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9/22/16 5:27 P

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I volunteer at a local low income clinic and I have the nicest boss. She says to come in whenever I want, and leave when I want. If I miss a week, she's okay with it. I have a sneaking feeling she has mental issues too. I don't know what else to think why she would be so nice to me. So look around somewhere to put time in, and on a schedule if you want. Just make sure you don't get overwhelmed. Something close, too.

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9/22/16 2:03 P

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Wanted to follow up on my post (because it's an example of doing something and getting a little extra $ for it.)

The art show I mentioned in a previous post? I sold 3 of my four pieces! Because that doesn't dip into my retirement income, I was able to donate a small amount to a horse rescue, and still pay for the materials and participation in the art festival, plus $10 over.

My point is... "a job isn't the only way to add value to your life or household!" Bartering (goods or services, treats or time!) preshopping online or in your local paper, temp work (gardening or ???)... all can add VALUE, or reduce costs... or sometimes, add a few $ of cash.

A JOB is wonderful if it doesn't kill you... but that doesn't mean you can't add value at your own pace, drawing on your own skills and interests!

You matter, gang.



I guess my point here is that "a job" isn't the only way to add value to your life or your household.

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9/19/16 6:08 P

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So happy to hear things are going better now.

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9/18/16 9:31 A

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I made it official on Thursday and I have to say I have been feeling so much better! I feel so much more at peace with things. I am so glad for this group!

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9/16/16 4:57 P

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*hugs* I'm sorry I didn't get to this before. I think you are totally right about stopping work... I kept getting fired and then had so much trouble finding work. I'm on disability now so I have an income, but I have to think seriously about getting work again.

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9/15/16 10:22 P

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Anything so long as it gets you better. I hope transitioning will be easy for you.

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9/15/16 11:50 A

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Thank you Audrey and Wallowa for your input. I've decided after reading your comments, talking to hubby, therapist, and seeing things in black and white that quitting is the best thing I can do. We will save money on medical costs because I'll be able to get healthy again. I need to get better. This may be a season or may not but it is what it is. Thank you!

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9/14/16 1:34 P

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Hi my dears...

Work is certainly a stressor. While I finally retired at the end of 30 years due to life or death health issues, my learning piece is... if you can, don't let it get to life or death!

I have seizures and bipolar disorder, and while they are still there, I went from 6 seizures a day to maybe one every 6+ weeks, and the bipolar is more manageable.

Since retirement I did some part time work (what you might call temp work, but from home - I'm a well-regarded editor), but this year I have dropped working with the place I worked for and will say that it has transformed my health.

However... that means there is less money. So... I make a game out of cost reduction (example - my promotional price on my landline ran out, so I called to see if they had something else I could use... and they did!) I also reduced some other expenses by using a bicycle for part of my getting around, getting rid of a contract cell phone, and using my computer for movies and news rather than having cable tv. I'm assuming most of you already have this budget thing under control.

One thing I have done is redefined what entertainment is - instead of eating out, I do volunteer projects (obviously for the person working for the nonprofit that may not be helpful). I do temp work (in my case, it's caring for local barns when people need to be away) and have had some luck selling art (just started a year ago) and using art to help fund causes that matter to me.

I do believe that a great work environment is kind, respectful, and aligned with what matters to me. If it's not, I start to hurt. (I hurt anyway from time to time, no use in making it worse). I did find that working from home if I could reduced the stress. The big trick was not getting mad when I saw people doing things in ways that made me angry. (The mute button on the phone helped a lot with that... I could say irritated things but they'd never know.)

When I was working, despite the neuro stuff, I did develop some pretty good strategies for dealing with health issues. I found my strength (multitasking), and if I felt overwhelmed, I'd switch tasks for a bit and then switch back. I used to work more hours than I was paid for (think 6 day weeks, 14 hour days). If you are donating time, I'd rethink that.

Otherwise, reality checks (like on this forum) and becoming aware of ADA options for reasonable accommodation and how to successfully apply them are very helpful tools.

Gotta get my pictures together - I was juried into an art show that's happening this week, and doing some painting for the en plein air part of the festival. I'm also doing barn chores for a local artist this week who otherwise wouldn't be able to participate. And... there are two receptions (parties!) attached to the festival... I get to go out without spending a wad of money! And if I sell anything at one of the 3 events I (1) get money, (2) can afford my charitable contribution and it gives me a tax refund, and (3) woo hoo!

PS... I also look at "money" a bit differently. I trade chores for things I need (pet care when I have to be away), sell things on ebay once in a while, and use a couple of free FB groups to find apples to pick (great for baking) and treats to exchange. (This is sort of like the cost analysis the person with kids just pointed out.)

Okay, gotta ramble. Stay cool, you guys. Work can be stressful but there are ways to balance it... including letting it go without feeling bad about yourself. Hugs KB




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9/14/16 12:39 P

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Well, our kids are still young, so the guilt is a little less because of that, but I actually quit working prior to the pregnancies. I look at it as I need it to take the time to take care of me. My past couple jobs I was either fired for having meltdowns (helpful hint: don't tell a district manager to shove anything anywhere), or the anxiety just was killing me. This way, I'm here to do what I need with the kids and take care of the house (something I really need to do more of, lol).

When it comes down to it, it's actually costing us less money with only one of us working. We only need 1 vehicle, we don't have to constantly be filling gas tanks (my last job was a half hour drive to and from, making a whopping $2.83/hr), child care is never an issue, we can keep up with the kids extracurriculars.

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Thanks Audrey. I think I am slowly coming to the conclusion that not working might have to be the answer but I keep fighting it. I looked at the budget and we can do it. I don't count the work I do into the budget anyways (they don't pay on time frequently) and am using it right now to pay back his mom. How did you become comfortable with not working and not feeling guilty about pulling in some income on your own? I didn't feel guilty when my daughter was younger (up until she was 5-years old) but now that she is older (12.5) I am feeling guilty if I don't work anymore.

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I was feeling that way about 6 years ago. My solution was to stop working. I don't regret it, and I'm lucky enough that we're financially secure enough with just my husband working.

That said, it sounds like you just need to take a little more time just for you. Even if it's only a few minute to meditate, drink a cup of herbal tea, or read a chapter in a book. Sometimes just a little distance can give you a whole new perspective, and more energy and focus.

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Hi Everyone,

I have been battling this issue for about 2 years now and I'm wondering what solutions you have found, if any, to work for you. Right now I work for a non-profit organization and get paid for 8 hours a week. It is very flexible, no set schedule, work from home, and no real pressure on deadlines (getting response time with other team members is very hard though). I don't agree with the Executive Director's direction though and am very vocal. Other than that, an ideal work environment really. I am struggling though with constantly being overwhelmed or unmotivated. I was even experiencing this when I worked only 5 hours a week for them. I literally am in a standstill when I see my daily to-do list when I combine work, home, volunteer, and taking care of myself. It all feels like too much. Yet, I feel like it is below a normal load that I am carrying than the average person. I can't seem to get the schedule consistent between personal maintenance (workouts, nurturing, etc.), my daughter's school and activities (hubby not comfortable leaving her more than 2 hours alone which I agree with; plus keeping her busy but balanced), my volunteer work with the neighborhood (I feel is very important because the decisions impact us directly so I can help steer them), and then all of the work to-do's. I am literally constantly overwhelmed which then makes me go into a standstill only being able to do the bare minimum in general. I've been challenged with constant hypomania every week this past year with occasional downs. So, it's been rough. Have you been able to find a successful work rhythm while still being able to maintain everything else? Is it more than I am thinking and just need to realize this? Would love your feedback please.

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