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Deborah,

I am so relieved and happy for you. How wonderful the lawn guys are !! The grandson sounds like he is getting into what my Dad used to call the "ratsy teenager years." Kids his age are just testing their boundaries, because everything is changing in their body's and minds. They get weird a that age. I'm sure that you will manage the "visit" much better in your own room and with your own routine. It sounds like your husband is on your side about the dog and your animals. An inside kennel sounds great if it is needed. Congratulations on finding solutions for your problems!! It is wonderful !! Take care and God bless, Deb emoticon

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@DEBTEVELDAHL The grandson is just 12 and small, plus he is not very good at listening to what we want him to do for us...unless $$ is involved. I do have arrangements made to help with the heavy stuff now, our lawn guys said they would be glad to he lp me next time they are out here to do the lawn. The dog is small and an inside dog. Hubs is thinking if he is trouble for our pets or messes on the floor...we would get an inside kennel to put him in. I told him I REFUSE to be their dog's keeper! I am happy I will get to keep my room now...thank GOD for small favors. I sent her a message and told her to be sure to bring her bed for the third bedroom...they can share the room and I'll be able to keep my night-time routine, too. I am feeling better about things...though I know there is still turmoil to come...I feel more ready to take it head on at least.
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Hi Deborah,

I,m so glad that you have a good doctor. How old is the son? Could he help move some stuff for you? Or is he too young. Do they live near by? Or out of town a way? I hope that you can find a way to move your heavy things, so that you can keep your privacy.I guess the dog is an inside dog. Is it big or little? Maybe she could invest in one of those portable kennels and let it stay outside during good weather and during the day. Let us know if we can help. We are certainly here to listen and offer our support. Take care, God bless, Deb emoticon

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Hello Deb..thanks for the reply. No...we never fenced our yard/property..there are several deer trails that are in constant use and we like feeding the deer. Plus, we've never had a dog that needed a fence..all our past pooches were trained to stay in the upper part of the property unless we were out walking around with them. The dog coming in is not trained like that, he is an apartment dog. I am hoping I can get the middle bedroom cleared out before she gets here so that she can put her bed in there and at least I will have my bedroom to retreat to. Problem is hubs is still hurting and I do not know if I can move the big stuff out of there on my own. The painting and trim work are not done, but that does not matter...all she'll be doing in there is sleeping. I have excellent Dr. who was with me the first time she lived with us...I see her two weeks before the scheduled move in.

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Hi Deborah,

It's me again ! I see that the daughter has a job. At least while she is at work ,you will have your home to yourself. I know how hard this is. I can certainly see why you are depressed and it is less than an ideal situation. This is a good place to vent, just like the other chat thread. Do you have a therapist ? If you do then perhaps they will have some good suggestions. Do you have a fence, so that the dog can be kept outside or is it an inside animal ? I'm praying for you and hoping that you do find some relief. Take care and God bless, Deb emoticon

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I am not doing very well with the whole "moving-in" event coming up the end of June. The more I think about all the changes coming the more depressed I feel. All I want to do is stay in bed and sleep. I am dreading not being able to sleep with my cat Jynx and the thought of having to take care of their dog when school starts and while she is out at work.
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Thanks everyone for your kind support. I am trying to stay positive about the situation. I know it is a break she needs, again...so, hopefully she will stick to a structured plan to get everything done that needs to be done for her to get her own place. She makes excellent $$ and with us not charging her anything to live here she should be able to sock-away a good amount of $$ for a down-payment and pay off bills to help her credit score. It is nice to know I can come here and vent when I am having a rough time. I did not have this outlet the time before and it almost cost me my marriage. So, I appreciate everyone's kindness and support!!
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Deborah,

It sounds as if this is a done deal and you have few choices, except to accept it and get by the best that you can. I stayed with my son and daughter in law for awhile, when I was between residences. I know that it was difficult, because they had no guest room and I had to sleep on the couch. It was hard, because I had no privacy and really neither did they. If someone couldn't sleep and wanted to go downstairs to watch TV or make a cup of tea, I was there. It was a grand imposition and I got out of the situation as soon as I could make other living arrangements. I felt terrible about compromising their privacy and invading their home life. I can see this from both sides, like Audrey. It was the worst feeling of my life, knowing that some one extending kindness to me was suffering through the ordeal of having to put up with an unwanted house guest. I was only there for about 10 days, but the whole time I was there I felt as if I were walking on egg shells and I think that they felt the same way. We all get along well, so that wasn't a problem, but the disruption in their daily lives was. I can see how you feel with your husband's daughter moving back in. It is so difficult to have to rearrange your life to accommodate living with adult children, just as it was for my son and daughter in law to have to accommodate me. I hope that you can all set boundaries that will work for you. Invasion of privacy and well being is a problem. I wish you great success with the arrangements that you ultimately make and I hope that she doesn't stay another two years. We are here to support you, so when you have to vent you can definitely come here. Sending you my positive energy and emoticon ! Take care and God bless, Deb emoticon

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Deborah, I was just hoping that there would be a way out! I hope it doesn't take a year! I can't imagine! I live at home with my stepdad, but it was pre-arranged and I respect his rules. I keep everything clean, I help out with stuff, I tend the huge garden that he doesn't have to water anymore, etc. I just wanted the best for you. ((hugs)) I know it's going to be hard, but we all are going to be here for you!!

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It can be rough when adult children move back in with parents. My oldest son from my 1st marriage has been living with us for over two years now. We also have twin sons that have autism and they are adults now that cannot live on their own.

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I know that is not an ideal situation. One I know all too well but from the other side. When our house was foreclosed on 5 years ago, we moved in with my grandfather, who has since passed, but now the house belongs to my mom and 2 aunts. The aunts make our lives a living hell. (The basically expect us to pay ALL the expenses on the ENTIRE double block. We don't pay rent, but we do cover the taxes and utilities on the side we are living on. They want more. The aunt living next door wants us to pay $1200/year towards the $908/year homeowners insurance. (Someone explain the logic there). And the aunt living in NY wants $500/month rent.

Anyway, the last 5 years have been hell on all of us psychologically. We're not being allowed to live life the way we would like despite it just being my family living here even now. When my grandfather was alive, food was an issue because we were only allowed to stock the fridge with options he approved of.

I do wish you the best of luck with your situation. Hopefully it will be over quickly.

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Thanks everyone for your support, already, for my upcoming situation. There is no way out for me, she is his daughter and he wants to help her get her own permanent place instead of living in apartment after apartment. I can understand that and I want the same thing for her, I just know how she was when she lived with us for 2 years just a few years ago...no respect for my way of running my house, moving my things around in the kitchen, over loading the fridge and just generally not sticking to what was agreed upon for her to move in with us. This time there is a dog involved and that has me extra stressed. I don't know what to really expect with this additional animal in my house. My cats have a set routine and the new dog that adopted us has settled into his routine. I do not do well at all with my routine being messed with...not even by hubs. She will be taking over my bedroom for a time...till the middle bedroom is finished being painted and our son's stuff is moved out. Her son will take up the couch in the living room and that means my alone time at night is going bye-bye. I will have to move my bedroom stuff back into the master bedroom till things get sorted. I've been sleeping in my own room due to my need for lots of air circulation...I have sleep apnea and can not stand to have any of the masks on my face (PTSD from childhood abuse) so I need the fan to blow air directly into my face. Moving back into the master bedroom means I will have to sleep on one side only so that the fan in there can hit me in the face...I am going to be miserable again and my sleep quality is going to drop drastically. I do have a regular appointment with my Dr. two weeks before she is suppose to move in and I will discuss the situation with her, she knows what I went thru before, so I am sure she will go ahead and up my meds for anxiety and depression for the time she is living with us. Last time my meds did not get bumped up till the beginning of the 2nd year she lived with us and I had some bad regressions, I want to avoid any of that at all costs. She is my husband's daughter from his 1st wife who passed away. So I do not really have any say in things regarding his children. I adopted his girls as my own when we got married and things were ok while they lived at home...but, once they got out on their own things changed. The oldest one started verbally attacking me for every little thing she did not like that I did or said. The one moving in has always been more friendly with me except when she is with her sister. So I try my best to maintain a good relationship with her and hope that by agreeing for her to move back in with us for a time, probably a year, things will get better between us again.
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((hugs Deborah))

Is there any way that you can get out of this? I mean, I don't know the situation, but it doesn't seem like it is good for your mental health at all. Can you talk to your husband to see a way out of it? Or make it for a short, set period of time? If you can't, then you are welcome on here at anytime, just like Deb said. Don't bottle it up! That's the worst thing to do! If you can't type it all out in the monthly chat thread, then just drop a line on the Wall. We are here for you!

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Deborah.

That is what Dealing With Depression is all about. Being there for you when you are in need and want to talk. If you are on here three, four, or more times a day that is fine. We are here for you, we listen and we care. I am so sorry that your household is going to be turned upside down another time. I can feel your anxiety level rising just from sentence to sentence. The park sounds like a nice, peaceful place to go to clear your head and rest. Photography is a wonderful hobby.It is awful to feel that your home and your privacy have been invaded. Do stop by here often. The people on this thread are some really intelligent,sensitive people, just like you, with good ideas. They may help you with coping skills and make your day better if you are down. You might also try the HAVING A BAD DAY - GET HELP HERE Thread. There is assistance there too, from kind and caring team members. The Team will have your back and will be compassionate, encouraging and supportive when you need us. Sparkmail me if you want to talk any time. We all will be happy to listen. Sending you positive energy and emoticon because you need them. Take care and God bless, I will be keeping you in my prayers Deb emoticon

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My day just got horrid...hub's daughter and her son are going to be moving in with us for who knows how long, again. Last time she was here for over 2 years and I had to double my meds just to maintain my mental sanity. I can already feel my anxiety going up and my mood going down. I may be spending a lot of time out of the house taking pictures or just finding a place at the park to sit. I can't stand for my routine to be altered or my house for that matter. I have to change bedrooms, get out of my personal bathroom, and get all crowded up again. I am gonna loose it if she tries to change anything like she did last time. To top it all off...they have a dog now that will be coming with them. I have two cats...I do not see this working at all. The cats have just gotten used to a dog hubs adopted last winter. Their dog is not entirely house-broken either. Dread is already setting in...I may be on here daily with my thoughts and feelings pouring out in an attempt to keep from bottling it all up....I hope that is ok with everyone.
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Good morning,

Rissa, I am so excited for you about Helen. You are right though, car owning can be a bit expense generating. Insurance for new drivers is outrageous. My daughter went through that about a year and a half ago. She is moving into her third year of driving and we hope her insurance goes down after that has passed. Regular maintenance is important too. Keeping up with your tune ups and oil changes will extend the life of your car. I am sure that you will find the right job for you. You're pretty, smart and dedicated. You have skills that employers want.and need. I wish you luck finding a job. You've got what it takes for sure.

The party was a smashing success. Those light sabers made from pool foam from the Dollar Tree were great. The kids loved them. They ended up being the hit of the park, because we shared with the birthday party goers at the table next to us. They could pick red - the Empire - or blue - the Resistance. It was a terrific park for a party. It is not very big, so children could be seen at all times, in the play structure area by their parents from the table we were at. They didn't have to leave the social area to go pay attention to most of the kids. The tiny ones were attended though. The line of sight was incredible, so parents could relax and have fun. There were many battles with those light sabers and they were perfect for any age. The adults joined in the fun. My son was bashed well by his two sons during battle. The day was beautiful. The cake was delicious, as were the hot dogs and fruit trays. All the kids got to take their light sabers home as party favors and everyone had a blast. Jeni has out done herself again. I will post a couple of pictures of two of my grandsons at the end of this post.

I have to go to my prescriber on Wednesday for a medication review. I shouldn't have to have any readjustments, since I have been stable for quite some time. I am manic at times, but not disabling or damaging. The manias usually last for a week or two, but are not out of control. So, I do not anticipate any changes.

I hope that you all have a great week ahead and that you are happy and productive. Shine!! Sending positive energy and emoticon to all that need them. Enjoy your day. Take care and God bless, Deb emoticon





The first picture is of Micah and his birthday cake - Ghostbusters and Star Wars were the theme. The slime runs down the side of the cake and was it good - cookie dough with chocolate mousse filling and a light whip cream frosting to off set the sweet. The second picture is my 3 year old grandson Hayden with his light sabers. They were perfect for every age. Micah, at 3 is my profile picture. Time is flying by fast !!

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Sounds like it should be a wonderful party, Deb! You put a lot of thought into it!

I'm tired, which is good. I hope I sleep tonight.. I've been hypomanic and not sleeping. I'm going to take my extra Neurontin soon, just to boost my sleep. It helped last night... I got more deep sleep so I felt better today even on 7.5 hours of sleep. It's also better than the 6 hours I got the other night. It's weird- since I started driving I've been sleeping less. I don't know if it's anxiety or what, but I just noticed it the other day. Maybe it's also hypomania. I go hypomanic this time of year.

I've also been looking for work, so we'll see how that goes! I need a job, now that I have my Helen (car). I need money for gas and repairs in case something goes wrong. Insurance is like a car payment alone for a new driver!

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Good morning Peeps,

Rissa, what a fantastic car. I am so happy for you, now you get to enjoy the wonders of owning a car. Having a car in LA is a necessity. KUDOS for finding such a great one.

Tomorrow is one of my grandson's 7th birthday. The party is going to be in the park with a STAR WARS/GHOSBUSTER'S theme !! The kids will have light sabers made out of foam rollers from the Dollar Tree, and there will be decorations and plates, napkins etc of the STAR WARS movie characters. The cake will be a GHOSTBUSTER'S cake and gifts will include characters from both the GHOSTBUSTER'S AND STAR WARS. There are supposed to be about 20 to 30 people there, so it is a big party. We are having it at the park and there will be hot dogs, veggie and fruit platters, plenty of healthy drink choices, lots of water available, as well as cake and ice cream. There is a Darth Vader pinata and it should be a ton of fun for the kids. I can't wait for Sunday and the look on his face when he sees how we've decorated the park and the party area. All his friends have been invited and all of his class mates too. It should be a rousing good time for everyone - adults too. The weather is supposed to be terrific and that is a blessing, since it rained last year and we had to move the party indoors. I hope that you all have a very pleasant Saturday and you enjoy your entire weekend. May blessings find you, take care and God bless, Deb emoticon

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LARISSA238, So HAPPY for you! It's a nice car! Independence is a wonderful thing!

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Introducing, Helen, my new 2003 Hyundai Accent!! It has less than 68,000 miles on it, so it will last me forever!



Yay!! I'm so excited! And I have a date for next Monday! It's been a HUGE day for me!!! More later when I get a chance!

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Here are some of my May flowers from my deck. Now, if the butterflies will just show up!
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Julie, I did it! Yay! Go me!

Now I just need to pay off my student loans. I'm on the phone this very second trying to settle them. If I can get them to settle for $2,000, then I can get my car and pay them off. I won't have to worry about having to repay them. Fingers crossed! They approved it! I'm going to have my loans paid off! I won't have to worry about them anymore! WooHoo!!

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Rissa: Congrats! You can do it! Stay positive!!!

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Carol, I'm glad you are okay!! I just saw this, or else I would have commented earlier! I've been trying to drive as much as possible to get my license! ((hugs)). I'm glad you also have a garden and are out of the Harvey House!

YMAW, how pretty!!

Mitzy, I found another Kia Spectra at the same dealership, and I have an appointment booked on Monday to go see it! I'm so nervous! My stomach is in knots just thinking about it! My anxiety is worse today than it was yesterday! This Kia is newer, but more miles. Oh well.

So, for those of you who didn't see, I PASSED!! I have my driver's license!! It's just a paper right now, but I'm a legal driver!! I'm so happy!!! And anxious. I've been trying to journal it out, but I'm also really anxious. I don't want to crash. I really don't want to crash. I'm taking a friend with me so I don't get too nervous driving home on my own. Also, I'm going to need someone to help guide me to get home.

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LARISSA238!!! So happy for you getting your drivers license! I am looking to get a KIA Sedona minivan for our family. The one I wanted got sold too :( Have you checked online through edmunds.com or kelly blue book? They show cars listed in your area for sale.

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Good Saturday evening!

We moved out of the Hurricane Harvey house from hell mid March, new place is awesome. The gal who lived here before apparently planted corn. We have 3 corn stalks and a total of 5 ears. Hubs planted jalapeņos and a satsuma tree (little tangelos). I've got my regular collection of hibiscus, ti and gardenia. My sister sent me a link to Logees and they have phenomenal hibiscus...I'll have to buy a couple.

I can't begin to tell you how much happier we are since getting out of the #harveystillsucks house. It was taking a heavy toll on our marriage and moods in general. Shoots, even the dogs are happier & getting the zoomies and rough housing like youngsters.

I still have a couple boxes to unpack and some framed pictures that I can't seem to get around to taking care of plus some odds and ends that need to find a spot in our new home. Guess I'll get to it when it happens.

I got into a car wreck Wednesday. The other driver's fault. No harm or injury to anyone involved, but my car is a mess! Cars can be replaced, people can not. We have the same insurance company, so dealing with everything has been pretty easy. Got the rent car yesterday so I'm not stuck at home.

Going in for an MRI on my hip Friday. It's bothered me for a couple years and is to the point that I can't walk around the block without being in considerable pain. Going to my regular PA on Thursday....blood pressure has been high so I've been tracking it for the last 2 weeks, different times of the day and making notes on what I was doing.
Getting old, body is falling apart.

There's the weekly ache, pain and med report.... crop report, too!

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Rissa--Regarding your basil...cut the flowers off and use them in soups or stews..even salads...that is where the best flavor is. I just cut all my flowers and dried them to use in winter stews. I do the same for my tarragon. Thanks for the compliment on my pictures, much appreciated.
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Siona, welcome!! I added you as a friend, so feel free to add me back! Please talk to your doctor before stopping any medicines! I'm on Latuda and Abilify, and they help me a lot. Neither one really causes a lot of weight gain and they both work with my genes (I did the GeneSight testing), so that's what I take. Talk to your doctor, do some research, and see what could work for you!

Julie, Ambien did nothing for me, so I don't take it. I need something to keep me asleep in the mornings, not something to put me to sleep. I can fall asleep okay most nights. As for weight loss, I do Keto and I recommend it to everyone! I've lost 50 pounds in a year! I want to stay on it as long as possible, just because I like the way it makes me feel. I feel mentally clearer, less depressed, more energy and my stomach gets less upset. If it's something you are interested in, let me know and I can tell you more! Carol Ann has done it too, so she knows about it as well!

Audrey, I can't imagine having to choose between your two daughter's baseball games!! That must be a hard choice! I know it's not till the end of the season, but still. I hope that you can find a way to figure something out! ((hugs))

Deborah, what beautiful pictures you take!! I can't wait to see more of your garden! ((hugs)) to your kits! I haven't had Angela act funny after a vet visit (except her surgery, but that's to be expected), so I just hope that your kitty is okay! My mint is doing really well too, but mint always does lol. My basil needs to be pulled, since it flowered and is bitter, so I need to just re-plant it. I love herbs! I'm happy that yours are growing this year!

I'm tired. It's been a long day. At least I'm not depressed today. I got to drive some more today, too. I did good driving since I wasn't as anxious. I need to go out there and drive in Lincoln Heights where I'm going to take my driving test tomorrow or Sunday so I can get some good practice in! I'm not as anxious as I was before. I was a bit bummed today for a bit, because the car I wanted to get got sold. There are others I want, but the one I really wanted is gone. I'm thinking about getting a Kia, since I like those, but the one I was looking at is gone! :( Oh well. I guess it's just not meant to be.



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We are in Spring mode here...pop-up thunderstorms and blooming zinnias.

My first mini zinnia.

Thunderstorm moving in from the West...it ended up being an all-nighter! But, we needed the rain so I was glad it was at night so it would do the most good for our plants.
Spring is also vet time for my kits and pup. So they all went in yesterday and have been being lazy all day. The kits are a little sore from their shots. I don't think the vet hit the right spots on them, they have never acted like this before. The pup on the other hand is acting like normal...a spoiled brat! LOL
My herbs are doing exceptionally well this year...so far. In years past we have not been able to grow them due to the extreme heat early in the season. This year we have had cooler weather and several small showers so it has given them time to get established.

And, my fall mums are doing a Spring bloom! Love it!! When we lived in South Carolina I was able to get my mums to do a double blooming, this is the first season I've been able to get them to do it here in Texas.

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Audrey--
My issue with the hubby is driving out of town, too. It's his anxiety. It's rough and I've been there before, but I'm getting to the point where I need to stop enabling him. I've told him what Carrie Fisher said, "Be afraid, but do it anyway".

I can relate to the baseball scheduling, too. When my kids were young, they were in 2 different teams, too. Not fun--feels like you're always running! Hang in there!

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You and me both, Carol!

Congrats on your raise, Julie! That's awesome. I wouldn't sweat your husband's disappointment. I'm sure he'll understand in the long run.

Baseball has actually been pretty stressful. I was stupid and had the girls put in different levels. I should have just moved Isis up to coach pitch from T-ball, but I figured she needed another year of learning the basics. Turned out, there's another 4 year old on the coach pitch team, and Isis is actually a better and more attentive player than he is. She would've done just fine. Like this I have 2 different practices and 2 different games with clashing times. I missed Xena's first coach pitch game because I had to take Isis to a different location for her T-ball game. My husband doesn't really drive so it means he goes to the home game while I take the away.Thankfully, the next few games I don't have to worry about that issue because they aren't at the same times. The last 2 games of the season are though. emoticon

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Sionafox-- Welcome! I'm not on as much as I'd like--I don't have internet at home.
I've taken lamotrigine for years now--it seems to be one of the only mood stabilizers that help. I have a genetic make-up that makes many drugs ineffective, so I've struggled. I'm also taking buproprion.

Rissa, I have had trouble sleeping for a LOOOONG time. I finally broke down and take Ambien. I don't like that I'm dependent on another drug, but the sleep is so important to me. I take a low dose, and so far nothing bad has happened--I've heard bad stories!

I'm struggling with my weight. I've ballooned up to over 170 pounds, and on my small and short frame, that's huge. I hate the way I look in the mirror. I work out on a regular basis, and try to eat right, but it's hard when my teenagers and husband all bring CRAP into the house. I'm a stress eater. I quit smoking last year, only to gain more weight. Now I stress smoke only--

It's hard to know what goal to have next, and I almost need a person to actually talk to for some support. Not getting it at home or work, and I don't have the $$$ to join those weight loss clubs.

Sorry I'm ranting....
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Hugs to all.

I have been on sparkpeople 3 days. Started my diet and exercise on May 1st. I can't believe it's only been 3 days and temptation to give up is this strong.

I tried taking Lamitcal for 2 months and gained 12 pounds. It made me hungry all the time. So I've stopped taking it now.

Please feel free to add me as a spark friend. I am looking for some buddies to help me out on this journey! :)

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((hugs Julie)) Good luck tonight!! I hope it all goes well! Great job on the raise! I'm glad you stood up for yourself!

I'm dealing with a lot of depression right now. I don't know what's going on. I didn't sleep well last night, or the night before. It's not hot, but the heat is coming. I'm just trying to make it, minute by minute right now. My old best friend is in town, so I'm trying to contact her to hang out with her. We have plans for tonight, but she's not getting back to me and it's frustrating. I don't know what's going on and I need to be in control right now. *sigh* I'm just exhausted and wish I could nap. Angela knows there's something up... I was cuddling her all morning (around 6-8 am when I couldn't sleep) so she didn't sleep well, either. But she naps when I don't. I see my psych tomorrow, so hopefully we can figure something out!

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I've been away for a while--I don't have wifi/internet/computer at home, so things are patchy when I can come on here.

A couple of things: finally had it out with my boss. Long story short--we have the same college degrees, but he's been treating me as a "feudal servant"...even made fun of someone calling me smart ("She obviously doesn't know you well"). He has been making terrible life choices for decades, and it is catching up with him. I know we all have our "vices", but this is waaaaaay beyond that. Anyhoo, I got a raise! And my feelings known, so hopefully more respect at work.

Also, I'm going to have issues with the hubby tonight. I was going to go with him to his daughter's track meet Sunday night, but I just found out that MY daughter has an event the same time in the opposite direction. I missed the last few of my daughter's events because of work and weather, so I'm determined to go. But that means not going with hubby, and I know he's going to pout and be upset. Don't know how to go about this--

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Hi all!!

I've been doing okay... Just trying to hang in there, I guess. I just confronted the guy I posted about in the April chat, and he hasn't gotten back to me. He's at work, so I'm just waiting. *sigh* Other than that, I'm doing good!

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Hi all!

I tell myself every month that I'm going to keep up on this thread, but nooooo!
Will try again!

Carol - Houston, TX (it's weird to see this and not Kaua'i, Hawaii)

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Hi Audrey,

I remember those days !! Baseball in the Spring is a tradition !! I hope that you are enjoying the practices and games. I used to love to watch my kids play. It is so good for them and teaches them so much in the way of sportsmanship and team work. Have fun !! Take care and God bless, Deb emoticon

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Thank's for starting the thread, Deb!

I've been going crazy nuts with the girls baseball.

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It's a new month and the first day of May emoticon !! Happy May Day to all and welcome to the May Flowers Chat !!! Hopefully Spring emoticon has sprung in your area and you are not still in Winter mode. Have a great month ahead. Check in and share emoticon !! Hope to see you all here !!!

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