eventually I can bring the focus back to celebrating the life of Spring while I'm with my family rather than sharing in their belief with them.

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I enjoy secular Christmas and Easter celebrations with my family. I have a 7 yr old daughter so she is still into the whole Santa / Easter Bunny thing. But I think we only have one or two more years until she figures out the myth. She sort of knows that Mom and Dad are involved but hasn't quite become a skeptic yet.

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4/10/12 5:35 P

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Easter doesn't have to be religious or for little kids who like candies; that's commercial BS and mainstream culture.

Both eggs and rabbits are a symbol of fertility. Spring is the renewal of life, i.e. fertility. You can still enjoy Easter by combining it with or transforming it into the Spring Vernal Equinox Dinner and the beauty that nature brings back every year. It's a time for family and renewal of ties as well perhaps; when transportation was not as it is today, easy, this was probably one of the first few communal meals folks had, bringing every scrap of food left to the table, after the snow and cold.

I host "Easter" and when folks start getting mushy about Jesus putting the meal on the table, I redirect attention to Spring and the hard working people who put the meal on the table and say, "Dig in!"

Easter is nothing more than another error in translation:

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The other error was ray of light coming out of Moses head not "horns" which he wears nicely in some sculptures :) Whatever works, I guess.


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4/10/12 3:18 P

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My grandmother stopped making easter egg baskets before my teens when she finally realized that I didn't eat hard-boiled eggs (I'll eat them on occasion now, but not then).
I'm in my 50s, now, and it's more of a religious holiday, so I don't do anything, EXCEPT--
Whenever I get a chance to watch those kiddie easter egg hunts, I go.
It's lots of fun watching the parents of two-year-olds trying to get the kid to "find" an easter egg that's right in front of him/her.

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My family celebrates the big Christian holidays ( Christmas & Easter ) in the most generic way. By that I mean, it's all about Santa & the Easter Bunny...gifts under the tree & candy in a pretty basket and an egg hunt. And a nice family dinner.

My kids decided a few years ago that they were too old for hunting for eggs, but they still wanted their baskets of candy. Due to a couple different events, there were no baskets this year. I had bought 2 packages of Peeps, one for my son & one for my youngest daughter. We'd been gone a week on vacation & when we returned home my oldest daughter was there. I handed each girl a package of Peeps. I didn't see my son until late & he didn't get anything. We had picked up 2 pizzas on our way home from the airport...that was our Easter dinner.

I think this year marked the end of 'celebrating' Easter. At least until there are grandkids, who will be excited about egg hunts and pretty baskets.

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