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12/24/09 11:41 P

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Dancing. Hula hooping. Playing.

Yeah, I am with you on that - it's definitely the poetry-in-motion aspect that motivates me, too! You hit the nail RIGHT on the head with that one! :)

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For me, it isn't the static images that motivate- it's the ones in motion.... kayaking, hiking, boating, dancing- oh, yes, dancing. Movement... being able to move. To get up- to get DOWN. Oh, yeah. It's not a 'perfect' body- it's a fit and flexible one that I yearn for.

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Wow! Lots of "new" faces - okay, the reality is, I'm the new face, but hey, I usually only hang out on the "Blaze" thread. :) HIYA, everyone!

For me, I usually ignore media images (it's easy when you don't watch TV, don't usually read the news online or offline, and don't bother with most magazines ... I see the images on the few occasions that I bother looking at the ads, but mostly my brain does know that's NOT real.

What's working is really putting up images of what I know I'll look like when I'm at goal, and also putting up images of places I want to visit - for some reason, travel is a bigger motivator for me than almost anything else! :)

Which makes me think I *should* set up a rewards system for myself - one that involves travel! Hmmm - now that's a juicy idea! :)

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12/20/09 1:08 A

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emoticon Hi!
I haven't been completely gone, just silent and hiding in the shadows :)
Boo, it reminds me of butterflies, too-- ugly, grounded little caterpillars changing themselves into beautiful, free, soaring works of magnificence.

Thin images of others UN-motivate me. It even sometimes causes an anger reaction inside, and since I am an emotional eater,......
Thin images of myself do remind me "what I've lost that I wish I could get back ("I used to be...") but are also unattainable, since many years, childbirth, etc, have shaped me also. For me, there is no going back.
Heavy images of others do nothing. Heavy images of myself, whether in a photo or a mirror just discourage me.
The only images that motivate me, and even this is sporadic, are progression images. Ones that show how far I've come. Unfortunately, right now, I'm progressing the wrong way.... but the brakes are on, so U-turn ahead!

I'm also internal. My self - discussions are my worst enemy. Someday, if I can ever control them, I hope to change them to my most powerful weapon. But even after many years of trying to stop the self-negativity, it lives and thrives. (As evidenced by my long silence-- I told myself no posting until the day I could say something honestly good about myself. I managed one today that just came out without even planning or fighting for it, so here I am. Now if only I could train it to ninja all the bad thoughts/words that also came out today, I'd have it made!

Ah! I ramble! Sorry!
As for external motivators, I asked someone out to dinner about 3 weeks ago. His reply, which was "no", included,"you know, you would be kinda pretty if you weren't so heavy". He actually thought he was complimenting me. WE didn't go to dinner. I, on the other hand, had 2nds and 3rds..... emoticon So I guess I'm also external. I don't try to lose weight for an external reason, but I do respond to external factors positive and negative.

OOooooh and yup, this is another overweight perfectionist........ Whatever I do is never good enough unless it's perfect.....
Ok, I promise not to ramble for awhile!

Edited by: DIZZYK at: 12/20/2009 (01:25)
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12/20/09 12:13 A

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Same here on the thin images. I agree. They ARE akin to unrealistic goal-setting, for me. Many people post those magazine pictures of skinny people where they can see them often and are motivated by them. Not me.

It's interesting, though, that "imaging" (seeing ME at a thinner weight) in my head, DOES motivate me, when I remember to do it.
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Thanks for this tidbit. "I remember something about a surprising number of perfectionists who carry extra weight. It's because we wait until we can do it all just right to get it off." Something to think about. I've been working on the perfectionist thing for awhile, too. I grew up on "Do it right or don't do it at all."

Edited by: BARBARA_BOO at: 12/20/2009 (00:26)
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12/20/09 12:02 A

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I remember something about a surprising number of perfectionists who carry extra weight. It's because we wait until we can do it all just right to get it off.

That said, I've been working for decades on not being a perfectionist.

With the topic title in front of me, a comment about Thin Images. Generally, no, I don't find them motivating. It took me a really long time to notice this. Fitness magazines, power abs, etc.: they're all "unattainable," in both a true and a subsconscious sense. It's similar to setting a goal weight that's too far away from where I am now.

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12/19/09 7:55 P

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I have an internal orientation, which is no suprise to anyone here.

The only problem I have with my internal locus of control is that it lends itself to a tendency to want to be perfect, which makes for some anxiety from time to time. I think I'm fairly realistic about who's job it is to change my bad habits. It's mine.
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I used to bash myself for mistakes, and I've worked on self-talk to the point where I'm getting more easy-going and relaxed about learning from my errors.
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12/19/09 6:36 P

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DizzyK! Hi!

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I find the negative distinctly unmotivating. Likewise, tho, pictures of a heavy me aren't motivating, either. Too much opportunity to wallow in regret.

In grad school we talked a lot about "locus of control" when it comes to health behaviors. Where do you believe the 'control' lies, internally or externally? Asking this question on the SoCaW board is starting with a certain bias, I'm sure, but it's just another way of looking at it.

The motivating factors for me are the ones I've reached deep down, pulled up, and teased out. I've blogged about them before, but not a single one of my reasons involved the rude catcalls or even well-meaning comments I've endured. Thankfully it's been a long time since any of that has happened.

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12/19/09 4:31 P

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DIZZ, what a thrill to see you! How's it hangin'?
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I hear Jesus was a Capricorn, too.
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"Metamorphosis" is nice. It makes me think of butterflies.
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Edited by: BARBARA_BOO at: 12/19/2009 (16:34)
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I'm an old goat (capricorn)
and instead of "resolution" I am going to use "metamorphosis". And it isn't a New Year's thing for me, either! I refuse to make resolutions for the new year. I have enough failures in life by accident. I don't need to guarantee any!

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I'm a BULL, Taurus. That must be why I'm so good at BS.
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I agree about the word, resolution. Get out the thesaurus. We need a less tainted word. I'm doin what I'm doin, too.
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12/18/09 6:18 P

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You're SO RIGHT! Worse, I just received some diet recipes in the mail - from my mom!

I don't believe in astrology, but I AM a cat - a LEO.

Sometime I'll write a blog about my new resolutions (NOT New Years'). I don't even like that word. I'm doin what I'm doin.

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This comment of yours really hits home for me, SWIFTY. "I wish it weren't almost New Year's. I don't want my new way of eating to coincide with the New Year. That's too CLICHE and doomed to fail."

The fact that it's SO CLICHE makes it seem like it's NOT MY IDEA, like I'm being FORCED into going along with the masses. It makes me want to drag my heels until it's obvious to everyone that what I'm doing is my own idea. I'm a little like a cat. Rebellious and independent.
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Another factor about New Year's Day dieting that may be making it into a cue to overeat is the memory of previous "Resolutions" that I've equated with "failure". Interesting.

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Seeing myself in the mirror, both naked and in certain clothes, do the trick for me. Also, that skinny b*tch on Dexter!

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12/18/09 9:52 A

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I agree, the UN-thin images are the most powerful, but it's a combination. There haven't been any cruel jokes, but a cousin recently died and one is barely hanging on - all their medical problems were/are weight-related.

Dressing room mirrors were powerful but it didn't last. I'm in the throes of the Thanksgiving photos now, and have one as my wallpaper, so every time I turn on the computer I see it.

Everything in the posts below are true for me.
I'm on the precipice emoticon of delaying instant gratification that food gives. I wish it weren't almost New Year's. I don't want my new way of eating to coincide with the New Year. That's too CLICHE and doomed to fail. I want to be "in denial" of the calendar, as said in CHRISTmas thread!

Sorry for blogging and blurring threads!

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For me, it's the thought of whatever trip is up next. I always try to get in shape and lose weight extra hard before them because it's too tiring to be out of shape and heavy.

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The more anyone tried to "shame" me into losing weight, the more I would eat. Stress, anger and fear are big triggers for me! But the way I look in the mirror is definitely an internal motivation for me, and the medical research is an external motivation - thought a lot of that is confusing and conflicting.

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What messages make you think you MUST lose weight?

Are you motivated by cruel jokes about your size,
pictures of skinny models or buff athletes, or the latest medical research about obesity and morbidity? Maybe something else? What do you tell yourself, to make sure you lose weight?

Cruel jokes never did much for me. I would get angry and eventually end up comforting myself with food. I'm not sure about the thin images. I know I'm motivated when I see an UN-thin image of ME, at least temporarily. Medical reports sometimes scare me.

I think it's harder for me to follow through on my planned eating when I'm in the throes of anger or fear. Thoughts?

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