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I think I will try and look for some rocks this coming new year and then I'll have to learn to clan them and try my hand at some, that way, I can maybe do some as Christmas gifts of some things, sounds very interesting!!

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I like the positive words and pictures on the rocks. I think it is a hobby that brings joy to all involved. Children love finding and collecting the rocks. Everyone loves painting. It is fast and simple.

A lot of people make tribute rocks for lost loved ones. Kind of a nice idea to paint things that were meaningful on the rocks and then placing them in a special place in the garden or out to be found. I belong to a lot of different Rock FB groups.

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Also a lot of people put positive words on a painted rock. That is where the kindness comes in. To some people it is like finding a message just when they needed it.

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Thanks maybe I will try that some day

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You don't need to be an artist for this, just paint the rock a color and then put on polka dots, squiggly lines, or whatever, in a contrasting color. You might also consider just putting a sticker or two onto the painted rock.

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Cathy, thanks, I'm not a drawer or painter, but, maybe some day I'll try my hand at it, just need to find a rock, lol

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Rosie, Yes you do need to wash the rocks thoroughly. I prep mine with Mod Podge after washing, because I like the natural rock look and I use Posca Paint pens, so a smoother surface is easier, then I seal with Mod Podge spray on acrylic sealer. If you are painting with a brush you don't really need to preseal the rocks. I love it, because it is a craft that does not take up much room. Also, I have to take hikes to find rocks to paint and then when I am done, I have to take more hikes to hide them. Paint parties on canvas are more social and we actually have a good teacher that I am still learning techniques from that seem to translate to the rocks. Unfortunately, I have paintings all over the house and taking up room in my bench. I need to start finding other homes for them. In the meantime I am having fun.

Val, Bob Ross calls those Happy Little Mistakes. I have been known to wash the paint off my rocks and start over, I have also followed Bob Ross and the art of wabisabi and incorporated the mistake.

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Never painted any rocks b4, but I'm not much of a painter lol I do know someone that does, paint rocks, now do u have to clean and polish them b4 you paint them?

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I am not an artist but love paining kindness rocks. The best things about painting rocks is that if you donít like it just paint over it.

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Val, Thank you for the team goodie flowers. You are always so good about getting those out. I don't think about the goodies, but always enjoy them and I also forget to read the Feed too.

I have a paint party tonight and all I want to do is take a nap. I took a two hour nap yesterday and then slept 8 hours too. Not sure if it is lack of sunlight or maybe fighting a bug.

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emoticon Team for the goodie

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emoticon the year is quickly coming to a close

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Yes, Cathy, the picture and memory and the vese and that is my son and his wife, they had this done for me.

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I love the idea of Pasta at Christmas. I made a crockpot full of veggie, black bean and chicken kielbalsa soup. It was really good, but there was too much fun food. Only a couple of practical people tried it. Now that it is home, I can feel good about eating it instead of potatoes and dressing.

Rose, that was so very loving of your girls to share their thoughtful and kind gift with you.


Sis called. Turns out BIL is better caretaker and feeling quite happy to do it. So they let a couple people go. One had a bad cough and the other had something else going on, so sis didn't feel too guilty. Then she called back to share the news that she is going to be a great gma in May. Woohoo!. Nothing like a baby to perk people up and help them heal.

One of my close friends (my walking partner, not my swimming partner) messaged me that her same age cousin she was close to died Christmas Evening. I feel so sad for the family.

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Well, we celebrated our Christmas together yesterday, my grandchildren except for 2 of them, and some of my great grands and my daughter and myself, I received this from my granddaughters my sons girls and her cousin and family


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My Christmas Dinner Alone

This year, I spent Christmas without my family.

My family's Christmas dinner tradition was always homemade spaghetti and a big garden salad.

My mother never taught me how to make homemade spaghetti. However, she did teach me how to make a mean pasta salad. So, what was I supposed to do for Christmas this year?

I made a big pasta salad.

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I am glad all is well with your people Cathy.

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Good News:
My Sis called me back. She was much better. I am not sure how she resolved her pain, if it was more pain meds, happy hour or less PT or maybe just some healing and lots of prayer. She said it was more painful than childbirth. Anyway, she is going home tomorrow with 24 hour in home care for one week. Then they will reassess to see what is needed.

My young friend got his new battery for his pacemaker today. They numbed him up, cut open his skin and muscle and shoved everything around to replace the battery. Everything else was working perfectly. I suppose since he has been enduring surgeries every couple years that the docs figured he wouldn't be anxious watching what was going on. So glad he healed from the infection and the seizure. He also is going home tomorrow.

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Yesterday, GD and I went Christmas shopping in Longview and then in the evening I went to a paint party at Running Dogs brewery. I don't normally like beer, but a beer or tots came with the party. I did not want greasy tots and told him I didn't like beer, so he recommended the cider. It turned out to have a little alcohol in it too. Not much. It was sure tasty. Great for thirst quenching. But I probably won't get it again. I really like kombucha much better and it is healthy for us. The fox painting was not one of my best, but I am not sure if I am going to try to mess with it at home or not.

Today, I rode the bus to Portland with GD to make sure she was comfortable with finding her way to campus from the bus stop. She starts at PSU in January. She found a sushi place. I am not a fan, but the little Asian woman came outside and welcomed us in. How could I say "no" to either of them. It was incredible and for the price quite reasonable for downtown PDX. Anyway the sushi was on a conveyor belt. I couldn't understand the woman's English, but the young man beside me at the bar was very helpful in helping me pick out plates that were cooked or just had veggies in them. I am not a fan of any raw meat. The texture creeps me out. So glad I went there. Will go again. This evening was our TOPS party. The healthy snacks were fabulous and the White Elephant Bingo was great fun.

Tomorrow, I rest.

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I have a funny story about this. Prior to my foot surgery I had a couple of appointments to be approved for surgery and the question about drinking was asked. My family doctor is very new to me and this was on my second appointment with her for a pre-surgery physical. My reply was, "Yes I drink Awestruck Cider and it is very good, you should try it if you haven't." She looked over at me and smiled and said, "I have tried it and it is very good."

BTW, Awestruck cider is a local cider maker here in NY state. We have a lot of breweries and now cideries opening up. Awestruck makes special season ciders too that are very good. emoticon Cheers!

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And yet we read all these articles that moderate alcohol drinking (a serving a day) may help our health in several different ways. Of course, there is always the comment that if you don't consume alcohol you shouldn't start just for the possible health benefits.

Maybe most doctors are assuming that no one drinks moderately... I suppose a lot of their professional experiences lead them to assume that there is no such thing as moderate consumption.

I guess we all have to follow our best judgement about Voluntarily telling our doctors about our alcohol consumption.

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Nancy great point. I try not to judge others. I have often said you donít know what someone has been through in life.

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I am afraid that the discussion of honesty with our doctors about drinking practices has hit upon a very strong reason why people are NOT being honest. It seems as though a large group of people are being judged on the basis of some. Not ALL Catholics drink, NOT all non-catholic Christians abstain from drinking, NOT ALL people of any group practice what they believe or profess to believe. I am neither a drinker, nor a Catholic, but I don't judge others by their choices but unfortunately many doctors and nurses are human and feel their role gives them the right to decide that a person's drinking habits make them somehow less deserving of care and kindness than someone who claims not to drink. People over time have learned to lie about those habits because they are embarrassed or afraid they will not get treated with respect or given proper care unless they are perfect!

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I know a lot of Catholics that drank, do drink or have drank, some in my family by marriage on my step moms side, of course. My grandma did not drink, although she used to take nyquil at night, I guess so she could sleep, my hubby said to me one time, the reason she took it was because it had alcohol in it, but, grandma was Not a drinker she was a firm believer in Church and did not believe in that kind of stuf, it was a sin. I used to drink beer, but not any more emoticon

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Rosie, That brought back a fun memory from the 80s. Two of the priests from a nearby parish would eat out at the same restaurant DH and I went to. They often sat in the back corner with their wine and red noses giggling. They were so cute. So yes. I don't think a glass of wine is frowned upon. In fact a lot of alcohol was consumed in the Bible probably because the fermenting killed off parasites.

I am really glad some hospitals are rethinking their strategies. I am not a fan of alcohol or drugs. Food is my addiction, so I kind of get the struggle and desire for comfort. So trying not to cast any stones. It is just not for me.

Went to foot doctor with my swim friend today. She is cleared to go back to the pool and also to go on retreat in the three story house. We just have to pad out the spot for all the stair climbing. It was nice getting good news today.

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Always seemed to me that Catholics used to always have a drink, but, I don't know.
Glad your friend is better Cathy
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Cathy I have not seen that article, but it makes a lot of sense. When my husband had surgery last year he was honest about his weekend drinks and they sent a priest to talk to him. He was very offended and so he will never admit that again I'm sure. I think a lot of adults in your sisters generation grew up with an evening cocktail or two as the norm and now the health organization is frowning on that.

I'm glad to hear your friend is doing better too.

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Update:

Mark messaged me. He said he is feeling decent. No stroke as the doctors feared. They think his muscles spasmed. He has been in the hospital two weeks. He needs his INR (blood clotting) levels leveled. And then they can replace the pacemaker. He is hoping for Monday. I am going to the hospital to visit on Saturday. He must be bored if he is messaging his former preschool teacher.

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Called my niece again and she answered the phone. She was switching planes and her sister is with her dad. Sis is struggling with a lot of pain. Probably because she doesn't get to do happy hour. My Sis and BIL have done happy hour all their adult life. It consists of a couple drinks and lasts about two hours. Never more. Never at another time. They even adhere to the 5pm rule when they are traveling to other time zones. They have functioned quite well with their discipline. Now she is in the hospital and miserable. I am sure she is detoxing. Anyway, I suggested that Niece might bring her a little present to go with her meal and that might go a long ways to helping her cope. I read about this, I think in the AARP or USA Today magazine. Many older patients refuse to tell their doctors of their alcohol habits and then go through detox while trying to heal from something else. They have been known to die from it. Some hospitals are now encouraging them to keep their daily habits in moderation. Has anyone here also read this article. I tossed the magazines and now can't seem to find it online. My reason for this is that the doctors are increasing the pain meds. I fear they are going to turn her into an opiod addict. She is 80 but was in extreme good health till the fall. I don't want them adding drugs to the mix when she probably just needs the comfort of the happy hour routine. I don't drink, but the whole ceremony around it was a gentle celebration that involves cooking and sharing the events of the day. It may not have been the healthiest thing for them to do, but it never interfered with their life or anyone else's till the hospital. Hoping you can help me find the article. Thank you.

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Thank you, not yet.

I tried a number that does belong to my niece, but I think it is a work phone since the message was work related. So she may not have that one on her at the hospital. However, I think she would have it with her. I am sure she is keeping in contact with her employers. I don't know what is happening. Still worried, trying to leave this in the hands of God and all our loved ones that have passed on. This does not need to be about me.

Post on facebook for a former student, that has kept in touch with me for 25 years. He was an extremely bright child and a kind young man. His pacemaker has been failing and he was in the hospital last week. He went code blue this morning and his sisters who both volunteered in my classroom are requesting prayers.

This prayer was posted on the page and I like it.
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God, may you give the doctors the wisdom & courage to deal with this terrifying situation & comfort Mark & his loved ones, in Jesus' name. Amen.



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Cathy I hope you have been able to reach her.

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Hi everyone. I have been gone a long time. Started using the phone app, but couldn't find the teams. I know this is a difficult time for all of us who have lost someone special. I hope we all find something wonderful this holiday season.

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Feeling a little scared and frustrated. I called my Sis and she was in tears and told me she wasn't supposed to have phone calls or company. Said she would call me in a few days. I have been trying to call her home phone to find out what is up. No answer there. I don't have either of my nieces phone numbers. Never occurred to me that I might need them. Wishing Mom was here now, but I think she is more needed by my sister's side. I am sure she is there in spirit, and I really should just have more faith.

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Alice, glad you went to your group support

It has been said that when we wake up in the morning, we should have a smile, but, in my opinion, that isn't always easy to do. I would like to wake up like that every morning. Also and it is trrue, we have to make our selves happy by being happy, but, we go through situations where we can not always be happy, I have books and have read some books on being happy and how to be happy and I guess if we practice it, then maybe we can be that way.

This is the 2nd Christmas without my son and the 3rd without my DDIL. also my 11th year with out my DH emoticon emoticon

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Fix yourself something comforting for dinner...

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Alice I found that my support group made me feel a lot better early on in my grief. It is important to do what is best for you.

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Alice, Glad you nurtured you and found the support you needed.

My sis is a little frustrated today. The nurses kind of got after her for not doing all the exercises. This is my fit, smart, 80 year old sister. She tried to explain to them that she is 80. She really does not look it. Now she is just tired and frustrated. I am hoping that today goes better for her.

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Update---I did go to my bereavement group, and I am happy I changed my plans. I will be with friends at a later date.




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This is my first Christmas without my brother. I am starting to be sad again. emoticon

I am skipping my bereavement group to be with friends. I wish I could be both places at once.

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On-A-Diet - I was going to say the same thing as Cathy. Just say what you want to say. I often get lost in all the threads myself.

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Ona, You are our good friend too. Don't worry about keeping up. Just jump in with whatever is on your mind. This is about you.and what your needs are. Sending hugs.

I did not call my sis today wonder if it is too late to text her. Must be about 8PM and things will be settling down at the hospital. Will do that and call her in the morning.

Made tamales today. They are definitely an act of love, but I am so horrible at them. Arggghhh. Also went out to lunch with former work friend and her daughter. Very nice!




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We had a candle lighting at our service this morning

Good that your sister is in good health

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I am glad to hear your sister is doing ok and I agree that being with their father will be good for them to understand. Hopefully, when your sister is back home they will offer more help realizing that she probably needs it.

Tonight is The Compassionate Friends Candle Light Ceremony. Light a candle at 7PM in your time zone.


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My Sis fell and broke her hip on Wednesday. She called me today to let me know that she has a new titanium rod in a bone. No replacement. She is 80 and in really good health so that is a blessing. She will be undergoing extreme PT. She chose the accelerated plan of staying inpatient and working four hours a day for a couple of weeks. Her daughters are at their home caring for their Dad. He has dementia. In a way this is good, so they can get a better idea of what his needs are too.


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Thank you, ladies for the ideas, I did pick up something for my 18 yr. old granddaughter, she said she likes everything, I got her some perfume and a pair of slipper sox, and I usually always get her some fuzzy socks she always have liked them, I never thought about a journal or something like that and yes, she does have her own car. I will keep these thoughts in my mind for another time I guess. The boys are 5 and 7 years old, they are so cute, I did get them some play dough and puzzles and some crayons and a coloring book each. Those were a dollar each not bad at all. I "think" I am done, "I hope".

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Good Morning all. I love your memories Cathy and I think feeding the ducks is a great thing to do in Tom's memory.

My boys loved legos as young kids it is too bad the mother doesn't want them to have toys since I would put legos in the toy category. I am sure they are safe these days. That was one thing I often bought for my "Joshua" gift from a giving tree.

I have an 18 year old granddaughter that I have make a list of what she wants and then I choose from the list. It makes it so much easier to buy for her that way. She also have a birthday right after Christmas so I can use the list for that too.

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Hi Rosie---

Age appropriate books or picture books make a great gift for the boys.


Unfortunately, 18 year old girls are difficult to buy for. If she has her own car, car accessories make a nice gift----emergency items are good like a small plastic box filled with a collapsible shovel, a small container of ice-melt, road flares, moisture resistant matches, first aid kit etc.

Otherwise, clothing---mittens with a fold-over that are good for texting or something else she would like. I know that you don't want a gift card, but she might appreciate a gift certificate to her favorite hair or nail salon.

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For the older girl, maybe a really pretty journal with fancy colored pens. You might even go for a blank journal without lines so she can sketch in it too. Also, is she starting to collect things for her own apartment? She might appreciate basic kitchen supplies. Cute hand towels, pot holders. Etc.

I don't know how old the boys are, but non-toxic art supplies could be good. My grandson is obsessed with Legos.

Warm Fuzzy: Re: Tom. This is more of a winter fuzzy than a Christmas Fuzzy. We would spend all year saving the bread heels. We put them in a paper sack on top of the fridge where they could dry out without getting moldy. ( We were really too poor to buy healthy food for them.) As the weather turned cold and sleety, snowy or frozen, we would take the bread down to Crystal Springs Rhododendron garden and feed the hungry ducks and geese. The poor lazy birds were fed all summer by tourists and as soon as the weather changed they were neglected. They loved seeing us.

Last time I visited the park, you were only allowed to purchase proper bird food in the park to feed the birds and the group who looks after the park started a program to care for the birds year round. For this I am glad.

Any way it is something Tom and I did alone usually as we were kind of venturing out in iffy weather. I can't tell you how much joy it gave me to spend that time with him nurturing a neglected group of birds. That is something I could do now in his memory. The geese and ducks at Trojan have the same fate. Tourists in summer and no one in winter. However, now I do buy bird seed and proper food for the birds. No more left overs.

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Good morning, I really don't do anything like that in memory, I guess, because there wasn't anything, to do, except, maybe the decorating of our/my tree. Ever since we had our children, we let them decorate the tree, and then after the kids grew up and had children of their own, we let them do the decorating and now, the gandkids are old enough to help do that. B, for the most part, my heart isn't really into, this holiday, like it really should be, since my hubby is gone and DIL and my son emoticon I also especially have a problem trying to buy hings for some, or all or most of my family,

I need some ideas, for my 18 year old granddaughter, other than a gift card, and I have a couple of great grandsons tha I need to get something that is not a toy as his mom/my granddaughter does not want them to have anything that is painted as it is toxic, (I guess) ho hum, if you have any ideas, please let me know, Thanks emoticon

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Making a note here to write about Tom and the ice and ducks next.

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Thank you. I truly had a great childhood. Might have been a little too spoiled to make good decisions as a young adult, but that just gives me lots of stories to write about.

Warm Fuzzy: My Dad and I would ride the horses out to the tree farm to cut down our tree. When I was six we planted Ponderosa Pine and Redwood on 15 acres. That is usually where we hunted for trees after I turned 10 and Mom bought her aluminum tree with the spinning light. The Redwood was choked out by the more aggressive alder and blackberries, but the Ponderosa Pine kept fighting for a foothold. It never did get to any size before Dad sold the property, so that made it perfect and unusual for a Christmas tree for my bedroom. We would ride up and down the hills through muck and rain and sleet looking for the most uniform tree. Usually after checking out every tree we would go back to one of the first ones we looked at. My guess is Dad had probably been observing the trees on a weekly basis and knew which one I would want, yet he indulged my need to look at all of them. He would saw the tree down, tie it off the saddle horn and drag it out behind him. A couple of years it snowed on us. The whole countryside became magically soft and silent and comforting.

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Cathy - what wonderful memories you have.

It is great to also give to something that meant a lot to the person.

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I love that idea too. Although I think that it would be more meaningful to Tom if I bought something for the Humane Society or took items to the food bank. I will look around and come up with some ideas. Thank you.

Warm fuzzy: I probably take over a week to decorate the tree because I love to handle the ornaments and remember who they came from and when I got them. My mom took up beading years ago. She wasn't particularly crafty, but she wanted something to give to her loved ones to remember her by. (Her words) Not only do I have several years worth of angels and bells of my own, I also inherited the ones she made for her tree. My mom was a wonderfully wise woman. It might have helped that she helped raise her brothers, then my two older sisters and then me. She was also a gentle woman who watched and observed and by the time she decided she was right, she most definitely was. She was super intelligent. She could remember anything. She was mentally, emotionally and spiritually strong. She taught me to be resilient. So did dad. Back to the ornaments. As much as I love them, the memories they bring back were of her writings. She wrote beautifully and told wonderful stories of life on the plains in North Dakota, riding in a sleigh under buffalo robes, her wild brothers and working in a logging camp slinging hash. The stories were her true legacy.

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What an awesome idea! My son Ed and I do things all the time in honor of Michael, but I love the idea of choosing someone named Michael off the giving tree and buying the gifts in MY Michael's honor.

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Early on in my grief I was able to pick a name off a tree and buy gifts for them. I would of course search trees until I found a Josh or Joshua. Now they don't use the names and I don't quite get the same satisfaction.

I also always light three candles on holidays that to me means I Love You. emoticon

Thanks for starting the thread I was a bit behind this month.

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Welcome to December, time for festivities, bittersweet memories and some pretty deep grieving for many people.

Hopefully, we can keep our friends in our thoughts and embraced in our hearts. Even the most steadfast people can be struggling or have moments of sadness.

So Question: What is one thing that you do in memory of your loved one over the holidays.? I am looking for the bittersweet and hopefully the warm glow that can come from remembering good times.

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