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1/4/17 8:45 P

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I used to be scared to leave my room when my sister or her husband were home (I lived with them). I would wait until they were at work, grab some food, fill up my water bottle, use the bathroom and then go back to my room. There was a bus strike so I did my therapy over the phone with my therapist. What helped me to finally step outside was a friend. I would be on the phone with a friend while going outside and that helped distract me from what was going on around me. It took a lot of work but now I have no problem going outside anymore. I don't know if this is something that might help you, but it was a help to me. *hugs*

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1/4/17 8:28 P

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I have spent the last half of last year battling my agoraphobia. I was so bad that my therapist was making house calls!!! Anyway, I am better now. Just getting back on SP website for the first time today. emoticon

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1/4/17 1:52 P

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You sort of sound like you are agoraphobic. The definition of agoraphobia is :

Agoraphobia is an anxiety disorder characterized by symptoms of anxiety in situations where the person perceives the environment to be unsafe with no easy way to get away. These situations can include open spaces, public transit, shopping malls, or simply being outside the home.

You may want to check that out with a mental health professional. If that definition is not what you feel you are up against, then perhaps a gratitude jar would help you out. You find a large jar and every day you write three things about what you like you for. They can be on any small piece of paper. You might be proud of yourself for doing something during your day or some interaction with others,say on Sparkpeople, that you are proud of having done. Perhaps you gave great advice or you helped someone else. Sparkpeople is non intrusive and I hope you feel comfortable here.You read some of them before you go out to bolster your self esteem. I think it is callous and cavalier that people have been telling you "most people don't pay attention and those who do really don't care." Those are some harsh words for someone who would like to get out but can't. I totally understand !! When my agoraphobia was at its peak, I was so housebound and I couldn't get out to save my soul. Then my psychiatrist came up with a plan that worked slowly for me. He also had me doing CBT. That is cognitive behavior therapy, which is a wonderful therapy for this sort of thing. It has you retrain your mind and it is fabulous. The definition of CBT is:

Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) is a short-term, goal-oriented psychotherapy treatment that takes a hands-on, practical approach to problem-solving. Its goal is to change patterns of thinking or behavior that are behind people's difficulties, and so change the way they feel.

I can't tell you how much this therapy helped me. Even if you are not agoraphobic, then it is useful to change those negative thoughts about going out. You said that you were in therapy. Have you ever tried CBT? You may want to check it out. I hope that your situation improves soon. It is no fun to be trapped. You shouldn't have to feel like you are in hell. You will get support here !! We are here for you. We'll be happy to listen and help you in anyway that we can. I can so relate to being housebound and "you don't just get over it". That is something that I heard a lot - just get over it. Act like an adult and just go on out to the Mall - get over yourself, is another. People don't usually mean to be mean. They simply don't understand. That is not your fault or your burden to carry. I hope that you've found something of interest in this post. Keep coming here to talk. If you want to know more, just sparkmail me. I can tell you what my psychiatrist did when he worked with me. I am a great listener if you want to talk. Take care and God bless, Deb emoticon

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Is anyone else suffering from an extreme amount of insecurity? It's few and far between when I can run errands by myself. I pretty much never leave the house except for doctor appointments. I thought when you got older it was supposed to get easier. Yes, I have been in therapy numerous times and been told over and over again that most people don't pay attention and those who do really don't care. I don't believe it! I feel like I'm in hell!

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