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I love our new kayaks. I am glad to hear you like yours too.

How nice that you have been a part of their lives. 97 is a good age to live to as long as we keep our wits about us.

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So much easier on the sit on top kayak. It is not as swift once in the water, but getting it in and out was easier and getting on and off it was easier. Glad to be independent again.

Heading to a memorial service in a few. The lady was 97 years old. I was friends with both her daughter and granddaughter. I knew her mother and step father and am getting acquainted with her great grandson who hugged me recently and thanked me. So that is five generations of this family I have known. Wow. That even impresses me. She lived a good full life. Her daughter died several years ago. Her granddaughter is struggling with MS. I want to be there for her.



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Yes about the sit in. I am about 80 pounds overweight too. Luckily, I have strong legs, but I am really short so last kayaking I managed to get a monster bruise on my leg. It should be easier to get on and off the sit on. I don't mind falling in water. I float and I wear my life jacket. Still starting in calm water first. I will let you know how it goes.

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Cathy that is the perfect celebration for someone and reminded me of my Nana's wishes. She wanted no funeral and for us to celebrate her going home. She carried so much faith and lived for meeting Jesus. I loved her so.

I am also glad you splurged on your kayak. I had originally thought I wanted a sit in Kayak but after talking it through with the salesman I changed my mind mostly because I have some back issues and trying to lift myself up and out of a sit in one would be harder than the sit in. As he said people need to just not panic on the sit on kayak and they will be fine. The hubby and I rented sit on kayaks and were convinced that is what we wanted.

Yes it is still raining here and I am hoping to see the sun soon. It almost feels like winter with the gray skies.

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The picnic was nice. It almost felt like a class reunion. Lot's of people I knew from high school, all friends of my MIL's five children and their spouses. I understand now what Granny T wanted. This was her request and it was very specific. No funeral, have a picnic at Trojan Park in the summer with friends and family and good food. I do like that.

Rosie, glad you are feeling better. Keeping you also in prayer.

Jamer, being snowbird would really make a difference in how to organize what happens. Glad your mom is healing. Also keeping her in prayer.

Val, I had a moment yesterday and splurged on a smaller kayak that fits in my Blazer and is 20 pounds lighter. I wasn't going to buy it, but I decided to view it as medical. It is for my health. Now to test run in it in the slough without Buddy, just to make sure I can balance a sit on top kayak.


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Rosie I am glad things went better for you than you expected. I will keep you in my prayers.

Jamer I am glad that you had a good laugh - that is often the best medicine. I'm also glad your mom is doing better.

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Thank you for praying, all went better than I expected,

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Cathy, we have Memorial services in our resort. People are from all over the country that come for the winter. When my dad passed away there, the funeral was to be in IA at our home town area. The resort is in Pharr, TX (McAllen) and he had to be flown to IA. Mom stayed up north for about 5 weeks, through Christmas and New Yrs. to get business done. When she returned there was a Memorial service in the park for dad and they plan it around when family can arrive to share with others. Sometimes the memorial services are 6 months after the deaths. It always helps those the knew the individual time to grieve as well.

Rosie, I will keep you in my prayers.

I can now feel the heavy stress I have been under starting to lift. We left TX a week ago after staying for mom's heart surgery. The heat on our travels have been horrendous. Have been in Branson a couple of days camping with friends and enjoying a couple shows before moving on. Last night's show had us laughing until we cried. Good for us both.
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I got up a little late this morning, please pray for me for today I am going to need it, looks like it will not be a very good day UGH

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Well we are having a week of rain here in upstate NY. Our rivers were very low, but we are picking up our kayaks this week and really want to use them. Hopefully the weekend will give us nicer weather.

I hope everyone is doing well.

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Val and Nancy, Thank you for your input. That helps me to understand. Yes, growing up it was always within three days or the first weekend. I wonder if the three day thing was due to working people as jobs only give three days bereavement. Or possibly a holdover from before refrigeration and embalming.

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When my father died they had the funeral and burial before my mother even knew he was dead. My brother and I were still in the hospital too, but they had at least told us. My motherís condi was quite severe and they didnít expect her to live. I wish they had waited for us to be able to attend, but back in those days it was done quickly. I donít think people realized they had a choice.

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I can appreciate your confusion. With my parents and my stepmother, we had a church service/memorial quickly but later for my father and stepmother had the internment at Arlington several months later because it sometimes takes months to arrange the services at Arlington as it involved the Army for my father and the Navy for my stepmother. Part of the delay was on the military's part and part was because family members wanted to attend and needed time to arrange travel and to schedule time off from jobs, school, etc. to make the trip. So many came from other states and many were older and we waited for more seasonably pleasant weather. I think many people look at the convenience of the living to arrange services or memorial celebrations. When my friend's son passed away last year, her other son was away on a job out of state and she decided to wait about three months to hold the services to accommodate her son and his family. They would have come at any time, but it would have been financially and logistically a hardship and my friend decided it was again more important to consider her son's family's situation than to hold the services immediately.

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Sunday is a memorial tribute for my first mother in law. She was good to me and I am still friends with the family. It is a picnic at a local park. She passed away last year.

I think this is a nice thing to do, but I guess I don't get the long wait period. The family did not have a funeral or memorial for her when she passed. I needed that closure with my parents and I needed it fairly soon instead of waiting. So many people are waiting for longer and longer periods now after a loved one dies. Just trying to understand.

I think I would still have a memorial service immediately and then If I felt like having other tributes later that would be fine too.


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Rainbow strong coincidence there. Glad you enjoyed your balloon ride. I've never been on one, never wanted to. I gave my children some money towards a ride years ago. When there are a few in the air the sight is so spectacular.

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I hope you got lots of pictures. I have found doing things that my loved ones would have loved is healing.

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Good News ladies.

We do have a very great group here. Thank you for always allowing me to talk about my son Josh. At least you don't all think I'm crazy because I still feel sad over not having him in my life anymore.

I believe I mentioned that on what should have been his 40th birthday I had a hot air balloon ride scheduled for that day that got cancelled. While I finally got the ride in last weekend and to my surprise there was a crew member that was named Josh. I knew that it was meant to be and the ride was fabulous.

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This is a wonderfully supportive team. One can always stop in to visit or just read and someone is always here.

Mom and my DIL as well as our granddaughter are all improving with their health issues. I believe a lot in prayer and have had them on a couple prayer lists. I feel the wonder of prayer has certainly worked form them. And I do hope we don't have any more health issues this yr. This has been quite the trip.

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Thank you, Cathy, you are a great person your self as well, emoticon emoticon

Glad that your sister is in good health,

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Today is my oldest sister's 80th birthday. Mom was 90 when she passed. I want my sister for more than ten more years. However, she seems to think mid to upper 80s is fine for her. But the thing is that she is in really good health and has her wits about her, so I plan to hang on to her despite her thinking. I may be in denial, but it works for me.

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Rosie, I hope today has found you some coping and serenity. I know you are a strong person. So glad that you feel comfortable enough to share those sad moments with us.

Future, Love the emoticons letting us know that you have us all in your thoughts too. Thank you.

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Moon and Jamer, You are two more members who are always here when we need a shoulder to lean on. Thank you both.

Jamer, I will keep your mother and DIL in prayer and thoughts. Hope they are both mending right now.

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Nancy, Thank you also for being such a good leader on this team. It takes a village to offer support and compassion.

When my Sister died from a car accident, I grieved heavily for two years after. When my parents died of old age in their 90s I was kind of relieved and happy for them that they could start their new adventure. I had been grieving their age and declining health for several years before. I don't think either way is easier, but it certainly is different. And there seems to be two years for me to cope and readjust my life as needed.

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Elizabeth, I will keep you and your DH in prayer and in my heart. I think I will go to our candle site and light a candle too. Sending love and hugs to you.

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Val, Glad you got to enjoy Mother Nature's fireworks. Also, wanted to thank you for keeping up with this team. I seem to have been awol awhile. You are a great leader.

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Am much better, now, although I still have my days as I know we all do at times, and Thank you all

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I hope you are feeling a bit better now. emoticon

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When you feel like crying, maybe that is what you need to do. Hugs and support for you, we all know that we are going to be okay but knowing that doesn't mean it doesn't hurt and that we don't need to cry sometimes! It might help to talk or write about some memories and the things that made your loved one special! Sharing your feelings can help ease the pain and give some release!

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I'm praying that everything turns out well. I understand the many different types of grief and especially how your son's loss can come back and slap you in the face at times. Mine does too. emoticon

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My thoughts and prayers are with you Elizabeth. I can understand the grieving process all too well.

My mom is 91 and just had heart surgery. I am still in TX. caring for her with many up and down days. Not because of continued failure but with her denying that anything is wrong and she should get to go back to her normal life. Hard to get her to understand that 2 wks. out of surgery doesn't give her time to heal. Dr. told her another 2 wks.

This afternoon got a call from my DIL who had an injury over a month ago and it's been infected the entire time with her under treatment but apparently not enough. The area burst opening with huge drainage. Told her to go to the ER and she has been admitted. She is in MN. and we are still in TX. Would like to be there for her as this is a very serious matter. I hope and pray that they get it under control.

Watching both 4th programs and fireworks. I think I am enjoying the PBS one better than Macy's but both good. I like that we can record and watch.

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It is pretty normal to begin the grieving process when facing which life limiting or threatening conditions. When my father died, he had been bedridden for over two years and been close to death many times. I realized that I had been grieving for those years and his actual death was less traumatic than those who had a much shorter period of decline because I had adjusted to and expected it at any time during that whole time.

I will keep you and your husband in my thoughts and prayers for a quick transplant and speedy recovery.

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It's been a long time since I shared via post on LALO, although I do often read and think about the grief process. It's been over ten years since my beloved son Scott was killed, and DD is in her 30's with two DDs of her own. Still, there are times when his sudden loss weighs on me, and affects my motivation and energy.

I've been thinking a lot about grief as DH's health rides the roller coaster that is the chronic disease ESRD and dialysis treatment. Most swings are: he's doing great, now he's so fatigued he can't even get out of bed; from "your BP is low, stay in bed" to he got up and fell, now he's being rushed to another hospital because his spine is badly bruised. We've gone from, "he's in the ICU, would he want to be put on life support?" to he's bouncing back faster than anyone could have imagined, and then he recovers well.

Now DH has been approved for a kidney transplant, and I am scared to death of the many possible ways it can go wrong. We're in the midst of final consultations, signing contracts, filing our caregiver plans, and so on. He's close to the top of the list, so soon it should be beeper time and the intense waiting for a match.

Is it wrong that I feel like I'm already grieving losing him? We lost the comfortable, easy, sexual life we had before he became so ill, but that is much more of an issue for DH than for me. I'm happy, even with the stress; but DH has NOT been happy. However, this huge move forward on the transplant has greatly lifted his spirits.

I'm afraid that I'll be here on LALO in the not-too-distant future as a new widow with extreme grief instead of the way it is now, having hopeful possibilities of a new healthier life together.



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We arrived home today and got the car unpacked just in time as a thunderstorm came through. Perfect 4th of July weather. Mother Natureís fireworks. I do hope for a great month and wish everyone a great month too.

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Perfectly pleasant here. I ate lunch in the back yard and read for awhile till Buddy decided he wanted to come back in the house.

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Glad you had a fun weekend with your brother. We also continue to have high heat indexes and temps. 100 today with a 111 HX. Looks to be possibly bringing more rain storms into the area Thurs. and Fri.

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Glad you had a great weekend! I am looking forward to a great new month and hope you have a fantastic month too!

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Sorry I didnít get this thread started yesterday. I was in Indiana for a surprise birthday party for my brother. It was a great weekend although very hot.

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