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I will be careful, don't worry. I don't have slippery floors, but I am planning to buy a stepladder with 3 or 4 steps and keep it in one of my closets. I can reach most of the things in my house but there are a few places that I can't quite get to. I have used a kitchen chair before but I would prefer a small stepladder. I do have some good news today. My son got a call last night that the repair guy from the factory will be coming this Friday and hopefully they will be able to get things fixed in just one day. I will need to make another trip to the laundromat in the next couple of days because I am running out of clean clothes, but hopefully that will be my last one. I had to shovel a couple of inches of snow and sleet off my deck this morning, and I hope that is the last time I have to do that this season too! I needed to go out to take my garbage and recycling to the end of the road for pickup this morning, so I swapped my pajama pants for jeans and put on socks and boots and off I went. Now I am back in my pajamas for a bit until I get around to shower and get dressed for the day. It didn't take me long to get used to lounging around in the morning!

I guess my daughter-in-law and her mom will be flying home late Friday night/early Saturday morning. Her dad will be cremated and his ashes probably won't be ready for pickup that quick but they will have them shipped home when they are ready. I am sure her mom is ready to be home and around family and friends just as I was. She had a couple of friends out there and a couple of relatives, but didn't know too many people from what my son told me. At home she will have lots of support, as she is very active in her church and she is part of a singing group, plus I think they are quite well known in the community. My son said it isn't surprising that he and his wife lost their fathers close to the same time as they have previously talked about the similarities in our families. Her parents were married the same number of years as us - they were married a month before we were. It was his second marriage but her first, and they had one child together, just like us. On the few occasions that we got together with them, he and Rodney often talked about fishing, as they both had enjoyed that when they were healthier.
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I'm sorry to hear that, Bev. I know this hard stuff just keeps piling up sometimes. Everything cycles and better times will come but really there are no words that mean a whole lot after a loss.

I am glad that your daughter-in-law was able to be with her dad and the family though. I know it was terribly hard for you in Florida.

Glad to hear that the house was still in good shape when you got home. I hope the company will get someone out there to fix the plumbing soon. I know you have a huge amount to do to really feel settled in now and I hope you will have some help. Be cautious not to be doing things you shouldn't do, and please work safely.

I just heard from a friend who fell off a kitchen chair she had stood on to put something on a high shelf. She has slick floors and as she put most of her weight to one side of the chair, it slid out from under and she has a bad break in her upper left arm. Had to wait two days for surgery to repair it. She is going to be okay but those two days at home, in pain, waiting for the surgeon's schedule were horrible. It just seems like nothing is an emergency any more.

She had a horrible reaction to the opiates they gave her so she got through those two days on ibuprofen. Yikes!

A reminder to me and all of us who think we can do anything just like we would have done it in our twenties. I usually use a step stool now that is quite stable and she said she had one just a few feet away but she grabbed the kitchen chair instead.




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I got word this morning that my daughter-in-law's father passed away. In some ways it was a blessing because they knew he was not going to get better and I believe he was in pain, but it still stinks. My son said she keeps telling herself at least he is at peace now and is no longer suffering. I am so glad she was able to be there with him and her mom in his final days.

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My house is fine. The plumbing issue isn't fixed yet so I am not able to use my washer or the master bath. My son has been in touch with the dealer, who in turn contacted the factory and they are supposed to be sending someone to fix it. The service manager says he can see they have created a ticket for it, but he wasn't able to see when it is scheduled for. He was supposed to call the factory and get back to my son.

I definitely will NOT take my car back to the same place even for a simple tire rotation!

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OH MY Goodness! My husband's first thought was that the guys who rotated your tires didn't tighten the lug nuts!! I once stopped for gas driving down to Florida with my daughter and the guy at the gas station (which was also a service station) took the opportunity to open my hood to check the fluids (he said) while I was paying for the gas inside. When I came out he told me that there was something wrong that needed to be fixed or I'd never complete the trip with that car. Well I said no thanks, my husband was a mechanic and had checked out the car carefully before I started the trip.

Well, wouldn't you know about 20 miles down the road my car was overheating. I pulled up to a phone and called my husband (he told me to let the car cool down and check that the radiator was full and there was no leaking. Everything was fine so he told me to continue on to my friend's house. Well, the upshot was that the fool had reached in and unplugged the sensor for the thermostat. When I was driving the temperature gauge went right up to "red".
The mechanic I went to see saw the problem immediately, plugged it in and sent me on my way "no charge".

I sure hope you did not run into someone like that guy but I'm glad you made it home okay in the end and I think the guys that did your work probably did do a great job. Just on dollars alone I think the guy in Florida was trying to take advantage of you even if he didn't leave the lug nuts loose deliberately. To me that would be criminal!

At least you know who NEVER to take your car to when you are in Florida!!

How is everything at your house? Is the plumbing issue fixed? I'm glad your sister traveled with you too. It would have been even more nerve-racking if you had been alone.

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I can't believe it has been so long and you still have no answers on your vision problems. It sounds like it is time to see someone who is more of an expert because you definitely need answers! I hope the person at Cleveland Clinic is worth the long drive. I sometimes find myself wondering if we should have gone to a larger cancer center to see if they would offer anything else for Rodney, but I try not to let those thoughts creep in because it serves no purpose now other than to upset me.

I am back in Vermont now. I got home last Sunday night. Thank goodness Rodney's sister flew down to drive back with me, because the first part of the trip was a nightmare. I had taken the car to a place near my house down there to have the tires rotated shortly after Rodney passed away. They told me the car needed brakes and rotors all the way around and they gave me a price of $1120 to do them. I asked Rodney's uncle if he thought it was really that urgent to do them because I wanted to wait until I got home and buy the parts and have my son do the work. He assured me it shouldn't be a problem to wait until I got home. I didn't do a lot of driving after that. Every now and then I would think I heard strange noises when I drove it, but I decided I was just being a bit paranoid because they had told me it needed work. We headed out at 7:30 on a Friday morning and after 2 or 3 hours of driving I was sure I was hearing noises that were not normal but the car was handling fine so I kept going, At one point I started to think it wasn't handling right and I was thinking maybe I should work my way to the outside lane so I could pull over when a car beside me started honking their horn at me. I put my window down and the woman yelled to me that my rear tire looked like it was about to fall off! Thankfully we were in traffic that was just crawling at the time and the cars on the other side of me let me over so I got into the breakdown lane. We called Triple A but they were not able to track my location (apparently cell service wasn't very good there) and we couldn't get Google maps to work for us, so we ended up walking back to where some guys were doing roadside mowing to ask them where we were so I could call Triple A back. We finally got towed to a repair shop and three of the five wheel studs on my left rear wheel were broken. It had also damaged the rotor so I had no choice but to replace that at the same time. I ended up having them replace both front and rear rotors as well as repair the wheel. Then the front calipers were locking up so I had to have them replace those as well. By the time it was done it was 7 hours after we first pulled off the highway (and an hour after the normal closing time of the garage, but they stayed late to finish up and get us back on the road). It cost me $985 but that was still less than the guy at the tire place wanted to charge me and they did more work than what he was quoting me for. The owner of the repair shop called me later that night to make sure we hadn't had any more problems, so I have nothing but good things to say about them. In fact, I gave each of the two mechanics that worked an hour late a $20 tip before I left and I just ordered a Vermont cheese and maple syrup gift box yesterday to be shipped to them. After that the rest of the trip went fine, but I was a little nervous! Being back home is both good and bad. Of course there are lots of reminders of Rodney everywhere in the house and I have shed a lot of tears, but at least I have family and friends close by. The night I got back a good friend of ours passed away (also from cancer, but a different kind) and the day after I arrived I took my daughter-in-law to the airport to fly out to New Mexico where her parents had been staying for part of the winter because her father is in the hospital and not doing well. I don't think they expect him to survive but she said she is afraid it is not going to be quick, but slow and painful. Thursday Rodney's brother found out he has Parkinson's disease and I think it is already fairly advanced because he hadn't been to a doctor in years. So our run of rotten luck is continuing, but we are all hanging in there so far.

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Hi Bev,
It is so long since I've posted here. The double vision is still driving me crazy and it is worse than ever. My neurologist tried IV therapy for several weeks and I had my last treatment on Wednesday. No change at all unless it is for the worse. Today it seems like I'm looking at flip cards the way it is flashing in and out of double vision. Sometimes it makes me dizzy and nauseous.

She says that she is probably going to send me to Cleveland clinic, over 4 hours away, to see if they can figure out what is going on.

Are you back in Vermont? I hope the trip was good and that you were able to accomplish what you needed to in Florida.

How are you doing? Getting back home without your husband for the first time was probably hard.


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I am still doing okay. Some days are better than others of course, but overall I think I am coping quite well. I think it will probably be worse when I go home. The house is new of course, but all of our belongings that we accumulated together are there (other than some things that never got moved from our son's house). At least at home I will have more of a support network than what I have here. The visit from my sister was nice. I don't often see my siblings and I suspect if we spent too much time together we would probably drive one another crazy, but it was enjoyable to have her here for a few days. We got out and did some walking, planted some flowers in front of my house, we went to the beach a couple of times (for just a short period because we only had a little bit of time), we got together with a cousin that we haven't seen in several years, and we spent some time at the house relaxing. She took me to the funeral home so that I didn't have to go alone and I didn't need to worry about driving if I was a little teary afterwards. It was not as bad as I thought it might be because the funeral home had put the container and the envelope with the death certificates in a bag so I didn't have to look at the box containing his ashes. I still haven't either. I set the entire bag on the nightstand on his side of the bed when we got back and it is still right there. I did tear up a couple of times when we were talking to the woman at the funeral home, but I was expecting it to be rougher than it was.

Good luck with your additional medical testing. It would be nice if they could find a relatively simple fix for the double vision - and I would think it would be good news if they decide it was not a stroke that caused it.

Enjoy the concert. I like Alan Jackson but I am not too sure about a concert. I think it might tend to be too loud for me to enjoy it.

I am not sure when I will be heading home. They have had three snowstorms this month with the possibility of another one coming next week, so it doesn't sound like it will be very soon. If they got some warm weather the snow would melt fairly quickly this time of year but the extended forecast is calling for below normal temps for the next few weeks.

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Hi Bev, just checking in! I've been getting on Spark but not as much as usual. Trying to get some spring cleaning done around here and I'm continuously surprised to find clutter where I cleaned it all out last Spring! LOL The good thing is that I am the clutter bug so I can't blame anyone else. I just have to get busy.

Hope you had a good visit with your sister and that everything went smoothly with the funeral home, I can only imagine how difficult that was for you.

It is hard to believe that March is half over; are you still finding time to walk? I've only been on the treadmill a couple of times since we came home. For some reason I get dizzy on it and it also seems to trigger the double vision.

Saw the neurologist on Monday and she has a total different idea than the other docs. She thinks that the two strokes that affected my vision were actually not strokes but silent migraines. It has taken me some time to get my head around that since being told sine 2002 that they are strokes. She also thinks that I am in a continuous migraine cycle and that that explains why the double vision is still hanging around. The good news around that is that Magnesium infusions usually cure this type of migraine. We are waiting now for results on some specialized Magnesium testing and I go back to her on the 21st.

Now this all seems to be very far-fetched to me but this woman has a great reputation in our area so.....I have nothing to lose and I'll try the magnesium if she wants me to That would mean that I have had only two small strokes instead of 4 and that would be good news, right?

It seems like all tests they have ever done on me come back normal so we will see this time.

Tonight we are going to an Alan Jackson concert here in town. I am so looking forward to that and hoping to see the whole thing without double vision. I've only had a couple of episodes today but I'm not sure what the spotlights and other lights might trigger.

Let me know how you are doing. Spring is coming soon and I know you will be heading for home next month so take care of yourself, accomplish what you can, rest....and be well.

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I read your blog and liked it. I am not sure I qualify as one of those giving and supportive people - but I do try to encourage others. I think I am better about encouraging others than I am at encouraging myself! I haven't been on SparkPeople much for quite a while. I think Jen that you talked about in your blog belongs to a TOPS chapter in Vermont (or at least she used to). She was once active in the Vermont TOPS team that I was administrator of but it got to where there were seldom any posts in the group. I think most of the ones who had originally been active had switched to spending time on Facebook - and I kind of did too. In my case I was spending time as part of a number of cancer support groups on Facebook and didn't have as much time for SparkPeople. Some people leave the FB support groups when their loved one passes away but so far I am staying in the groups. I have three years worth of experiences that I can share with others who are just beginning their cancer journey so it might be that I can be of help to someone. I also just joined a group for widows and widowers of bile duct cancer, which I think will be helpful to me.

Gee, I hope you get some answers to your health issues. I would think the food poisoning shouldn't have left you with such lasting effects, but maybe it can. There is no such thing any more as a good old family doctor. We usually have to have a primary care doctor who coordinates it all but they just refer you to specialists for anything much. I will need to see my PCP in the spring. He had been bugging me about having a pap done and I am due for a colonoscopy. They sent me a reminder last fall about a mammogram too, but he said he was okay with me having them only every two years. I promised him that I would take care of some of those things this year since I wouldn't be working and would have more free time. Well, I should still have more free time as I am hoping to work only part-time but it looks like I will be working after all - unless I win the lottery soon, and you have to buy tickets before you can win so I guess that won't happen.

I might end up going back to TOPS once I get home. It will be nice to see some of my old friends again. I also want to encourage my son and daughter-in-law to keep going - and to take it seriously as they both need to lost weight. I have lost about 10 pounds in recent weeks but I seem to be at a standstill now, which seems odd because I am walking most days and I wasn't before.

I just finished painting the lattice today. I took a couple of days off from doing that and cleaned out the old plants that were in the flower garden so I can put something else in. At least for now I am simply going to buy some annuals and plan on replacing them every year. Eventually I might figure out what will do well down here and put in something that will last longer. I won't be here long enough to enjoy them much this year, but it should be all set for me to just replace the plants next time I come down. I am not planning to spend a ton of money on them right now anyway but I will at least have something our there besides snake plants (which Rodney's stepmother must have liked because she had a ton of them). I kept a couple of those in one of the large planters she had but got rid of the rest. I am not a fan of those. She also had a bunch of ferns that I had pulled out before Rodney even went into the hospital. Maybe she had them because they didn't require any work to take care of them.

My sister is coming tomorrow to spend a few days with me. She was supposed to come today but because of the snowstorm she figured her flight would be cancelled so she rescheduled it for tomorrow. It turned out to be a good decision because even if the flight hadn't been cancelled she wouldn't have been able to get to the airport. She takes a bus to the airport and she picks up the bus just a few miles from her house but this morning there was a bad accident that had the road closed for hours so she wouldn't have been able to get to the bus. She will be here in time for dinner tomorrow evening. I have to go to the funeral home to pick up Rodney's ashes and the copies of the death certificates, so I recruited her to go with me for that. I know it is going to be rough and I didn't want to go alone, so I asked them if I could wait until my sister was here. Most days I keep busy enough not to dwell on things too much, but almost every day something will come up that brings me to tears at least once. Today it was getting a sympathy card from the first oncologist and her ARNP that he went to. They had seen the obituary in the paper up there and sent me a card with a short note from each of them.

Well, I better get off here and eat my dinner before it gets cold. Have a great rest of the week.

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Hi Bev, taking me a bit long to answer this time. I guess I need to admit it. I am still feeling pretty horrible. How can food poisoning do this? My gut just is still messed up although the nausea is better and I really can't eat much at all. Food isn't even interesting.

I had an ophthalmologist appointment Tuesday and I really wanted to know why I am still having double vision when he said he expected it to be resolved by the end of January...his answer was that is what is truly for 90% of people with this kind of stroke and for others it just takes longer.
Bah Humbug!

Monday I have an appointment with my neurologist and maybe she will have some answers about all this too. We can always hope.

I'm going to try to see my primary care doctor next week too about my problems since the food poisoning....that will probably stir up another round of visits to specialists. What happened to the good old family doctor and where can I find one???

I've been on the TOPS facebook page; hmmm....guess I should figure out whether the one I have been on is the only one! I've been feeling so rotten that I totally forgot to go to my meeting this week....and I was really looking forward to seeing everyone.

Maybe you would find the TOPS group more fun if you could attend with your son and DIL....you could have your own little support group at home too. I really enjoyed the TOPS magazine that was waiting for me when we got home. It is great that the people they show do actually look like normal people and not somebody's vision of how people should look.

How are you doing? Got that lattice painted yet? I know you are trying to be busy and also get some walking in every day. Go Bev! You can do this!

Wanted to tell you that I put a new blog on my Spark page; let me tell you now that you are one of the giving and supportive people that I am describing in it. I hope you will have time to read it.

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I think Vermont Country Store is a decent place to work. I once helped them to start a workplace TOPS chapter at their office and warehouse facility in Manchester, VT. I attended a couple of wellness fairs there and at their warehouse in North Clarendon, VT to represent TOPS and I heard a lot of good things from their employees. At those facilities they have a gym for the employees. I don't believe they have that at the stores but it is possible that they might contribute to the cost of a membership. Since I would only be working part-time I don't believe I would be eligible for whatever benefits they might offer anyway - and that will be the case wherever I go. The Rockingham store is probably about 4 miles from my house.

I don't know if Sunny is on a TOPS Facebook site or not. Are you talking about the official TOPS page or a Facebook group for TOPS members? I haven't look for a TOPS group but I am sure they have them. I started a FB page for my chapter, but I made several other people administrators so they could manage the page since I am not even a TOPS member any more. My son and DIL belong to the chapter that I used to be a part of and he is trying to convince me I should go back. I dropped out for a lot of reasons not just so that I could be home with Rodney every evening. Those other reasons are still there so I am not sure if I want to go back - but on the other hand I do have friends in the group so we shall see how I feel once things settle down a little after I go home.

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Boy do I ever know the Vermont Country Store! We have been visiting them since we were married in 1968. It is a tradition to get to either Rockingham or Weston whenever we are in New England. I also send them a big Christmas order for goodies because everyone expects some maple sugar candy and other goodies in their stockings. Fun places. I hope they are good employers.

Sounds like you have some networking already figured out. Good for you.

It is getting warm there if you are hitting the 90's. Morning and evening will be your best bets for working outdoors probably.

Glad to hear that Sunny is still doing well. Do you know if she is on the TOPS site on Facebook?



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Sunny sent me a message on Facebook after she saw one of my posts about Rodney's passing and I do see posts from her occasionally of things that she has been doing with her new friend. I am glad she has someone to get out and do things with, but I do miss seeing her posting on here. I joined a Facebook group for people who have lost their spouses to the same kind of cancer as Rodney and there was a little bit of discussion a few days ago about new relationships after a loss. A couple of people in the group said they were in a relationship now, but most were like me and saying they can't even imagine wanting to be with anyone else. Of course in my case this is brand new, but some of the others have been alone for a couple of years or more and still feel the same. I am hoping to find friends to get out and do things with eventually, but I can't imagine anything more than a friendship with anyone else.

I looked up info on SSI and I definitely wouldn't qualify because it is for those 65 and older. Even if I was 65 I still don't think I would qualify because I probably have too many assets. I will be okay financially but I probably will work some for a while. We had talked about what I might need to do to get by if he didn't live until I was 65 (which we pretty much knew he wasn't going to, but we never expected him to be gone this soon). I do not want to go back to my former job, but I don't think it would even be an option. My old boss doesn't believe in hiring part-time people. She feels if someone only wants a part-time job they don't really want to work at all and they wouldn't be worth hiring. I don't think I could stand to work for her again anyway as she did not treat me that well during Rodney's illness. I don't know if you have heard of Vermont Country Store or not, but they have a catalog business and two retail stores, one of which is just a few miles down the road from where I live. They are pretty busy year-round, but especially during the summer months through foliage season. I am sure they hire seasonal help, probably for about the months I am going to be looking for work, so I am thinking I might apply there once I go back home. I actually know a couple of people who work there - at least one of them still does and the other one I am not sure about but she used to work there. She and her ex-husband once owned their own seafood business and I worked for them as a bookkeeper for a few years a long time ago.

I do eat - not necessarily the most healthy options sometimes because some nights I will do a microwaveable pot pie or something like that, but I am eating.

Well, I better get off the computer and get outside to do some painting. It has been pretty hot here for a while but yesterday it was cooler and today is supposed to be as well. When it is 90 degrees I just try to stay inside with the A/C running but in the upper 70s it is fine to be outside doing a few little things. We had a couple of pieces of lattice on the carport that got broken beyond repair in the storm last fall so Rodney had bought two new sheets to replace them. He never got a chance to put them up, but my son did it before he went back home, so I just need to paint them now. The original stuff was white plastic but we are replacing it with pressure treated wood and painting it white so it will match the sheets of the original stuff that are still good. As they need replacing we will do the wooden ones in the hope that they will hold up better than the plastic, which gets brittle over time from the sun.

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Thanks for answering my nosy questions, Bev. Just trying to think of things that might help but I do know it is none of my business. You may be right that you won't qualify for SSI, I guess if you did you would probably have to be on disability and then you would get early Medicare.

The part-time job sounds like the way to go; glad you won't have to go into your 401K. Hmmmm....would you like to go part-time with your old company? I know some people do that after retirement. It would be a familiar environment but maybe TOO familiar. I know you were ready to be out of there.

Glad you are getting your walks in. I have to get back to exercise. I'm sitting here looking at the treadmill so even though it is cold outside there is no excuse. I'm going to try for two miles today....still fighting nausea sometimes so the moving belt may set it off, if so I will try to get the two miles in 15-20 minute bites. It isn't like I don't have time! LOL
Retired is good!

It is warming up here. The past two days have been sunny and that means that our little sun room has warmed up nicely to the point that we can leave the kitchen door open because it is warmer out there than it is indoors. Lovely to sit out there in the afternoons now.

Have you heard from Sunny on Facebook? I know that she is building a new life but I miss hearing from her.

Last night we had baked potatoes and roast pork for dinner so my cooking is done for today; pork sandwiches and black been soup tonight. The NASCAR race will be on later so we'll have nachos for lunch while we watch that. Keeping it easy.

Don't forget to eat while you have so many other things on your mind. If you don't feel like cooking for yourself, just keep it easy and basic.

You can do this, Bev. I think Rodney tried to help you prepare and I am impressed by all the thought that you had put into this ahead of time.


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I am glad you made it home and found everything in order (other than the answering machine). We don't even have one of those any more because we get voicemail service through the phone company.

No, Rodney was not a veteran. He had signed up for the National Guard right after high school but I don't believe he ever went to boot camp before he messed up his knee pretty bad (he was out partying with friends at the time from the story I have heard) and was discharged because of it. He certainly was not in long enough to count. He did not have any life insurance. In our younger years there was no extra money for anything like that and when we did look into it he was told he didn't qualify because of sleep apnea - which irritated me because as long as it was treated it was not life threatening at all and he faithfully used a CPAP machine every night. He had a life insurance policy through work but it went away when he retired. If he had been there 20 years he would have had a small policy after he left, but he was only there 12 or 13 years. I had a small policy on him through my employer, but again that went away when I left my job. I will get survivor benefits from his social security which will give me more than I would get from my own social security, but I think I will only get about 80% of what he was getting. It will be as much or a little more than what I would get on my own record if I worked until full retirement age, so I can't complain I guess. I don't think it will be quite enough for me to pay all my bills, but I shouldn't have to work more than part-time to supplement what I get. He also was getting a pension from the State of Vermont (his former employer) which I will get, but it will go toward my health insurance, which I will now have to pay 100% of the cost of instead of only a portion that we were paying before. I think I will end up sending them a small amount each month to make up the difference between his pension and my insurance but it should be less than $100 per month I think. I haven't looked into the qualifications for SSI but I rather doubt I will qualify for that. If I went back to work full-time and waited until I was 66 to file for survivor benefits I could get his full benefit, but I don't think it is worth it to work four more years. and endure four more winters. Once I am eligible for Medicare my health insurance will cost less and I might be able to get by on what I get from social security and his state pension. I do have some retirement money but I don't want to withdraw from that yet if I can avoid it because it might get used up too soon if I do. I would rather work part-time while I am still able to and save that money for when I am older and less able to work. I am sure I will withdraw some in order to pay for Rodney's burial and a headstone but I don't want to use it for living expenses yet.

I think the car is all fixed, thanks to Rodney's uncle. That was a huge help to me! I still need to get the tires rotated and see if the noise I am hearing goes away. The brakes will wait until I get back home and my son can do those. The car stops just fine, but he can see that the rotors need replacing. I won't be putting on a lot of miles until I head for home and his uncle has assured me it should be fine until I get back.

The plumbing issue with the house couldn't be fixed while we were gone unless we left heat in the house and we didn't want to do that. My son talked to the dealer a few days ago and he said the installer is on vacation but as soon as he is back he will find out when he can come and look at it. The salesman said if the installer can do the repair they will have him do it, but if not they will get a factory service guy to come take care of it. I suspect it will need to be done by the factory guy, but the installer does have some siding and trim work that he needs to do anyway. If it is not done before I go home I will just have to avoid using the master bath and the washer until they do fix it.

I haven't really given a lot of thought to what things of Rodney's I will get rid of yet. He has a lot of tools, which will go to our son as he is mechanically-inclined like his father and will have a use for them. His sister might feel it isn't fair that he gets them and she isn't getting something of equal value, but I can't help that. Neither she nor her husband would have a use for them. He has some guns, which I might try to divide up between the two kids - she wouldn't use any of them but her son might some day as he goes hunting with his father and grandfather. Rodney had given her son one gun a few months ago that once belonged to his grandfather.

I think I will keep both cars. I just made the last payment on mine in February and his was paid off last fall, so it is just a matter of the additional insurance and registration and inspection costs. It might be nice to have a spare vehicle if one of them needs repair. His is 4-wheel drive, which will be less of an issue in the future, but if I stay in Vermont a little later or go home a little earlier than what Rodney and I originally talked about there could be a few times when that might be handy to have. My car is better on gas so I will likely use that more than the Jeep.

Well, it is about time for me to head out for my evening walk so I will stop babbling and head for the door.

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I'm glad you are not in the snow and ice too! As we have become older we have become more sensitive to the cold and I've had way too many friends fall or have car accidents on the ice. Even those who are very aware of it!

It is good to be home. Everything was fine here when we got back except for an answering machine that died when were away. My husband was disgusted but I was like.....imagine that, the answering machine died....can't imagine why...it was only 30 years old...boy! Nothing lasts any more! That got him laughing...

Thank goodness it wasn't the freezer or a broken pipe.
I'm concerned about the plumbing problems waiting at home for you. Can't imagine why the builder didn't send someone right out to fix it even though you wouldn't have been there. He could have set a time with your son. Hope they don't say that they have no record of your complaint and it must be your fault. Some companies are SO cheesy about stuff like that. Don't know why they didn't double check EVERYTHING when they installed the house!

April will be a pretty time to go back to Vermont. I love spring in New England.

Something I have been wondering...Was Rodney a veteran? There is a VA pension for surviving spouses and possibly some other benefits also. It would be worth it to speak to a VA counselor. Also, is there any chance that you would be eligible for SSI?

I don't know what Rodney's state benefits are...any life insurance??

Just thinking? I don't want to pry, I just know that some widows miss out on benefits or forget entirely about the existence of old life insurance policies.

I'm older than you and I find that more and more women my ages are widows now.

How nice of your uncle to help with the car! That is great, I hope the repairs go well. I'm glad you didn't have to drive it again while it is leaking. Guess that is another decision to make, right? Which car to keep? I wonder if his uncle could take a look at the brakes before you leave for home too.

This is a good time to let go of some things...one of the things my husband has told me to do if he goes first is to sell anything of his that I can't use/won't need and sock the money away in an emergency fund. I think that is a good piece of advice. He even said, "don't let the kids get into it!" Smart cookie, that man! If my kids have needs, money is running off my fingertips and he knows it. I'm better about letting them fend on their own now but he knows that they would "borrow" me dry and not see anything wrong with it. They are good kids too! I've just created their willingness to be dependent/helpless, whatever. Actually most of it would be our middle kid.

Kids! Why do we think of them like that. Two of mine are 47 and one is 42...definitely not kids and they really need to stand on their own feet in order to grow into their own potential.

I'm looking around here and thinking it is time to start on spring cleaning and decluttering. May be a few weeks before I'm feeling up to it but I could start small now. Who knew that food poisoning could be so debilitating? I'm still not feeling well after over two weeks.

The sun was shining when we got home and it is shining today. No snow but I'm much further south than your home. I can't say it is spring yet, but it is close.

Take care, Bev.



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Back in Vermont they are getting snow and ice today so I am glad I am still in Florida. I am doing pretty well overall. I still have moments that I am in tears but it doesn't usually last long. I suspect it will be that way for a long time. I was feeling pretty stressed the last couple of days because the car was leaking transmission fluid and I was worrying about getting it into a shop to get it fixed. I took it to a mechanic just down the street from me yesterday and he told me what he felt the problem was but said it wasn't something he normally would repair so I had to find another place to take it. I made an appointment to bring it to another place but they couldn't even look at it until Monday. At first, that didn't seem too bad because there is really no place I have to go before then, but the puddle under the car was getting bigger and I was starting to worry that it might leak enough that I might damage the transmission if I drove it there on Monday morning. My husband's uncle stopped by this morning and checked it out and confirmed what the first guy told me the problem was. He had the same issue with one of his vehicles that is essentially the same car as this except it says Dodge instead of Jeep on his and his is a few years older. I was asking him if he thought I should have it towed rather than driving it to the shop and also if he thought I should take it to the dealer or to the place where I made the appointment. He ended up telling me that he could fix it for me. I hate to ask him to do that since he took his into the shop to have it done - although I do have a nice concrete carport where he can do it and we have ramps and a jack in the shed here that my father-in-law had back when he used to work on his own vehicles. I told him I was willing to take it to the shop but he insisted he didn't mind helping me out. He had already priced the parts I need before he even came here, so when he left he was going to order them and plans to come back tomorrow to do the work. I am very lucky that he is nearby! He will probably save me $150 or more. I hope there are no more car troubles any time soon - but I know that over time I will need to put money into one or the other of them because they are getting older. At least the occasional repairs should be less than a monthly car payment would be. I know this one needs brake work but I plan on having my soon do that after I get back home so that won't be horribly expensive. He also needs to do the brakes on my car but I had bought the parts for that before we ever left home. He just never had time to get them done, which is partly why we drove Rodney's car here - only to have Rodney decide soon after we got here that maybe his needed brake work too.

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A part-time won't be too bad...I know that there will be days when it may be a blessing to have something you must do that day.

We are in a motel in Elizabethtown, Kentucky today. Yesterday we drove over 10 hours - I was a bit irked about that but it is hard to slow my destination-oriented man down once he is pointed towards home. 10 hours is just too much for me to be in the car and I'll pay for it in aches and pains. The nice thing is that we only have about 3 hours to drive today.

We are at a Hampton Inn so I'm down in the dining area having breakfast and posting while he is still sleeping....I think. We will be on the road soon though. I like to stay at Hamptons, they are well cared for and I am always comfortable in them even if I am traveling alone.
Their breakfast is better than most of the others too.

It looks like it is going to be a beautiful day. We enjoyed our drive up through Alabama and Tennessee yesterday. The redbuds were blooming in the woods (actually they are purple), and there were other white flowering trees and the leaves were popping out, grass was bright green...looked like spring. It stayed like that all the way to Nashville, once we were north of there, the grays and browns of winter started coming into play so today's drive won't be nearly as pretty.

Praying your day will have good moments along with the sad. I know the worst of the grief will pass and you are probably over the actual shock but....this is a hard time so I'll be thinking of you.



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Thanks Wanda! Yes, I plan to keep the Florida house and I know that I will meet people and make friends down here eventually. One of his brothers might be down here next winter unless he finds it too hard to come without his wife - but I don't think he likes the winter any better than I do. The other brother doesn't plan on being here for the winter for a few more years because he says they need his wife's income to pay her health insurance until she is able to get Medicare. I actually think I will likely end up having to work part-time in order to supplement what I will get from his social security for survivor benefits since I am younger than normal retirement age. That isn't necessarily a bad thing because it will give me a chance to get out and meet other people at the same time as I earn a little extra money. I think by late March the weather will be getting pretty hot here and it should be getting nicer at home, so I think I will be ready to go home. I also need to get back so that I can go through some of our old photos and pick out ones to use when we do a memorial service /celebration of life for him. It will take some time for the kids and I to plan that and I can't really do any of it from here. That would only be 2 or 3 weeks earlier than what Rodney and I had planned on anyway.

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We will have a safe trip and I certainly will be thinking of you, Bev.

My goodness, Rodney would be so proud of how you are handling this. I can only imagine that it is so hard. Just deciding what to do first, or next, or when??? It must be like putting a puzzle together to keep your life going. I think you are absolutely right to stay where you are until you are ready to go home. I wouldn't make your son's birthday a goal unless you are ready to go home. Take your time, breathe deeply, allow yourself to feel the pain....then mix in the good memories. You will make it.

I hope you are able to keep the Florida house because it would be wonderful if you didn't have to spend future winters in Vermont. I know you will make friends there too and it is a winter haven that has good memories for you.

It is great that your sister is coming. Oh, how hard it would be to be alone when you pick up the ashes.

Mostly, take care of yourself. Rodney would want you to do that. He would also want you to make your decisions now based on what you want for your life and future.
No one else....YOU!

Prayers, Bev.

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Wanda, I am sorry to hear you were sick but happy that you think you are on the mend. I hope you have a safe trip home.

I am still in Florida. We had originally planned to stay until mid-April. I don't think I will stay that long, but I know Rodney would want me to stay and enjoy the warm weather as long as I can. We had no idea things were going to happen this way, but when we first found out his cancer was terminal he told me he wanted me to promise that I would still spend winters in Florida even after he was gone. I believe he would understand if I found it too hard to stay here alone right now, but so far I have been handing it better than I thought I might. I'm not sure it would be much better at home, other than there being other people around that I could go visit. It doesn't take much to make me cry, but as long as I keep busy I do okay most of the time. I had some extra laundry and cleaning to do after the company left, and his aunt and uncle have stopped by to visit me. I have also worked on cleaning out a little more of the stuff my in-laws left behind that we hadn't gotten to yet. I do have a cousin who is about 25 miles from here but we haven't been close as adults. We communicate via Facebook but the only times I have seen her in years was at a couple of funerals. She graduated in the same class as Rodney and he and I were planning to go visit her and her husband. I still might try to do that before I go home, but I discovered today that I think the car has a transmission fluid leak so I won't be going very far until I can get that checked out somewhere. I also found out thanks to a post I put on Facebook that someone I went to school with also lives 25 - 30 miles from here. She told me to let her know if I would like to get together. It probably depends on how I make out with the car. One of my sisters is flying down next Thursday and will spend a week with me. I am going to recruit her to go with me to the funeral home next Friday to pick up Rodney's ashes. I know that is going to be very hard and I don't want to go alone. I told her it is okay if we cry together but I don't want to go alone. Before I knew she was coming I was going to ask Rodney's aunt and uncle if one of them would go with me.

This has been one hell of a month for our family. First Rodney's brother's wife passed away unexpectedly and then him, and then two days after he passed away his father fell and broke his hip. He was just moved from the hospital to a rehab facility today and is expected to be there for three weeks. Actually it started in late January when his other brother's wife had a serious case of pneumonia and spent several days in the hospital (the first day or two she was in isolation and even her husband couldn't go see her). Fortunately she has recovered and is planning to go back to work next week.

I am sort of thinking I might leave Florida in time to be home to spend my son's birthday with him on 3/26 but that isn't definite. Rodney's sister had told me she would fly down and help me with the drive back so I didn't have to travel alone, but now that her father is in the rehab facility I kind of hate to have her that far from home just in case something happens with him. We expect his recovery to go well but he is 86 or 87 so one never knows.

Safe travels and good health to you my friend!

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Oh My! I'm so terribly sorry, Bev! How horrible for you. I wish I had been checking in more often. You story has taken my breath away. I am so sad for you.

I've been sick for the past two weeks, better some days than others and I'm sure I'm out of the woods but I got terrible food poisoning when we went out for Valentines and it has been kind of a roller coaster. You know all about roller coasters in life, I know.

We leave for home tomorrow morning.

Are you at home yet? Can't believe you posted 8 days ago and I didn't see it.

Let's keep in touch, please. I know this is going to be a very hard time for you.

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It has been a while since there have been any posts on here. Wanda, are you still in Florida or back home now? A lot has happened since I have been on here and most of it has not been good. On 2/7 Rodney had chemo and a few hours later he spiked a pretty high fever and was having trouble breathing even when using his oxygen. I took him to the ER and after some tests and a chest xray they said he had pneumonia. They gave him IV fluids and antibiotics and talked about admitting him, but then decided he could do the same things at home as what they would do so he was allowed to leave with a prescription for more antibiotics and instructions to come back if he got worse and to follow up with his oncologist the next day. His shortness of breath was worse than usual the next day and he was using oxygen all the time but we figured that made sense with the pneumonia. That night he got so short of breath when he walked into the bathroom that he apparently blacked out briefly and fell. I called an ambulance to take him back to the hospital and they kept him of course. The night after that we got word that his brother's wife had passed away suddenly (at home). Rodney was kept in ICU for days being given massive quantities of steroids and antibiotics to clear up his lungs and high amounts of oxygen to allow him to breathe. They kept telling us the cancer in his lungs was making it worse but they felt he was making progress. On Saturday night he took a turn for the worse and had to be put on a ventilator. My son surprised me by showing up for a visit that night and was planning to surprise his dad at the hospital the next morning. By then he was sedated and probably didn't even know Ed was there.
I called our daughter and she flew down on Monday so both kids were here with me. By yesterday he had declined further and we knew there was no hope for recovery, but I was still struggling with having him taken off life support. I had planned to involve hospice today and they would have taken him off. But in the end he went peacefully before we got there. I am still in shock at how quick this happened. Three weeks ago he was out doing stuff (using oxygen at times but not all the time). I now suspect he didn't even have pneumonia and it was the cancer in his lungs that caused all the problems. The kids will head home at the end of the week. I need to stay here a while longer but I will probably go home earlier than planned. I suspect it will be tough to be here alone with no family nearby other than an aunt and uncle of Rodney's.
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Rodney is doing well for the most part. He is kind of frustrated because his breathing doesn't seem to be getting any better. Sometimes it seems to be getting worse but it might just be that it is nice weather here so he gets out of the house and tries to do more than he was back home. I got copies of his scans on a CD and mailed them to his pulmonary doctor back home and he called him this past week. He says things look pretty much the same as the scan in November. I guess it is good that it isn't worse but we had hoped to see some improvement. For now he wants him to continue on the same dose of Prednisone as he has been on and asked us to get in touch with him in about three weeks and let him know how he is doing. He will probably have one more scan down here before we head back north, but it likely won't be until late March before he has it. I will get a copy again and either send it up there or bring it with us when we go- depending on how long it is between the time he has it and when we will be heading home.

I am hoping the repairs to the house go well. Our son talked to the dealer and he said to call him a couple of weeks before we plan to come back and he will get it taken care of. Rodney was just saying tonight that maybe we should have notified our insurance company just in case the company tries to say it was not their fault. I don't see how they can say that since the issue is inside the factory sealed portion underneath the trailer. It is not a connection that our plumber was supposed to hook up. Rodney says he doesn't trust them. I'm not sure I have much trust in the dealer but I would expect the manufacturer to be a little better. They could have done a little better with the quality control of the plumbing because we had other plumbing issues that we fixed ourselves- we replaced a sink faucet in the master bathroom that was leaking the first night we moved in and he had to fix a leak under the kitchen sink as well.

I am very happy to be here where it is warm instead of back home where it is cold and snowy and icy, but we do miss the kids and grandkids. I tried doing a video chat on Facebook with our son and his boys tonight. When our daughter came for a few days last week she did FaceTime with her kids on her phone but Rodney hadn't tried it on his phone before. Our son told us tonight how to do it.

Enjoy the rest of your vacation! Hopefully by the time you head back winter will be getting close to being over. I have not really heard from Sunny but she has posted more pictures so I assume she is still doing well and enjoying herself. I saw one where it looked like she and her new friend were taking some kind of dancing lessons, which I believe she said was a gift she had gotten for Christmas. She has posted others of places they have been sightseeing.

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We have both traveled a long ways, Bev, and we are still far apart. LOL

In the same state but it is a darned big state!

Hope you and Rodney are doing well! Is he doing okay? Weather here is much better than Ohio but not nearly so nice as where you are...it is hard to believe that nearly 3 of our 6 weeks have flown by. I heard from a friend today that it is snowy and cold at home; I am not missing that!

I hate that your house has a plumbing problem and it would be terrible if there is any major issues beyond just fixing the plumbing connections and replacing insulation or whatever.

We are really missing our little great-grandson. Pictures just do not take the place of seeing him even though his mom is great about keeping in touch. Seeing him will make going back to cold weather so much easier.

Have you heard anything from Sunny on Facebook? I hope she is still doing okay.

Take care,
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I am glad you are able to enjoy Florida too Wanda. I just looked to see where Fort Walton Beach is and it looks like you are up on the panhandle. We are on the Gulf coast but we are way south of you. We are probably 25 - 30 miles north of Ft Myers and 100 miles or so south of Tampa. We don't have a definite timeline but we are thinking we will be here until around mid-April. It depends on what the weather is like back home- and also on when the manufacturer of our home sends someone to fix some problems we discovered when we were closing it up for the winter. I had thought I kept smelling a sewer odor at times in the utility room where my washer and dryer are but Rodney kept telling me we couldn't be getting odor coming in from the washer drain pipe. He mentioned a couple of times that maybe we should ask our son to make sure we didn't have a propane leak- but it didn't smell like propane to me. When our son crawled under the trailer to help us drain the water he said the insulation underneath the trailer was dripping wet and the plastic or whatever material they use for a barrier underneath was sagging and appeared full of water- and the sewer odor was stronger under there. He said when Rodney started the washer to run antifreeze into the drain he could hear water dripping so we are fairly sure the plumbing for the washer was not properly hooked up by the factory. We notified the salesman and he said he would get in touch with the factory about fixing it, but we told him we were heading for Florida and everything would be shut off so the water underneath would be frozen. Our son is supposed to get in touch with them and make arrangements to get it fixed before we come back. It will need to be done before we go home because otherwise we can't use the sewer now that we know there is a problem.

Rodney's daughter lives in NH, but not far from the Vermont border. She is about an hour away from our home in Vermont. I can't wait to see his face when she shows up tonight!

I think the ants here will be a continual problem, but I can deal with it. I have ant traps out in a couple of places now and we also have some spray that we will use around the outside of the house. My on-laws always had issues with them but they wouldn't use any chemicals to try to get rid of them because they worried that their dog might get into it. I would have thought they could have found a place to put some traps where the dog wouldn't go but they were not interested.

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We've been traveling too, Bev and I have been posting only sporadically on spark, mostly for the challenge team that I'm on.
Everything is good though!
Right now we are in Florida too and will be for another 5 weeks. So nice to be away from winter but I do miss my little great grandson. I'm afraid he will start walking when I'm gone but I hope he waits for us to get back home.
Sounds like you have really worked on making your house clean and nice. I'm sure your stay will be much more pleasant for all your work. You must have neighbors that look out for the house or else you might have larger two-legged varmints getting in while you are away. Ants and a few geckos are manageable. Too bad you will have the extra work every visit though. I wonder if ant traps would help.
Glad Rodney is able to continue his care that way. Being in Florida is good for both of you and it would be disappointing if he needed to stay in Vermont all winter.

Wow! Wonderful surprise for Rodney! I think he will be thrilled to see her. Does she live in Vermont too?

How long will you be staying down here? Florida is a huge state but I have to ask, are you anywhere near Fort Walton Beach?

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Wow, no posts on here yet this year! I hope that means things are going well and you ladies are just plain busy! We have been fairly busy here, but not really doing an awful lot. I have been doing a lot of cleaning in the house. Some of it has been stuff I didn't have time for when we were here last year and some of it was cleaning up after the insects that seem to find their way in when the house is not lived in for almost a year. We have a problem with ants getting in and there are also lizards that get in sometimes. I think most of the mess must have been from ants, but it was hard to believe they could make such a mess as what I found. We have a large lanai that is an aluminum frame with vinyl windows on the back of the house and I suspect the aluminum was never washed in the 25 years or so since my father-in-law had it put on. It was pretty filthy anyway. I have been working on cleaning all of it and I took down all of the curtains and washed them. I have two more sections to do and then I will have it completely finished and put the rest of the furniture back in place. I am hoping to finish it tomorrow but we shall see. Rodney has no idea yet, but his daughter is going to arrive tomorrow night and stay until sometime Sunday. She is flying in and renting a car and said she hopes to be here in time for dinner with us. I can't wait to see his face when she shows up! I will need to make sure he doesn't see how much I am cooking so he doesn't wonder why I am doing more than just what he and I would eat. I worked to get the spare bedroom ready this week and I kept expecting him to tell me I had plenty of time because as far as he knows we won't have company until she and the grandkids come in February during school vacation.

He had his first oncology appointment down here last week. He didn't have chemo then because the last time he had labs done up north his tumor marker had increased significantly so they wanted to do a scan first to be sure the chemo was still working. He had that done on Monday and we met with the doctor today to find out the results. They said things look stable so he will continue the same chemo he was on up north. He had the first cycle here today. He will have labs every week and chemo every two weeks, and probably another scan in a couple of months, unless there is concern before then.

Well, he is looking for a snack so I better get off here and get him one before he looks over my shoulder and sees what I posted!

I hope all is well with everyone.

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Thanks for the update, Bev. We lived in New Hampshire from 1978 to 1988 and had only one winter like you describe. I especially remember it because the Air Force sent Mal to Barksdale AFB in Louisiana for 6 weeks right in the middle of it all. My boys were 10 and 12 and they did the shoveling...and boy did they ever shovel. The snow piles along the driveway were over 5 ft. tall and too tall for them to add any more snow. Then they had to knock the tops of them over to the back side so they could shovel more. I tried to help but couldn't leave the little one in the house or have her outside for long. It was a long six weeks and I think we had a good snowfall each week. I don't remember the bitter cold that you have now though. It is cold here too, 4 degrees this morning.

Yes, we are looking forward to Florida and I'll be walking every day as I always do down there. Walking helps me to control my blood pressure spikes but I am still on a low-dose of medication too. Haven't been walking nearly enough for the past few months.

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I guess it is good that the tests you have had so far show nothing Wanda, but on the other hand I am sure you would like to have a reason for the strokes so that you could also find a way to prevent them from happening again. I will be keeping my fingers crossed for you that you get some answers soon. Sometimes I think not knowing what is going on is worse than knowing something is wrong.

It has been very cold and snowy here. We have already had about 2 feet of snow, although there might be a little less than that actually on the ground now. We also had some freezing rain a week ago that came right after a snowstorm that left us 6 - 8 inches. I didn't shovel the snow because I knew the freezing was coming and figured it would be better to let some of the rain be absorbed by the snow. Before we could clean up from that storm we got another snowstorm on Christmas day. I went out and did some shoveling but I never had time to finish it before we had to go to our son's. We had planned to go to our daughter's in the morning but never did due to the weather. She is coming down tomorrow so we can see her and the kids (and give them the gift cards we got them for Christmas) and they can see our new house. I never got my car completely cleaned off from all those storms so I drove my husband's Jeep to work on Tuesday. Then it turned bitter cold and I never went out and did any more shoveling at night after I got home so I drive his Jeep all week. Today I finally finished shoveling out my car and we drove that to the grocery store to get a few things today. It still has some snow and ice that I couldn't get off it, but I got the bulk of it at least. The last three nights it has been around -10 at night and it only gets into the single digits during the day. This is very unusual for us this early in the season- and it has been a long time since we had this much snow this early too. Yesterday was my last day of work. I am officially retired now but it will be a few months before I can sign up for Social Security. It's a little scary to think I will have no income for those months, but one way or another we will make it work even if I have to look for a part-time job. He has multiple appointments next week and then we hope to be heading to Florida somewhere around the 8th of January. We will come back home to Vermont in the spring- probably in mid-to-late April.

I had a checkup with my doctor the week before Christmas. My thyroid and diabetes medications stayed the same but he added a medication for blood pressure. My blood pressure is always a little high in the office but when I previously checked it at home for a couple of weeks it was mostly in the normal range or just barely out of it but not high enough to require treatment. He told me that sometimes it can start out that way but then progress to being high all the time. Since it was high in the office he had me check it at home for several days and report back to him. I got normal readings every night but it was high every morning, so he felt I needed to take medication for it. He has me on a low dose but since I started taking it I have had normal readings most mornings with just one or two that were slightly elevated and my night readings are pretty much the same as they were before. Hopefully once we are in Florida I will be able to do more walking (I haven't done any lately) and maybe lose some weight.

Wanda, I hope you are able to make your trip to Florida and enjoy the warmer temps and sunshine. I know I plan to enjoy it! Sunny I see from Facebook that you are getting out and doing some sightseeing and it looks like you are enjoying it. Good for you!

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Happy New Year's Sunny and Bev!
I really had a miserable December but was feeling better in time for Christmas and enjoyed family and friends so much.

I should have read my old posts before starting this because I can't remember how much I've said but I apparently had another small stroke this fall which resulted in double vision. I didn't have any other symptoms and didn't go to the doctor immediately which was probably a mistake. When it didn't clear up I did go to my ophthalmologist and that started a series of appointments with negative blood tests and a MRI that showed nothing, followed by getting the right side of my head shaved for an arterial biopsy --- also negative but....I positively did have a bad hair day. I was on steroids through this hoping to prevent another event if it was from vascular inflammation - the steroids really did a number on me. I was SO sick. I'm off them now and further tests are scheduled some ultrasounds on the 3rd and an echocardiogram on the 8th. I'm sure they will be negative also. Sure would like to know what is causing the strokes - this was my 4th; so far I have been fortunate.

Bev, I know that your weather is even colder than ours. In 30 years in southern Ohio I do not remember a cold spell this bad that has lasted so long and we are supposed to stay in the deep, deep freeze until the 16th. We are scheduled to leave for Florida on the 15th and I am still counting on being able to do that.

Sunny, be happy to be in sunny, warm Arizona.

I hope everyone had a Christmas as good as ours. Christmas is always wonderful.

So 2018 is coming fast. I have a journal that I'm going to keep for the year. This year is all about getting healthy and strong again and I want to journal to help me figure out what works for me and what doesn't. I also want a good record of doctor's visits and any insights I can glean from them. No resolutions, and the only goal is my goal weight. I really need to put some effort into getting there.

Prayers, my friends, for a healthy, peaceful, and prosperous year.


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Our house doesn't look like Christmas at all. Since this is the last year we will be in Vermont for Christmas I didn't want to move all of my decorations to the new house, so I got rid of almost everything. I did keep a few special (personalized) ornaments that the grandkids gave us and I kept the stockings (they were ones that I made) because who knows what the future holds, but I got rid of everything else. We were more intent on moving than on decorating for Christmas this year. Rodney says we don't need a tree in Florida next year but I think I might like a three foot high tabletop one or something. I will buy one down there when the time comes- and maybe a few other decorations too but I won't do a lot. This year we plan to go to our daughter's in the morning on Christmas day and to our son's in the afternoon.

When Rodney saw a picture of himself that I took he complained that his face looks very puffy, which I am sure is from the steroid he is on, so I know what you are saying about being blown up from them. He started at 50 mg but they had him taper down by 10 mg every two weeks and he is now down to 10 mg. His cough and shortness of breath are definitely worse than when he was on a higher dose but he seems to be managing okay by using his inhaler and oxygen when he really needs it. I hope you are able to get some answers next week and are able to start tapering down on the steroids too. And let's hope we all stay healthy in 2018!

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Sorry for the delay for Rodney! I hope that the doctor will make a point of talking with him at his next visit. He should know how difficult it is to wait for information, especially when something seems to be changing.

Prayers for both of you!

I'm doing fine, just really blown up from the steroids, dry mouth, tingling tongue, muzzy headed at times and not too stead on my feet. I think I told you that they put most people on 20 mg a day but they put me on 60mg hoping to stave off another event before they know what is going on.

Anyway, I'm not sleeping well but I just get up and make coffee (one morning it was 2am and i never went back to bed), put the Christmas on quietly and sit by the tree until Mal gets up and it is time for breakfast. He has been wonderful. He usually "Bah Humbugs" right up until Christmas Eve but this year he has done all the shopping and decorating with me. Not as much decorating as usual this year but the house looks lovely and this year I am content with "enough".

Thanks for updating me, Bev! I'll be thinking of you guys.
So glad Sunny is enjoying friendships and getting out and about. I know she will be enjoying her family at this time of year too.

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I hope you are feeling better now Wanda, but with all you have been through I think you are allowed to be a little "cranky" at times. Rodney gets that way sometimes too (and so do I). I hope you get nothing but good news at your follow-up next week.

I don't remember if I mentioned on here that the testing we were waiting on results for was not successful because they said the tissue sample was inadequate. We discussed having a new biopsy done and were expecting a call about scheduling it. Since we had heard nothing Rodney contacted his oncologist and he is now saying he doesn't want to do a biopsy now. We don't understand his reasoning because we know that eventually the current chemo will stop working and we want to have the test results before then in order to plan the next steps. If we wait for it to fail and then have the biopsy done it might mean weeks or months with no treatment while we wait for results. There are other drugs they could possibly try, but there are no more standard treatments for his type of cancer. The doctor said he will discuss it with him further when he sees him next - although I think his appointment next week is with the assistant and not the doctor. It is a bit frustrating, but he might just have to wait until he sees a new doctor in Florida and see if she is willing to pursue the testing.

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Sounds like there is still a lot of work ahead for you, Bev. I'm sure you are glad to be in the new house though. You have really been determined and it has paid off. Enjoy!

I had the arterial biopsy yesterday, and went in for a quick dressing change today. No answers until my next follow-up on Tuesday. I am expecting a negative biopsy and so is my doctor just because the condition they are looking for is so rare. I won't be disappointed to be taken off these steroids at all and If the test is positive I would have to continue on them for a year or so. On the other hand I have had 4 strokes in 15 years and have none of the common stroke risk factors. I'm moderately overweight, no family history of stroke, moderately increased cholesterol, no diabetes, etc. The list goes on; my labs and other tests are always negative - I'm just a healthy person who has strokes - how is that possible. Any this is a last ditch effort...then I think they just expect me to sit and wait around for THE BIG ONE....NO! I really do want an explanation.

Sorry, I'm a little cranky tonight. It is late and I've got to take my steroid and antibiotic cocktail and crash for the night. Will post again soon.

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I haven't heard from Sunny other than seeing some of her posts on Facebook. It looks like she is having a good time exploring with her new friend.

Yes, we are finally in the new house. We don't have everything moved yet and I haven't been able to put away everything that has been moved but we are getting there. Unfortunately winter seems to have arrived here so that is not helping us at all. We started moving things in on Dec 2nd and spent the night here that night for the first time. We didn't pick up our new living room furniture until last Thursday so for several days all we had for living room furniture was Rodney's power recliner that we brought up from the old house. Our dressers are still not here so we have clothes in boxes (and some still at the old house, but most of mine are here because I have a lot less than Rodney does). We will probably get things put away just in time to leave for Florida. I started trying to clean up some of the debris that the installers left behind but I didn't get it all done before I gave up because it was snowing too hard and I was getting too wet. We are supposed to get a few more inches of snow tomorrow so I think the rest will be there until spring.

I am sorry to hear about your health troubles Wanda, but at least you finally have some answers and you can do something about it. A woman who once belonged to our TOPS group had Giant Cell Arteritis and was on prednisone (I think right up until she passed away- from unrelated issues I believe). Her doctor had warned her she might gain weight from the steroids but she kept losing it instead. Rodney has been gaining weight since he has been on it. He eats constantly, which I expect is from the prednisone, but he is not very active so I'm not surprised he has been gaining. They have cut back on the dosage of prednisone but he still has lots of trouble with his breathing so I don't see him getting off it any time soon.

I hope you are able to enjoy your vacation. I am looking forward to getting away from the cold and snow.

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Here's what has been happening with me:
Well, I guess the verdict is in. I have had another stroke that is causing the double vision. I had thought it was just a relapse to symptoms from the first stroke but apparently this time it has affected a different nerve. I do not have many stroke factors - never smoked, never drank, never been very heavy; I do have hypertension but it is apparently well controlled on a low dose of medication, no diabetes, moderate cholesterol LDL......who knows what is causing this? This is my second stroke with only visual symptoms. The other two were the more normal, one-sided weakness events.

Well we may know after this week. On Tuesday morning I am having a Temporal artery biopsy, which means they will shave about a 3" square on my head and remove about 2 cm of my artery, then splice the artery together again. In several days we will have the results and the diagnosis they suspect is Giant Cell Arteritis also known as Temporal Arteritis. They have put me on steroids now (OH JOY!). If the test is negative they will take me off them in a short time; if it is positive I will need to take them for at least a year.

Another (OH JOY!) I've always wanted a shaved head for Christmas....NOT!
Went to the hairdresser Friday and got a really short cut so that it will be able to grow in quicker. Apparently it needs to be left uncovered and I'll have some gooey stuff to keep on the incision so I didn't want to be getting hair in it.

Right now one of my biggest concerns is getting myself together for Christmas and to be ready to check in at Fort Walton Beach on January 15th for a long break from winter!

There is good news though! The doctor had a fresnel lens (prism) fitted to one lens of my glasses and I am seeing perfectly well now....have you ever thought to be grateful for single vision? I won't forget that soon.

How are you and Rodney doing Bev? I hope you are actually IN the new house by now. I haven't been on the computer as much as usual to I need to catch up.

Have you heard from Sunny? She should be having our beautiful summer weather now instead of the hot, hot days.




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I think you are right in not wanting to drive the day after the pump comes off. Might be nice to take a couple of days and know that he is stable. I can't imagine much more frightening than trying to get to an exit and find a hospital in a strange town. EEK! Much better for you to feel comfortable too than to be driving under stress.

Sounds like you will have a nice long break. We lived in New Hampshire for 10 years and Mal was born in Vermont and had lots of family there. We remember mud season well! Run, Run...as fast as you can! LOL



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We have decided to postpone the dinner until tomorrow and hopefully he will feel a little better then. I once made a crustless pumpkin pie but it just wasn't the same. I figure I don't eat it often so when I do I will have the real thing.

It dawned on me that I never answered your question about Florida. We are hoping to leave in early January and stay until after mud season- likely some time in April, but that is not definite. He has an appointment with his pulmonary doctor on the 4th so unless he tries to get them to move it up a week we won't be leaving until after that. He has been having chemo on Mondays but I see his next two are scheduled for Wednesdays and if they keep to that schedule he would be due for one on Jan 3rd and the pump would be disconnected on the 5th. I think we would be wise to leave after that chemo rather than leave before it since there would be less of a gap before he can start having it in Florida if we do it that way. The only thing I am not sure about is traveling the day after the pump comes off so we might wait an extra day or two- although he could nap in the car while I drive so it might be okay. We are hoping to get him set up to continue treatment down there. There is a cancer center that is only a couple of miles from our house and his uncle goes there for treatment in the winter and likes the doctor he has. Another option we have considered would be Moffitt Cancer Center in Tampa, which is a very well respected center and is supposed to be among the best for this type of cancer- but it is over 100 miles from our house down there. If he ends up needing to look for a clinical trial the cancer center near our house likely wouldn't be an option- but the place he goes now probably wouldn't be either. We will worry about that if and when the time comes that we need to I guess.

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I used to take a WW suggestion and make a crustless pumpkin pie - just a custard really...baked the pie filling in a pan or small dishes. Surprisingly with a dollop of cool whip - it was delicious!

You dinner sounds perfect... Enjoy, hope Rodney will feel better as the day goes on.

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I hope you enjoy your quiet day as I am sure we will. Rodney isn't feeling all that great today )he usually doesn't the day after the chemo pump comes off) so it is just as well that we are alone today. I bought a roasting chicken and we will do a simple dinner of chicken, mashed potatoes and gravy, biscuits and a veggie. I did pick up a small can of cranberry sauce. With so much sugar in it neither of us should eat it, but we will have a small amount with our chicken. I made him a low sugar cherry pie but I don't like that so I also made a pumpkin pie. I did lighten it up a bit with fat free evaporated milk and with Splenda.

One would think the company would be anxious to finish the house so they can get paid but so far it hasn't made much difference. I got an e-mail from the bank right after they put the two halves together saying she had heard it was all done and ready for them to inspect. I'm not sure if the place was trying to get paid early (but if the bank sent an inspector they would have seen that it wasn't done so that wouldn't have worked) or if they simply hadn't talked to the installer (who is a subcontractor) and didn't know it wasn't done, but I can't believe they really thought he could get it all done in one day. I'm not even sure they can finish what is left in one day. Our loan officer told me to let her know when it was all done and they would inspect it but the company gets no more money until all of their work is finished.

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Quiet day for us too, Bev! Instead of the usual activity, I'm just roasting a couple of Turkey thighs and making dressing an green beans. Since Mal has been diagnosed pre-diabetic, we are passing on potatoes and many of the usual sides I make. It just would be wasteful to do all that cooking with no one to eat that much food. They wouldn't even be here to help with the leftovers. We'll have a family dinner on December 2 and that will be my big cooking day.

I'm happy for you that the house has been put together. Hope they get there to finish up the work soon....guess they will step up if they want their monty, right? I also hope that they do good, quality work for you.

Even though you won't be eating Thanksgiving there it sounds like you have made a great leap forward.

Praying for you and Rodney that the doctors will continue to be able to help and maybe completely turn that cancer around. That man of yours is a fighter and so are you.

When do you leave for Florida and how long will you be able to stay this time? Will Rodney be able to continue his chemo down there? We will leave for Fort Walton mid-January and plan to stay down there through February. Spring comes earlier in Ohio than in Vermont so we will only have a couple of weeks of winter once we get back home.

Mal is having some health issues, nothing serious at the moment but he has had multiple TIAs and lost so much weight - I can't believe he weighs the same as me - 155 lbs and he is 6 ft. tall while I am only 5 ft. We can't find a reason for the weight loss but his whole family kind of leans out as they age. Both his father and mother did the same.

Anyway...Happy Thanksgiving!! Enjoy the day with Rodney...sometimes family chaos is highly overrated and a quiet day together can be nice.

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I hope you find an answer to the double vision soon Wanda. My husband's stepmother has had some issues with double vision and she was diagnosed with Myasthenia Gravis. I had never heard of it before but one thing it can cause is double vision. There are other symptoms too but I think the main ones she has besides the double vision is drooping eyelids and muscle weakness in the face.

We will not be spending Thanksgiving in the new house. They put the two halves together last Wednesday, but they have a lot of work left to do. They told us to go ahead and get the electrical, plumbing, and heating hooked up and then they would be back to finish up their work. Rodney hooked up the electrical the day after they put the two pieces together. Our son hooked up the propane for the furnace, stove, and dryer (which will need to be connected once we move it up there) last weekend, the plumber and the phone company came yesterday so we have done all of our part except for a second set of steps (we bought one set from someone who had them on Craigslist but we need to either build or buy another one). They need to do the skirting, some siding, and a bunch of interior work before they can get paid and we can move in. I expect they are taking a long weekend but I certainly hope they will come back next week. At the rate things are going we won't even be settled in before it is time to go to Florida!

Rodney had a scan last week and we met with the doctor on Monday to get the results as well as have bloodwork done. The news was kind of a mixed bag. It looks like the junk in his lungs that they thought might be from the prior chemo has improved some, which is good news. On the other hand the radiologist feels that some of the nodules look like they have increased in size a bit, but we were told it was a very small increase so the oncologist isn't ready to give up on this chemo regimen yet. If his labs had shown another increase in the tumor marker he might not have continues it, but the tumor marker dropped some, so that might be a sign that things are working. If the nodules have grown it seems like it might not be a total response to the chemo but maybe it is at least slowing down the progression. We are still waiting for the results of the genetic test of the tumor. That will help determine if there is another treatment they can try if they decide this one is not working adequately.

I hope everyone has a very Happy Thanksgiving! It will be a quiet day here. Our daughter and her family are going to her mom's and our son and DIL went to her parents' house. They will be back tomorrow evening because he has to work on Friday and then Friday evening they will head to NY state to pick up his youngest son for the weekend.

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Well, the double vision is still with me! Maddening at times when I want to drive and have to depend on Mal. Oh well there are worse things. I had an MRI on Friday and it came back good so now we are waiting on labs. I see the doctor again on the 30th.

How is the house coming, Bev. Thinking about you often and hoping you can put up a Christmas Tree in the new place! How great to hear that you would be able to have Thanksgiving there too! It is going to be so nice.

Speaking of Christmas, I'm doing most of my shopping online this year. I really like getting out into the stores...Mal....not so much. I imagine we will get to the mall once or twice but I'm not into power shopping anymore.

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I think you are wise to go through all the tests just to make sure it is nothing more than being overtired causing the occasional double vision. Better safe than sorry! Rodney is doing reasonably well. He has been gradually decreasing the amount of prednisone he takes and until recently it seemed to be working fine. In the last week or two he has started to cough more and I think he gets short of breath easier but it hasn't been as bad as he was before he started the steroids. He talked with his pulmonary doctor on Monday and they decided he would stay on the current dose for now unless he gets worse. If he does he is supposed to up it a bit and let the doctor know. Hopefully it is just that he caught a slight cold and not that his lungs are getting worse again. We should know soon because he is scheduled for a scan next Wednesday and then we will see the doctor for the results on the following Monday. We were hoping to get the results of his genetic testing this week but they still didn't have them back from Foundation One yet. His oncologist was supposed to call to see if he could find out where things are at. Rodney is afraid they are going to come back and say he needs another biopsy because the sample they got before was not adequate, but I would hope they wouldn't wait almost 2 months to tell you that!

Yes, our son and daughter-in-law both work full-time. She is a teacher so she also has papers to grade some evenings and she also helps out at some of the sports events so she is late coming home on those days. I think she is an assistant coach for a couple of teams and helps with the scoreboard occasionally for other events. I think they both like to watch movies or be on their phones more than they like picking up after themselves, but hopefully they will figure out they need to do it even if it isn't fun. My house is certainly not spotless but I try not to let it get too bad before I make myself spend some time cleaning it. Hopefully the new house will be easier to keep clean and since I won't be working much longer I will have more time to do what needs to be done. We have a huge dust problem here and Rodney thinks it is partly because the stuff that is in our driveway has a lot of sand in it. The material that was put on our new driveway is much nicer so he thinks we shouldn't have as much dust. I hope he is right!

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You and Rodney have faced huge challenges, Bev. I think you will get through whatever comes because you just don't give up.

I do hope the kids make their payments to you. How they take care of the house, I guess will be their business. Sometimes it takes awhile to realize that Mom and Dad are not going to be doing it for them. I assume they both work full time so that is probably a factor. It takes time to see how to fit everything together. Sometimes they have to watch things fall apart before they realize it is up to them to keep it together. Not all young people have the opportunity you have given them.

How is Rodney feeling? I'm sure all the waiting is hard on both of you. Winter is coming or has already come to Vermont I'm sure. It was 30 degrees here this morning our first real frost. I had to get out to the ophthalmologists early this morning and it was cold. I've been having some trouble with double vision for a few weeks. Now THAT is a weird sensation! Actually it goes back to a stroke I had in 2002 that left me with double vision for several months. Then my brain adjusted and I've had no issues for the last 15 years; then it was back....UGH. Well now I have to go for an MRI and blood tests even though the double vision actually went away while I was waiting to see the doctor! I've been through them all before but we will follow instructions and do it again.

I have had a few short periods of double vision during those years - usually when I've read late into the night and I'm exhausted. It never lasts more than a few minutes; probably because I close the book and go to sleep. I think I just let myself get run down with the bronchitis, then the long trip was tiring too. He said today that it isn't surprising that when my body is stressed, the double vision can click in.

Oh well, I'm feeling just fine now; vision has been perfect for 5 days but...more tests.



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I am hoping that when we are out and it is their own place they will be a little better about picking things up or the place will look horrible! The yard has a lot of junk around it now that showed up after they moved in and there is stuff everywhere in my basement that belongs to them. I have been trying to give them the benefit of doubt and say it is because they have so little space they have no place to put everything- but sometimes when I see a pile of mail that is mostly junk that no one bothered to go through and throw away it makes me wonder what the place will look like a few months from now. As long as they make their payments it is none of my business but from what I have seen I think they both might tend to be slobs. I am hoping that knowing it is their own place will make them take a little pride in the appearance of it.

We will definitely not be moving in this weekend- in fact we won't even be able to move any of our belongings because the house is sitting exactly the way it was left last Friday. We are now being told they will be coming early next week to do the setup but I won't believe it until they pull in! The best we can hope for is to move in next weekend but I suspect it might be the following week (it had better be).

I didn't plan on having a mortgage payment when we retired but a lot of things have not gone the way we had planned so we will have one at least for a few years.

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Sounds like a good plan for the kids, Bev. If interest rates stay as low as they are now, they should be able to do really well. I remember buying our first house in 1974; 9.5% interest!! In 1978 when we moved to New Hampshire we bought at 8.5% and when we moved to ohio in 1988, we bought this house at 8.5 %. I don't think young people today realize how much these low interest rates mean over the course of a mortgage. We sure paid a lot of money in interest, but even so we loved being homeowners instead of renters and it paid off as the homes appreciated. Now it is SO wonderful not to have a mortgage. I know that when we were the age of your kids we thought we would never have a home without any mortgage.

You will have fun watching them make your old house their own. I always thought it was fun to watch my kids develop their own tastes in decorating, colors, etc. Three kids and three very different homes!


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We are definitely anxious to move in, but I sort of doubt it will happen this weekend. If they got the setup done in the next couple of days and we could get the plumber here this week we might be able to, but we have to get the town to come out and check things out to give us our certificate of occupancy so I think it is more apt to be next week. If things go well we might be able to move a few things in this weekend though. Our son and DIL say they are comfortable with the payment arrangement we set up for them. We kept it low enough that they should be fine- and by the time they have to go to a bank and get financing the balance will be lower so they should be able to have a payment that isn't a lot more then even though they will be paying interest at that point. We have already signed papers selling it to them. They had gotten an insurance quote that was much lower than what we have been paying but it was only valid through the end of October so we told them we could close the deal by then as long as we could stay here until our house is ready.

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I sometimes get sideways pictures on Spark too!

Gosh, your home is going to be so pretty. Love the beige with the green shutters.

Thanks for posting the pics; I can just imagine how you are looking forward to move-in day. Is everything going according to plan with your current home? Will your son be able to manage the payments? I hope they are doing well.

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Here is what it looks like before being set up.




I have no idea why it shows some of the pictures sideways. They were not that way on my computer!


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I'm excited for you, Bev. The new home will be in place very soon and step by step you will be moving in soon. Hope it works out that you can go to Florida.

Glad Rodney is still fighting. One thing I have learned about two...from health issues to house issues....you do NOT give up.

I think the DNA testing for cancer patients is kind of amazing. Doctor's were able to tell from the DNA of my sister's breast cancer cells that her cancer would not react well to chemo but was very likely to achieve remission with radiation. It was a blessing that she started the radiation right away and never had to have the chemo. Often patients are so debilitated from chemo that they aren't strong enough to be able to get through all the radiation. Now doctors will be able to know whether and which chemo will work best for a particular patient.
Awesome step forward. My sister is now 2 years in, working full time, feeling great, and no recurrences thus far with just a lumpectomy and radiation.

Glad to know you are retiring! You will love it!

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Wow, that is scary Wanda! You definitely did the right thing by going to the ER but thankfully it appears it was nothing too serious. Maybe a little worn out from the trip? My sister-in-law recently went to Savannah and she enjoyed it. My daughter was supposed to go to St Augustine to celebrate her anniversary but they had to cancel/postpone the trip because that was when Hurricane Irma decided to pay a visit to Florida. I don't remember when she said they are going.

Both halves of the house arrived this week finally (one on Thursday and one on Friday) but they are not put together yet. Hopefully that will happen this coming week. They ran into a bit of a snag because the truck and trailer couldn't make one of the corners on our road when they brought the first half. We had to scramble to find someone with a piece of equipment who could come immediately. The guy who did our sitework was out of town so we couldn't get him but our son managed to locate another guy. We asked him in advance if he could come the next day to help with the second half. Of course that was an unexpected expense, but we felt he used us good and charged us less than we thought he might. He started to go off the edge of the road in one spot so a piece of siding did end up getting damaged, but nothing major. The truck driver said he would let them know to bring a couple of extra pieces of siding when they come to do the setup and they will fix that for us. I don't know if they will fix it free or bill us, but it shouldn't be too much for just that. I doubt if we will be able to move in as soon as next weekend but soon after that we should. It depends on what day they finish the setup. We still need to get the water and sewer hookups done and a propane tank installed and connected so we have heat before we could think about moving in.

Rodney is holding his own. He will have treatment #4 on Monday and then they will do a CT scan before the next one and decide how to proceed based on how the scan looks. His tumor marker took a big jump last time, which is rather concerning. We are still waiting for the results of the genetic testing. He might get that on Monday but I am not able to go with him that day. Our daughter will meet him at the hospital so she will be with him for his appointments. I will be with him for the next one after he has the scan. Soon I will be able to go to all of them with him. I officially gave my notice at work and I will be done at the end of the year. Hopefully it will work out that we can go to Florida for the rest of the winter but either way I won't be working. If we end up staying here and having to heat a house all winter plus paying higher utility bills up here it will be harder financially but we will make it work no matter what.

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Just checking in, we enjoyed our trip; it was fun but we decided we prefer heading west rather than east of Ohio. We have commented before that it is more relaxing to drive when you get west of the Mississippi....so much less traffic!

On the east coast it seems like one big town almost runs into the next. I loved visiting Mount Vernon and Colonial Williamsburg. Charleston was fun but I think I liked Savannah better. From there we went to St. Augustine, Florida and then headed home. We had good weather and made a stop in Chattanooga to visit an old friend (and boss) of Mal's.

The night we arrived home, we started to get things unpacked and put away - then had to head to the ER because Mal's left hand and arm were not working - I noticed him struggling with the zipper on his suitcase and he admitted something was wrong and he couldn't walk quite right either so off to the ER, they got him in quickly, did CT, X-rays, checked everything but his symptoms started wearing off as soon as we got there and they sent us home after about 4 hours observation. ,All the tests were okay. It kind of makes him feel like we shouldn't have gone to the ER but I know that was the right thing to do. Since both of us have had strokes, I just don't think that we should wait to get checked out.

I was so glad it happened after we got back here because I would have hated to be in a strange town trying to find a hospital. We are rested and doing fine now.

Well, Bev, we are in a new month. I'm hoping to hear that your home has arrived. I'm sure there will still be snags as always with a huge project like this but at least you are moving forward. How is Rodney doing?



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emoticon And such a pretty setting too! I'm sure you are excited about it. I would be.
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It sounds like an enjoyable trip Wanda! I am glad you are able to do things like that. Don't feel bad about not checking in here because you are busy enjoying life. That is certainly much more important!

We are sort of at a standstill with the house at the moment and we won't be moving in quite as soon as we had hoped, but we are getting closer all the time. The well is done (although the pump won't be until the house is here), the septic system is done, the slab is ready for a house, and we got the power hooked up today. We were hoping the house might be delivered this week but the last thing we heard is maybe the last week of the month. I'm not sure if that means next week or the last couple of days of the month. Either way it should be here within the next couple of weeks. Of course then there are a few days worth of setup stuff to be done and we will need to get the plumber in to connect the water and sewer and we will need to build some steps, so I'm guessing it might be a couple of weeks from the time it is delivered until we are ready to get the occupancy permit and move in.

It is hard to believe we went from it looking like this


to this

That took just about a month to get done once we closed on our loan.

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Sorry it has been so long since I've posted!! Hello Sunny and Bev....What good news, Bev, that you are able to move forward on your new home. I think that is awesome. You have had a long, long wait.

I'm sorry to read that Rodney must continue with chemo, hopefully his breathing is improving and he will get some good news soon.

Sunny, I'm so glad you are having fun! It is so nice to have special friends in our lives and someone who enjoys the same things we do. Good for you!

I've been busy too. I love taking care of my little great-grandson. Theo is a complete joy and I am happy to care for him a couple of days a week. Right now I'm missing him because we are traveling. We started out a week ago - our first stop was in Virginia to visit Mount Vernon. I have to tell you, girls, it is awe inspiring to walk through the same rooms as George and Martha did, and to sit on his back porch overlooking the Potomac.
After that we stayed two nights in Williamsburg, VA visiting colonial Williamsburg, then three nights in Charleston where we enjoyed walking through the historical area and visited Palm Island and Sullivan Island, now we have just checked in to our motel in Savannah and will enjoy seeing some of the sights here tomorrow. Wednesday we leave for St. Augustine for a couple of days and then head home. Lots of fun, tiring, too much good food....but we are having a great time and are so blessed to be able to do this together.

Sorry if all that sounds like a travelogue but that's what we are up to. I'll try to check in more often but I also foolishly signed up for two challenge teams again and I'm finding it very difficult to keep up. One will be over in a few weeks and then maybe I'll just take a break from challenges.

Again, Bev I am so glad that things are working out with the house. That is great news and glad your house in Florida was spared too.

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I guess everyone has been busy since there has been no activity on here for a while. I hope all is well for you Sunny and Wanda. Things are going okay here. Work is progressing on the new house. The well has been drilled, the area where the pad will go is all prepped and ready for concrete. Our contractor told my son in the beginning of last week that he didn't think he could do it for a couple of weeks, which would mean next week, but the excavation contractor seems to think he will do it sooner. He says he has worked with the concrete guy on a number of projects and he was going to talk to him last week and tell him it would be ready for him by the weekend and he is confident they will come this week to do the slab. Either way it should happen soon. The excavation crew has started work on the septic system. The power company won't come back and put in power to that lot until after we get all the brush cleaned up under where the line is going. A bunch of trees were cut down by Rodney's cousin, but all the limbs are still laying there. I think the excavation guy is going to pick them up with his equipment and haul them away for us to his gravel pit where he can burn it all. At first I thought maybe I could move a bunch of it, but when I looked at what is there I knew it was too much for me to drag out of the way by hand (some of the limbs are the size of small trees).

Rodney is holding his own. He started a new chemo last Monday and so far he has not had any side effects. He will have treatment every two weeks- he will spend about 3 hours getting an infusion (with labs and a visit with the doctor first he will be there most of the day) and then come home hooked up to a pump for two days before he goes back to get the pump disconnected. He will likely see more side effects as he is on it longer, but hopefully he will tolerate it fairly well and it will work. He saw a pulmonary specialist on Tuesday about his breathing problems and they prescribed oxygen to use when he is doing stuff because that is when he experiences shortness of breath. The only issue is that he was supposed to get a portable unit, but the provider brought a home unit as well as tanks that he can cart around when he leaves the house. He told them at the hospital that he wouldn't use it if he had to cart a tank around and they had told him the portable unit could be carried in a backpack. He has to travel to the oxygen provider's office on Wednesday and hopefully they will set him up with the portable unit. If not, he will probably tell them to come pick up their stuff and he will look for another provider or go without it. The steroids they have him on seem to be helping as his breathing seems a little better than it was. They are hoping his issues were caused only by the previous chemo and not the cancer itself, and if so he should have a full recovery with the help of the steroids, but it sounds like it might take some time since they prescribed enough medicine to last for four months. They will try to gradually reduce the dose of the steroids as long as he continues to improve. When he has his next chemo treatment (next week) he will also have a chest x-ray done so they can see if there is any improvement seen in the lungs. We plan to make sure someone goes with him for his treatments this time since he will be there much longer than he was before, but I will not go to all of them (due to having used up all my paid time off already). Our daughter will meet him there for some of them and if she can't our daughter-in-law said she can take a day off, or his brother would go with him if he isn't busy taking their dad to an appointment. He will still need to drive himself up and back but his doctor said he should be fine to do that. I will go to some appointments if we feel there might be important discussions with his doctor (like when we get the results of his genetic testing and discuss future treatment options). I recently took three unpaid days off to go to appointments with him. I think I might have two paid days left but I saved those in the event that I need a day for something not related to his illness that wouldn't fall under FMLA. I have been battling a cough for about three weeks now so I may end up having to make an appointment for myself. Since I have been feeling fine and Rodney hasn't caught it from me I really don't think it is a cold or some other sort of respiratory infection, but I don't know what it is. I was wondering if it could be more of an allergy-type thing but it might not be. I have occasionally had a runny nose, but not all the time. I get a lot of sinus headaches, but that is not unusual for me. I have had days that I was so hoarse I could barely talk and other days my voice is fine, but I have not been feeling sick throughout any of this, which is why I am hesitant to go to the doctor, but I can't ignore the cough forever either.

Well, I guess I have rambled long enough and I need to get busy doing some things around here- like sorting out some stuff that I want to get rid of before we move into the new house.

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Hi Sunny!

I have seen some of the pictures on Facebook of your adventures with your new friend. It looks like the two of you are enjoying life, which is wonderful! The foliage really hasn't arrived here yet, but we are starting to see some of the leaves change here and there. We had some kind of chilly days but this week it is warmer again. We haven't had a frost yet, but it dipped into the upper 30s a couple of times and has been in the 40s at night a lot of times.

Yes, we closed on the loan for the house a week ago today and work is already starting. Last weekend our excavating contractor came and started doing some of the prep work. He built up and widened out the driveway and got the spot ready for the well drillers to come in. On Tuesday we got two new power poles set, but we don't know yet when the power company will actually come and extend the power to the lot. They won't do anything before they get the money and we are waiting for the bank to send their check. I was expecting it before now, but haven't seen it. The woman at the bank told me it mailed on Tuesday but I suspect maybe it didn't actually go out that day. Today our well was drilled. The excavation guy is working on stockpiling sand for a contract he has for this winter and he rented a big machine so has to concentrate on that while he is paying for the machine but he has spent a few hours here on the weekend and an hour or two one evening. I think he told our son he planned to work a few hours again this weekend too.

It will be a while before we know if Rodney will get into a clinical trial. He had the lung biopsy yesterday. We meet with the oncologist again next Monday and hopefully he will have the results of the biopsy by then so we know whether or not the cancer has definitely progressed. I think it will just confirm what we pretty much know already. The testing that will determine eligibility for a trial take about 4 weeks to get results back from.

We were very lucky that our house in Florida received very little damage from the hurricane. From what we understand the only damage was to some lattice panels on the side of the carport. We were very worried about it all weekend when they started saying the west coast was going to be hard hit. Our place is not right on the coast but not too far away. It is close enough that we were in the mandatory evacuation zone and in the storm surge warning zone- but it shifted slightly to the right so our area didn't get hit as bad as they had at first expected. We were not sure how we would even find out if there was damage but one of Rodney's brothers got hold of a guy we had used previously to mow the lawns and he drove by and checked them all out for us. Of course he doesn't have keys so he couldn't check inside the house but if there was damage it should have been visible from the outside. None of the three houses had anything more than minor damage, which we are all thankful for.

I hope all is well with you Wanda. Have you recovered from the bronchitis and Shingles yet?

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Hi Bev & Wanda,

Well, it has been a few weeks since I've posted, so I'm thinking you have probably closed now on the loan for your new house, Bev. That is nice that your excavator lives so close so you will be able to have good communications with him. I bet you are getting into the really beautiful time of the year back there in Vermont. I can just close my eyes and visualize the beauty of the surroundings! Sure would like to make a trip back that way sometime in the fall. It would really be a treat!!

Sure hope Rodney was able to get into one of the clinical trials. I think they are finding break through treatments all the time and sure would be wonderful if he could get into the right trial and get a 100% remission. I know you both must be getting so tired of the stresses of dealing with the Dr.'s constantly and all the appointments, etc. It can really be exhausting.

Well, on my end I am doing fine. My new friend Ben has been such a joy in my life. He is so energetic and just interested in everything, so he inspires me to keep positive and welcome every day as a new gift and opportunity. We have taken several little day trips and even took my big labrador, Izzy with us last Sunday as we drove up to Prescott and enjoyed a lovely thunderstorm and lots of rain. It ended quickly however and so we walked around the courthouse and had a lovely time. He is a lovely Christian man and we both enjoy attending church services, so we have been doing a lot of that........ plus he has been teaching me how to play domino's and I'm teaching him to play chess! Just proves that you can still have fun even when we are getting up there in years! :)

Well, better sign off for now. Today is supposed to be our first day UNDER the 100 degree mark! Whoopee!! I am so ready for this heat to be over with. Oh, on another positive note, I have lost nearly 5 pounds in the last month, so that is pretty encouraging. I think it is just because I've been doing a lot more things and getting out of the house more!!

Best wishes to you and take care!!
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I am glad you were able to find a way to post a message Sunny! Sometimes these darn computers have a mind of their own I think!

We are supposed to close on the loan for the new house next Thursday. We are working on getting in touch with some of the contractors so they get us on their schedule. The guy who will be doing all the excavation work unfortunately is tied up until the end of September, but he has assured us he will make sure we can get all the sitework done by mid-October, which is a requirement of one of our permits. He is going to try to do a little bit on a weekend before then (he lives just a mile or so down the road from us) so that we can hopefully get the well company in to drill the well even before he can do the septic system. If all goes well we might be ready to move in by the end of October.

Rodney's appointments today did not go as well, but it could have been worse. He has been having a lot of shortness of breath lately and the CT scan did point to the reason for it, although we don't have a definite answer yet as to exactly what is causing it. The scan shows some new areas of concern in his lungs but they can't say for sure if it is progression of the cancer or a side effect of the chemo, or possibly a combination of the two. His doctor feels that most likely at least some of it is from the chemo, but there are also some other indications that the cancer might have progressed somewhat- although it is still confined to the lungs as far as they can tell. Chemo has been stopped for now, as it either is no longer working or else it is causing harm. They will be scheduling him for a biopsy of the lungs. That will tell them if what is new in the lungs is cancer or damage from chemo. At the same time they will send a tumor sample for genetic testing in order to look for a targeted therapy or a clinical trial. That process will likely take 6 - 8 weeks. They did give him a prescription for prednisone for a week to see if that helps his breathing and he also has an inhaler. The news was not what we would have liked to hear, but at least it hasn't spread to other areas yet, which is good.

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Well, here goes to try this another way! Iíll paste from e-mail and see if that works! Bev, sounds like you were having a
similar problem with your messages not going through. It is very aggravating for sure!

Thanks to you both for the updates. Wanda, I sure hope that Malís blood test came back showing that he is nowhere
near going into diabetes. Best wishes and Iíll be waiting to hear. Also very glad you got to spend time with your little
Great Grandson. He couldnít be in better hands. I had a good time with mine also. Last Sunday afternoon they had a
party for the one who was turning 12, but the other one did not want to go into the laser game room so they asked if I
would keep an eye on him. He was fascinated by the pin ball machines and was putting quarters in to get out the little
toys. He especially liked the little round balls and spent most of his quarters on those. They are all so precious.

Bev, sounds like you may be spending your Christmas this year in your new home. I hope it all gets put in place without
a hitch and that soon you and Rodney will be enjoying yourselves in your new surroundings. It will be good that your
son and his family will be right there next to you to help you when you need it. It just gives peace of mind knowing there
is family close.

Well, Iím determined to get a message to you, so now Iíll copy this and see if I can paste it into Spark. I really think I
have an internet connection problem that sort of comes and goes! Ugh.

Hugs,
Sunny

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Dear Wanda & Bev,

Tried twice to respond to your messages and my computer keeps freezing up! I'm making this really quick to see if it will go through!! Hugs,
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Sunny and Bev
Thanks for replying to my post; thanks for the support and for updating me on your lives too.
Bev, reading about Rodney has made me realize how small my problems are. I know that I will recover in fact each of the past three days has seen improvement.

Congratulations on the new house. I think that is great and I also think you will be able to manage the finances as long as your son and daughter-in-law can manage their expenses. This may be a stabilizing thing for all of you and while I still pray that Rodney will be with you, I know it will be a load off his mind to have the house issues settled.

Mal had his follow-up A1c today. I'm really hoping we have done enough to back him away from a diabetes diagnosis.

There will be one really special day this week. My granddaughter called to ask if I could care for Theo on Thursday. She has to work unexpectedly and didn't have a sitter. Well, of course I can take care of that little boy! He is nearly 4 months old now and so, so sweet. It will only be the second time for me to babysit. She is a very hands-on mother and is just now going back to work part time. I'm really proud that she has taken so naturally to being a mother.

Well, I'm off to bed early again tonight....still not quite up to par.
More later,
Wanda

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Geez, I guess there were Gremlins in my computer the other night because I did post on here but now it is gone, so maybe it never went through. The same thing happened on another group that same night!

We are still plugging away. It does look like the loan for the double wide is finally going to be a done deal soon. We were told yesterday it had been approved for closing and now we are just waiting to hear back with an actual date and time. Hopefully by mid-to-late October we will be moving into the new house. I am excited in one way but nervous in another- it's a bit scary to take on a mortgage at our ages, especially when I know it will end up being just me paying for it at some point. Still, I have to live somewhere and the payments will be no more than rent would be, so I will make it work no matter what I have to do. Rodney just finished his sixth cycle of chemo. This is his week off and then he will have another CT scan next Wednesday. I will be going with him for his appointment next week. I am a little concerned about how things will go, but hopefully I am worrying for nothing. When they checked his tumor marker at the beginning of this month it had gone up- hopefully that is not a sign of something bad and it will be back down next time, but I am concerned about it. Also, he has lost weight at every appointment for a little over a month- and he is not trying to and I don't think he has been eating any different, so that worries me too. Last week his liver enzymes were elevated, but they have gone up before for no apparent reason and come back down, so I am trying not to worry too much. He has been having a lot of issues with shortness of breath for a while and we assumed it was either from the cancer or a side effect of chemo. His doctors told him they didn't think so and encouraged him to make an appointment to see his primary care doctor to rule out other causes. He goes for that appointment next Monday. Last week the oncologist did say it might possibly be from prolonged chemo that is causing inflammation of the lungs. They talked about doing a chest x-ray then but there was not enough time before his infusion was scheduled so they decided to wait for the CT scan next week instead.

Wanda, I hope you are feeling better and will soon be back to 100%. I have heard that Shingles can be very painful- and bronchitis is no fun either. I have never had either one, but Rodney did have bronchitis a couple of times. I made sure I got my Shingles vaccine as soon as I was able to (as soon as my insurance would cover it). Rodney had his as soon as he was eligible also, but I think we had to pay for his and then request reimbursement from our insurance company. I think we ended up not getting back $15 or so of it, but it would have cost $20 for an office visit to have it at a doctor's office- and our doctor didn't even have it because it is kept frozen and she didn't have a temperature controlled freezer to keep it in. When I got mine I didn't have to pay for it up front, as the pharmacy was able to bill the insurance company directly and I paid nothing for it. I think they say you can sometimes still get Shingles even if you have the shot but you will likely get a less severe case.

Wanda, my A1C was 6.5 when it was checked in January so I got put on Metformin. When it was checked in April it had gone down to 6.0 (thanks to the Metformin). I had it checked again in July and it was down to 5.9. I have no doubt that if I didn't take the Metformin it wouldn't be that low and might even climb back up into the diabetic range instead of pre-diabetic so I will be good and keep taking it.

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Wanda, I just read your post and so good to hear from you!! I think we have all been slackers this summer about posting! When it is so darn hot you don't feel like doing anything!!

I was so sorry to hear the news about your severe bronchitis and on top of that, getting shingles! Ugh! This is not what we like to have going on in our lives for sure!! You will be in my prayers for a swift and complete recovery from both issues my friend. Please take it easy and get plenty of rest while you are recovering. Sometimes it seems when we go to different places we get exposed to germs we are not immune to and then they try to attack!! I know for sure that bronchitis can really get you down. I used to suffer bouts nearly every winter, but not for a long time now. It really makes you feel worn out from all the coughing.

It sure seems like 3 times for the shingles is way too much! Did you ever have that shingles vaccination? My neighbor keeps telling me I should get it. I have never had them, but remember when my dad got them and it was very painful for him. I am just wondering if you can still get them even if you have been vaccinated?

The Trump rally went along ok at the beginning, but trouble makers lingered after it was over and that is when the trouble started. Protesters yelling the police started it, but of course it was some in the crowd that got unruly and started throwing things at the cops. My daughter suggested we go down for it............. of course I nixed that idea, and hopefully she was just kidding!!

My new friend, Ben took me to the Golden Corral the other day. I had never been there and wow, no place for anyone trying to watch their calories. It was really nice though. After that we took a little ride out to Wickenberg and just walked into a few of the little stores. It is a cute little town. Lots of fun.

Well, better sign off for now! Bev, hope you and Rodney are doing ok. How is everything going for you guys? Wishing both of you well with lots of happiness and good health!

Hugs,
Sunny

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Hi...it has been awhile since I posted here - like nearly a month! We were at our family camp week in New Hampshire the first week of August and I came home with a bad case of bronchitis; I'm still struggling to breathe any time I exert myself and have spent most of the past two weeks in bed. The doctors say it will just run its course but I wish it would run faster. I have been up and dressed two days in a row though so I guess that is progress.

On top of that?? Shingles! They are in my scalp and torso but it is a milder case than the first time around; this is my third recurrence though and I just wish it would stop. I started the medication immediately when the burning started and I think that has kept the sores from opening for the most part. So...Shingles are getting better.

You know we get so used to being healthy that getting sick is almost an insult....like our body is letting us down....well now I'm working to get back to healthy so I'm starting to exercise again tomorrow morning and I will try to get back to tracking my meals too.

Hope you are having a good summer Sunny. I know it has been hot there and tonight I've been watching some of the coverage of the protesters at the Trump rally. I've been praying that there won't be any more trouble. Both sides are so angry now it seems.

Bev, how are you and Rodney doing? Are his treatments over? I'm wondering about your diabetes too. You mentioned that the medicine is helping with your A1c. Mal is pre-diabetic as of his last A1c several months ago and he will be having a new one tomorrow. We have been trying to eat more wisely but he is a constant snacker; he has also been a lot more active because it is summer and he has his garden plus he was having major health issues when the last one was done so I am hopeful that maybe he has backed away from the edge and will come up with a lower number now. His last A1c was 6.2.

Prayers for each of us that we can get through the last 1/2 of 2017 healthier and stronger......and maybe even with lower weights than we see on the scale now.

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